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I've been in a similar situation
She must be one of those Naija bank marketers doing her job the best way she knows (prostituting). I came across one like that when last I went to Naija for my brotha's wedding. She spotted me when i got out of my car going into the bank she worked at on my way back she accosted me and started some small chat complimenting everything i had from my car to my watch, perfume, sunshade even pam slippers i had on!

I started getting scared when she stylishly started asking me for a date, cos id heard funny stories of robbers and their tactics and to think i was just fresh from jand and had just come to change some pounds to Naira! Ah I dismissed her politely and apologised 4 not being able to give her a lift in my ride.

I only got info later from one of my pals working in the bank  that she was just a marketer trying to catch fish. poor lady

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Matured thread indeed

Please what can be done to any girl who shows signs of this"

ummm, the story above says Dump her i guess, i hope this is not Omolola tho 

@ poster
I really feel your pain, but i must admit most guys you see today who have become players or have little/no regards for women have had a similar experience in their innocent days.

It is hard to love again if you gave it your all at the first time only to be called a fool at the end. Most ladies you will meet would be like this, but as you grow and mature you will develop wisdom to sieve the shaft from the grain.

Hang in there my guy, dust yourself up and start again, forget love for now and concentrate on building yourself to become irresistible in all ramifications, your spiritual life, your career, your physical grooming, your finance etc. then step out again, but never love with your eyes closed again. you will be able to notice the signs if they re-occur so make sure your heart is well guarded and your brain on clockwork.  

Be strong! Focused Men always have the last laugh, Remember we men unlike women are like Wine, the older and more mature we get, The better we are!
Good luck

While most of the time, women are the ones who initiate a breakup in a relationship, the Man of Exception tends to be the exception to the rule.
Still, in order to breakup with a woman, especially one of value, there needs to be a justified reason to do so. Saying “it wasn’t a good fit” or “we were going in different directions” works fine for a fug or a woman who put on 20 pounds in the past month, but not with a woman other guys are going to want the second you put her back on the market.

These five reasons are not only legit reasons to let a woman free. While some are more obvious than others, if your woman demonstrates any of these, it shows you she’s not worth your valuable time, money, or effort.
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1. She cheated on you
[/b]The reason I put this one first is simple: It requires the least explanation.
If a woman cheats on you, there is no “make-up” ground; it is complete end-game. Say your farewells and move forward.
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2. She’s too demanding
[/b]Some women are used to being satiated majority of the time by their past lovers, so they develop a bit of a naughty woman mechanism that could end up making you miserable. If your girl demands that you continue to go out of your way to impress her, you should find a new woman. Just because she won’t ever be satisfied with poo doesn’t mean you should have to put up with it.

[b]3. She’s too emotional
[/b]I originally had this one marked as “She’s too jealous”, but I think it all goes hand-in-hand.
Someone once said something to me that summarizes it all: Be warned when a woman is really passionate because passion can go both ways. She can be the most loving woman you could ever meet but she could also be the most miserable, obnoxious you ever meet either.
Some women are just crazy; there is no better way to explain it. Everything she does is just irrational. She goes ape-poo for absolutely no reason. If you do something small, she makes it something big. She makes your life miserable because she’s not sane.
You will rarely be able to tell a girl you’re seeing is an emotional wreck until months into the relationship, so don’t be discouraged that you made the mistake in choosing a loon. It’s her fault; not yours.

[b]4. She stops putting out/is no more physically attracted to you
[/b]In some instances, this one goes in conjunction with “She cheated on you”. In other instances, she’s just incapable of having sex anymore (emotionally lost interest in it, body pain, etc). More common of all, your woman is just not excited by you anymore physically.
Whatever the case… If you still desire sexual attention from your lover and she does not oblige, it is usually time to end the relationship versus cheating to get your “fill” in life.
I do recommend attempting to solve the problem before anything else (counseling, conversation, etc), but if there is no hope, you should split ways and remain friends. If one party is no longer physically attracted in the other, it makes no sense to continue to beat the dying horse.
Note: I am not saying it’s right to leave your girlfriend when she can’t have intimacy due to physical issues; that is very dependent on the person and the situation. I just don’t want to sound like a scumbag by telling you to get rid of a great woman due to something she has no control over.

5. She’s not in love with you anymore
[/b]There comes a time in some relationships where the flame just burned out, but no one to throw away the ashes just yet, so they both stay in the relationship and hope things get better. They never get better.
Even if you still love a woman, that doesn’t mean she still loves you. If she starts demonstrating signs of relationship indifference, it is possibly time to be the bigger person and end it. You’ll both hurt for a good period of time, but at least being hurt is making progress; staying in a stagnant situation to avoid your humanity isn’t.

Guys If you have any other [b]VALID reasons to dump a girlfriend, or you think any of these aint valid enough, lets know. Pls ladies feel free to form another thread and discuss vice versa if you feel aggrieved, this is a men's room!

culled from http://manofexception.com/advice/relationships/five-reasons-to-dump-your-girlfriend/

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Black white black, the green that represents agriculture is a joke, we have become a dwarf in agriculture and cant even support ourselves from it's proceeds not to talk of exporting despite having blessed fertile land, just because we discovered easy to get oil.
Farmers have to buy hoarded fertilizer over the black market, very little and unproductive efforts go into mechanised farming and yet the government just sits and looks! how wont agriculture die? The green on our flag is a JOKE, sorry to say

So i suggest black symbolising oil which is what has led to the large scale corruption + hunger, and the white at least we are still quite peaceful to an extent.

Listen to a man with passion about his nation, trained in leadership and able to resist bribes to the tune of N2.5 Billion naira. if we really, truly desire a change in Nigeria NuHU Ribadu is a solution, be wise this time

watch this to understand what i mean


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8VH-Xsgvv70

Happy Anniversary to all who have gone through and survived the poverty, human rights abuse, corruption, tribalism, bad leadership, infrastructural collapse, bad image from other countries Yet still believe and are ready to fight for a new Naigeria,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,wit RIBADU.  ;

                                                                            WEAR IT WITH PRIDE

Today my workmates from different nationalities at the office made me an object of ridicule after one of them exposed this shame! Can u imagine after we the Nigerians in UK have spent months rebuilding the image of the country and glorifying the new GEJ government.

I had to agree our first lady and her administration are a bunch of illiterate retards and our people are as cheap as chips
sorry

seanet02:
Igbos please stop this ridicule

E tun ti bere o, what does this have to do with Igbos, must you introduce tribal sentiments into everything. Am sure u are my fellow tribesman. This only shows how weak and intimidated you really are. Nonsense!
Being a kidnapper doesnt have anything related to being igbo, hausa or yoruba. there are a lot more honest hard working and peace loving peeps from these tribes!

zuala:
The girl i dated in kalaa adamawa st. is d most silliest girl dat ever lived. girls do not use your bodies 2 trap a man

bros break it down what did she do, guys need advice, spit it out

Hi bigleap, great work u are doing there. Pls id like to know if there are any opportunities for graduates returning from the uk. I have a lady friend planing to return to Nigeria in december, she got a MSC intl biznes from UK. And seeks a suitable job in FCMG, RETAIL, CONSULTING, TELecoms or customer service. She is 25 and has got 2yrs UK work experience. Thnx

MOB0H don come again ooo!!!
Haba, the man couldnt cheat on his wife, and was there with a naked woman?!! The lady begs to be Second wife here in UK, do you know anything about the law as regards marriage at all, or you think it allows polygamy like Naija? £50,000,000 - even only few of the richest oil and banking CE0's & entreprenuers in UK can boast of half or a quater of this. This is £ not naira mind u.

Please give us some credit here on NL, many of us are quite educated and exposed and are based all over the world. Save these stories 4 those your village local champions :-/

derolly:
^^^
craze man 

  Come am serious o, haba why are u burning my cable  , @bebes am still waiting 

Damn! This is like a palace coup, see how googles n SAgodess hijacked the waves. u guys rock i swear!

I actually tot it was a dumb post though, i mean are u like mad cos your guy didnt invent a lie? It simply shows he doesnt give a 4uk about how u feel. Maybe u've over dragged 4givness too long in d past till it all got too ugly 4 him to care.

Anyways though, we guys promise to create more inventive lies 4 our escapades from henceforth to please yall.
Hope u satisfied now?  

Chei!
Poster you don enter armed robber moto, winsh don catch u.

Ahem! Bros no vex o, was she just coming from the market with like a bag or something, or is she like VERY FAT   and with big front n back loads.

Pls 4give my innocence peeps,    cheezy lil moi.  Tehehehehe!