₦airaland Forum

debosky:
sorry babe, saturday are celibate days, man has to stay pure before going to worship tomorrow

I am here to stay

just do what you have to do, afterall you get to confess it tomorrow!

as much as every mother desires to become a mother inlaw or grandma who in their right mind would give out an 18 year old girl in marriage? the responsibilities are numerous and it seriously isnt even funny.
mamaput your kids must be well mannered and pretty to be getting this kind of attention or is it that you just live around pedophiles? 

the more i look at this picture, the more i think it doesnt qualify as a joke.

good one!

instead of wearing sweaters they light up.

church competition is causing ministers to get desperate.

aik.mamah:
you dey ask me which case, e b like say u follow for them wey don pass dia expiration date

nope. im still very young.

lets know how it went jare. you just may find the one there.

hope no car was on that bridge when it went down .

topeorekoy:
i can see that most people that found this proposal sweet are not resident in Nigeria. personally, most nigerian guys including ME wont propose like that. its just not nigerian

you're right. you guys are just not romantic.

good one militia! no words needed!

n-guage:
true true, this paper talk is driving me wild. I know this AA, she makes heR african husband do all sort of things. ALL BECAUSE OF PAPER!

he who has the 'papers' dictates the tune.

obirin na wa oh
women in their early thirties are now freezing eggs?
well i guess that goes to show that they dont see any man 'hope' in sight. seems like these days you have to go out , shoot a man in the foot, hurl him over your shoulder and huff and puff till you get him to your lair.i personally would have never have thought of doing something so dramatic. just reading that made my eyes water. ha!


i am often puzzled by the mindset of men. once a woman goes past 25 its seems to them that the woman is "used up' (whatever that means!), haggard, and they just cant fathom being with you. we have so many threads on nairaland devoted to asking if a woman above 29 is still attractive. i dont know if its just me but i think its so myopic to deem a 29 year old woman as old. old? geez soon we'll have men marrying six year old girls.
if i were a guy, if i met a succesful woman, doing good, with a good head on her shoulders thirty years and above, i would marry her arse so fast she wouldnt know what hit her or where she was hit.

my former boss was about 39 and i tell you no spring chicken could hold a candle to her. she had a body so firm and supple that it was beyond belief.(yeah i noticed!) she was intelligent, well mannered and a great woman. she was also single. . i often wondered to myself how men could have let her slip through their fingers. afterall she wasnt born 39! she was 19 and then 25,30 ,35 before she arrived at 39. and no she wasnt arrogant, not pompous or such other traits attributed to high earning women. i guess most guys are just always threatened by that big fat paycheck which is supposed to make a woman so wayward and disrespectful and bucking wild out of control. maybe we should renounce half of our salaries and refuse raises to soothe fragile egos.

ive come across so many lonely men and you can see that they really are searching for the one. ive even tried playing cupid a few times. i also tell my friends to avoid the guys who want you to prove you can still have children.that is love so conditional that i dont know how women fall for it.my friend was trying to conceive for this guy who hadnt even commited yet. i had to talk her out of that 'bad market'. she's 29 so i dont know why he had any doubts as to her fertility. its unfair and its unkind and you should be taken 'as is'. its like a young bride asking her husband -to- be who is over 40 to go for sperm count test to make sure those things are mobile and to make sure he wont be shooting blanks. its ridiculous. our society is obsessed with child bearing to the point of silliness.


i hope you 'guys' enjoy your women's forum.please dont make it a bitter party of women wailing about their badluck with men. sometimes it helps to pull away from the gang and assess yourself. they atimes rub off all their cynism and man -hating stories on you and you become a bitter party of one. thats not good cos it reduces your happy glow.

is anyone even interested in naija women these days?

angel101:
Exactly.

As for those talking about papers. Na only Leila get the papers? I beg make we hear word. The paper self dey finish? so if she gives him it would reduce the one she has?

laugh no go kill person. i havent laughed this hard in a long time. true true paper no dey finish. it is eternal.

kininbase:
Obirin,
I see your point but I have to add a little humour here so I beg no vex.

The oyinbo wey you just throw down, hehe. If I be naija brother, I go fear, I fit run sef. Haba, u don finish de bobo patapata.

its ok to be well spoken. obirin make u sorry for nimi. [s]i guess he doesnt stand the ghost of a chance now[/s].

there is a large pool of guys above 35 who are single and unmarried. but as the poster has rightly pointed out they often come with baggage. a lot are divorced, have a chain of exes who wont let go or they just have issues. afterall with marriageable women outnumbering men these days it seems to me like a man who hasnt been snagged yet at 39 and older is suspect or maybe just isnt interested in women!  
i feel you obirin on the school reunion thing. a lot of our colleagues are married, with wives and children. the reunions are meant to be a happy time but often time it becomes a spanish inquisition for single women. "how about you"?"how come you arent married"? "when are you going to do it"? "you dont have a man"?    its just like how they torture you at weddings! goodluck to you if you want to put yourself in front of nosey judgemental people.
my advice to you is to just put yourself out there but not obsess about marriage because it often happens that the day you meet your spouse is the day you are looking your worst and  not even prepared . word!

crazyp,
im actually enjoying the lengthy posts! lots of sense in them. just skip them or close your eyes!  

ive never had any bad experiences while job hunting. all i know is that you dont have to pay a penny to be considered for employment. if any employer asks you to bring a bank draft or cashiers check cheque please run for your life.

even the agencies shouldnt charge. they actually make a commision 'on your head' if they find employment for you.

Opomulero1:
This is a serious subject that can be discussed at more than just the individual level - as Spoilt points out ("there's a marriage squeeze", one of the causes that's too often forgotten is the annihilation of the middle class midwifed by Babangida and Abacha, which dealt a heavy blow to the Nigerian male!).

so you are going to blame abacha and ibb for men not wanting to commit and marry? 
it seems to me that the poorer men are even more ready to take wives at an earlier age. arent all our 'small' gatemen and drivers married with children? its the big fishes who have tons of 'lalas' that still wait till they are pushing 40 before looking for 20 year olds to marry. am i lying? 

and bros there's something like phone. call the poster if you are interested.

now you are talking leilah! you knew he didnt have permanent residency 'papers' then. maybe thats why you are kind of skeptical about his motives.its understandable.many women have been used. if he leaves, its his loss. you've been the best wife you can be to him. sometimes we have to learn to celebrate freedom from a bad situation and move on.what doesnt kill you makes you stronger.

kininbase:
Also, maybe some of the so called over 35's who want to approach you feel intimidated. What kind of vibes d'u throw out there? I reckon you're not one to tolerate rubbish but maybe you need to give the brother's a chance.

its true that a lot of guys feel intimidated. one look at your paycheck and he shrinks like a tank top left too long in the dryer. even if you are unassuming its just a hard pill to swallow for some guys that you earn 2 or 3 times more. my take is that whatever you are earning my dear you deserve! (not that it sounds to me like you feel guilty )

i absolutely agree with monkeyleg .sometimes its ok to step outside the power brokers' forum. those suits sometimes cant give you what you want.they wear their suits like coffins, they sound alike (they've been attending the same management courses, smell alike (do they buy their expensive scents in the same store? ), they even begin to look alike. its tiring. once in a while its ok to attend blue collar events.
Did i hear you say GOD FORBID?

Obirin0521:
Trust me when I meet the One who has refused to ask for directions(typical male!  ), I'll be ready.  Please note that I hear you regarding list, but as you saw my 'list' is not unreasonable. 

Re Bird brains - Some don't even have the dough or ambition!  Talk about double wahala for deadi bodi a la Fela Kuti!

Lol. that one na bad market oh!
your list really isnt unreasonable. i wish you the best of luck in your search for your soul mate. i believe that no matter what people say there are hoardes of good guys out there lonesome looking for you.