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^^^ LMHO,   U guys can still give it a try now, who knows u might be gr8 2getha. Tehehehe 

Well sha, if this thing works maybe i should try it too O, my mama don dey too bug me nowadays on dat wifey stuff .
All sexy ladies with refined mentality are welcome. Pls if u are flat assed and flat chested sorry am alergic, we may flow tho, but ill definately cheat on YOu    LOL

I think guys lie more, but mostly redeemable ones but ladies lie few but unredeemable and devastating ones

e.g for a guy- i wasnt looking at her booty, am still at work, am broke, i havent had anything with her, i didnt see yr missed call.

While common women lies are e.g  i dont have AIDS, that old married man i live with is my uncle, IT'S YOUR CHILD! am a virgin, I LOVE U
so i guess it might not be the frequency of the lie. Its the weight :x

@Boss b, am sorry the name came out as naughty woman its this nairaland censor stuff pls, not me

@bossy bitch,
listen, this aint no hate thread. This thread was started by a lady who wants to know why all the hating on her type. We are simply giving our views on what i've observed and believe are comon reasons. I wont go up a thread made by a guy to start throwing trash, i simply explained my views based on evidence and proof even on Nairaland cos a truth seeking lady asked. If u women stay in denial or take badly to criticism then why did u ask 4 it or make the thread in the 1st place.
@luap, lol. C'mon bro, am sure u know dat d bed story of Naija guys aint true. *find out from girls who know but neva let yr girl experiment o, she might just leave u
@Amaka nwam, can u please go back and read my reply to omega and this time please try to be reasonable, u just might get my point

Inked_Nerd:
Look, you can't let a couple of boneheaded chicks deter you from being open minded. If I was pissed at every idiotic black man that came my way I'd be bitter all the time. You just have to weed through all of the bad ones, the only problem with that is that it takes time. Unfortunately, people don't seem to have time to wait around for that kind of person to come around.

Inked_nerd, I think i like you, the way u stand your ground arguing 4 many guilty ones who dare not speak   , its quite honourable. I respect you 4 this.

But now lets face facts, based on the Most theory, If your brother or a friend were to choose to pitch a tent in a place where most girls around were leeches e.g Naija or he had a choice of choosing another place to pitch were just some are leeches e.g Ghana. Wont u advise him it would be a lot safer to pitch in where it would be a lot easier to find a Non-Leech.

This rationale is what is causing more and more guys deviating if they can to find true love amongst other nations of better bred girls, mind u many only keep going 4 their Naija girls to uphold tradition, if they have no choice/opportunity, or if they found that needle in an haystack which is verrry verrry diffficult as u rightly said.

Inked_Nerd:
Let 'em know, because for whatever reason people on this site seem to think its just Nigerian girls. Men and women of many nationalities and ethnicities do it. I'm sick and tired of seeing guys here sh**ing on Nigerian girls. C'mon on people grow the be intimate with up.

There again u are wrong, we can prove that it is more perculiar to Naija girls!(No offence)

1. Almost all UK national girls are self sufficient and satisfied, if u are so broke, u get various benefits, if you're sick, there is free NHS, if u ask u get a cheap council housing flat. Therefore they need not be dependent on gold diggin or on any man for crap and we are witnesses to this.

2. Other African nationals are NOT like Nigerians, they are not stupidly hell bent on class stratification, or follow follow craze like u see in Naija girls, MOST Ghanian, S.African, Zimbabwean, Botswanian and many other African girls we know are never crazy about marrying rich men like Naija girls, and even though most are not that religious still maintain the discipline of not sleeping around 4 money or favours like is shamelessly celebrated amongst Naija girls. If any of these girls falls in love with u, be sure its because of who u are not what u have got. Maybe our brothers should try this and come back to prove me wrong if i am.

Dont get it twisted the adjective is still[b] Most[/b] and not ALL

I rest

mamaken:
I knew someone would agree with me!, 
let's hug swifty!

C'mon hon, lets make it a kisssss

omega25red:
^^^ this is true but at the same time why would a guy spend his last dime to keep a woman? just think about that statement. Anyone in their right mind would not be with a person who knows your situation (financial) but continues to demand more money from you. That should be a red flag.

Exactly my point, thats why we think its not worth it being with them. If u really love em and wanna grow with em, u have to spend your life savings and if you cant afford it you would have ended up sharing leftovers with other disgusting pot bellied old men and money miss road guys' one day; you might even (as has been discovered in many situations) father other men's children just cos u hooked up a greedy shine eye Naija babe. So why not ditch the whole project all together,knowing its not worth it.

One thing that keeps pissing me off is when girls like that try to start getting back on track when they notice marriage time is around the corner, they start sucking up to u, acting luvy dovey after u have arrived, attending church, claiming to have changed and all that, even the unknown ones have the same stories,,   ITS DISGUSTING!!!

Am not saying ALL Naija girls are like this, but I stand to be corrected that the adjective here is MOST. I can bet you most guys who graduated from a Naija Uni have had such an experience or know a number of guys who have had the same; they would soon start pouring their venom on the site and u might be able to gather a realistic statistic.
And if u still aint convinced, search thru Various Nairaland threads featuring our Naija ladies' opinion on various issues related to how they would react  when there is little or no money/ gifts in their relationships and your eyes will open on the kind of breed they are.

@poster Forget Mobo444 being biased on this one, its a glaring truth.

Abeg fashi all em bullsh*t, Most Naija girls arent worth it.(no offence)
ive seen many Guys spend their lifesaving especially while at uni to keep them happy, going hungry and suffering 4 days only to discover she was chopping various aristos on d side and he was her pet mugu.
At the end, d verdict is always he cant take care of her so she leaves his broke @ss and becomes a big girl (whateva dat is).
Then years after she has been well used, she discovers he's done well 4 himself and starts stalking him about, claiming 2 have changed misses him, still luvs him & wants him back. I wonder if she would if he was still broke. I hear and witness dese and dahbutter's kind of stories about Naija girls. And dey now wanna luk innocent. U rarely see other foreign girls leave a guy cos he's temporarily broke so Honeyz pleeze

mamaken:
guess, the ugly women can satisfy their men better, coz they focus on the essential in certain situations.
the prettier ones, pay more attention to their nails, hair, make up, etc. , where is the fun!?!
Barbiegirls are something for teenagers, early 20's maybe.

Matured men understand what i mean.

@ mamaken Beautifully and correctly said, i could almost kiss u 

MOBO444:
So you are in Nigeria (claims to be in America) and you are using MTN quarter day package, no wonder you never or cant log on during the day time and only use your 9pm till 5am MTN cyber internet brosing package and you come here to tell us of Woman equality.

Chei!  MoBO! why now

@190 you and all these changing profile pics of "nakking" couples,
i bow to you o, U must be one papa nackson yourself, bros am scared o' ya!
Am sure you are a cute bloke, show yourself na

Its over!,    thanks for your accolades and kind words, i really appreciate it!

Thanks to y'all who kept coming back to this thread after the first parts till the end, to all who fought for me when i got banned, to all who got banned cos of trying to help me get this story out and especially those who kept on encouraging and chasing me to get off my lazy butt and get the story on. You guys are wonderful, honestly i dont think i could have done it without your help.

Am glad i was able to in some way  bring back a bit of discipline in reading culture and patience to many, and most importantly being able to indulge with me using the unique power of visualization- a gift that can help man achieve anything.

Watch out for more stories soon, ill holla when we meet on other threads, till then LOL- (LOTS OF LOVE not laugh out loud) 

I remain Swiftycool 

Gloria drove into the compound of the big house; the gate was opened unexcitedly by the maiguard whose countenance seemed to change gradually from carefree to curious and suddenly excitement on realizing who was in the other vehicle following closely behind hers. Rubbing his hands together and smiling then waving, he said to himself: Ah! Oga don come back, Thank God oh! He could expect those tips and occasional small gifts to resume. Tonye waved at him as he drove in.

No sooner had the couple gotten into the house than Gloria let out all the boxed up emotions and apologies she had in her, she was crying again, this time a lot more profusely, holding on to Tonye desperately. He had calmed her down earlier, after settling stuff with the offending driver and gently telling her to head home which she refused unless he came along with her. On leaving the accident scene; they hadn’t spoken a word till this moment. She poured out her heart to him and he listened calmly. She noticed he had done well for himself within the short separation and seemed not to be missing her as she had expected. She begged him to come back home. Tonye felt uneasy,  there was something about the house now that repelled him and made him feel small again; It now had more luxuries than before, more costly and tasteful décor, colourful expensive paintings and a very relaxing atmosphere yet it just couldn’t feel like home to him anymore as he knew any accident could cost him a fortune and his dignity in an instant. He was desperate to get back to his modest flat again, where there probably won’t be light and the neighbours’ generators would be a sure nuisance but at least he was in charge of his own. Tonye made up his mind not to budge quite early into the discussion despite how seriously and sincerely she was at begging. His countenance gradually grew into impatience which was easily read by her; was there another woman she thought as she inspected him suspiciously. Tonye reading the look in his wife’s eye said; a woman taking your place is not impossible, the choice is yours to move in with me or stay alone in your castle, because I simply cannot live under you anymore! Having said this, he took his leave.

Gloria had a messed up day the next day at work, her mind was mixed up based on Tonye’s last statement and other goings on at work, it affected her mood and performance at a very important meeting with clients and nearly cost the company a good deal. She was called by her project director for a chat, which ended up with having her temporarily release her lead position to another person while she proceeded for an early vacation to clear her head.

It was as if the previous day’s encounter at Teejay’s just opened Tonye’s eyes. He now began to notice all the funny looks and various green lights so many girls around had been giving him, even the receptionist’s and corpers who always brushed up so close to him whenever they passed by were no more innocent in his sight. He was flattered by all this attention and was beginning to wonder if he wouldn’t eventually end up succumbing to them; smiling to himself he shook his head and said nah! His confidence and self worth which had been diminished by his wife had fully returned. On closing from work he headed straight for his car where he met a surprise waiting. Gloria had come to meet him and for the first time she followed him to his place. They got into the house and she admitted It was okay though far below her class, she looked around and noticed the kitchen was quite smaller than hers though well equipped, the furniture in the house looked classy but not that expensive, everything was not really fantastic in her opinion, it wasn’t the kind of life she yearned for; but then, her eyes finally rested on her hubby who was busy walking majestically and excitedly showing her around his little home then she noticed something different about him, something that had been missing in him for a long time. The sparkle had returned into his eyes, he seemed very relaxed, happy and in control of everything, unlike how he had been while living with her; a look she last saw almost eight years ago when she was the one who looked up to him and they were still crazy in love, long before the rat race and quest for wealth and position began. Tonye now looked confident, not shaky, he looked free not caged, he looked like a real man.
She realised what she had been missing and walked up to him, when he finished showing her around, she put her hands around his neck and gave him a long slow kiss. I’ll come and stay with you; she said. She made up her mind to give up the extra flashy lifestyle, the attitude and all just to have him this way always. At last he smiled, and excitedly whisked her off her feet into the room.

Gloria didn’t go back as a project head in that job, she works now in a new consultancy company and though she still earns more than her hubby she has learnt that her happiness lies in submitting to him and not trying to outshine or manipulate him in any way especially when she realised he was trying his best. Tonye is getting ahead at his work place, handling more responsibilities and rising through the ranks, he was also able to get his higher degree doing an online programme. They sold the range rover, bought a smaller and cheaper maintained car for Gloria and invested much of their previously wasting wealth in building their own house together and investing in various profitable ventures. They are presently expecting their first child together later this month everything else was perfect but for one dirty patch which they have both decided to painfully accept.

Idee the lady Tonye had an encounter with is also expecting a baby this month which she claims is Tonye's and is bent on keeping it although she does'nt want a relationship. They have agreed to live with this if it's truly his, as only time and a DNA test would tell.

apache77:
One way or the other dating a fine girl is a one way street to having high blood pressure. I shd know cos i bin down that path several times!

GBAm! I couldnt say it half as good, cute girls come with a lot of attitude and expect the world to revolve around them, unfortunately some wor wor ones even on this site think they are cute and come up with same attitudes, pity* no wonder we have many more agony aunts these days.

Cute girls may not all be dumb but they are baaad news, like apache, ive dated em severally in the past, en trust me they aint worth it, Trust me, i know lol!

^^^^ thirded! Pls if u really got any report copy and paste it here, am sick and tired of peeps who be harvesting email addys for future scams and spams. If u cant do that keep your report 2 yourself, its not like we be gagging badly 4 it!

^^^ true that! The problem these days is that too many girls are giving massive green (flood) lights like crazy these days once they see a fresh clean money-made bloke, especially in Naija banks, churches and unis. Its very difficult 4 a dude to know which is genuine or just for face value. Talking up to a guy directly is diffrnt' but when theres like an ocean of green lights, it could be damn scary. Solid guys aint cheap u know.

It will finish this weekend, i promise

Excellent insight from all u guys, am amazed that we got such brains on Nland, yet many are unaware. I intend to start a sandcrete block /paving stones manufacture business in Naija next year to the best standard laid by NIS. Ive done much research and analyses so far but i need as much advice and info about my target consumers, best marketing techniques, best areas in Naija to focus and establish, partnership links with haulage and associated businesses n suppliers etc. Am in the building design & construction profession and yes am passionate about it. Please i need your advice, notes, criticisms, anything to help me see clearer and make the right decisions. Thanx

No it wasn’t who you thought, it was not Gloria, it was Idee, one of Teejay’s random girls. She had fancied Tonye ever since she first saw him the night they came to pick him up and this was her chance to seduce him. She moved skilfully towards him her right hand going up her back and coming down, at this point the flimsy gown she wore came down with it; she had just undone the zip behind. Her clothes dropped to the floor and she was as unclothed as a new born baby: She had a “banging body” she was hoott! He was dumbfounded for a few minutes and his body reacted involuntarily and quickly to what he saw. It had been quite a long time he saw a unclothed female, his body said yessss! But his mind was telling him No!  Just like R Kelly sang in his song. She came closer held his face softly and planted a kiss on his lips, he felt himself, his body, yielding he was in a very difficult spot! What man could resist?  Do you know, Tonye did resist, his mind sounded louder he pushed her away grabbed his clothes and walked out into the adjacent room, locking the door. His heart was beating uncontrollably and his head on the door. She came after him but was barred by the door trying to get him to hear,  she shouted, Tonye you know you want this!, come out now!, so you can’t handle a woman?!!,  you are impotent, you’re a coward, you are not man enough ,  you are………,  He was shaken inside, each word she uttered dealt a heavier blow than the last on his male ego, he tried to ignore the effect of her words, but she kept on dealing him more blows of belittling words. It was as if the words ignited the testosterone in him, he had enough of her taunt after a few minutes he flung the door open, lurched at her, grabbed her by the waist and pinned her standing against the wall, her back facing him and with much ferocity, for about twelve straight minutes he proved her wrong! He left her trembling on the floor, gasping for breath, running her hands all over her body, looking exhausted but with a very satisfied smile. Without a word or a thought, he got into the bathroom, took another quick shower, dressed up and walked out into the sitting room where to his shock he met Teejay sitting on the couch. Teejay started clapping and laughing at him, he had finally succeeded in setting Tonye up after several weeks of secretly plotting to turn him into a player like himself. Tonye stared at him for a minute an angry frown on his face before he walked quietly out of the house into his car parked outside and drove off.

A few seconds later he was on the road in the traffic, when the guilt and disgust over what he had just done began to set in, he felt a lump in his throat as tears gradually clouded his eyes. He wasn’t that kind of man; he really loved his wife despite all that had transpired over time, he had never thought of or respected anyone involved in cheating; now he hated to see himself in the picture. Life can sometimes be confusing for men with regards to women, if you yield to the advances of another, the main one regards you as less than a man for doing so, on the other hand if you don’t, the other one regards you as not man enough! Either way a man loses but everyman knows what is right. Tonye had been wrong.

Gloria was at the lowest time of her life. Two of her junior staff had recently quit after a disagreement over her high standard and overbearing attitude at work. One was Tonye’s former boss, who gave her a good talk down before he walked out on her, the other was Baba Kay her diligent, loyal and honest driver over her transferred aggression and the continuous general men bashing he had to put up with from her daily. She came to a shocking discovery that even many of her female friends who usually gave her some silly “anti men advice” and indulged with her in men bashing had actually been jealous of her all the time unknown to her and were now laughing at her back. Work was no more fun, she had the feeling that everyone only played eye service to impress her and called her a bi*ch when her back was turned, it was really disheartening.

She had to drive herself home till she found a replacement driver.  As she manoeuvred the Honda homewards through the crazy traffic that day she wondered how Baba Kay and Tonye had coped. It was only the second week of her driving herself yet she already had a cracked bumper and two ugly scratches on either sides of the car from Lagos impatient drivers. It was barely two minutes after this thought that another car trying to change into her lane brushed her from the passenger’s side. Gloria couldn’t bear all the emotions anymore; she couldn’t help feeling sorry for herself, not bothering to come out to talk to the offender or check the damage she just broke down on the wheel and cried.

Tonye was still in the traffic trying to get home some minutes after leaving Teejay house, still feeling remorseful about what he had done,  he spotted the commotion ahead and noticed cars manoeuvring to get past two cars that had just been involved in a minor accident, a common sight on Lagos' busy roads. He recognised the car as he got closer, and stopped behind it, he got out, directing traffic around the cars despite the heaps of curses and abuse from other impatient drivers. He walked towards the driver’s side expecting to see Baba Kay at the wheel; peeping into the car, behold he saw his beautiful yet despondent looking wife, hands on the steering, sobbing uncontrollably. She had lost weight, she looked so frail and delicate, she had really suffered. As any real man, he just couldn’t take it, his heart melted with so much emotion as she turned his direction with a distressed look and tear filled eyes, seeing him there was shock in her facial expression as her crying gathered more momentum but this time it was compunctious.

Hi guys, sorry about this whole mess up by our sucking Nairaland, they even actually made me lose interest in writing the story after several of my posts were being deleted continously. I just got unbanned after several days and my posts all restored, however i have deleted the multiples to leave you with one sent by my other avatar,you can read through on the page 4 as Gurnegal suggested. Anyway am about to continue the story from there. Please dont get mad as i understand your frustrations as well this is the semi last part before the story ends so lets flow and be patient, it wont take days like before ok. l just hope i dont get banned again for this next post. lol 

@op, the quality single 9ja guys are all around or not too far from u, getting hooked 4 keeps by the real quality single 9Ja girls. If none comes 4 u, or stays with u, or u just seem not able to match any to your standards, then u probably dont really fit into their own description as a quality lady or your personal standards expected of them are unreasonable based on various factors!
Afterall we keep witnessing & hearing about hundreds of our friends who are quality 9ja guys and girls in the US getting hooked up & head 4 d alter barely few months to about 2 years of searching. Me says check yourself,
Talk about IMPORTING a or someone bringing a quality guy 2 yr door, (like he never had a life before u found him). Like u said to some1 earlier; please take no offence.

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If it is not panadol, it can never really be like panadol! Two guys i know who have sampled it claim the whole thingy looks really weird and perfectly cut out after the work, that you just know and feel it is just not panadol thats if u have ever had panadol .

@ Garby
ARE u A F A G G O R T or just a scammer, why are you deceiving us about being male or female

Please read the post by my new avartar, ive cancelled all multiples. cheers

my posts have just re appeared after several days after i tried to repost repeatedly, hence the multiple posts.

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lookdown:
Is anything wrong in dating a pastor(married)need your reply plssssssssssssssss.

Are u for real?!!

190.:
^^
And if em, ladies open their legs, u simply see SPIDER WEBS strapped in between em, with flies and roaches dangling~

lwkmd, hmmmm, 190 shey u know say ur loff dey read dis stuff 2, make she no come go strike 4 u, u'll get heavy blue balls 4 nothing