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tpia6:
it is an extremely s.tupid statement to make - "if the boy's wife has any complaint then it means the mother should be attacked".

very, very s.tupid.

In case you dont know, how you behave in your husband's house (when you have one), carries more weight on your upbringing than when the genders are reversed.

kapish?

even if you are making millions via blogging or whatever job you say you are doing. If you like be sitting on a chair made of diamonds and spray perfume made from martian flowers.

cant believe the utterly d.umb egos I'm seeing here.

The most stu.pid person ever to exist on NL is you. Why do you think I have never ever had any dealings with you? You are even more of a bastard for implying I ever said that statement you cooked up from your evil calabash you use to devise evil every morning. You think I'm as irrational as you are?
Today is the day I'll deal with you, you dirty im..becile. Which time did me and you discuss the kind of job I do? Do you ever see me quote your mad posts? But you always quote me. And I ignore you. You don't know that since you are a certified ret.ard, my natural inclination is to stay off your dirty, smelly path.
If you are an evil mother in law, may God punish you and feed your wretched soul with maggots for breakfast, lunch and dinner . Stu.pid woman from a disgusting, devilish background.

Can this idio.t hear herself? How a woman carries more weight, thereby leaving badly behaved, violent men unleashed by terroristic, ill mannered mothers like tpiah on the loose to run free without reprimand? You must be very mad for recanting such rubbish when society is moving to a point of holding BOTH SEXES ACCOUNTABLE.

If that is too much for your sensibilities to handle, please take a rope and do the needful. Idio.t!

tpia6:
why are nl "women" more concerned about "feedback" from "their sons' wives" than about feedback from their daughters' husbands?
are you people nigerian, because that's not how its done there.

Where was this implied? Is the topic not about the boy-child?
So we should continue the system of reprimanding daughters, forget about our sons because 'that's how it's done' in your village?
Is that not how we continue to breed the cycle of evil, demonic mother in laws and egotistical sons.
I believe in this century a lot of you people still caught up in the "this is our culture" fever would have a very, very rude awakening.

Africa is a deeply patriarchal society. Men dominate the socio-economic and political machinery and organizations. Men are regarded as natural leaders who are superior and born to rule over women. Women are considered weaker vessels; extensions of men and secondary human beings. The pride of women are derived from and dependent on men.

Where are those weak women again that pride themselves as inferior vessels?

There is no way in hell my girls would be running around to cater for the needs in the house and my boys would be relaxing. That era is overrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr! That is how they grow up to be egotistic, overgrown babies demanding 'woman, where is my food' ready to frustrate whoever they married.

notobs:
The origin of nsibidi is unkonwn to you because you are igbo and a non initiate of the Ekpe cultural group whose language is nsibidi, If you were an initiated member of Ekpe then you would know its origin and it root, it will keep eluding you as long as you do not initiate in the cultural society.

Well continue keeping yours sacred and stop complaining. Let other people that were influenced by it use theirs as they want. I don't see the English crying we use their alphabets to write our languages or pidgin English (which is even more of a bastardization of their language). To me this is enough proof south eastern societies have had age long relationships not the newly introduced bitterness and segregation brought about by the politics of the Nigerian government. Igbo people used Nsibidi too. And it is a good thing they have brought it mainstream. You can keep yours sacred.

aisha2:
Buy your own car, get your own girlfriend and drive behind them.

Buhaha.

On a serious note, I don't think I'll be fighting for front seat. I'll sit at the back, let the boys chat in the front. What's the big deal?

Let him be.
You married a traditional man, and you want to put your 'input'. Doesn't make sense to me.
This is not the time to be demanding for rights. You should have taken care of that before marriage.

Nonso23:
This is a very befititing Abstract for the previous dissertation.
It is on an African forum because opinions are not territorial. Why is news on ISIS on Nairaland.

Did you see any man on this thread base their points on those premises?? Or are you manufacturing again??

African women pamper their husbands while they do nothing not so?
Please, go home this december and ask them elders how the names 'obiagelli' and 'oriaku' came about. Also ask them what 'ogbuagu', 'ogbuefi' et al signified. Then also ask them what a man who couldn't live up to expectations in both marriage and business was labelled, ask if there are equivalent names/labels for women. Ask them how decisions in the community were taken.
Ask them if women played an important role or not.
Then come back and tell me African (Igbo) men don't pamper or respect their women.

Nonso do you carry madam's grocery bag, or do you open doors for her? Does she sit before you sit? Those are chivalrous acts that are westernized. And that is what this woman is talking about of which is alien to us. Let's be realistic.
On a serious note, I want to know how these acts depicted by this woman are important to African women. How on earth would you marry oyibo chivalry with keeping to African traditions? To me this is a useless thread as an African woman.
I'm glad I have made you confess of the important roles women played in Igbo society. Since I always come across people who parade the ideology of women being tied up in the kitchen only and for child rearing purposes. Why then do you guys parade an ideology that women's voices are supposed to be silent? I'll tell you why! The British did not elevate female political institutions in Igboland and were left to obscurity, and the men ran along with it. Today the umuada is nothing other than a marriage ceremony extortion piece. Today what we have is a bastardized tradition that promote the idea that a woman should be silent with an added edge of christianity and islamic religion. And this is what I am determined to change.

Any misbehaviour of an African man to the African woman is a reaction to balance the tilt their (women) deviance and overt readiness to adopt what they know little or nothing about created.

Nope. In Igbo culture there is something called sitting on a man where women demanded for rights long before the colonialists. This was the method used to bring recalcitrant, badly behaved husbands to book. So no, misbehavior is not as a result of what a woman must have done. My formothers attest to this. That is why they organized themselves in groups, and any husband that exhibited bad behavior was dealt with. Men have always been troublesome!

Nonso23:
See PhD dissertation.

Odika nke-a meturu gi n'opupu oo.

BTW, I didn't see 'African' nor 'Nigerian' in that post. Stop assuming.
Hope Hubby no be African Man sha?
Don't bother to answer. We know the answer. Every other man is thrash except my husband.

Lol! No be Ilekokonit write am? I should stop assuming? Why is it on an African forum then when being chivalrous to women is alien to us ? Na you dey carry madam grocery bag? Se na you dey open car doors for madam? It is highly westernized to help women carry load. African women carry their loads themselves and is called to pamper the man and not the other way round. African women that are not feminist should abide by the rules of being the quintessential African woman as posted by the emeritus prof himself ilekokonit. I've noticed they wanna have it both ways. Mba nu Nonso! we must all choose one.

For further ways to know how to act like the correct African wife, here is a documentary on the Afar women.
All what the men did was to rear cows, sleep, eat, drink and sleep again rotflmao! The women built their huts themselves, even agadi nwanyi.
Why should an African man carry the load for an African woman, that is so Westernized abeg!

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I'm not 40 but I'm 35 and single, do I count?

It's their choice. They are adults. As far as it's not a child that is being married off.
Polygamy is the least of my concern.
Women are not babies.

Op sorry, but if you are looking to buy red boxers as someone suggested, please contact me. I sell them. This is every wife's kryptonite o! Don't carry last abeg.

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Damn I love Afrobeats!

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You see, I'm kind of psyched to be raising my boys as gentlemen. I am proud to raise them to be hard-working and dedicated providers. I am raising them to treat the women in their lives like princesses, and to make eye contact with, and say hello to, everyone they meet. I am raising them to appreciate the beauty in a person based on what that person believes and how that person makes my boys feel, not on what that person is wearing or how much of their skin is exposed.



I want my boys to be chivalrous, to open doors and carry heavy loads, to ask a girl out on a date and pay the bill without expecting anything in return. I am encouraging my sons to tell girls when they think those girls look beautiful. I love that my boys want to surprise me (and eventually their partners) with gifts, and the spontaneous hug or peck on the cheek from time to time.

I hope this woman is not African otherwise she's utterly confused.
Chivalry is NOT an African construct! All the above are evidence of confusion.
Hugs and pecks on the cheek? Hahahaha
Fela the quintessential African sang I no be gentleman at all, I be African man original!
Na woman they do the above for man in Africa o. When an African man pays the bills on a date he expects se.xx in return!
Lol I see a lot of women want the perks of either side, rotflmao!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If you are not a feminist, you have to be the quintessential African wife!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You can't pick or choose.
If you dunno how to be an African wife, look below

The rules of engagement of being the quintessential African wife!
Culled from the emeritus prof....Ilekokonit

https://www.nairaland.com/1980592/tips-keeping-good-african-man

Tips To Keeping A Good African Man - © Ilekokonit - 4 Nov 2014

· Recognise that not every westernised idea or norm is good for the longevity of an African relationship
· Respect your man, respect his African values
· Don’t rubbish African culture for the sake of feminism
· Know or learn what being an African man is all about
· Recognise that a woman living alone for a long concerted time reduces a woman’s compatibility with a proper African man
· Don’t puncture his balloon just to get even or drag him down
· Don’t be hateful, spiteful or seek revenge
· Be forgiving, Don’t be mean and Don’t be wicked
· Recognise that even Beyoncé who sang “independent woman” is still holding tight to her man, likewise the Queen of England and Margaret Thatcher before her death
· Keep the parts of your body that are meant to be hidden, hidden and not on public display
· Serve as a good role model to his children especially his daughter(s)
· Don’t by your way of life / dressing set bad moral examples for his children especially his daughter(s)
· Don’t stop him from bringing up his children with good old school African values
· Never antagonize him in front of anyone especially his kids even behind his back
· Recognize that a boy’s first and everlasting hero is his father and so, never belittle, curse, shout at or castigate him in front of his children especially his sons. Remember that in almost ALL cases, the boy will remind you in later years how you maltreated his dad when he was young and he couldn’t do anything about it
· Recognise that a woman’s crown is her man
· Be DRAMA FREE, Don’t be rude, saucy or stroppy
· Don’t be selfish or self-centered
· Don’t be addicted to TV, fashion, jewelries or your career !!!
· Don’t keep up with the jones
· Believe in for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health because he seriously does whatever the situation
· Don’t be evil or fetish
· You Don’t need a pastor or imam to tell you about the future of your relationship
· Value his opinion above that of your pastor or imam or even your parents
· Realise that 2 cannot work together unless they agree
· Don’t compete with him financially or otherwise fully realizing that he is willing to share everything he has with you
· Don’t have the erroneous belief that "his money is your money and your money is your money"
· Don’t keep secrets from him
· Don’t be crafty, evasive, deceitful or manipulative
· Don’t try to manipulative him with anything (not even religion)
· Don’t be combative, cantankerous
· Don’t tear your own home apart with your very own hands like the woman who does just that with her own hands in Proverbs 14:1 and is described by the bible as foolish
· Realise that a foolish woman keeps talking but a wise woman understands the power of her words as well as her silence
· Realise that it is a FACT when Proverbs 21:9 says that It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house and as such keeps your home peaceful
· Don’t be moody, unfriendly or stubborn to him
· REALISE THAT PART OF WHAT PUTS A MAN OFF HIS WIFE FOR GOOD IS THE FACIAL EXPRESSIONS YOU USE WHEN QUARELLING WITH HIM
· Realise the difference between slapping your man in a film and slapping your man in real life
· Keep friends who are family orientated and want to last in their relationships with their other halves
· Don’t threaten to harm yourself or drink bleach just to get his attention or win an argument
· Faces issues head on without hiding behind non issues
· Don’t deny him his conjugal rights
· Want to grow old with him together, be in the relationship for the long haul
· Don’t be crafty, evasive, cagey or secretive
· Don’t have unnecessary male friends
· allow him access to your phone if you are not hiding anything
· Don’t be deceived by your being young or by your beautiful face, realise that the real beauty of a woman is in your character
· Don’t believe that because you are beautiful then you cannot be corrected
· Don’t lie to him
· Don’t be a combative feminist
· Don’t indulge in being married to an inanimate object
· Don’t smoke and if you do drink, do so rarely, moderately and only on social occasions and Don’t form the habit of drinking alone (Even most men Don’t drink alone except for alcoholics)
· Don’t do drugs
· Value the old school family values that our parents held dear
· Treat him like your mum treated your dad (hopefully, your mum treated your dad well)
· Realise that no man wants to live with a combative quarrelsome woman
· Don’t hide behind crocodile tears just to get your way
· Don’t always have an answer for everything (nobody does)
· Don’t talk at 1000 miles per hour just because you can
· Think before you talk
· Don’t monopolize the conversation.
· Conversation is a 2 way thing. You talk, keep quiet, let him talk, and you listen, then ponder his response before forming your response
· Don’t be over-ambitious or money motivated if you want to keep an African man
· Don’t strive to keep up with the Jones, Don’t copy your friends especially their bad behaviors including haughtiness and pride towards your man
· Don’t copy the way loud, foul-mouthed Nollywood actresses abuse men. Copying them is a recipe for quick divorce
· Don’t feel superior to your man and never treat him with disdain or arrogance
· Don’t be stingy to him if he is generous to you
· Realise that him loving you is not a sign of weakness
· Never try to give him orders
· Make respect your watch word
· Love a harmonious home
· NEVER keep grudges, never bottles things up
· openly discuss issues as they arise
· NEVER discuss your marital issues with your parents, friends or any 3rd party
· Be in the relationship for the long haul and Don’t be a serial man changer just because you think your beauty will last forever
· NEVER EVER feel that there are many fish in the ocean (not all fish are good. Some are poisonous in the short or long run)
· If you get a good man, do your best to keep him irrespective of what your “friends” say as ENOUGH African men are delaying marriage because of the aggression and wild ways of the potential suitors currently available
· Realise that the phrase money is not everything did not just fall from the sky. There was a reason it was coined those many years ago
· Realise that a lot of “proper” African men see educated African women as too combative and so tone down your “gra gra” when you are in his company
· You may be a manager of teacher at work but drop those badges at the door before you enter the house as no African likes being lectured by his woman. You are his woman and not his lecturer.
· If you meet a new guy who is honest enough to tell you he is currently unemployed, never assume that he is going to ask you for money as REAL African men never ask a woman for money nor collect such if offered
· Never get used to living alone for too long lest you become so used to your freedom, space and singleness that sub-consciously you frustrate every new man you meet because your spirit wants to remain free
· Realise that NOT everything that helps you climb the career ladder is helpful to your marriage. Some of them are destructive to African marriages
· Never use sex as a weapon
· Whenever your hubby chooses a late night hubby away from the home or chooses to go alone to the beer parlor repeatedly instead of staying with you at home and only comes back at around 2am or later on a consistent basis then he is trying to say to you that his love for you is dying a slow death and he can no longer bear your company as you are making his life miserable at home and/or you are no longer listening to him
· Don’t neglect your man supposedly because of religious duties, realise that there is a time for everything and Don’t spend too many hours at church/mosque leaving your man lonely at home
· Don’t hide behind religion or religious phrases just to control your man, Don’t choose to pontificate and sermonize him instead of discussing real issues with your non-religious hat on
· Don’t adopt a holier than thou attitude with him
· Don’t lecture him, Don’t sermonize when he is discussing something with you with his rational mind
· Don’t form the bad habit of lying to him especially if he is truthful to you
· NEVER put your career or business above your relationship !!!
· Don’t feel your joint kids are your property or a meal ticket for you in the future and never use his kids as a weapon or bargaining ticket with him
· NEVER turn his children against him
· Be kind to him
· Don’t practice NLP - neuro linguistic programming (or any other type of mind control techniques that Westernised women use to climb the career ladder) on him as most smart men know when they are being manipulated
· Never use NLP techniques on him when discussing issues with him in a ploy to put him on the defensive so that you will win the argument
· Don’t argue with him unnecessarily or argue with him just to tick your log book of arguments you have won with him
· Don’t try to control him IN ANY WAY
· Don’t give him orders
· Don’t argue with him just for arguments sake
· Don’t wind him up or stress him when there is no need for it
· If you try to control him or play unnecessary mind games on him or try to control his mind in the first few weeks of meeting him, then chances are that that relationship will not last (that’s even if it starts in the first place)
· Remember that unnecessarily or repeatedly stressing your man only quickens the end of that relationship
· Realise that “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man” is just a book that Steve Harvey made loads of money from.
· A lady should always be a lady in her actions and in thoughts and “Acting Like a Lady and Thinking Like a Man” is not just difficult to maintain, it is deceptive, it portrays the woman as unnecessarily competitive and aggressive and is a sure fire way to a quick divorce or separation
· Wishing you all the best as you search for that “Good” African man of which there are loads IF YOU KNOW HOW TO KEEP THEM INTERESTED FOR THE LONG HAUL

damiso:
I can't speak for All african men naa That's why I said its individual family individual thing.


I try not to stereotype though(its hard sha I won't lie) but there are african men who are not egocentric.

Besides not all African Men are Christians.I see it from the Christian view but not only Christians see men as the head of the family.
In a way its that pervasive culture of Authority meaning subjugation and this is not just husband wife relationship. Its madam- house help or driver, its teacher- student boss- subordinate even elected official feels he can subjugate those he is elected to serve.Some pastors sef


If we imbibe that thought that when I lead or hold authority its not an avenue to lord it over people I think things might be a bit better.

Ok let me paraphrase do African christian men imbibe the exceptional qualities of Jesus Christ?
We can say some men are not egocentric, but reality shows men even evident on NL crying always for their egos to be kissed be it christian or animist.
The word head defined by attaining the qualities of Jesus Christ is a biblical construct. African culture/religion practices something else not headship. Those who are not christians better choose something else to call themselves. Maybe oga! Those who choose to be called heads must exhibit the qualities of Jesus Christ.
On the other hand, do you think there's more emphasis on female submission than teaching the qualities of Jesus Christ to men in churches today?

Lol
This was definitely the year of the FEMINISTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Respect!!!!!!!! 2015 would even be greater!
Even Obama is a feminist, hahaha. Whether for political votes or not, he knows he gotta please the feminist!

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In 2014 you are still asking this question and people obviously from Pluto would still be asking what women are 'complaining' about.

I love geeks. I love geeks. I love geeks. I love geeks.

1 .the head of the family is the one who charts the course and vision for the family.i see it more as s duty and responsiblity rather than an automatic lordship title. I choose it see again from the Christian view as a sacrificial giving role and not necessary a 'lord of the manor' thing.Christ was a servant leader and that what is the head of the home should be.again I acknowledge not everyone is going to tow that school of thought so each to his own

But Damiso do African men practice the attributes of Jesus Christ? That is the koko.
Was Jesus a walking bag of ego? Or a symbol of humility and grace?
Let's be honest, is the African man a symbol of humility and grace?
Was Jesus going about seeking for whom to kiss his black yansh and ego?
Omotola Jalade Ekeinde's husband cannot say sorry to her, is that Christ-like? She cited ego as the problem, lol.
At this rate, African men will not make heaven, lol.

It's not too early to tutor your child. But not the way Nigerians do it with the cramming, memorization. The neighbours child could just be a better crammer.
The brain is highly plastic even more so at childhood.
Use this time to develop their brain, before it passes them by.

^^^Lol.

The discussion so far is nothing other than throwing around some grammatical jargon to deviate from the debilitating factor that a woman is defined by either her father as a child, then the husband in Nigeria and every other retrogressive society. Patriarchy, the most unchecked, bastardized system that has ever graced the face of the earth, enslaving what constitutes as an important contributor to society can no more be permitted to run loose without checks and balances. Feminism (if you like call it gender equity, equality, fairness, complementarity, mango and onions) MUST exist as long as patriarchy does to avoid such tyranny from ever coming back.

Naijababe you say you don't believe in gender equality and in that same breath you are asking where are the true Nigerian men .
How come?
Nigerian men don't believe in gender equality, you don't. What's the problem?

I would expect that you enjoy the current system of things. I hope you are not trying to eat your cake and have it.

She was the aggressor and she hit him first. I don't support ill-mannered, beastly people.
As per physical abuse in response to verbal abuse, both affirmative and non-affirmative answers to this question can be bastardized.
If we said no, physical abuse should not be the response to verbal abuse, human beings would take advantage and shoot their mouth faster than a speeding bullet. Then we say physical violence is justifiable, oh dear I'm sure some people on this thread would turn their houses into a WWE monday night smackdown.
Our responses are subjective at the end of the day.
People should just act with manners and respect each other. But I know this is just an idealized speech, hehehe.

yaskarahyelhope:
My dear God bless U. I pray those who see VIRGINITY as archaic give utmost respect to it. And my brethren coz U lost Urs doesn't give U d right to insult others who kept theirs. Believe U me, its not easy keeping it but d joy of having Ur husband break it, is untold. As for if d man is still a virgin, dia are men who are still. D man here may not be. God doesn't work d way man works or operate same. But her story is to encourage those who are finding it difficult to get d right guy who can wait or those who will get guys dat will tell lies of waiting, but has other fleet of gals who does d bedmatics for dem. Don't wish her bad and feel she's just euphoric abt d wedding and virginity. Pray for her DAT in yrs to come, she'll still be smiling and praising God through His grace.

Everyone has a gift of communicating with God Ur desires. Y not let Ur heart out to God and be surprised at His response. Christen Igbokwe, a crazy artiste who died not quite long married her husband as a virgin. I called her a crazy artiste coz of d way she dressed when doing her songs which I believe pple will look at and term her a classy prostitute. U can still keep it or abstain from now. Don't look at it as mere story. Its unfortunate dat d world has gone bizarre wt sexual perversion and immorality been d order of d day. But I tell U, d grace of God is always and will forever be sufficient.

God's blessings to Y'all!!!

The likelihood is that you would end up with men who have been around the block. What is the joy in that?
He's getting top quality goods and what do you get in return? A rotten, overused, tokunbo, quarter to die equipment.
I see virginity as a thing for your faith and principles only! The husband part is not needed.

EnlightenedSoul:
Be careful what you wish for. That's already the case with Indian culture. The men are, in fact, paid man-dowries by the bride and her family, and you wouldn't believe the stories! I have an Indian friend I closely grew up with, and although I've had plenty opportunity to enjoy the beautiful aesthetics of her culture (food, music, dance, cultural clothing etc), I've also gotten a glimpse of the unsavory bits. Part of that manifested itself in man-dowry stories, believe it or not. In my opinion, Indian women are among the most beautiful in the world. They also happen to be among the most meek and subservient culturally (again, in my strong opinion). Yet somehow, fate would see fit to match them with short, hairy, po.rn-obsessed men with a penchant for ra.pe, who would swiftly punish them for their partially unpaid man-dowry, just as well as his own begotten girl-child.

About a week ago, I saw a thread on here about a 30 yr old Indian man who chopped his own **** off after having a heated argument with his wife (she had given him two daughters as opposed to a son). I tell you, I was not the least bit surprised. I clean forgot to raise a well-arched eyebrow as I closed that godforsaken thread.

Whether women pay dowry or the men pay bride price is at the detriment of females in any misogynist, patriarchal society where the laws do not protect them. It is not any better either way. My answer was based on the conditions that the woman becomes the head eliminating the clause of patriarchy and under the protection of moral, just laws.

coogar:
honestly, this virginity issue needs to be looked into. babes who are not attractive enough to even spark the interest of okada men would then turn round & say they are virgins.

the picture below is the winner of the virginity awards organised annually by an NGO in nigeria.

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are you surprised any of them is a virgin. i mean, who would shäg these babes?

Yes I'm surprised in this day and age where Se..xx is one of the easiest commodities.
If these ladies stand on the street and say they want to loose their virginity, I bet no less than 1,000,000 men will turn up.

coogar:
power over who?
even after eve ate the fruit, her status only became much worse......God puts the man as her head just like christ is to the church.

where's your power?



show me your power.

Power over you! Jesus has redeemed us from the curses.
Headship in christianity is a spiritual thing.
But since men refuse to go to church and be a spiritual lead, the mantle has been taken away from them!
Like the way God took away the kingdom from Saul!
Every church you go to there are more women than men!
More women for headship!

coogar:
african men? nigerian men?
the salt of the earth. you should see how other african women yearn to be with nigerian men. south african women once organised a peaceful demonstration to complain against the discrimination of naija men in south africa.

even the caucasian females aren't left behind. they come at us like shyte attract flies. you don't know what you have. you should date caribbean men for a change & let's see if you would cope. nigerian men are the most perfect & this is why hundreds of researches put naija men as the top on the list of the most attractive male species on the planet.

The same way Nigerian girls run after expatriates in Nigeria. I guess those expatriates will claim they are the salt of the earth and honey in the honeycomb.
Which yeye research? Besides I can never ever believe women chase Nigerian men. Nigerian men are ho,,rny 24/7. They are the hunters. I've lived it, I've seen it, I breathe it.

well - what can i say?
men have to constantly test their poaching skills. must a man wait until it's time to marry before practising his wooing skills? anyways, you won't understand.......

At innocent me's expense?

oyibo men don't do chores too....
they mostly eat out, the homely ones have all sorts of gadgets & devices to help them. the economy & NEPA didn't hand naija men such luxury. compare like for like.

Tell an african man to eat out, let's see if he won't start poking iya basira the food seller. Were you not here where some entitled men were against gadgets in the home to make life easy for the wife? I mean why won't the African woman have a permanent hardened stare on her face.

coogar:
fact remains you have a hymën & i don't!
you are judged by the presence or absence of the hymën & i am not. God is too perfect to have forgotten putting a piece of flesh somewhere on the male gënitalia - it then means He gave men the free rein to sow those wild oats.

stillfire, don't you just wish you are like me?

What do you think the forbidden fruit stand for? Your hymen of course!
Eve ate it that is why we will continue to have power over you despite the noise!!!!!!!!!

No I don't wish to be you. Because I have realized the power I have over you. Every Adam must fall for his Eve!
I am the original Eve!

coogar:
stern looks dey una DNA - don't add any excuse to it.
me? a whole mr. coogz?
i am too cute!
men don't do house chores where i come from. it's strictly a feminine activity. all i did was to sleep, eat, drink, play, sleep and eat again. who has time for chores? house chores create effeminate men.....this is why you see many husbands these days demanding their wife pay 50% of the bills.

house chores have emasculated them.

Stern looks are not in our DNA. It is as a result of environmental influences. If we were dealing with oyibo men we would not be stern. But we are dealing with African men, Nigerian men. Bloody hell! For example, growing up in Nigeria I was a jolly, little, go lucky child until Naija men did not let me rest everywhere I turned. I had to develop my stern, angry face to keep them off before I bring home a bastard! You black men don't waste time to give your women little bastards to bring to the world. So I have to be extra extra careful.

Of course you boys don't do chores, that is why the stern face will continue. Oyibo men do chores that's why their women are always smiling and easy to talk to.

coogar:
you better get a sėx change & stop whining. nature & supernatural forces want you to be a virgin. this is why you have a piece of flesh known as the hymën on your bits & men have nothing. thankfully, there's nothing you can do about that.......its your cross & your burden to carry.

men are free to sow their wild oats, copy us at your own peril.

No men are not free, because my bible tells both of us to flee from fornicationnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn!!!!!!!!!!!!!
God has sanctioned both of us to be virgins. And there is nothing you can do about it.
If you don't abide to his will, you will go to hell and burn!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

coogar:
stop shifting the blame....
african women have always had the stern & murderous looks on their faces. we just saw faces of the miss NL contest & many of them are single & young - which husband made their faces look that stern? spiritual husbands?

Buhahaha, you are not serious. True this current contest get as e be. But, why won't they have stern looks when all their lives they were the ones doing all the chores in the house while the boys went out to play football. You too will have a permanent stern on your face. Coogar confess did you ever do any chore growing up? I'm sure your sisters were helping you clean your bum bum until you turned age 29.