₦airaland Forum

madjune:
How you take know?
Be like you're her brother.

at least I dey enjoy the morning

Zzor:
must everything be relationship,cant you be her very good friend

But he wants relationship. A cake cannot be in a state of “have it” and “eat it” at same time. You can “have it” and then “eat it” but to “eat it” and “have it” is never possible. Although reality is a bit more complicated, yet this principle hold most times.

So he should be a boyfriend and then a friend. Not the other way round if he is romantically interested.

Humanoid01:
Check this out. God used her fiancé to come through to save her life. How about that?

which one be save life again?

madjune:
She don use make up deceive one mugu.

The mugu is not complaining

loommoney:
If you check the shelf near the fridge. You will see your drugs. Quickly take them. No be only Bollywood actress

I don laugh tire

busky007:
Delete Your number.I have gotten it

done so

busky007:
Bro hi,
I don't know if you will remember me but we once met behind Hall 5 last year(the place Hall 4 bois go to for browsing).
BTW,I don't know if you have an idea of the software on which uniben cbt exams run and how powerful it is . I will like to know if you have an idea

Mr Busky Hw far my guy, whatsapp m

NaijaOlosho:
This is really touching

You can see that is just hungry and hardship that led this one to start stealing

yet no excuse for his actions, he could go and beg from the road side than putting other people into trauma.

Adekunlegold9ja:
Good morning,
The subject refers.
Unfortunately I have fallen into the dreadiest zones in relationship.
I have been friendzoned.
The lady keep on calling though.
I need an advice on what to do.
I have been thinking of ignoring her but I feel it's gonna look like I am desperate or probably a bad person. Because the girl in question is actually good and she had done a lot good things for ne I won't ever forget.

Comport yourself around her like the way you do when you meet someone you know from a distance. I know you have some girls in your area that you don’t like at all? Act same way you do to them to her. Relate with her like normal person without any anger nor remorse, also without any emotional attachment.

If you’re not her friend please don’t be her friend, don’t be a shoulder to cry on and don’t be a partner to gist with, don’t be a partner to while away time. Don’t be the guy that smile goatishly.

Be the guy that is ready to talk about romantic topic, the guy she would like to check on by herself, the guy she is comfortable to hug and hold and talk to. If not
From now on it is either we are business partner of you “accept my proposal”.

Omo this strong i

addexx:
I've tried severally to login since yesterday around 7pm when it happened. It rejects my password. Even when I try password recovery, it doesn't recognize my phone number or email. Yet it shows I'm online when I confirm from others. I hope I haven't been hacked.
How do I recover it . Your input please!

omo your close padi don move am o. Who else knows your password? And who else knows your phone no and has access to your fb account?

EweduAfonja:
can someone tell me this man's Crime...

A counselor to criminals. He can’t be all that pure, nevertheless he should be given a chance. Moreso his place was like a hide out for the criminals to do their operations. He struggled with them and they responded.

Kris25:
Lol you are funny, you asked and she told you the truth.... I do not see any reason to be angry... Moreover the both of you are guilty... What you do not know will not harm or hunt you...becareful with questions you ask.... You had flings, she had sex... 1. 1 goal goal, score is settled.

OP feels he is a MALE and due to that fact he is free to “fling” as he calls it while his girlfriend should hold morality as high esteem.

mrjojo:
Hey bro, the way we guys process cheating is way deeper than the ladies. Our imagination is always most times on a prowl imagining another guy with our dear damsel. But you need to respect the fact that she came out to you, she told you herself, most ladies wouldn't and it understandable. In fact, technically she didn't "cheat" on you. She was vulnerable, a long, serious relationship coming to an abrupt end is a very vulnerable moment for both genders, some guys find their solace in alcohol, while most ladies look for a "shoulder to cry on". You actually had your own "escapades " too
Now I will suggest you probe further, Was it a one-time thing? the guy apparently has always been in the picture even before the breakup, and I'm almost certain he is among the regular tipper. Ask her if there is more, so you know all at once. And after forgive her and forget please(it's harder for men). You guys have a beautiful thing going, No!! she is not cheap!! being in regular contact with men who are doling out cash in the form of "tips" to her is a whole lot of temptation, Trust me, If she didn't fall (why I asked to probe further )then she is a keeper. You said yourself she a very beautiful lady, so attention from men is normal. She made a mistake in a vulnerable state, Forgive and let it go, she forgave you too after all.


Ps: I suggest you post in the family section for more mature responses next time. Guys here are just bunch of redpill and simp screamer

Thank you for the nice observation. Most guys here are very young, stupid and naive. Na only to dey shout simp up and down as if them sabi anything

Bestdev:
Good day Programmers in the house .
Pls how do i get into Web4africa's cpanel . I just hosted with Web4africa. But it is confusing to me , i don't know how i can access my cpanel . Pls help

haba contact your host provider now

Zzor:
oh this one,not even a single person came forward when I made that post,nairaland men are obviously not rich,hence the reason they are always very aggressive,it was small small boys that was coming forward and I already stated clearly in my post about what I want

I have one old pappy in my area but I like to know what you can offer the old man in return?

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright
From this very moment your twin sister should mind her own business
This is why my grandfather will always say
Son...I am about 145 years old and very much alive and healthy
Do you know why son? Because am always minding my business

Minding our business has made a lot of people live old in suffering. There are things we shouldn’t be bother about yet there are things we can choose to not bother about even if it indirectly consigns us. But here in Africa we are concerned on selfish desire. Me and my family, now look at where we are

obami007:
Na wa o

Shey if he didn’t put his mouth now, he probably would still be alive.

It is not a crime to be a peace maker

He was a victim.
This man would kill someone else or must have killed people in the secret.
They just need little reasons to kill people. Some kill without any reason at all.

Selfkontrol:
Good morning all.

I had a very serious yet Heart breaking moment last night. I have this girl friend I have been dating for some years now. Roughy 4 years plus. We are so serious that ThE next phase of our relationship should be marriage.
I love her so much and to the best of my knowledge, she loves me too and was really a wife material like I have always thought all these years even though we have been off and on sometimes.

Last year September I broke up with her because of how rude she spoke to me.( not the first time. I just couldn’t take it anymore)It was a messy breakup and even though she begged me for three days. I never listened but deep down I didn’t mean it. I just wanted her to fix her bad behaviors then after some months we come back. It wasn’t long too, her father had stroke and I knew she was passing through a lot that period. Even though she tried to find solace in me during those times, I didn’t care that much but still called her often to know how the father is doing. (He’s much better now)

Fast forward to early this year, we started talking again and she visited me where I stay. ( note: we have been talking after few weeks of our breakup but just friends. I still loved her but but I felt it wasn’t time yet) We made out and continued our relationship. I try to fix everything that caused the breakup and she was ready to turn a new leaf and so was I

Everything was going well with less issues for these past months because we don’t stay in the same location. It’s more or less a long distance thing even though we didn’t start that way. (We started dating in school and some point lived together for a year) we couldn’t stay in same city because of circumstances. Her parents live in a different city.

Everything was fine until recently when we were talking and something lead to another thing. She first told me how men give her tips in her mother’s restaurant (she helps her mom in the restaurant since she’s awaiting her masters) i didn’t find it funny. I told her it’s not wrong to take tips but when you know there would be a condition attached to the tips then it’s very bad to accept those tips. ( sometimes 10k, 15k, 5k and evening someone had giving her $100 before) at first she didn’t find anything wrong in taking those tips as she said that’s the little way she can help herself since As she couldn’t be always asking me for money every time. (I send her cash once in a while) But later saw my reason why it’s wrong to take tips from these men especially if the cash is huge because at the end the men always make demands like she told me And she promised to stop it.

Later in the evening we where having a conversation and I told her about a girl a had a little fling with a few months ago. (Long after we broke up) And how the girl called me and was feeling I used her because I went back to my ex. It was a harmless discussion and we both we just laughing over it. Didn’t take long before I asked her Jokingly if she have ever had anything in the place she stays After our break up and to my greatest surprise she gave me a shocker that She actually Had sex with a guy about a week or two weeks later after our break. That she was vulnerable that period because a lot of things happening.And she never believed we could come back. I pushed further and she gave me all the details.

That left me very heartbroken. Heartbroken in the sense that my girlfriend for years could easily sleep with a guy within few weeks of our break up. I was very bitter through out the night. She begged and cried all night and even had an ashma attack and promised it was just a mistake. I called her so many names including a cheap slut anyone could easily sleep with just like that.

I know this is just a relationship but I’m actually scared because this is a girl I plan to engage next year and marriages is obviously the next. She’s a very beautiful girl, honest, caring and faithful to the best of my knowledge but I’m really confused right now. If she could do that just after a week or two of our breakup means even in marriage if we have any problems, she can easily sleep with that guy that she finds solace in.

Help me Nairalanders. She’s supposed to stay for two more days before she leave but from the look of things she might be going today. I’m really confused and don’t wanna make a bloody mistake that I would regret later In the future

Tell us more about your fling or should we suppose you had sex too??
If so why do you think you deserve more than she does?? Because YOU ARE A MAN?

If not then have you had sexual encounter before now? And if yes why do you feel she should be different?

Here is my advice.....Tell this girl it is over, or just move on silently and don’t give her any tangible reason. She is not the kind girl you want for a wife. You need someone who will be a virgin while you hover around and fling with other ladies. If you find your kind then fate is good to you.

Also stop your Narcissistic judgment of her, because by morality you are not any better. It is fine If you don’t like her type of person and there is nothing wrong in not wanting her.

Millimann:
Too bad.

But they should have raised alarm when they started receiving messages about new accounts being opened in their names.

True, but remember that not all are learned when it comes to issue of IT and banking in this country.

Mrmayy:
Thanks bro, I wasn't expecting a quick response.. pls guide me through with the answers I provided up there

From what you said I don’t know if she likes you romantically or maybe she she does but she is afraid of being committed.
If she is afraid of commitment then all you need to do is to sweet talk her into everything, although I hate when people make promises, but you can sweet talk the future and customize the reality of you both if she agrees to make commitment.
On the other hand I think you shouldn’t let your emotion over the place for this kind of girls. Like always have at the back of your mind that this kind of girls act naively based on peer advise and many things. They are unreliable.
She could either be the materialistic type of girl or the decent type. Those two kind of girls are afraid of commitment. One needs the material/rich boyfriends, the other needs a responsible partner. I don’t know who she is.
But one way to know if a girl likes you is how much of attention and time she dedicates when you are around her, forget the comment and silly “I like you“ joke, does she concentrate and invest time when it comes to you?

AustineJohn908:
Yeah I agree with you.
When you continue playing, you won't know when you will play that genuine lady out of your life...you just regret at the end.
I pray that won't be me Sha though I know that right now I'm a player but I'm willing to change when I see that genuine love

Also be careful in the immersion of a playboy life. Sometimes it get so good, you don’t know how to stop. Sometime just being platonic friends with people around you don’t trust and concentrating on self improvement is also a good thing. Having a lot of women you have marked their register is not so so fulfilling later on when responsibility comes. Being socially intelligent is a good skill to have to protect yourself. You don’t always have to make everything a game, because you think you will win.

Virginnn:
Mention real money... 20 million is chicken change. say 20 billion. Then I might consider.

Boss lady, Oya do away na! Abi you nor sabi read ni? The post said per week!

AustineJohn908:
tell me about it bro. what happened that made u regret it

The ones that took me serious and believed in me and had genuine plans and feelings for me I played them and broke their heart. Looking back in time I was just naive.
People are very manipulative but the moment you can’t differentiate good from bad and judge everyone alike. You could do the most naive and childish things that would drive a lot of people who believed in you away.

[quote author=Mrmayy post=93646990][/quote]To start with, how did you know she is crazy over you?? Are you in her mind?
Please right now just say you think she likes you somehow, or she likes your company. Don’t carry the she likes me mentality, you go chop heartbreak o.
Meanwhile from the way you sound it seem like you are giving her a lot of your time and I like to know exactly why?
As a friend or so that you can win her heart??
The only reason you should stay with someone you are attracted to is to build more bonding.

Bonding means talking about your experience and things share your moment, and then get a little bit physical. It must create Romantic vibes and energy 70% of the time and friendliness/comfort 30% of the time

Now you confessed your feelings, answer this?
- Did she give you an interest of being a girlfriend?
- Did she make some commitment that warrant such proposal?

You just look like a man who went on random to propose to a neighbor you know for sometime but barely know intimately. This is wrong etiquette. People propose when they see value, quality and commitment.

From now on you have to punish her behavior, for the next one month focus on yourself and if she greet you then respond objectively to her response(Be careful don’t show anger or frustration), reply cool calm and collected and make every discussion brief. after this one month text her and check on her, make little play and talk then disappear. Next check up should be at unpredictable intervals and you can use event to do so too. If you see her, do normal greetings, lite jokes and move ahead. The more she start dropping her guard the more friendly and romantic you become, don’t ever be ahead of her. Sync it

On your part, have an open mind and if you’re chanced to date other girls, please do, don’t ever place your heart in the hand of any girl. And lastly don’t be her friend. YOU CAN ONLY BE HER LOVER FIRST AND THEN A FRIEND. IT BARELY EVER WORKS THE OTHER WAY ROUND.

alBHAGDADI:
Below is a picture of Pastor Adeboye, his wife and son all geared up against COVID-19.

Man's not sure of his salvation.

They also have a hand sanitizer beside them instead of the anointing oil filled with Holy Cost.

If he don’t do it now you all will be the first to criticize him.

remi4ever:
Java, and preferably kotlin is the supported language for Android Dev.

PHP on the other hand is a server side language that handles communications between your app and the database.

To build apps that communicates with a relational database you use PHP - MySQL (Relational database) and consume the response in whatever format you are vast in. Preferably, JSON. This is just one out of many ways.

Have a nice day.

-Cyberwizard

I mention PHP I only meant to say JAVA. I will toll the path preferrably this month.

Ghostmode2two:
Thanks man. That aside, virginity is a scam and it pains me when some men fall for it

A woman/man who has quality and a bright future is the best thing any day and anytime. The ones that that being around them help you achieve your goals and dreams. Except this everything is a bonus.

Ghostmode2two:
What does SIMP really means?

By Simp they mean simpleton, someone who has naive mindset about women according to the “Redpill”.

But don’t listen to them, social intelligence is the way to go. Not redpill

Timekeeper:
Maybe you are not worth it...

He knows what he wants and u don't fit in....

Wicked truth

Real OG.

remi4ever:
I am an app developer with couple of apps on Playstore. If you're serious about learning app devs. You should get familiar with java/kotlin.

Download android studio, get some resources online, read and practice.

There are other tools for hybrid apps too. I hope you know the difference between hybrid and native.

For apps that needs to communicate with a backend, i personally use PHP and MYSQL, then i send data back and forth uaing REST API calls.{json}

PS: I develop native apps only.

I have been doing web development. But I am planning to port App dev. Your knowledge would be helpful.
To be clear native app are the ones coded with purely JAVA and PHP right?

Ilekokonit:
There is no woman that leaves a mans bank balance better off than she met it....

ALL women will drain a mans finances.

They call that independent woman and that’s what makes a good relationship.

But on the other hands, men too should leave the pussy intact o