₦airaland Forum

IbileArmy:
Sometimes when my Mom's not home, I like to go
to her garden and cover myself with dirt and
pretend I'm a carrot.

Buhahahaha

Babymama1:
By the way from the interviews i have seen on CNN,transgender is not about gay or lesbianism
It is not about sexuality
It is an identity they say
Transgendered people can be gay,straight of bi or even asexual kpa kpa
That is what they want you to know
This thing is not as straightforward as you think
We are not only about to redefine marriage ,we are redefining what it means to be a homo sapien

Rotflmao!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

A man shows you his true colors and you still went to marry him and you're complaining?
Shame no dey catch women like this sha when they complain?
Ms Friend you sure do have a lot of patience.

We know skin bleaching is bad, but did you have to go to the shoe store to scout for a lady trying different shoes though? lol.
Those feet still look like a normal lightskinned person's feet.

Crieff:
Truth is the TRUTH as laid down in the Bible is still the only, singular compass of man in all ramifications of his life that includes marriage.

That 99.9% men cheat is not a valid or tenable reason to make it a part and parcel of married life...it is what it is, an excuse and it is unacceptable.

The boundaries of morality are not fixed which explains why morality's definition is expanded to accommodate all these character flaws. This is where righteousness as a biblical principal trumps morality and is also distinguished from man-made morality.

Married men may fall into adultery but it never should be a norm that must be expected but frowned up and nipped right in the bud.

Wow, wow, round of applause.
It's not as if women do not or cannot cheat, it's because society frowns at women cheating more than male adultery.
Society's attitudes towards male adultery needs to change. This leniency towards adultery is not helping anyone. It is destroying families. Any person that claims to be family centered would be focused on curbing this menace that is destroying families.

...because they lack self control...which is a fruit of the Holy spirit.
The fruits of the Holy Spirit is the result of the Holy Spirit's presence in the life of a Christian.
According to the bible we like quoting of course.

Fulaman198:
One question I have for all my Northern sisters.......(including my own Fulani ones).

Why do you always pout your lips?

Lol. There's a pouting trend going on, I guess your fulani women aren't left out.

I found this site.
http://www.sos-kdiafme.org/Nigeria/

SOS Children's Villages cares and supports children who have lost, or who are at risk of losing, the care of their biological family. Family strengthening programmes aim to prevent children from losing the care of their family. We strengthen families’ ability to protect and care for their children, and strengthen safety nets for vulnerable children and their families within the community.

This is their contact info.
[url] http://www.sos-kdiafme.org/Nigeria/contact/contact.php[/url]
National Office
18, Church Street. Off Salavation Road
Opebi - Ikeja. P.O. Box 660 Shomolu
Lagos, Nigeria
Telephone: Tel +234 811 299 4466, +234 700 000 0018
Email: info@sosvillages-nigeria.org

bukatyne:
We don tey for this game

Don't forget how they also channel the wickedness and aggression to the housemaids, gatemen etc.
Nigerian women are the biggest culprits in being inhumane to housemaids. You wonder where the anger is coming from.

Babymama1:
Go to marriage seminars in every church the population of women to men there will be 5:1
Married and single
We are the ones reading books
The ones attending the seminars
How will that work when the marriage involves two
She is learning all that while he is making appointments with ashawo

Lol.

RicardozRichard:
Still fire what do u actually mean by ""Its not gender related"' how do u mean u it¿

My brother it is poverty that makes you measure the size of yam.
When you have enough, you don't care.
It's not a matter of husband vs wife, nor what wives are making men do, pray for wealth so you don't reduce yourself to counting the number of meat in a pot of soup.

DollyParton1:
This is silly. Your god created men to be cheats and women to endure and encourage. Your god must be crazy.

Damn!

So this mother is going to allow them throw her son in jail because of a situation she caused?

francababy:
Update on this event. They were able to reach Oscar through one of his friends this early morning. Oscar said he never slapped his mum. He said she slapped him once and he was shouting at her not to try it again then she wanted to slap him again and he slapped her down. The palm of her hand. When she was throwing the slap, he slapped her hand down like he was blocking the slap. Then he went to his room packed a few things and to look for Tania who went to wait for him in their church.

I knew it. With the kind of training we got, it would be very hard for any Nigerian child to slap his mom.
She has gone to paint the scenario like a victim.
I don't pity her one bit.

O pa ri. Didn't I just make reference to some hypocritical fornicator in the church quoting bible on how women should act?
They will not remove the humongous log of wood from their dirty eyes, but would be monitoring 'feminine' affairs.
I am sure the choirmaster is most likely a Nairalander, buhahaha.

Poor people's problem. It's not gender related. #deadthread.

TV01:
Ironically, no matter what you claim, that's exactly what it isn't in practice. It denies interdependance in procreation for one - reproductive rights are arrogated to the woman, at the expense of the offspring or male.

And it has re-worked marriage /family law, so that it's now an unnatractive proposition for men. That is privilige and rights without responsibiity.

Please read my post to Bukatyne above. The word "submissiveness" in Christian marital context means nothing like that.


TV

Mr TV. I have realized we have chosen what we want to believe. You have decided to believe the worsttttttttttt out of feminism . And that is 100% fine by me. I have given the definition of interdependence. And that also is 100% feminist to me.

cococandy:
See the so-called Christains that will start preaching the bible when it suits them hailing someone who thinks cheating is ok from men.

Don't you guys get ashamed of your hypocrisy?

Lol! May God deliver us from all these two-faced Idibias. God would rather you are hot or cold, not two faced.
Even the bible allows for divorce from a cheating partner.
I advice every christian woman to read her bible for the love of God.
If they bring one, you bring two verses that shatters their argument.
Only a weak female would still be threatened by all these scare tactics in the 21st century.

FrancisTony:
True! They eavesdrop on other peoples fake life and claim to have life.

When you don't know who you are...
When you do not read your bible but leave it to charlatans to help you interpret it...
When you can die for your pastor...

FrancisTony:
When I start exposing hypocrisy of men, they'll go emotional like a wussbag and start character assassination.

They think today's women were silly as their mothers who you could use scare tactics on under 'culture' or 'religion' to push around like a marionette.

BABE3:
if it's a regular relationship with no kids involved, I'd advice anyone with a cheating partner to leave the relationship.

But if it's a marriage she's still interested in, with kids involved, and he's very remorseful but she still finds it hard to forgive, I'd advise her to cheat back. The idea of "getting even" eases the pain of betrayal, which is better for everyone in the long one.

The problem is, he must never find out she cheated. Ever! Coz if he does, the focus will shift from him to her.

God knows if I were to cheat, I would have damned all consequences and the aim would be to gloat about it in his presence. That would be the satisfaction for me. While telling him, I would have armed myself with a gun or those swords in kill bill. They often say quiet people are the most dangerous, I agree. When I've damned all consequences there's no going back o.

So it's best for someone like me to just pack her load and divorce like a good christian that I am, lol.

Babymama1:
If she can cope with it you say,in Nigeria many cannot cope
The system is geared towards punishing women
Divorce IMHO is always a last resort unless a woman's life is in danger but the two should be willing to work it out
A woman can't want marriage with a man that wants marriage on his terms

The frustrating part I read in many of these cases here is that for the most part,the woman is jobless,some have alienated friends and family sometimes because of this 419 marriage and on top of that the man is also cheating
If her kids will be snatched from her if she leaves,can I sincerely tell her to leave her kids and get away?
I would rather help her plot how she will run away with the kids
But many don't have that opportunity especially if the man is rich and influential
Some don't even have any shishi to go anywhere


As for your last point
I would wish that men who cheat find wives who not only know how to cheat with impunity like their husbands but who will go as far as getting kids from their lovers rather than their husbands while remaining in the marriage
Two can play that game

How can we make this punishment spread to both genders?
That's my main focus o. How can we get it into law to punish men who cheat?

FrancisTony:
I can only speak for Christians.

Bible said love your wife as Christ loved his Church.
Any Christian man that supports OP will definitely not eat his cake and have it.
Adultery and Pre-marital sex is evil - shun it.

Don't be a cheat and expect submissive/respectful wife.


N/B - Quote responsibly...

They will not see this part of the bible. I really don't know what they preach in church.

Even my ancient Igbo foremothers dealt with recalcitrant husbands. How much more women of today trying to condone a bad and evil thing. I don't get it. Some queer statistic show Nigerian women cheat more, I don't see men trying to justify or asking themselves to condone cheating and live with it.

Anyway....
Pseudo-Feminist
A person that claims to be a feminist yet ignores the main point of feminism, equality. Pseudo-Feminists will tend to blather on about how terrible men are, or assume how men do not face social issues in regards to their gender. Not only can these issues include false rape accusations (although that's EXTREMELY rare), rape of men (which is actually more common than you'd think) Selective Service in the United States, and the pressure of masculinity (which is very much like the pressures of feminization that women face and not considered as often).

Just as how pseudo-feminists will frequently call acknowledgement of men's issues misogyny, many so called "masculists" try to generalize feminists by pseudo-feminists, in order to claim that feminism is misandric in nature. Of course, these "masculists" then ignore women's issues and prove to be nothing but hypocrites. If you misuse the term, you'll look stupid to any intelligent being.

There are well documented pseudo-feminists, one of which is the 'Femitheist Divine', a young woman that on her previous blogs had called for mass genocide of men. They try to claim to be feminists in order to have a sense of legitimacy.
Pseudo-Feminists are basically the gender-issue equivalent of a GSA member that hates heterosexuals. Or a Cancer Society volunteer that advocates smoking.

Cheating is a deal breaker for me. I am guided by certain rules and principles I have set a standard for myself to the extent I can never date, let alone marry a babypapa. I know my worth and my worth requires 100% dedication in my relationship, marriage. I do not do half, quarter love. Material wealth does not move me, I will be content in one room with a dedicated, faithful husband. Also with my capabilities, I can provide for myself. All I need from a man is his faithfulness, companionship, ardent respect for family.

What standards have you set for yourself?

Don't think women can't/wont cheat. Despite the stringent punishment society places on cheating women, women still cheat. Imagine if those rules don't exist.
It's best to stop looking at cheating as a man thing. I always say that the standards we hold women by regarding this subject, you need to hold men by it. Society needs to see cheating as anathema in men rather than condone it.

TV01:
Stilly, Stilly, Stilly, a good effort, but not one that convinces me there is any merit in feminism.

And no one has said the roles make either superior have they. They are just different and clearly aligned to our complimetary natures. And pray tell how interdependence is feminist?


Oh please! "subservient"? Which religion do you speak of, I can hold brief for Christianity and confidently say "it aint so Joe"

TV

How isn't interdependence feminist? In relationships, interdependence is the degree to which members of the group are mutually dependent on the others. No one is being made to look less or superior than the other. Is that not what feminism is all about?

What's the problem with the word Subservient? Is it not a synonym to submissiveness? Conforming to the will of authority?