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mercyefe200:
Lalasticlala

Is he the first lawyer from the left in the picture above?

Sad but truth is that it's not easy to get over a failed relationship with someone you truly loved. Especially where you invested emotionally but you can manage.


Healing from heartbreak is a gradual continuous process so don't rush it else you will feel worse someday.

First thing you should do is to take out time to think about the whole thing, analyze the whole relationship and pay much attention to the bad side.

List the reasons it failed, the persons bad characters and all he had done to hurt you and ask yourself if that's what you want.

Surely you will gradually start to see that you deserve better and that's a good way to start.

Tell yourself that he is not the person you want to be with and suck it all up.

Read, read, read, and read nice books... Watch movies, go out with friends and find something else to do that will take over the time you usually spend with him.

Work out if you can, improve yourself physically, financially and emotionally.

Like I said, it is a gradually continuous process but if you do the right at the right time, he will soon be the one to regret leaving.


And trust me, you will get someone better.

Well she is a talking plastic.

And you rushed here to tell us?

naijacentric:
dont misquote me sir and there is nothing like luck sir we all know the truth our women love money than affection why deny such speak out sir we need to eradicate dat yeye mentality. Haba! Only a few show true love.

I am not misquoting you bro, just correcting you. A Nigerian girl in love is more of a giver than a receiver but many of us don't know this. You've not experienced this.



You walk up to a woman, ask her to date you and she agrees and you think she loves? Why will she love you?


It's more of a business, you bring money and she will bring vjay. This is the reason some of you believe that women have nothing to offer but sex.

Question is, is sex not what you want? What you went for?


Take out time to plant a seed of friendship.


Watch it grow to love.


And you will enjoy the other side of a woman.

Romanoff:
If I were in her place self, I'd seek elderly counsel outside this forum

No be everybody wey dey here get sense. Most are kids.

You clearly have no idea how elders work then. She will get more from them than what she got here.

The elders will scold her in private and right before her husband before trying to settle them.



It appears we have more elders here than you think

Romanoff:
Most people here are childish and most men here are women haters.

Only few can give reasonable advice in this forum.

The guy who asked her to share her Facebook password with her hubby after cooking and giving him passionate sex was one of the few who had anything to offer the woman.

The forum has become a creche.

The lady in question is very childish so it's a surprise to me that she got some good responses. Immaturity is written all over her post which was why I doubted the credibility of her post, passed her off as a Troll and ignored her.


And you ladies should spare us these "most-male nairalanders-hate-women kind of talks" it's stale already.


Men contribute majority of the advice and other support/help given to women on and off this forum so give us some credit

naijacentric:
I cant say so for majority of my nigerian sisters their entitlement mentality is on flick when she come like you get ready to break the bank them sabi dish out mammonic love

You're just unlucky with women bro. What the lady said is absolute truth, Nigerian or not, you spend less and most times willingly when you're with a woman that loves you.


The problem is that we guys don't pay attention to all these, we never learn.


When you are with someone who loves someone else is when you spend because she doesn't care about you and your future/plans.


Last last nah just fvck she go fvck you and go.

Hardly do you see guys help guys this way. It's all beer and flexing without giving you a dime to keep as your own but it's all good.



I just hope you've lived with a woman before and know what it entails else you're in for a surprise.


Clearly put, she will give you troubles, anything that has tyres and breasts would. Living with a girlfriend comes with a lot of terms, conditions and downfalls and lots of other crazy nonsenses that a man who isn't ready to settle down shouldn't get himself involved in.

You're going to devote your time, money, energy, feelings, loyalty, and personal space to a lady you haven't even decided what to do with.


The lady too has no plans on her own, it's obvious. I don't see how anyone with a good plan will just fall in to another person's like that(unless of course it coincidentally tallies with her own plans)

It's indeed a fast fast generation.


Something tells me that you listened to your dick during the decision making process. I could be wrong though.




Her boyfriend is going to cry very soon

ahnie:
This guy share looks with a cameleon.. .....
Him and etinosa would make a great pair... they're too loud for my liking.

God forbid.



The only person that will make a good pair with that unstable girl is Charley Boy.

The lady should tell the husband(not beg) to clear her innocence before the wife, and if he's hesitant then she should go to him with some elders and the person that stood for her the day she wrote agreement with the woman. That's how things work.


If the above steps did not work and she still has her agreement papers then she should sue her madam for breach of contract. You can't collect money from someone to teach them something and suddenly terminate the contract for some useless reasons.

The information officer that made the call should be tracked down too and forced to drink a full cup of very hot water.

Nah person's 2 months salary be that ooo

Beautiful country with too many bad people

They're not

frozen70:
Yes it's your duty to satisfy a woman in bed

If you don't do it well, some one will do it for you and you will just be observing that she has lost interest in yours

A man tries hard to work on that aspect because women are made for men and for you to have a level playing ground, you have to pre-intimacy her and take her through the garden to get to paradise before you arrive

Two adults climbed bed to get sexual satisfaction and one thinks it's her right to lay there while the other works for his own and her own satisfaction?

I am here to get satisfied and I work for it, work for yours.


I cum and I go.

I usually loose interest in a woman before she does so don't think you can scare me with that.

Now generally, it's a known fact that a whole lot of ladies frown on the "first date" sex or better yet, won't be down to have sex early in a relationship..

This is not exactly the truth. A lady will sleep with you when she is comfortable with it, it's not about now, later or forever.

It is the guy's fault sometimes, ladies want sex as much as we do but they don't want you to go straight to the point if they haven't done it with you before, so before you invite a lady over for the first time, ensure she is very comfortable discussing sex related topics with you on phone or chats.

If a woman is 100% comfortable with you on phone and you make her feel at least 70% comfortable when she's with you then chances are you will sleep with her on the first date.

Riele:
Yeye post .
He said " SOME GIRLS" .
Don't come here and start hailing him . In every thing there is a bad .

Your point is?

madridguy:


The patient had signed up to donate his organs after death, but medics quickly realised they would not be able to use them.

They're already using it but for a different purpose.

seanwilliam:
Sincerely no phone beats iPhone, if not for anything , but for class.. 8 out of 10 people will pick iphone 7+ over all these latest Xiaomi, Huawei, Infinix, techno.. and co..even many people will take iphone7+ over samsung s9+

Some of us actually dumped iPhone for Android

supercase1:
U are with ur babe digging it out and all of a sudden PRA.. . PRAPRA.... POM ur girl just gave a foul smelling fart (mess)from d ass while in the middle of activity as a guy man wetin u go do?

Five things.
1. Pull out.

2. Grab her two legs and raise her upside down.

3. Return the fart.

4. Lay her back on the bed.

5. Resume action and fire it with anger this time.

luminouz:
You nailed it. I was even enjoying his points till he introduced blackmail and insults and I wonder why he is taking it so personal.

It's annoying to see that a man his age cannot make salient points without insulting whoever doesn't agree with him.

MrBrownJay1:
its obvious you are not rational on this issue.... you give absolutely NO reason whatsoever why you hate single mothers but just you immature childish excuses driven by a misplaced ego. the fact that you would even degrade men that go after such single mothers (claiming whatever BS), shows us how big your emotional problem are.

Laughable.

What you've been doing successfully so far is attacking and degrading men who do not want to be blackmailed into marriage with single mothers, all in a bid to get likes from women on here which to me is the most childish thing a man could do and yet you've have the mind to call someone immature and childish.

Laughable again.

Get hold of your emotions and quit throwing insults up and down let's reason together otherwise this is my last response.

I didn't say anywhere that I hate single mothers. Please don't misquote me again for clarity sake.

Now on why I can't marry a single mom, the reason is something you obviously lack. It is experience.

The family I told you to picture is the family that raised me.(not biological parents) I witnessed everything first hand and I have seen families with similar issues. Y'know what? A wise man learns from other people's experiences.

MrBrownJay1:
bro... STICK TO THE DAMN ISSUE instead of writing rubbish online.... as it is obvious these above women i stated DONT NEED men to feel complete (like the gazillions of deluded Nigerian women who see marriage as a do or die mission).

One of them was driving two hrs plus just to get a good dicking. Another one married but couldn't stay because of the issues I talked about but in today's world, it's okay to pretend you don't need what you can't get.

Don't believe what this people show you online, the real life takes place offline and if you think none of them have regrets, then you're making a huge mistake. One of them recently blamed her failure in getting a husband to her "choosy" nature.

You don't regret not having what you don't need.

MrBrownJay1:
The above women is the type that Nigerian low self esteem immature men dislike to their bone marrow... aka women who can bring just as much to the table or even more than them, women who can do better than them OR who "are" better than them.

Keep calm yet.

Omotola can bring as much as what Genevieve can bring to the table and she is married to a Nigerian man. Oh wait! Genevieve is a single mom and that is perhaps why she doesn't have husband.

Well, Rita Dominic doesn't have a child out of wedlock but she doesn't have a husband either. How come? The complexity of life is too high for you to understand yet.

MrBrownJay1:
we all know the deal, bro! the reality is that these women are happy by themselves and live their best lives while not giving a damn about low self esteem immature Nigerian men with misplaced ego.



so by saying that Nigerian men should view (and judge) these women as INDIVIDUAL HUMAN BEING instead of saying they are no good.... i am blackmailing them?!?simply by giving my point of view on this issue? i just have to laugh. i am sorry to say bro but....
your misplaced ego is STINKING!!!!!

Okay... Let's present them individually.

I am looking for a wife and I have two women before me.

1. A very good 100% wife material single mom

2. A very good 100% wife material lady(no child)

These are both good for marriage but one already has something, a potential problem hanging on her neck. How does going for the one with less risk make me a low self esteemed Nigeria man with a stinking ego?

You should sometimes think before you type.

A broke guy has his chance of getting his type of woman for marriage reduced by 50%.

20% out of the remaining 50% depends on the woman's love for him, 20% depends on his plans and potentials and the other 10% on the power of his tongue and appearance. We know this and we understand that it's part of life.

A single mother has her own chances reduced by 50%, they should deal with it and stop playing manipulative mind games.

MrBrownJay1:
i know you to be an intelligent poster of NL....so let me ask you this simple question:
are you telling us ALL that a single mother should "automatically" be viewed as promiscuous?!?!... pls i need an intelligent answer here, not the same arrant rubbish driven by a deluded misplaced ego that we are reading on this thread. (remember many people dont give a flying fukc about any holy book's writing)

Unnecessary question so I will reply it with a question. How about you show me where I said that all single moms are promiscuous?

MrBrownJay1:
you are absolutely right about the fact that there are many single women without babies out there but how does this make a single mother BAD and these other women GOOD?!?!?!?! if you judge and automatically dismiss them solely by their "mother" status while not knowing a single thing about them , then i am sorry to say again that....
your misplaced ego is STINKING!!!!!

All single mothers are not bad. I have already said it in my first post that some of them are just unfortunate, these doesn't even include the widows but hey, whatever a single mother can offer in marriage, a child free lady can offer it too so I am going for the one with less risks.

This is my choice, respect it.

Saying that I have low self esteem, stinking ego bla bla bla because of my choice is tantamount to blackmail.

MrBrownJay1:
being single is the result of NOT having a man, and has absolutely NOTHING to do with the child, duh! sadly, in Nigeria/Africa, these women are surrounded by immature low self esteem men who look down on them.

Nobody looks down on them. It's irritating that a guy is playing victim card on behalf of ladies.

Are all single mothers in Nigeria single? No... Many are married and are getting married as we type so if you can't get a husband then look inwards. Nobody is going to pity you and marry you because you've a child.

MrBrownJay1:
the WHOLE problem here has absolutely nothing to do with this single woman with a child, but all to do with that woman having a child that is NOT YOURS!!!!
[s]your misplaced ego is STINKING once again!!!!![/s]

Genevieve is single, Tiwa Savage is single, Tonto Dike is single, Linda Ikeji is single.

Four great single moms.

Are you married?

Why don't you help us and reduce the number to three?

Prove to me that you're different from the rest of us.

Don't just type the type, please do the do.

MrBrownJay1:
again...there are women and women...putting ALL OF THEM in the same pot is a bit sad knowing the type of demons and oloshos we have out there (with no babies)...

Stop saying what I didn't even insinuate talk more of saying. I am beginning to see the other side of you. You assume and then conclude that the other person thinks the same way.

MrBrownJay1:
so many failed assumptions....same as you will look down on NON virgins to say that she will always go back to the man who took her virginity.


the above is the rubbish that insecure low self esteem men are saying when we all know that the only issue here is that these men were either USELESS at keeping a woman or were dating good for nothing demons/oloshos. the fact that you have the audacity to judge/accuse a person of cheating or leaving you, before it even happens (or even meet her)..... shows us all that....
[s]your misplaced low self esteem ego is STINKING!!!!![/s]

Blackmail! Blackmail!! Blackmail!!!

MrBrownJay1:
lol, at least you made me laugh while writing this gibberish nonsense...as if ALL ex lovers are terrible people....bwaaaah!



... and you do?! how exactly?!



ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!!!!
each and everyone should be judged as INDIVIDUALS.... some single women with no babies are good and others are the worst of the worst, while some single mothers are good while others are the worst of the worst.

If you know this then what really are you on about?

Are you dating a single mom? Just tell us and we will encourage to continue by all means if she's a good woman because it's becoming obvious that you need validation.

There a single moms who are good.

There are single ladies without child who are good but I will got for the one that doesn't have a child because it is less risky. How is this difficult for you to understand and respect?

MrBrownJay1:
the only way you gonna discover what type of woman you got is by GETTING TO KNOW HER in every possible ways
using your misplaced ego to judge people beforehand will have you fail at life, time and time again!

dayum

MrBrownJay1:
A) failed deluded assumptions AGAIN claiming that all single mothers dont have a source of income

You lie a lot, you know that right?

MrBrownJay1:
B) just tell us that you are SCARED of the "responsibility"... or that you dont have it in you.......or just say you dont like single mothers and basta, but stop putting the blame on these single mothers by writing nonsense with NO logic whatsoever

I am not scared of responsibilities, you don't know anything about me but I chose responsibilities responsibly to avoid starting what I can't finish to prove what doesn't make any sense.

I like single mothers and respect them a lot because some of them are really doing a lot of things for the best of them and their kids but I don't want one for a wife.

I have always been clear about this and truth is, it's is twice better than coming online to insult whoever doesn't want a single mom for a wife and then go offline and marry a lady without a child.

MrBrownJay1:
i honestly do feel sorry for men like you.... look at the above IMMATURE LOW SELF ESTEEM INSECURE rubbish you just wrote?!


so in your own mind, A) a mother only love her 1st child more than her other children, abi?!?!?!?!? and B) you have the audacity to compare the love from a mother to a child, to the love she has for you.....bwaaaaaah! that aint the same thing, that aint the same LOVE. ALL women love their kids that way, whether they are the daddy's biological children or not.

This clearly shows that you know nothing about this topic. You're like a lot of Nigeria students, too many theories, no practical.

Experience in this topic is something you lack 100%

MrBrownJay1:
[s]your low self esteem immature insecure misplaced ego is STINKING!!!!![/s]



bro...we all know why...and that has NOTHING to do with single mothers (or anything else) but YOU.

You learned that new didn't you? That's prolly why you've been abusing the use of it here.

MrBrownJay1:
open a new thread on the subject and we can debate on it.... Africa is the way it is thanks to RELIGION... yes!!! religion is whats keeping Africa in the gutter, and it will stay there while religion brainwashes the masses.

I don't need a new thread when I can easily use you as a good example.

The people that gave us religion, are they backward?

Obviously NO.

Then what's the problem?

I will tell you.

Africans are Africa's problem not religion. Take religion away from Africa and we will find 101 reasons to kill, maim, and enslave ourselves in other to remain backward.

Religion isn't the reason your leaders loot you dry, religion didn't corrupt all our system but you, a typical African will blame religion because putting the blame of our failure on something instead accepting the fact they we are our problem makes us feel better.

Same way APC is blaming is PDP for their own failures. It's an African thing.

Same way you're blaming men for single mom's inability to find and keep a husband

MrBrownJay1:
...more difficult?! how exactly? because she has a child that is not yours?!?!?!?! bwaaaaaaah! the only thing difficult in this issue is YOUR immaturity, YOUR insecurity, YOUR low self esteem....

Who is an immature man?

He is the man who thinks he is right, that he knows it all, can't stand truth from the opposition and insults whoever doesn't agree with him.



Immaturity is written all over your comment but you can't see it because you still have a lot of growing up to do.


I am done with you on this thread, I hope we chat again after your 18th birthday.

And if you still can't argue without taking it personal then we will extend it to your 30th birthday.

Cheers

tosyne2much:
It's really been a while Oga Tallesty

Thought you've left bro. Was surprised to see your comment, I trust life is fair to you.




It has really been long

Please don't be her village people in her work place.

Thanks for sharing his pictures anyways, I am sure some sharp sisters are send PMs already.








When you meet a real scammer, you will come back and apologize to him.

MrBrownJay1:
bro... it is no secret that Nigerian are foolishly driven by society and religion.
many of you would swear you can never marry such lady but let your parents or pastor tell you that you should, and you will quickly oblige.....FURTHERMORE: if that single mother is Linda Ikeji, Tiwa Savage or Genevieve then see how all you bunch of hypocrites would change your tune.

Linda couldn't marry when she doesn't have a child e come be now that she is a single mom. Genevieve is a single mom and she is single with all her wealth and achievements, Tiwa too and the best she could get with all her money is fvcking a boy.


Guy, you're just trying to blackmail other guys without making sense.

Apart from the fact that most single mothers(who aren't unfortunate widows) are promiscuous, there are a million and one other reasons to stay away from them.


But before I go down to one or maybe two of these reason, I will like to point out something to some of you. You especially.


Single mothers should stop this always failing attempt to blackmail men to marry them.
For every single mother out there, there's at least 20 ladies that have not had a child who are still single.

If your being single is a result of having a child then explain these other ladies who are also single even though they have never had a child? You go online to claim that being a single parent is bliss and the only way and then come offline to wail that you can't find a husband? Who takes such an unstable person serious.

You make it seem like they're single because they're single mothers but truth is they're single because they have issues just like other single ladies out there. Women generally have issues, matter of fact, anything that has tire, engine or boobs have issues but boobs that have fed a child have complicated issues.


Now down to the reasons.

Which you have not experienced.


Women have undying love for things that give them pain.

High heels give them pain but they wear it anyways. Skimpy dresses makes them uncomfortable, but they can't do without it. You see them cling to shitholes that treat them like trash and then make you their best friend so you can console them when they are treated like thrash. It's illogical to us but they seem to understand it.

A lot of the guys that put these ladies in the family way are assholes so your woman, because of this their inexplicable love for things that give them pain will once in a while go back to this guy.

Women who suffered terribly in the hands of an ex lover see their child as a consolation price. For this reason, this child will come first before the one she will have for you.

I know you don't understand this because you've not experienced anything like that.



Picture this family.


A single father married a single mother.

By your logic, they're birds of the same feather and similar experience so they are going make a one happy family.

But that's not the case.

The union produced a kid but these kid was starved of her parents love. The father gives 70% of his love to the other child and the mother gives 90% of her love to the other child. The child they have together manage whatever is left.


Single mothers of today cling on the child without any reasonable source of income, so the moment you marry them, the child becomes your responsibility.

So before you jump on marrying a single lady just to prove a useless point, answer this question.


How will you feel seeing your wife give most of her love and attention to a kid she had for another man and you helped her to raise while your own kids get just whatever is left of her love? If you are okay with it then please by all means, marry a single mother and leave us to our choice.

I can't do it and neither you nor any single mom can blackmail me to do it.

And finally, blaming everything that happens in Africa on religion is becoming very lame.


Please note that all single mothers are not the same. There are many many good single mothers who are just unfortunate with men but finding a wife is difficult and I am not going to make it more difficult by including single mothers.

It's a curse sir. Accept the truth

tosyne2much:
Most guys on this platform see women as slaves not as soul mate and the more reason why they're always on the front page making mouths about what they can't take from women.

The thing is this, unless a woman has proven she doesn't deserve to be treated nicely and respectfully, I don't think the whole idea of treating every woman like crap is worth it

Hey bro.


How are you doing?

When I read the tittle of this post, I saw some guys running around with tires and petrol and after reading the content, I smelt burning flesh.