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crazykid:
There are factors you must consider before jumping into conclusion.

1. He has't call call you since 18th may:
Judging from the way you claimed both of you get along, it’s, and don’t you think it would be difficult for him to ignore you?
Have you ever asked yourself this question?
Has something bad happened to him, is he still alive? Is he missing I mean begin to ask questions.

something bad happened to him and none of his relatives can contact her to tell her? maybe she's the 'oyibo" wife no one in naija knows he has! (no pun intended)

finances definitely. how to share money and bills

how is it even possible to be so judgemental?

quietly slinks out of thread.

im going to die of laughter. she offered to bake you a cake.! hehehehe!

how is it even possible that in 2007 one can't reach or contact a spouse via e-mail, phone etc? 
you havent heard from him since may 18th? you have got to be kidding me! 
even though nigeria is third world we arent cut off from the world. seems to me like he doesnt want to take your calls or respond to your emails. and oh , don't expect the nigerain embassy to fish him out for you or take a message for you. they are so disorganized its hilarious. my guess is the marriage wasnt good even when he was around? how well did you know him?
i wont allow a husband who treats me this way to surface when he is good and ready to split the proceeds from the apartment my grandma left us.

i have an idea. tell him that you have sold the apartment and his half of the money is ready. i swear to you on tomorrow's rising sun that the fellow will contact you from where ever he is shacked up. 

im eternally grateful i was privileged to experience childbirth. nothing makes you appreciate life like when you have brought forth.  i only tell him that when i'm pissed off at him. 
then he has to beg me to make me promise to back as his woman again. 

ive told my husband several times that im coming back as a dude. ive suffered enough

@ lil madam
those shoes are most definitely def! (the brown ones with the to-die-for heels)
damn it! i'm excited just looking at it!

Seun:
Is your body not a talent?

good one!

davidylan:
na wa o. sorry to my sisters on this thread . . . say after me - the best thing in life is to be born as a man!

sometimes im tempted to agree!

is it just me or does she dress scantier with each new release?
you dont have to have real talent, just show your body. yep!

you are beautiful no matter what they say!

[s]but were those pictures taken with a pin hole camera? [/s]

its suprising how people can get very judgemental and verbally abusive without even knowing you or your details. y'all dont have to believe her post. because you dont believe it doesnt mean it didnt happen! i guess that even though its 2007 people still believe that if a woman is assaulted then she must have asked for it. if that's not shallow thinking then i dont know what is!

didnt he collspse on his traditional wedding day? he's not so young any more.

of course he wont. men are often over protective of their daughters but they have no problems talking crude about someone else's child?
i dont take it easy with lustful men.men who lust over women in general. i humiliate them. publicly. ive slapped straying hands off before. ive slapped a former boss. (i didnt stutter on that one! ) and i got to keep my job too!

Obirin0521:
People: When we see our young girls/sisters/cousins/ etc, writhing on the floor each month, it's time to take action. Let's remove the stigma attached to the pill or other forms of hormonal stabilization, it is the only known means right now to control Endo/myomas/cysts and other hormonal related issues for the West African females.

@ obirin
thanks for sharing. God dey

thanks for throwing more light on this whole thing. african women have been told to bear pain. come what may. even at the risk of our lives. isnt that what women are good at? isnt that what gives you good name ? arent you thought to be strong and able to peservere?

i remember my mother telling me that a woman's life is all about pain. i remember i was very small then and even at that age i knew it didnt sound right. extreme pain means something is horribly wrong and as such drastic situations require drastic measures. we have been thought to expect pain and to bear it without complaining. it has had a negative effect because even when our bodies are giving us serious warning signs and symptoms we still think its normal!!! we think its the pains our mothers told us to expect. i do not believe in self torture of any sort. i honestly dont. people are so entrenched in these cultural ideals of going 'natural' in everything. its unfair. atimes the price you end up paying is higher than the side effects you were trying to avoid.


when a doctor recommends a certain drug you have to trust that he/she would never intentionally put your life in danger. besides those measures are very temporary. my friend was put on birth control at 12. her periods were horrible. she was admitted 12 times a year. it was that bad. the doctor put her on birth control for some time. after she got off them her periods were much more bearable. they didnt tell her it was birth control of course. just that it was something to stabilize her hormones. as she got older she got more info as to what they were and how they helped her.

in the same vein, i remember when i had my baby. i had mentioned to a family member that i intended to get an epidural. her reaction shocked me. it was as though i had just suggested stealing the crown jewels of the royal family! she told me it was unafrican. unafrican? unafrican? is it that african women are sticklers for self torture abi wetin?
all this because i didnt think that i had to bear any more pain than was necessary in having my child. i terminated the discussion but i knew what i was going to do on that day.
of course i went ahead and took the epidural. the pain was unbearable and i honestly couldnt take it anymore. i was begging for the epidural to put me out of my misery. after i got the epidural it was smooth sailing from there.

i have low threshold for pain. i also would never ask anyone to self medicate. seek a professional. even a second third opinion is great. just dont play super hero all the time.

Mandora:
I don't have a problem wit trying 2 stop d pains associated with menstral periods but manipulating your system 2 appear as though you're pregnant so that u don't have periods is really going far this is just another example of how our generation is trying in a fast and furios way 2 wipe out our generation

what?

those mexican soaps are like a bad dream. they are so ridiculous that you wonder why they catch on. the acting is just so exaggerated and aggressive like our own blessed home videos. the women always seem angry. its a joke.

@obirin
my sister i tire oh. many will be buzzing him in secret both decent and indecent. the power of the dollar.

@narcissus
down boy!

we have many nigerian girls looking for serious men.and yes by that i mean marriage. oga oyibo as long as you dont think your nationality is your main attraction. and i didnt quite know how to interprete the generousity part
are you seeking the proverbial black nubile exotic girl ?

babyosisi
you have to work first before you enjoy. no pain no gain.

@obirin

good to know you are looking forward to the african gathering. horrors of horrors? that got me laughing my butt off. you just never know. you may find your congolese, rwandan or lesotho spouse there. (just joking or am i?  )
anyways im just looking forward to hearing the feed back. im now deeply involved in this and must see it to a conclusive end.  . even if it means till you get to the alter finally.   


and oh. dress cute! like you dont know!

Everbright:
I have phobia for bare foams I mean bare mattress
I gives me bumps and i can't eat or do anything in the presence of a bare mattress
Anyone in thesame shoes in the house?

ROFLMAO! orishirishi.

@salsera
you should give them younger men a chance. when a man pursues you ardently and seriously, that's a sign that he wants you. so forget about what people consider the norm and enjoy the man jare.

good to know you'll broaden your horizons. goodluck girl.

when naija guys jokingly ask you for your daughter's hand in marriage its because they notice that puberty has set in. they train their eyes on her chest lustfully and smack their lips while talking nonsense. i wont stand for that. ive learnt how to shut peverts up both in a subtle and not so subtle way.

i'm eternally young. that's all you need to know.

leilah all men leave their spoons and cups in the sink. we clean up after them. stop splitting hairs. i try not to be petty with my husband when he doesnt domestic stuff and that drives me crazy.

i just do them without complaining because i know he does a thousand other things and runs a billion other errands for me without complaining. honestly without complaining. so live and let live.

@spiked cylinder
Lol. for me the beauty of a pair of shoes is in the heels. high heels. spiked and beautiful. turns me on. its all in the heels baby. try strutting your stuff in those heels. its like a high!

no where near 45 or even 35.

cammax7:
but ideally the man should be older.

who's ideals? yours? where is it hewn in rock?

@salsera
girlfriend you are funny. i've always liked being mysterious but it seems the longer i am on nairaland the more i find myself blabbing about my personal affairs.
ive given away enough already to complete strangers and virtual friends. na wa oh. but my marriage is truly a love story. someday i will share. maybe it'll help single women consider younger men. a man is a man give or take a few years. i never thought i could end up with a younger man.( he's not that much younger by the way) no man ever pursued me with so much determination. he wasnt going to take no for an answer. yeah i am that hot!
ive never felt much love for anyone like i do my husband. he's great. he's my heart ,soul and my stability.he's my sanity and what have you.
its a myth that men dont like older women. the biggest myth ive ever heard. All my husband' s brothers are married to older women. he often jokes that he was just following a natural course of action which is his family tradition. age truly is just a number.
someday i'll catalogue our journey. it hasnt been all rosy but we couldnt be happier.

yet another thread on an older woman. sighs. here we go, (again)

I am older than my husband.it has been smooth sailing.we have been married one and a half blissful years. we have a seven month old baby. the honeymoon is still on. we dont even remember the age difference. we have jobs to go to, bills to pay, plans to make. who has time to start calculating age? aside from people it doesnt concern?

i respect him. i cook for him. i give him everything he wants or needs. its business as usual. the age has never been an issue. it doesnt concern anyone. do i look older? nope. people are always amused to find out im older. he towers above me and looks a lot older. bottom line, we have fantastic chemistry. it couldnt have been any other way.