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iice:
[color=#9900ff]LOL i understand.  But most vampire movies aren't that scary.
I think Rob is not that good looking, more like ugly beautiful That made him more fascinating in the role.  I didn't like the movie sha.  There was another vampire movie that showed about the same time Twilight did.  Now that one was awesome but scary and it's a love story between little children [/color]

Yeah this was my first actual vampire movie. I was under the impression that they were all horror, gory, Dracula-esque things but if not, hmmm, i might check out one or two when I have time (any suggestions?). Is the movie of vampire children you're referring to a foreign (Scandinavian, i think) indie film thing, where they're like 12 and the girl is a vampire and the boy is being bullied or something?; my friend wanted me to see that with her last year but I didn't. Btw, I see you're a True Blood fan (Bon Temps location), I don't follow the tv series, but I love the Sookie Stackhouse book series!!!

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Cranford - it's really long since it's kind of a mini-series but it was really well-done; I loved it.

italo:
drinking isnt bad but drunkeness is, just like the bible doesnt critisize eating but it does gluttony.

I completely agree.

Bobbyaf:
@ italo

All it takes is just one sip in most cases. I once heard of a case in which a mother used to put the empty beer bottle to her baby's mouth thinking nothing of it. By the time the little girl turned 7 she was already an alcoholic. When the parents were at work, she would help herself to vodka, and other types of alcoholic beverages. By the time they found out it was already too late.

King Solomon was on target when he said that "wine is a mocker, and strong drink is raging, and whosoever is deceived thereby is not wise, " The deception rests with the thought that drinking alcohol conservatively is reasonable enough. Where the drinking of alcohol is concerned there is nothing conservative about it.

I think the mother is crazy in the story mentioned. Obviously it's psychotic anyway to put a beer bottle to a baby's mouth, like what is that supposed to achieve. No right thinking person thinks that it's okay to make a minor simulate drinking or to give alcohol to children so that's a special situation. I think wine is one of those things that isn't necessary so if one has problems with self-control in general, it may not be the best choice to tempt oneself and have alcohol, or another situation where abstinence may be required is if your drinking is causing your neighbour to stumble (whether because they have self-control issues or alcohol has been a problem in their families in the past).

In moderation, wine is good for heart health (not that everyone has to now go and start drinking wine for a healthy heart o) and has lots of antioxidants, plus the right wine can really enhance the taste of certain foods. However, as to what the bible says about wine (i.e. the original topic), I don't think the bible is against wine specifically (wine was a part of the (Jewish) culture at the time), but I think it is against alcohol abuse or substance abuse in general to the point where the substance use controls your life and actions. Wine CAN be a mocker but I don't think it necessarily is if it is not leading you or those around you into sin.

biina:
Assuming that the statistics you provide is true, still people do not fornicate because of condoms. Fornicators are so in their minds and it has little to do with condoms.
A similar argument would be that most people that have STDs are adulterers and fornicators, therefore should a christian sell drugs that prevent/cure STDs?

That aside, as a christian you should not engage in any activity that does not sit well with your being or conscience, irrespective of what the popular opinion may be.

I agree with the previous poster especially the last part. No matter what anyone advises or has to say about the matter, your relationship with God is personal and only you can decide what is ok between you and God.
However, since you asked, here's my 2 cents/kobo. Personally, I don't see anything wrong with a Christian selling condoms, after all you're helping people to be safer; they're health products. You're not selling sex or advocating fornication just because you're selling condoms or at least you shouldn't be. You're promoting health and helping people be safe irrespective of their decisions. I don't think God says just because we don't agree with the things people do, we standby and allow them to suffer the consequences of their actions. I know maybe you may feel like you're an enabler and like you're helping people to sin, but people are going to have sex with or without condoms whether or not you sell them or not; it's hardly like your selling condoms is causing people to have sex: people aren't having sex because condoms exist, condoms exist because people are having sex.
However, like I said before, you need to decide. Don't let anyone lead you into doing something you in your heart, between you and God, feel is wrong.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]LOL never expected it to be like Schindler's List. I may like good movies but i also like some stupid movies
I expected more, it is after all in my genre Sorry i consider it one of the worst vampire movies made It was no way as near as good as the book. Too much time wasted on those 'staring' shots. I'd watch the 2nd one just to see if they do a better job. . .and yes Edward [/color]

I actually thought it was a pretty good adaptation of the book. Ok there was a lot of staring but I wasn't too bothered by it. To be fair, I'm not much of a vampire movie watcher (since horror freaks me out and I'm not big into fantasy) so I can't compare it to other. And yes Robert Pattinson in the movie is pretty <sizzle> although in real life most times I think he looks like an addict with that hair (as does Kristen Stewart come to think about it).

stillwater:
Do you mean that unripe plantain porridge? If it is, try cooking it with ripe plantains. The unripe one is synonymous to ikokore.


I still don't get the hype with Igbo people over oha soup.

I was referring to the unripe one, though. But I can only imagine the way ripe plantain pottage would be. <shudder> anyway one man's meat and all, i guess.

I agree about the oha soup (abi its the one that is a.k.a. achi with oha leaf?). I'll admit I don't like many soups but Oha is my worst (the leaf is so hard and you can still see the veins even after its cooked, ugh!), closely followed by Banga.

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Anything that has dried/smoked/stock fish
Anything with iru/dawadawa
Yam Pottage
Every soup except Afang, Edi ka ikong, Ogbono and Egusi
Beans, Akara, any other beans derivative except moi moi
Plantain Pottage
Starch
Garri (whether as Eba or for drinking)

Shake Something by Jazzman Olofin has a LOT of lyrical "gems" from the benign: "Baby o baby/Come be my lady" to my personal "favourites": "Twist your belly/Like spaghetti" and "Omo o tasty/Like Fried Chicken". Some other "gems" include: "Your shaky shaky/Is finger-licking" (obviously re: the fried chicken reference- very "creative" and the deeply urgent and of course very "sexy": "Hurry hurry/Take me to mummy/Cos in my dreams I see/My baby in your tummy."

iice:

What? You didn't like it?? Ok it's not like Schindler's List nor is it going to win a Best Picture Oscar but for what it was I thought it was quite good and really enjoyable. Like I expected to be much stupider and it really wasn't, it was like I said: cute. I'd definitely watch the next one.

Ogaga4Luv:
Just finish watching Shrek!,you gat to Love it!!

I love Shrek. I watch it all the time. The 2nd one was ok but I was NOT a fan of the third.

I was traumatized by the ending of My Best Friend's Wedding. How could she NOT end up with her best friend??

Twilight. Which was better than I thought it would be. Very cute and surprisingly not bad. I'd even say it was pretty good.

360^o - Asa

DeReloaded:
I love Ricci but not big on romance movie. What did you think of it?

I thought it was really cute. I really liked it, but if you're not a fan of romance, you probably won't like it although it was really well done.

Regulate- Warren G

30 Rock and Lie to Me. And a bunch of reality shows.

Penelope with Christina Ricci

Ah I love reality tv. And not even necessarily the "classy" shows like Amazing Race (they take themselves too seriously) or Extreme Makeover: Home Edition (too depressing because too much crying for a reason). The ones I'm following currently are:

Real Housewives of New York
I Love Money 2
For the Love of Ray-J
Rock of Love: Bus
The City
Millionaire Matchmakers Club (or whatever its called)
Make Me A Supermodel
ANTM
American Idol
Making the Band 4
MTV: True Life

Other reality shows I love but aren't currently in season are:
The Hills
Project Runway
Top Chef
Top Design
Real Housewives of Atlanta and Real Housewives of Orange County
Paris Hilton's new BFF (or whatever)
Girls Next Door/Girls of the Playboy Mansion
So You Think You Can Dance
ABDC
Flavor of Love and I Love New York

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I think it depends on how old you both are (and the age difference etc) and where you live (Nigeria or abroad) and whether this is a crush situation or whether you're both really serious or not.

chuxbenoid:
tatase, wuld u do such a tin 2d guy u claim 2luv?

If he's a psycho who has threatened me in the past? YES!!! I would do it very well. I can't befriend craziness. Am I mad? Please o, I don't go for drama: that's not love. The guy was abusive!!!

I think he already took it beyond friendship with the way things went down in the past. Just let that offer lie. He's shown that he's dangerous so I would say you shouldn't even be talking to him talk less of being friends. I think your take on the issue is exactly right.

First let me just say I tend to be really bad at understanding text abbreviations; that being said, I'm really unclear about how the girl is being immature? Is it because she said no to you and then avoided you? Because she could have just been feeling awkward about the whole situation. If you're tired of the whole thing, move on. Maybe now is not just the right time for the two of you.

First of all, I think you've had a really lucky escape from this girl. I mean you should probably intensify your job search anyway (not really because girls tend to like guys who can support themselves BUT mainly for yourself and your own self-respect). This girl is really really shady. If she's moved on why does she NEED you to call like that.

I know girls like this. She wants to feel like she has guys on a string so that if her current guy messes up, she'll ignore him for a while and come back and pay attention to you to prove to her other guy that she has guys on a string and that she's highly desirable to guys and  that thus she doesn't need him. She's so simple.

Don't be a fool and you too be calling her. You guys are no longer together. She dumped you rather callously so you shouldn't really still be chasing her/ talking to her. If she has something to say to you, let HER call YOU. You may not have a job but hopefully, you have some self-respect and so please stop chasing/calling her/ trying to get her back. Look for a job and look for someone else who is not trying to play games with you. Success in life is always your biggest revenge against people who try to bring you down.

All you people wanting to do dutty wine: Hmmmmmmm hmmmmmmmmmmm!!!!!!!!!!

Lacquer your hair down and super glue that weave so that there's no embarrassment. We're Africans please let's not be feeling too free with hair that may or may not be ours o.

I don't think it exists. I think you can meet someone and be like this is the sort of person I want to be with forever but until you actually get to know someone, you can't truely be in love with them.

chidichris:
mikel no sabi play as long as it has to do with nigerians.
on the other hand, the userless boy is stinkingly rich that most embeciles here can be taken care of along side their families.
o.shea is the best player in the world.

I'm sure you didn't actually mean John O'Shea is the best player in the world. I'm a United fan but let's not be delusional. We ARE talking about John O'Shea of Man Utd, right?!?

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I believe in being honest and personally I'm not at all a Mikel fan because he has such a bad attitude and is just really badly-behaved in general. However, if we're talking about current Mikel and current O'Shea (i.e O'Shea now and not in that his first magic season), then it has to be said that as overrated as Mikel is, he's still better than O'Shea whose main role in United seems to be Celebrator-in-Chief when our other very hardworking players score.

I think the problem is that they forget that they're there to do a job i.e. report on the game and not to be entertained. So what ends up happening is that they forget themselves and begin to talk as if they're in their parlour watching the game with their neighbour with some suya and big stout.

For example, I remember one match Nigeria was playing and there was no light and so we were listening on radio and then the commentator said something like "Jesus! Jesus!! Jesus!!! <long pause> Oh no!!! Ah he didn't score! He should have passed that ball!" And to us who couldn't see and were just listening, each time he said "Jesus," we were shouting too like "what? what happened? Who? Who should have passed that ball? To whom? What's going on?"

To be fair, not all are equally bad. Some are definitely better than others, but still, most are not really up to it. At all!!!

Moonstone:
Busy Body, LOL! I am updating the journal oooo! I am about to embark on the answers. I have missed you sef. . . why are you deserting us this way?I said WESTERN style can not work for us. I can't believe you still think our 'democracy' is no different from the democracy in America. I do agree with you, we have just started trying to adopt to this new form of governance. That is why I said my biggest fear is that Nigerians will start calling for another form of governance. Democracy works for us but not the kind of democracy that the western world has. We have too many internal problems and as you said, problems from the last form of government. We need more time to create resilience to these instability. You can't switch forms of power anyhow and start at an advanced stage, you go at your own pace. To start aiming for Western style of democracy immediately is ridiculous because we have not even adjusted to the basic form of democracy yet. You do agree that it took a long time for the Western Democracy to become as solid as it is now, don't you?

Our corruption is the reason why we can't have a government for the people by the people. It is a government based solely on money. I have never heard of total election votes from a Local Government Area being more than the people of that local government area (children included) and no one would say anything about it. It's a democracy according to the amount of influence. In America, their riggings are within sensible ranges and they actually take the people's votes into account. For example, my parents don't vote solely because they know it's no use since whoever is going to win will win anyway. We do not have any idea of transparency in our system neither do we have any form of reaction to such scrupulous acts. We know how serious the media of this country (US) is. Now Newspapers in Nigeria are being funded by political godfathers sometimes, do you think that paper would say anything if that governor or political figure was even killing people in broad daylight? Money makes the world go round in African politics most times. Here, money is a factor but it is not a factor that is stupidly flaunted anyhow in front of the public.
What is Western Style Democracy? You do realize that we have different foundations right? Westerners fought for their rights and were divided into the countries they are BY THEMSELVES. For Africans, we were pretty much screwed, taken advantage of and now we are like puppets in their hands. We have a foundation in which our fight was against being suppressed by not one but several countries. Africans learnt to hate each other much more because we were used by these westerners to fight against each other. Democracy works in the western way for those who actually stay together and not fighting against one another. If there is something I've noticed it is that racism is not as disruptive as tribalism and that is one issue we have in Nigeria. Some people still vote for other candidates just because they are 'Hausa', 'Igbo' and 'Yoruba'. Most of us don't even listen to what people say anymore because it makes no difference and when they get there, they do what they want anyway. We have no mouth whatsoever to criticize them in AFRICAN Democracy.
For Western Style Democracy, you definitely have basic rights such as rights to a basic form of life. We don't have those rights on our side in Africa. When you have the basic HUMAN rights, then you know how to implement a form of government that closely resembles the western-style one.
Okay I think I have answered most of this question in the other parts. I have one word - EFCC! We have such a commission investigating fraudsters and embezzlers. Please tell me why IBB is still relaxing in his multibillion naira house in Minna. If that happened in the West, we both know that he would spend his last years in jail rotting away. The government does not see itself as being accountable to the people in Nigeria and that is now, in democracy. It's not the same in the western world.
Westernization is a devilish thing. Why is Nigeria solely dependent on oil? Why are the Multinational companies (MNCs) screwing us over? Why do we import absolutely everything? Gone are the days when Nigeria used to have auto-assembly plants for Volkswagen. Why can't we produce anything good and sell it? Westernization has turned us to a set of dependent little babies. They come to our country, take what they want at a certain price and then they refine it and send it back to us for a much higher price. You want to know what makes it worse? Our people go to these Westernized countries, learn about this stuff and then stay there. Thanks to Westernization, there is a huge brain drain in Africa. See people scrambling to leave the country and they would rather work in places you would never imagine them in (with their degrees) than come here, further their education and go back home with the knowledge they have. You want more examples of the way Westernization has screwed us over?

That's. . . a dissertation! As in super superlong, no?

However, I do agree with you (Moonstone) in large part.

I think our situation in Nigeria or in other former colonies is difficult because of course in principle, we know that democracy is a good idea (and besides we already did the dictatorship thing and that didn't quite work out so let's leave that in the past). But at the same time, it's not really our culture to be democratic: power has always gone along wealth and connections and alliances and not necessarily public opinion, and besides we can't seem to pull it together as a people and put tribal differences aside for the sake of progress.

We're so focused on the drama between tribes: The Yoruba people are always this and that, the Igbo's always want such and such and the Hausas always do this or the other, and as for the minorities like myself, we either just sit like we don't belong or take disruptive actions to get attention and then take whatever political bones the party in power is willing to throw us even as we talk smack about other tribes. And the sad thing is as long as we can't come together as one people, no single political system is going to work for us: Western Democracy or otherwise.

Because the truth of the matter is that we're all working against each other and trying to sabotage one another so that this person from this tribe can be in power or that person from that tribe doesn't have the opportunity to steal as opposed to the thief from our tribe. So I don't think the problem is really with our ruling style. I think its with us. And thats where I disagree with Moonstone. The point is that yes the West has a lot to answer for, but at the same time, we need to move on and realize that blaming them is not the point or the solution. We as a country are what we are, like it or not, Nigeria is not and will never be made up of one single tribe and we need to figure out how we can come together as a country and make it work. Like I said, the problem is not with democracy, it's with us and how we let our personal arguments with one another change what democracy should be.

When I Get You Alone- Robin Thicke

I sha think it's common sense. If you were in a bad mood, what would you want your girl to do? Ask what the matter is ONCE (she's probably not going to tell you yet but don't keep going on about it and asking over and over, it gets aggravating). Then shut up till she's ready to complain and get whatever it is out of her system. Oh and take her side even if she was the one in the wrong, that will always work.

I don't think you need to do anything specific like start talking or teasing her because sometimes one just needs to be a little moody for a little while. It could be nice if you got her something to cheer her up but I don't think it's necessary.

I think it's natural (to be weak and hurt) in this situation, even after 3 years. It's probably going to hurt and be upsetting for a good while yet. Sorry o. Good luck with everything.