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stillwater:
Well surprise, surprise Allison goes home . . . thought Danny would be booted out. The last note was killing. As if he was crying for help.

Adam's pants were distracting . . . his cr*tch looked like a giant pimple.

Chiris made a wise decision in picking something from The Beatles. Eventhough I still don't get what The Beatles sang that made them so popular.

I loved Allison's song choice, what a way to leave!

Didn't like Slash being a mentor either.

When will the judges and America realise that not everyone has the all in your face personality that they want Allison to be like?

ROTFLMAO!!!  Adam's trousers were not at all package flattering. They weren't flattering at all frankly, they made his legs look super short and his hips perfectly chunky.

Are you serious about the Beatles though?? So many iconic songs: Across The Universe, Hey Jude, Let It Be, Help, Yesterday, Hello Goodbye, Come Together, and then of course others like: I Want To Hold Your Hand, Love Me Do, 8 Days A Week, She Love You, Can't Buy Me Love, Paperback Writer, Yellow Submarine, Penny Lane. Like more than 80% of their stuff is good which is amazing because they have a lot of stuff.

Yeah I was really sad that Allison left when frankly she was better than Danny and Kris on the night! And her final performance before she left was absolutely amazing. She rocked it out and like you could tell she really had fun with it!!!

Did anyone else get the impression that Danny and Kris don't/didn't get along on the duet? In their post-duet interview, I was sensing some serious tension like they had had a fight about song selection or performance or something else.

gabrywyl:
Why didnt Chris Allen get booted out? I dont like him to begin with ooooo and so far his performances is the worse that night. . . I know its not his genre but so what? We have other genre's which does not suit other contestants yet I dont see why he is still in the competition. . .

Kris was the 2nd worst. He wasn't bad, just mediocre unlike Danny, now that was atrocious, a real hot mess!

I like rock but I wasn't blown away by last night's song selections. Of course adam killed it as usual with vocal and performance but I didn't love the song. Kris was just there, not bad, not amazing. Danny had the audacity to say he thought he did well although at least today he admitted that his aerosmith shriek scream sounded awful (imho like he was being castrated). My Allison was good but she had quite a few rough moments in hitting some notes; she's the only one whose song I liked. (ok I liked kris' song too although I think he took the easy way out picking The Beatles).

Paula's performance was funny: it was like her Opposites Attract era without the nostalgic 80s feeling.

I'm not happy about who went home but it was totally expected.

Daughtry's new single smells like next season's Idol swan song.

I can't believe that Simon liked Matt's performance. I mean, does he have ears?!?!? Matt was so off-key for the most part, I was hoping he'd just stop and start over. He was soooo much better in the rehearsal before he was asked to change the key.

Kris wasn't as good as last week at all, but I still like him as a performer. Danny was good in his usual high class wedding singer way. Adam was flawless hitting all his notes as usual (and of course it was very theatrical) and Allison's vocal was really pretty, she did well and hit her notes perfectly.

stillwater:
Kim Kardashian's got nothing on Lil. Jeezzzzzzz!!!!

Adam's still my favorite, theatrical or not. Kris is an underdog. And I think Danny would be booted out before him as well as Matt.

Matt needs to drop this attitude of trying to be a pop artiste, he's more soul than pop. Forget Justin Timberlake and go for Robin Thicke.

I'm not really crazy about Allison. Maybe it's the hair or the fact that female rockers get on my nerves. . Her voice is very common not that spectacular.

I tend not to be crazy about the rocker chicks on AI either (case in point that woman Amanda the respiratory nurse from last year with crazy eyes and wack hair who was always shouting her way through songs), however I really do think Allison is something special even though ok the look they've given her is a little telenovella chain-smoker.

mohawkchic:
~I'd second that! I love him more as a Soul /Jazz Singer . .me think he wud have more success as a Soul Singer even than a JT Look-a-like-Sound-a-like wannabe!

~Allison. . .I get what Simon is saying about not having a Personality,As A Singer i love her Growly Voice . .but am not as drawn to her as an Artist!

~Kris is Indeed the Dark Horse . .I've started taking Notice~

I'm very surprised that Simon doesn't think Allison has a personality. I think she does. Ok fine a lot of her asides are said under her breath but I think she's funny in a Miley Cyrus sort of way without the annoyingly loud and obnoxious voice (not that I dislike Miley, just her speaking voice). She reminds me of a lot of people I knew when I was her age.

I agree Kris is very on point these days. Last week he was amazing! He's like a new fave. Adam has an amazing voice and he's an excellent on-stage performer but like I said I'm beginning to think of like what genre is his album going to be? Like maybe new wave-ish? I'm not sure.

The problem with Matt is that he's not dependable. Maybe it's the songs he's been choosing for himself, but he can't be depended upon to hit his notes or to make his "runs" go smoothly and not sound stupid. I like him, but I find him very hit or miss. Like u never know with him.

Danny is odd because he hits his notes well and everything and he's a good singer. But his performances remind me of like a really really good wedding singer who should have a record deal but somehow never gets one. Like last week for example, it was like the praise and worship leader at a disco church, good but sooooo not superstar looking. I like him and I think he's good. But I don't think he's as good as he thinks he is.

Love is not just words, it's actions. About what this particular woman wants: she doesn't want to be engaged/married to you. She's just not that into you anymore. So if I were you, I'd quietly collect my ring, consider myself lucky to have escaped marrying the wrong person, and move on with my life. Maybe one day, you'll find out what her issue was.

I think of course she needs prayers but most of all she needs encouragement that her life is not necessarily over, and that there are people who have been living with it for years etc. There are support groups all over Nigeria where she can meet others living with HIV (usually voluntary counseling and testing centers should give this info out or if not NACA/SACA can probably give info). It's not a death sentence like it used to be. She definitely needs counseling and support from people who have been in her position.

Obviously continuing as a nurse might be difficult, I'm not quite clear on the policy about HIV-positive practicing medical personnel is in Nigeria but she can go into health education and there are so many NGO-type opportunities for people living with AIDS to serve as consultants and peer educators and mentors.

St☆rStruck:
If he's good looking . . . who knows?

I agree!

I think it can work if you sha plan the collision well. It would have to be a girl you actually have a chance with. Notice it's Genevieve and Emeka Ike, not Genevieve and Aki or PawPaw or Nkem Owoh.

So many things are wrong with this situation.
First: Your relationship HAS crashed. It was broken when you cheated. It was broken when she couldn't trust you anymore to the point that she had to get your e-mail password. What kind of relationship is that where the girl needs to be monitoring her boyf's emails because she feels he can't be trusted? If there's no trust, then what's left of your relationship?

Second: You're obviously not ready to be in a serious "thing" because you're not willing to make the sacrifice (of fidelity) and do the work (of keeping in touch and keeping the romance alive) which is necessary in any relationship (especially a long distance one).

Third: You shouldn't be going out with a girl who needs an incentive to go out with you. If a girl really likes you, you shouldn't need to give her an incentive to be with you, unless of course you treat her shabbily (like you've done) and then you need to pay her to stay with you in which case she's only staying for the money, which is quite bad.

Anyway, my advice to you is that you need to take a break from this whole thing and think things over. You say you love her but if you did, then you wouldn't do the things you've done. You guys' relationship is not healthy: She doesn't trust you, and you've shown more than once that you can't be trusted. It's already hard to be any kind of relationship but a long distance one is even harder to maintain and based on what you've said you guys have some major major issues that I can't see how you can reconcile whilst you're apart.

Legally Blonde (for the "millionth" time!)

mohawkchic:
~Fav. Performances Allison ~Kris ~Adam ~Matt ~

~Loved the group Performance! Paula did herself Proud!

~Jeez! Was it just me or did you all think for a minuite you was at a Family Wedding & your over Enthusiastic Uncle /Aunty took to the dance floor w/ performances by the Pensioners!

~Only surprise for me on Result show was Allison on the bottom 3 . .what a Shocker! No Surprises on Anoop & Lil getting the chop!Lil had it coming! Trust Simon to tell it as it is!! Did say it will be her last Performnace!! Oh So Happy for Matt!

I agree it was obvious that Lil and Anoop were going home. Matt is on thin ice too in my opinion. My fave from the week was Kris and then of course Allison (who is amazing) and Adam. My only problem with Adam is I've been thinking, what manner of album he going to make? He's very "theatre" and I know that's his background but like what exactly is he going to sing on a cd? He IS very talented, though.

Pretty Vegas- INXS

I've had Carolina Liar's "Show Me What I'm Looking For" stuck in my head all weekend.

I'm from Delta (non-Igbo)/Rivers/Cross River but I've lived in Lagos all my life so I claim that a little too.

I like Nigerian accents that are not regionally identifiable (like not specifically from anywhere, just educated-sounding), I'm fascinated by Ghanaian accents (all that "werk" stuff), I really dislike southern and eastern African accents because that's how Hollywood thinks all Africans to sound (re: Coming to America and Kwame from Captain Planet).

I'm With You- Avril Lavigne

Brighter Than Sunshine- Aqualung

Boom Boom Pow- Black Eyed Peas

mohawkchic:
~My fav Performances were Adam ~Allison ~Matt!! Noow Adam! Oh Wow! left me breathless w/ "Mad World"!!!! He sure has been consistent thro out!!

~Am rooting for Matt to make it to the top 3 . . . Adam & Allison are sailing right thro to top 3!!

About last week, I agree with you although I preferred Kris to Matt.

About this week, I don't want to spoil it in case people in the UK want to be surprised, but it was sooo stupid. The person who made it out of the bottom 2 should have been the one to go home because that person was obviously the worst yesterday and has been bad for a while! ugh!

@ topic,

Ok first, don't tell her she smells, just playfully ask her how often she baths a day (say it was a nairaland question that was funny, because it was, then talk about your own bathing habits), then ask her her brand of deodorant (and then put yourself in the situation and be like you're obsessive about deodorant, that you like to apply it 3 times a day because you don't want to smell). . . you just need something, to open up the hygiene dialogue.

If you find out that she's doing the right things hygiene-wise, then you might be in trouble: that might just be her personal odor. I have 2 VERY close friends that I feel smell very animalistic (u know what i mean?), but I KNOW that they have good personal hygiene, that's just how they smell and it's just very strong and one of them, her mom smells that way too. So if you can't take it, there's probably a guy out there who'll find her strong personal smell appealing.

Last thing if you want to buy anything, please buy deodorant. Perfume+ BO = vomit. That's the official equation, it's true.

I'm not one to ever suggest getting married whilst in school because I think it's hard to be a student AND a wife at the same time; I've seen it before and it's really tough. But is that an option that is open to you? Like if the problem is living together unmarried, would that solve things for your family? Because really, if you can move abroad to just go and live with him, it's pretty much the same thing if you marry him and live with him, because it's the same "wife-work" you'll be doing in addition to your studies.

Additionally, I wouldn't advice you to just move abroad to be with this guy without some SOLID commitment (i.e. marriage) even with the promise of an education especially if HE has anything to do with the education plans. I know you said there's love there but its not a good idea to just go and be dependent on him in another country without a solid commitment because if things don't work out, where does that leave you? You'll be 100% dependent on him and that is never a good idea. Better that he has a legal responsibility to you.

Anyway, that's just my opinion, I hope you manage to figure out what's right for you. Good luck, girl.

SeanT21:
I understand U.

Its hard for people like us who are underage.

I remember those days o. . . Somehow now that I've past that age, the things I wanted to do then, are not as fun as I imagined they'd be. I mean they're fun, but not as much as you imagine when you can't do them.

SeanT21:
**All because of a couple of dollars **

Yes o. . . it wasn't just the money though (although it partly was), some friends and i went to see the midnight movie the weekend it came out and that was all that we were in time for so we were feeling special because we were underage for other night activities and this was our girls night out and we'd paid for a cab to the cinema and it was just like. . . "No, we're going to make a night of it, and have fun and like it, no matter what!" And then we were each so bored but we felt bad and were trying to make the best of it for the others.

@ topic,

Pygmalion- it was ok but My Fair Lady (the musical version) is infinitely better. For one thing, in Pygmalion, Eliza's accent is kind of posh from the beginning so it's like whatever. It was good though; very cute. And the writing was excellent, very funny.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Yes it's the Swedish movie. I think maybe it will be much for you. It's gory and a bit scary if you are not used to such things. Try Bram Stoker's dracula (One of my favorite movies of all time) Now that has a good love story _{but don't take my word about that part - people think am nuts for thinking it's a great romantic movie}
Yes yes yes, I am a True Blood Fan I have a thing for Eric and Bill I have only read the first of the books. I did like it though and will finish the series. [/color]

I watched the Swedish movie (Let the right one in) yesterday out of curiousity. It was weird. Like I didn't understand the dynamic between the girl and her father/caretaker person. And of course I spent half the movie hiding because the whole murder with blood in the jerry can thing with the father was disturbing and the girl was so creepy the way she just pounced on people when she attacked and then kissed the boy with her bloody mouth, ugh,  and then i think she had some full frontal. It was sha generally disturbing. You sha warned me but curiousity . . .

The Bram's Stoker's Dracula is the one with Winona Ryder? It's next on my list, i'll check it out. Abi it's not as disturbing or as violent or creepy as the swedish one? I feel scarred for life by that one.

I didn't walk out because of the 10-dollar investment. But "Be Cool" was definitely the longest movie of my life. I spent the entire movie checking my watch and praying for the punishment to end.

Pataki:
This hype on Adam is just too much. Personally for me, Danny Gokey is my American Idol for this year. That guy is simply amazing.

Danny Gokey is ok, but unfortunately he's been slipping the past few weeks (like Lil Rounds). He's definitely no longer as good as he was and certainly not as good as he thinks he is.

My faves from this week were definitely Adam and Allison (who I'm supporting for this season). I also thought Chris and Matt were pretty good, they both project a chill Jason Mraz-ish vibe, but in different ways.

The right person sha went home this week.

gabrywyl:
Tatase,

Ok, thanks. Ill try that and see how it goes. have you ever had this problem before?

Not me. But a my friend's sister hated his girlfriend and used to have only nasty things to say about her when she came to visit (not as mean or as blatant as your sister though. but just little insults and digs and put-downs). And my friend just tried to make sure that they were kept separate and like his mom and cousin helped too by creating interference between the sister and the girlfriend so that they didn't have much interaction.

gabrywyl:
Well the problem is that if he comes to my hometown, he automatically stays in my family's house and my sister is always here as well so how can I avoid? its really impossible ooo

Don't try to engage the two of them in conversations together; as in don't try to make them get along. Like even though it's an effort, try to keep them apart as much as possible even at home. Don't be open to any discussions about him with your sister. Like still be friendly with her and talk and laugh as usual, but shut down any conversations that she tries to start about your boyfriend; just tell her that she never has anything good to say about him and that she's entitled to her opinion but you'd rather talk about something else with her because he makes you happy and you don't want to argue with her, then immediately switch topics to something trivial or funny without giving her time to come back with something mean. Try to spend time alone with your boyfriend without your sister (even when you're home) and try to do the same with your sister; you don't all have to hang out en masse especially since there's a lot of antagonism there. It will be tough, but I don't think it's impossible.

Flirting is fine as long as:

1.) Both parties have the same degree of interest in each other (i.e. either both are just playing, or both like each other equally. It's not cool when one person takes it more seriously than the other)

2.) You're single (I think it's really shady otherwise even if its like a joke but maybe that's just me. I know lots of flirters in relationships but I don't think it's right.)

I think to keep the peace just keep your love life (with your boyfriend) separate from your family life (with your sister) for now. They don't have to be best friends, even though obviously it would be easier if they at least got along.

There's no real need for your sister and your boyfriend to interact since they can't get along but make time to hang out one-on-one with your sister because it's important to maintain family ties and also its not nice to ignore your family/friends just because of love. However, when u guys are hanging out, just keep the discussions off your love life and if she asks about him, just tell her that you don't like what she has to say about him but that YOU like him/he makes u happy, and then change the subject to something else.

Also don't say bad things about her husband and if she persists in talking badly about your boyfriend, excuse yourself from your hang out session and leave so that things don't get into a nasty screaming match again.