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All men work offshorea, lol? What do they do when they are at home? Bond with their kids or form head of the house

Lol. Women who act like the typical fathers are met with the same attitude at their old age.

I would want my husband take a lower paying job to spend time with his family. That is no brainer.

truthsayer009:
Great! i love the fact that every woman uses market women as their prime example on women being providers and also taking care of children.

Let's talk about Conductors, Drivers, Bricklayers, Carpenters, Coal Miners, Plumbers who work for NNPC and stay offshore for months and have no choice but to work 24/7 to provide for their homes, besides a lot of those market women kids usually end up as touts, harlots etc. They become useless in the long run.

Speaking of money, will you accept your husband to take a lower paying job just to stay more with the kids?

Maybe I should create a thread and ask fellow Nairaland women because the usual answer will be capital NO.

I have worked a whole month where I couldn't even cook my own food because I was super busy with my job as I wanted to impress my new employer, you think say na beans?. Making money is hard please, it takes your time, soul and emotions.

I currently have a guy who is a software engineer with one child and wife, he sleeps in the office trying to make ends meet, even on Sundays. I still spoke to him last week. He his trying to leave but no jobs no switch to.

Misleading title

Can you be any sillier?

motymop:
Libya is at war and the igbo man used that opportunity to love-vendor out his fellow igbo sisters to foreigners in exchange for money.

Now, imagine if war comes to the southeast, lets think about what some igbo women will go through in the hands of their fellow igbo men.

Lol. It is always about this money even when many homes in Nigeria and the world survive on double income.

For example, market women manage to stay in the sun from morning till night, take care of the kids and the home and somehow secure their children's dedication.

What excuse do you have deny yourself that?

truthsayer009:
Will the kids not know where the money is coming from when they grow up and become adults?

Anyway, i understand you though. Just like Dr Dre's wife is currently being a nuisance and the daughter is even more senseless.

Lmao. The point is flying over your head.

How does a man sleeping with many younger women equals the love, dedication and care that should flow from children to their parents at the age when they need it most.

larryjonze:
Lets just say have been fortunate to be around old men who have a solid retirement plan. what they need they get
Men are not lonely as you think, men have a social life the society not scrutinize ... travel visit guest houses on weekend n see how old men lodge with gurls of age, for my final year project please how do igbo men moan on bed, is it chiimo or eewo

They have started. They won't learn!

pocohantas:
They will still come to shalaye. Women this, men that... toor!

This is a very big fat lie. You have not been talking to many older men. You should do that more often. I love their moans .

larryjonze:
Learn from what exactly,
You think any man would go as low as going to do rivalry with his daughter or son inlaw or go n be monitoring there children money.


Men don't reason like parasite, children focus more tnere mother becos generally fathers give the impression they can take care of themselves, its more of an ego tinz men aint even complaining

What does this have to with domestic abuse?

hammerDK:
Correct, two Captains cannot pilot a ship.


The bible said you cannot have two masters.



Any relationship that you see working, one person is leading and the other is following.

True. That is why it comes in different forms. Women abuse men as well and it is called domestic violence.

Men abuse men in same sex relationships

Abuse is a question of power usually from the powerful. It can be from the less powerful sometimes.

Ayo2004:
Women are fond of physically abusing those who they have power over,that's why many of them torture their sales girls,house boys,step children and husband's young family members

They only don't try it with most men because men are stronger,that's why they replace the physical abuse with verbal abuse.
If it was a man that did it,they would drag him like he is Lucifer but since it is one of them now,they are silent

The meaning is literally in the name. Domestic (home; close ones etc)

Amotolongbo:
What are we going to call this now, domestic violence?

Who is the masculine and who is the feminine?

They won't learn

pocohantas:
RIP to her

How come her kids were not constantly showing us her poor living condition, just like the kids of the Nigerian-flag-man?

I asked a friend the other day. Why are you guys always bothered about bringing in your mothers to live with you in their old age or after you marry, what of your fathers? I have old uncles in the village and none of their kids have come take them to their family houses in town. Why?

One ex out of how many please

dannyrhymes600:
okafor's law is real oh, my ex has been disturbing me since 2019 for séx and I kept on saying no ,she gave birth for an unknown dude early this year, I was glad that she will finally leave me alone, na so madam text me say make I come quench her fire

What informed your guess?

candygist:
I guess it was Desmond Elliot that suggested that pako bridge the contractors built.

No Sharia punishment?

Having children with that man is a very bad advice

LilMissFavvy:
What is shameful there? If she wants to quit, let her show the world who he is, I believe she saved screenshots of everything. Let her show her parents. Which parents would advise his or her daughter to marry a hot tempered unrepentant cheat who has already told his side chick that he will continue in adultery even after marriage. If the lady is still young, I would advise her to quit. But if she is advanced in age and tired of waiting for the right man, then she can marry him, have one or two kids, and divorce him, if he cheats and stresses her in the marriage.

How many Ogbanjes do we have in the UK?

heniford2:
i can't say for that, but let me ask you do you think that supernatural powers only exist in christ jesus dear??

Sickle cell anemia is a myth

heniford2:
while you don't understand,ogbanjes are Real too but i feel most of them are repackaging it i once dated an ogbanje lady

He should have left an impression. I know I would, leave and never come back.

heniford2:
lol he never destroyed it he left our village till date nobody has seen him or asked about him but the are still using those stuff i just hate the OSu thing my dear but is very Real very fucking Real

The village murdered the seller or he died a natural death.

You want to believe the same village and diety that once spread stories about Ogbanjes over common sense. I can't help you.

heniford2:
nobody had a hand in his death the family did there own investigation his son and his wives, the village also did his own tradition was not erased my dear is still dia and the are people who worship it. like in Nusska in enugu a village like that, if a married lady from that village sleeps with another man she goes mad no prayer can save her not joking oh ask question

Why would you assume I won't tell them about home? I am not Osu and I don't even mingle with silly family members from either side.

I will love to tell them all about their people

heniford2:
nobody can really via for her unborn kids no matter how smart or intelligent you think you are kids will always make silly mistake no matter up bring the will one day ask you about home...

Pagans quoting Bible passages .

Minemrys:
God bless you, Miss.

I meant the things he built

heniford2:
in our village the don't sell land to an OSU if you do so you die within months nothing can save the seller not even praying and fasting and the funny thing about it is that land becomes community land your family can not calm it again so you either buy outside, its just terrible is culture my forefathers was born into it so

Why would I buy a land amongst stupid people though?

The seller died because he was murdered by his village people. You should be looking for murderers amongst your village people.

The stupid diety that didn't protect it beloved community from the Whiteman now has the strength to fight.

heniford2:
in our village the don't sell land to an OSU if you do so you die within months nothing can save the seller not even praying and fasting and the funny thing about it is that land becomes community land your family can not calm it again so you either buy outside, its just terrible is culture my forefathers was born into it so

1. Do I sound like the type that will bring forth stupid children?

2. The world they are going to live in is going to be a world that will stand together against the foolish ones

3. The same infants that are asking for urgent 2k or engaging in 'taboo' sex . Motigbo.

heniford2:
dear chill unless you leave your family your village and bear it in mind nothing like home your on ur own one day your kids will ask you about village about your people then how do you explain to him or her your an "outcaste" an OSU damn mehn "Christianity did not stop some tradition" infant people are embracing culture more now based on ?? so becareful in your decisions think of future not know culture is real can never go we still have people in the village practicing it

Blackman101:
what we call black American or black in Europe today comprise of some free and Osu igbo men and women sold during the slave trade. some are married with kids and grand children doing very well in their respective field of live without knowing the crazy history of OSU.

1. What has the Local God's in igbo land done about it.?
2.Abi the gods na only Nigeria(east) him get power. ?

I hope the first thing he did was to destroy his properties

heniford2:
dude even if your jeff Bezos the will still one day tell you,your an OSu maybe when the are sharing something or doing something important no money can change that, i had this man in our village an OSu dude has money built free water, school, etc the celebrated the man oh for his actions he felt he belong one day they were doing umunna meeting dude was setting downing it happen that they where sharing land the give every family member his own none was giving to him, he asked why was he not giving even half plot the opened there wild mouth in his present with his kids and wife around and told him his an OSu nothing for him, i saw this man shade tears bitterly...this am saying happen in my villa

You really don't know me.

heniford2:
is something big that even your family may accept you but the public will not infant in meetings you will never be invited your community will zero level you if per say your kids are schooling in that area sorry is a nightmare you can fight but the sent of it never leaves you till you die

Same difference. You will want to be associated with something of reverence not the other way round. As Christians in the 21st century, it is sad they still hold on to such beliefs.

Shokoloko:
Sweet, Before you marry that guy you need to consider the type of person you are first and your goals. Are you the type of person who wants to go into grassroot politics someday, do you like the idea of August meetings and village matters? Do you love spending holidays in the village? Do you plan to go back to the village after retirement? You may not want to marry him

Are you a city girl? Do you plan to build a life in the city or relocate abroad? Do you not care if you do not receive so many calls (except to request money) from your extended family? - do not worry, your parents will call you. You should marry him if you love him

You have a small stature but you are above 30 years - do not let your parents make a decision for you. On the other hand make sure this man loves you if not he might resent you for being a Diala or Ume.

I wish you the best

For any non-Igbo reading this, Osus are not treated badly. They were even more educated than the Dialas or Ume, Because they were sent to school while the other castes went to the farm. They are not despised, rather revered as property of the gods. (Glad its abolished)

The Christian Western world of the 1700 would be shocked at the world today.

It can and it will. Younger generations will outlive silly old people. Their useless beliefs will die with them. The ones that choose to hold on to those practices will be treated as outcasts.

MPESA:
It can't be abolish, we all know it . It has a lot of negative effects that no family are willing to risk it.

What will Jesus say?

Kobicove:
You people will just come online and start giving useless advise.

I hope you will be there to comfort her when she starts crying that her children are being discriminated against as a consequences of her decision to marry an Osu

@ Hammergirl don't make a decision based on the advise of someone who will not bear the consequence of that decision!

You can choose to prove a point and contribute to banishing the osu caste system for good but there would be consequences from your family and the other regret is what if the union falls apart and how your actions would affect your children.

Thereis nothing you can do about your family. Let them know how they have angered Jesus because a true Christian family will not care about a despicable caste system that is also based on paganism. Hellfire awaits them!

Younger generations are increasingly less conservative about such silly practices. There are many cultures in the world including Nigeria where it won't matter. So be rest assured you and your children will blossom among the sensible people of the world.

Take faith that you are not the only couples in this. There are many married couples who have gone ahead to forge their own path.

It won't last long, all of these silly older people will soon die anyways .

Hammergirl:
Hi, I'm in love with an osu but my family forbids it. How do I convince them to allow me to marry him?

You are going to hell

Kobicove:
Piss off!