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There's plenty of men in the U.S.

I wasn't looking for a man - but the one that stole my heart came along and he is from Nigeria

What enrages me about this citizenship crap - is the nerve of anyone to prevent you from freely moving around the earth - that was created by God and NOT MAN.

That whole thought process is very irritating to me.

Especially since the U.S. is made up of immigrants from other countries - the entire U.S. is settled by everyone's ancestors that came from EVERY WHERE ELSE.

let me calm down.

I have a cousin that married someone from Africa for $10,000.00 - she did it strictly for the money - she is no longer married - I will ask her how that worked out and I will get back to you.

My fiancee is in Lagos and I offered to marry him when we first met just to get him over here and I remembered telling him that if it doesn't work out we could divorce.

HE SAID ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!!

No divorce for him period. He doesn't believe in divorce and he said that he also isn't "trying to get to America". He has a community, his own company, friends and family in Lagos. He isn't looking for citizenship as he is a citizen of Nigeria and happy regardless of the inconveniences and challenges. He is looking at me as his "wife" in both "name and deed."

He wants to marry me for love, for a wife, forever - not citizenship. I was COMPLETELY IMPRESSED. So now we are actually going to marry just for those reasons. We will reside in the U.S. and in Lagos - between the two.

I love my Yoruba man

But could I live in Nigeria?

No

They would kill me

Literally - I would be marked and I wouldn't give a "damn"

First of all the Lack of Electricity that you pay for - I would televise nationally to keep "Nigeria" in the Public Eye Nationally on that issue to straighten it out - that "mishlebach" - I would be shipping that to Obama's office every chance I got - I would constantly lobby the U.S. to place embargoes on Nigeria and the abuse the citizens take from the police force and the government officials in terms of "basic necessities."  I would LOBBY CONGRESS AS AN AMERICAN CITIZEN that the masses of Nigeria are suffering and the U.S. is "still sending Aid and collaborating with the corrupt Government"?!!!!

Also - I hear that generators are sold by government officials and/or those sales/warehouses/factories are said to be linked to those in power

Which is an obvious direct "conflict of interest" to STRAIGHTENING OUT THE ELECTRIC PROBLEM

I hear that the Electric Company is Government Owned - let's hope that isn't true because Nigeria looks to be absolutely something else - NOTHING SHORT OF REVOLUTION should occur with the outcome being "constant electricity without a one second interruption", costs of shipping and import/export fees lowered, a completely new police force overseen by 20 "local citizen's groups" that would determine duty, and pay

I would be videotaping and recording left and right inside government offices, the electric companies and transformer stations themselves - "paying employees off" to record documents and conversations and televising that every chance I got

Since I have serious issues with "corruption and abuse" which is generational to my family - my grandparents and parents are activists in the States

I would be marching every single day - and highlighting that issue because lack of electricity means no TV, no video/audio, no computer for any length of time, no workable washer or dryer, no lights, no hot water or cooking unless you go kerosene or gas - UTTERLY RIDICULOUS

I will take my last breath working on that issue - the "rich" have lights and the masses have to endure - I DON'T THINK SOO!!!

Every single time I think about it - the electric problem - I get irritated and I live in the States

And the different Presidents and governing officials have the damn nerve to show their face on camera to the world while eating, sipping, being well adorned - while my baby and his family members are sitting in the dark unless they have generators running 1/4 or less of the household.

So move to Nigeria to look at those scoundrels in charge?  Noooo, my blood boils and heart breaks when I think about it.  I cannot remember the last time we didn't have electricity - and the lights were out only for less than an hour if that.

The wealth in Nigeria is so massive that "not having electricity" should be a subject that "has never been experienced by anybody in that country."

His eyes - heart to EXACTLY who he is

His teeth

His accent

His breath

His smell

@ yankite

I completely agree with you on number 2 of your point

As far as number 1) African Americans having the highest aids - where did you hear that? That's news to me.

Also, yes, I am African American.

ok

The me that I am won't date a man unless "I am into him"

"When I am into him"

I have to have his money and he has to have my money

Because it isn't a "me thing"

It is an "Us thing"

So there has never been a time that my "high maintenance lifestyle" is solely provided by my mate

Why would I ruin a good thing and run him off by stressing him out?  I want HIM for himself not for his MONEY

I cry alot - blame it on the "mixed breeding"

African, American Indian, German "going on"

I have to battle with my emotions alot

You can actually get it under control with effort - I wonder the reaction of your mate? It would freak me out seeing tears on my man's face - I depend too much on him to be calm. His tears would run me away.

I don't know what to say to you

You are a breed that has never crossed my path before

Do you hear yourself?

Zim:

Stoppppp - ok?

You are mixing my quote with a "personal experience you had'

please read my quote again

Get her some "Norforms Feminine Deodorant Suppositories" for her Va-j-j - the suppository flushes that area immediately taking any odors with it on its way out.

Tell her to insert and 20 minutes later take a "couples bath" as the writer below mentions.

omega25red:
i dont know about buying her perfume because the worst thing you can do is to mix body funk with perfume

poster instead of just jumping to action when you go see her, you should suggest that you both take a shower because "you" feel sweaty. That way you spare her feelings and buying her a soap set is a great idea like someone else mentioned.

No cash, No azz

That goes both ways for me.

If I don't have cash for him - I don't want him and if he doesn't have cash for me - He won't get me.

Bills have to be paid - I have yet to meet a man that makes enough money to support me and him as I am high maintenance so I definitely am very quick to pitch in and work, hustle, plan.

I want to see this world and I refuse to see it broke.  I also am not about to embarrass him and tell him he doesn't make enough money so I work my azz off to throw as much money in our account as possible.

Because if he is for me and I am for him - I could care less who puts what amount as long as we ARE BOTH PITCHING IN AND GIVING 100% effort to make it happen TO RIDE THAT ROLLER COASTER RIDE.

I want to hold onto him and scream with joy and for joy.

Olumogun:
The irony of life anywhere is that what u call STATUS is a mere shambles to another person.
what you pride in as wealth is just a peanut/change to someone else,
and your so called royal family background/status is like a common man in another land.

So, STATUS is just another subtle way of describing ego, pride, and self in a person.
and if you disagree, then tell us: WHAT IS YOUR STATUS?

I LOVE THAT - IT IS SOOO TRUE.

I don't know.

Status - in terms of money and position - I COULD CARE LESS - because we WILL MAKE THAT TOGETHER

Status - in terms of being intelligent, witty, - IS A MUST

I cannot date an uneducated man

I just can't - He has to be educated - because he has to be able to keep up with me or life just won't be worth living for me with him.

I can't do ignorant, can't write, can't read well, can't hold conversations on many different topics, no experience.  Ooooh noooo.

All Brawn and no brain = DEATH

I have never been into the all muscles and no mind.  Or the fat wallet and big stomach looking men.  Your wallet or your huge stomach - does nothing to stimulate my va-j-j or my mind.  Sorry - my wallet is probably larger.

If you can't make me laugh or make me think or stimulate me mentally - ours is a lost cause - 1 + 1 won't equal 2.

Tina Turner is 20 years older than her boyfriend who is a White German Record Producer

Demi Moore is 20 years older than her husband - Ashton - he is a few years older than her oldest daughter - Demi looks to be in her late 20s but is closer to 50 or so

It isn't about the physical age

If you have taken care of your appearance and your shape and your thought process is youthful - very few would be able to tell your actual age

Also if you marry or date a younger man - if he is "mature" and he has "experienced life" - you as a couple are focused on "achievement" versus the circles on the Oak Tree of Age

I would date a younger male but only if he is a "few years younger"

My man is a year younger - but acts 20 years older than I - I am stunned because I "am extremely mature" for my age and I have always been "more mature acting" since puberty.

violent:
Actually she's right on this---all animals, both lower ones and higher ones are polygamous in nature----that's what the hormones do!

If we weren't, then it will mean human bodies are programmed to respond to only one person or individual, which is quite far from being the truth.  Sense of morality, sense of commitment and an inbuilt sense of fear of being "caught cheating" is what limits human ability to exploit its full sexuality.

Hmmmmm.  So technically speaking from a biological point of view.  Ok, understandable - thank you for the expansion of my thought.

You know - our "higher level of intellect" that separates us from "the animals" is when we choose to be "monogamous" - when we have a backup, that in itself neither enforces nor encourages this.

What kind of thread is this?  You don't know the answer?

Simple:

The ABSOLUTE wonderful carefree, throw caution to the wind - the abandonment and freedom to JUST "Phuck" - sorry to offend anyone - I'm just being honest.

There comes a time where you just need to "Phuck".

lolololol

My apologies as I don't want to come off as "non-lady" like - but sex can be a beautiful thing

The right person, the right time, the right position(s), the right aromatherapy, candles, music

"women of the night" aka love peddlers aren't holding you to "requirements" - they remove the "stress" of "etiquette" - they hinge on your "every word" - you are "their king" - they feed the "ego" of the wallet holder.

This isn't rocket science.  You don't have to marry - they could care less who you are, your marital status, where you work, who you know, etc,

They are there to please - a 2 way relationship - "you please them - they please you."  A win/win situation.

Just fact.  There are people that enjoy that type of relationship - it works for them.  For those looking for something more - they look for one woman they can have all of the above with - this is why if you are in a relationship, preferably a marriage, "you are his Janet Jackson, Beyonce, Woman of the Night, Mother of his Kids, Wife, Lover and Friend."

@ Post

My heart breaks for you.  You are in pain because your friend is being torn apart - mentally and physically.

The U.S. is FULL OF WOMEN BEATERS.

Educated, uneducated - the ranks of many police forces in the U.S. claim that as well.  Many of their officers - Women beaters behind closed doors.  I have several police officers that were friends - I was shocked to hear it.

I hope you share this with your friend:

1 Word - LEAVE

She can't fight him.  Violence to violence THAT ISN'T FUN for a woman.

Relocate - LEAVE EVERYTHING - don't take clothes - NOTHING - LEAVE IT ALL

IT IS CRITICAL THAT HE "hears himself" - SHE NEEDS TO LET HIM LISTEN "to himself"

That is the MOST EFFECTIVE - he will go "INSANE" looking for her - that is his punishment.  You should put your temper away, put your glock away.  The best solution and most effective is "PURE SILENCE".

She needs to heal, put her face and body back together - quietly  - he deserves to see her LOOKING GOOD ON THE ARM OF ANOTHER FROM A DISTANCE.

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There really is no such thing as human beings being monogamous since we're genetically inclined to drift from one person to another. We've just conditioned ourselves to believe that one must only be with one person at a time.[/quote]@ Inked

What? I've never heard this before - is this an academic teaching you quote? It sounds like a foreign language. Is it a scientific theory you speak of or a theological teaching?

I generally agree with alot that you post - However, I'm sorry but I beg to differ on that thought process.

OK

I will call between 3pm and 9pm on Monday or Tuesday.

Thank you

I need to hear your voice before I email you.

My apologies in advance.

@Femy2010

What is a good time to call? Are you in Lagos? If so, we are exactly 6 hours apart. If it is 3pm in Lagos then it is 9a in Indiana. So what time [Lagos Time] would be a good window ( 2-4pm or 6-8p etc, ) of time that I can call you.

And what day? I am unavailable today - but would like to talk to you next week VIA PHONE. I would like to hear your voice either Monday or Tuesday if possible. I will accommodate YOU. So pick the day and time and if Monday or Tuesday isn't good - what day is?

Correction:

I know some French, some Spanish and some German - but not enough to feel comfortable discussing business. I know no African languages at all.

So I need you to be able to communicate very clear English.

I have a shipment sitting in Lagos right now. I think it is at the airport. But I will have a shipment via port in February or March arriving in Lagos.

Is the contact phone number on your ID a number that I can reach you at regarding what you do?

I really want to talk to someone about what I can expect as "procedure" for containers and/or roro, etc. As I know next to nothing about this.

Would you be available to talk to me? I don't know any language but English and I need someone who speaks "Clear English" to talk to about this area.

femy2010:
I can

Off topic:

@ femy2010

You are a custom clearing agent? What do you do?

Please respond.

I definitely would.

snthesis:
Selfish - once u r married u actually become 1

googles:
She is selfish yes.

I completely agree with the 2 writers above.

Backup means you don't have to work as hard

It REEKS of "not committing" in present or future

It encourages wandering from person to person and place to place

It removes the need to give your "all" to one individual

I love my man and don't want to have "another" anywhere in the recesses of my thought if we have a disagreement or don't see eye to eye or trade "sharp words" with each other and I also don't want to have another anywhere in the recesses of my thought when I am romantic with my mate.  The fear of accidentally calling out another person's name when in the act with my mate would never allow me to have a Plan B aka backup.

I need his undivided attention and he will have mine.

I agree with Yoris B.

This NL forum has opened my eyes to alot of things that I wasn't previously aware.

Mrs. Eve - I thank you for you thoughts as I thank others as well.

Marriage is a spiritual connection that is MUCH DEEPER THAN THE PHYSICAL.  My fiancee who is Yoruba is teaching me many, many things that I was previously unaware.

I am very grateful for this forum and it's existence - the threads are extremely helpful.