₦airaland Forum

ELLYsian:
And people say that women are more emotional

Buhahahaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!!!!
A gender that is more easily given to violent streaks surely must be devoid of emotions, I guess.

I like it when they show their true feelings and bash away, so you can stay away from the lot. Is it not better to know how someone feels about you?
Imagine a man harboring this kind of psychosis without voicing it, and you as a black woman unsuspectingly dates him, won't he kill you in your sleep?
Personally black women need to be careful around black men and tread carefully where these people are concerned.
Thank God I don't have any freaking loyalty to the race, unlike my American sisters that are doomed to be whining over who black men sleep with or not.

Kanwulia:
Primitive concerns for PRIMITIVE PEOPLE!

You have said it alllllllllllllllllllll!
I wanted to reply the rubbish OP statements and following ones, but I won't waste a single brain cell on it. Too much productive energy would be wasted doing that.

ladygogo:
lol. I love the balance on Married to medicine. It has career-minded women(Dr's) and some ratchetness.



I love me some Quad and Dr heavenly(the shade thrower).

Married to medicine is the height of ratchetness! Worse than RHOA! And they can't dress! I can't do either shows.

I don't get why your father-in-law has that much say in your marriage. And I don't get it why you are forcing your wife on your mother either. Seems you people can't live without involving the parents one way or the other.

Augustbreak:
People can be so dissapointing,when I did mine,I didn't rely on anyone.It was according to our budget.This year I had my Son's first Birthday.I had already made plans for the cake.One of My Aunt came around before the d day and promised to do the cake free of charge.I even told her to allow me pay for the ingredients,she refused.I told her I wanted a Car,or at least something that looked like one.On the birthday ,see cake.It looked like a caricature.I couldn't even smile on that day let alone laugh.If you can't ,why make promises you can't fulfill.Now my younger Brother will be getting married next week,This same Aunt promised she will assist with the venue decoration.I've warned him not to rely on her .He said he has gotten a standby decorator in case of any dissapointment.

Lol. Another Aunty again? Beware of the aunts!

Aww cute!

Tallesty1:
He was once an Angel.
That's good............
The Angels that have been on this earth are always on mission.
They are not of this world, they are from above.
The Angelic nature of your husband has completed its mission and gone back to heaven.
You are now married to a Nigerian man.

I'm not intimidating enough and it pains me eh.

armyofone:
OP, please ask your friend the type of work her hubby does. She is demanding not know his work or financial status... you never know how he is living where he is so take it easy with him.

Exactly. And the man should be honest to her as well. If he has the money, of course he would send more to his family. Obviously he doesn't have it. She should accept it and find a business to do. House rent is paid for, school fees too. I mean he has tried.
She doesn't need to drive a car either, nor use the gen everyday. When did Nigerians start using gen like water when you know you don't have the money?
Those that do not work, shouldn't complain.

zizazizu:
As painful as this is, it is very funny.

Lol, I laughed too.

OP sorry.

I don't know if any of my family was taken off.

ROSSIKE:
The Nigerian mentality doesn't really jell with the whole slavery, returnee issue. Nigerians tend to have a just get on with it and quit moaning mentality, and such a mindset has little patience for the socio/political revisionism of the black diaspora. Most Nigerians would appreciate an African American who came to Nigeria to start a good business etc, as opposed to someone coming merely to ''rediscover his roots'' etc etc. Nigerians don't have time for such 'sentimentality' in a country where the pursuit of material/professional success is more intense than anywhere else in Africa (and possibly the world). It is this Nigerian aloofness to anything not considered of direct economic value that makes African American returnees feel 'unwelcome' in Nigeria, unlike say Ghana or Gambia where everything seems to stop for them when they appear.

You are right. But is this a good thing or not? Personally I don't see anything wrong with it. As far as we are being diplomatic to them, I don't see the problem.

I am a wife aso ebi.

^^^Dude nobody cares.

Wow didn't know we had to raise a husband too? I didn't get that memo. His parents did not raise him or what?

Did any virtuous woman stop King Solomon (who you pilfered this from) from having 700 wives and 300 concubines?
If you are a woman, a christian woman, you better not be deceived by this facade that puts an unnecessary yoke on your head and gives men the avenue to act uncivilized to you.

I wont even take him seriously. Even my foremothers wore makeup and beautified themselves on their wedding day.

ileobatojo:
Are we supposed to be bamboozled by the use of big words? You gave your mother power of attorney to kidnap another person's child? That was never your right to transfer to another person in the first place. And no, the word kidnap is not harsh at all.

I hope he would be made a scapegoat. In his next village life, he would respect the rights of a woman.
I'm so glad it happened in the UK and not that association of unprogressives that was made into a country called Nigeria.

coogar:
izu is an idiöt....



so he granted his kidnapper mother the power of attorney but was it with the consent of liya's mother? this is stealing - how can you take what belongs to someone else without her permission.

then again, he said ronke's mother was informed the same day liya arrived in nigeria? why didn't they inform ronke's mother before the baby was taken from the UK?

i hate it when a fool thinks he can play on my intelligence. this boy should be arrested. this is a conspiracy to kidnap a minor. he should have kept quiet instead of coming up with this crap.

They think they are in the village where men do, act, breathe, poo as they like and think the mother's rights are inconsequential
This is why feminism will continue to thrive as far as I'm alive!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The people that want to die because of that statement should begin to die.

Sophyrocks:
Why are you curious? Do you like him or what?

Naa, it's something like an ego boost for her.

Wow he can't get it up and he still has mouth like this? Wow, wow, wow.

*Just thinking aloud.*

Chillisauce:
Nigerian men, Oya o.

Come and read and learn.
No be to dey carry big belly dey mess anyhow for house .

Or the Yahoo Yahoo ones wey dey stay 24hrs internet cussing and fighting wearing one piece of boxers everyday . Baff sef, dem no baff .Shower no see them eye .

Big kiss for my Nigerian gentlemen. If you are doing this, you scarce walahi. God bless your women. Your portion in life will increase positively. Amin o. Any woman that doesn't appreciate you doing this , needs a psych.

Ehem, btw Op , you sure say you dey appreciate, Abi you just wan type.
Oya come buy me beer

Lol.

Contractors are often broke!

Anyway in continuation of the topic of this thread...

Exclusive: Izuchukwu Ehiemere, Father of Alleged “Kidnapped by Grandma” 2 Year Old Nigerian UK Girl Tells BN his Side of the Story.

Here’s Izu’s account:

“My name is Izuchukwu Ehiemere and I am the biological father of Miss Liya Tinuke Temidun Ehiemere. To be frank, I met Miss Moronke Fadoju (Liya’s mother) at the University of Hertfordshire, United Kingdom and we began a casual friendship at the time. We were not in a “binding” relationship, it was purely casual. This relationship/friendship did not last up to three months of which I was informed by her that she was pregnant with my child.

Naturally, I was surprised and in doubt but before I could make proper verifications, she had already informed everybody both domestically and internationally that myself and her were having a baby together. Furious at the time, admittedly I must have said some harsh things with which I regret till date but I accepted my responsibility and worked towards welcoming Liya into the world. I went as far as accommodating Moronke for some months as she had been evicted from her house. This idea didn’t go down well with my friends at the time but it was the right thing to do, up until my landlord discovered.

To cut that story short, I remained actively involved even when she got a new place because the baby was fast approaching. I helped with the baby shower party, purchasing the baby cot, baby essentials etc. as well as transporting her to the hospital to give birth, and thankfully I witnessed the birth of Liya. I remained a key figure from Day 1 helping Moronke run errands since she was so weak after birth. I could go on and on about how actively involved I was but the point drew near when I had to return to Nigeria for my NYSC some months after Liya’s 1st birthday. I am sorry if going to serve my country portrayed me as an absent father. It does hurt a lot when Moronke says I never wanted Liya and I have never been there for her. If I was never there for Liya, she had the right to name Liya whatever she deemed fit and deny me parental responsibility. There is a reason why her surname is Ehiemere.

Given that I have PR (Editor’s Note: Parental Rights) to Liya, I share equal responsibility over Liya unless Moronke has a court order stating otherwise. During the period of my return to Nigeria, we had an agreement that the best way to help Moronke as a new mother, was by both mothers from the maternal and paternal side taking intervals to travel to the UK to babysit Liya and enable Moronke go back to University. An agreement both families as well as Moronke were very receptive to.

Labelling my mother as a squatter who relied on her assistance was very wrong. My mother handled every expenditure in Moronke’s household within her stay there and assisted to the best of her ability. (Bank Statements available as proof to that effect). My mother did not have to come to the UK but she did purely out of love, twice as a matter of fact.

During her stay, things did not pan out well as my mother observed a lot of traits and behavioural patterns that could be of potential harm to the proper development of Liya. For good reasons, confidential information would not be disclosed here, but there is adequate evidence to prove our genuine concern for Liya’s welfare and wellbeing in the UK. Social Services were also involved and would know best. As a result of the potential risks to Liya’s welfare and wellbeing discovered, I granted my mother Power of Attorney to act on my behalf with matters regarding the welfare of Liya as I was not happy with the situation at hand and the best outcome was for Liya to be brought to Nigeria. Ronke’s family was informed that same day Liya arrived Nigeria including our exact location. Putting up that Instagram post on missing child was not called for, as they were duly informed. It seemed like a deliberate act to sabotage the good name of my family and indirectly hurt my mother.

Kidnap is a harsh allegation and it was uncalled for in this regards. The blogs and messages were put up to generate undue sympathy and rage. They were too erratic. She remained in contact with Liya too, therefore I do not understand her claims of not being allowed to speak with Liya.

Every decision that was taken was in the best interest of my daughter, Liya. She knows her father just as well as her mother, and I am not a stranger to her. Liya was never traumatized during her stay here, as a matter of fact, she was extremely happy to be reunited with her father in a cleaner and stable environment. There have never been issues between both families and the stories portrayed do not justify that. We remain as diplomatic as possible and would not result to name calling or war of words because we want peace to exist. I have no doubt with the events that have taken place and the publicity generated, more watchful eyes would be placed on Liya and her welfare going forward. This is all, we as a family have always wanted.

http://www.bellanaija.com/2014/10/16/exclusive-izuchukwu-ehiemere-father-of-alleged-kidnapped-by-grandma-2-year-old-nigerian-uk-girl-tells-bn-his-side-of-the-story/

stevecantrell:
Nigerian women...Scamming men since 1914.

Seems Nigerian women are the better players in this game.

Hehehe, Naija men dey enjoy o. Na wa o.

golddeejay:
u r getting it wrong, is like u r describing an ebola victim. Hav been on weed for as long as i can rememba, the only clue u will is my red eyes wch z no big deal cos m dark. Its all abt taking care of urself and eating gud food

Red eyes?? Bloody hell! And you think it's no big deal because you're dark? Rotflmao!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

coogar:
this is why polygamy should be brought back.
if i have 4 wives, at least one of them should be in a working order.

Lol, yeah bring back polygamy, more women to fake it per man. Faking galoreeeeeee.

moca:
Coogar,abeg shift.
I dont agree with u.
D only reason ladies fake that is simply not to crush una ego. Simple!
U know what it means telling a guy his performance is not good enough? Next time john thomas might refuse to answer when u call him(yep it can get this bad, relationship experts can tell u that).
Most times ladies use style to hand direct d dude on what to do or u see them subtly changing positions while chanting ur name.
Some correct babes will continue nudging until u get it right yet u will never hear them tell u u r not good.
Meanwhile ur head has been swelling that u r a champion.
Tuah!
Simple arithmetic!

Lollllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll.
You are absolutely correct. They are that weak o.
Who wants to have a fussy husband for that whole week or month sef?

bebe2:
Dnt mind these small minded pple.
Since wen did tuface become the epitome of a successful relationship??

Very small minded. I reject this type of relationship for my enemy.

I always say it, that it's until you suffer, roll yourself on the floor, cry blood, cry a river, cry the pacific, fight all the women after your man, plot murder, turn psychotic will Nigerians appreciate a relationship.

Relationships to them can't be easy going, respect of each other, laugh, play, smile, take a walk in the park, in the garden, I mean enjoy life. There's always that stench of money, he bought me this, the issue of playing emotional decrepit games, or he's a cheater, he beats her, he sleeps around like a he goat, uurgghh I could go on and on. Freaking disgusting and dysfunctional sets of people.

coogar:
women fake orgäsms for relationships
men fake relationships for orgäsms

it seems balanced to me.

Hahaha. I believe that line. Nobody loses I guess. Why wont I fake it, when other women are faking it? Who wanna carry last?

kaya09:
Its not a drug o!

It is a drug. A drug is any substance that brings about a change in biological functions through its chemical actions. Aspirin is a drug, weed is also a drug. They all bring about a chemical change in the body.