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Eastbay:
Yeah,Payne's cool.
Especially since he played for United at one time.
He knows his soccer.
Gary Bailey is good from a goalkeeper's perspective.
Peterside Idah has to be the worst on that channel

Terry Paine never played for united! He hates us and Chelsea so much that he can't even hide it. No he played 4 southampton and has become bitter because they're languishing in whichever lower division they're currently in. He was sooooo sooooo much better in the olden days when southampton were in the premiership. Now just to be contrary, he can never say anything positive about united even when it's deserved.

I sha agree with u about Idah Peterside. I want so very much 2 like him but he never has anything useful to contribute to the conversation except some irrelevant statistics that he is clearly reading off the internet printout in his hand and useless old-news anecdotes we've all already heard about. And that was in the good old days, now he just repeats whatever comment was last made by the other pundits. He used to be ok on Soccer Africa against that madman from Kenya and Tommy-who-hates-Nigeria, but even then, he was only ok compared to those 2, TK ("Teethicular" was still better than him albeit to be fair TK IS an actual sports journalist. Even when Nigeria is playing, I haven't found that Ida has all that much 2 contribute xcept 2 remind us that he knows eguavoen or whomever personally.

I think people need to beware of the pixie. I'm seeing a lot of pixie cut styles/weaves around this christmas in lag and it's not working for everyone. I think if you have a meaty face or heavy features, it might be best to try something else because I've seen quite a few that were nice hairstyles but not quite right for the person. I think pixie cuts tend to look better on slimmer more pixie-like builds personally. Maybe it might be better (though less pixie-ish) and more generally flattering if the front is left a little longer (a la the first Rihanna cut).

n-guage:
Try rice and okro soup. I didn't do it o, I'm just curious as to what it would taste and look like.

My uncle has always eaten white rice and okra soup. He eats it with a boiled egg inside the okra soup. I've tasted it. The texture is a little strange but it's actually not that bad. I don't think it's that odd a combination but i think it's better if you eat the rice as ground rice.

I'm not a chelsea fan but I'm wondering why you would sack him. You're more or less first (until we (United) collect our 6 points in hand and overtake you) and we can't really consider those people (l'poo) as real contenders abi it's not like honestly they have the gumption or xfactor required to win the premiership this season, so it's not like you should really be concerned about them. I think he's doing alright for a first season. But then, he's not my team's manager.

I think we'll definitely qualify!!! We were really gelling as a team in the summer and we can maintain that we'll be fine (as long as key players are fit or choose to be fit (Mikel I mean you!) for qualifying games).

I'm a United fan and though I think we're the best, I'm hard on my team because I don't think we should rest on our laurels. There are always ways we could be better than best e.g by offloading deadweights. These are the 2 enemies of progress players I HATE the most:

#1: Park- I could happily break his legs so that he will never play for us again and I would go to jail for it happily because I'd have put us both (Park and myself) out of our misery. My problem with him is not that he doesn't try, I'll give him that. he does try. But I look at other players and I say ok this one has something more to offer, he's not at his best, he has potential. I look at Park and there's nothing more there. This is the best he can be, there's no more. This is it. And ok maybe it's good enough for some other team, but he's most certainly not good enough for United in any way, shape or form. He's a bucket of useless. I look at him and I see a way to sell shirts in Korea and it's like we don't effing need him to do that, we'd sell the shirts anyway, we're Man Utd!!! Talentless h ack He's not particularly talented. A pass to Park is a pass to the opposing team. His own is just to fall at critical moments. Just lets people collect the ball from him and take up space in the front. I hate him most for this; everytime he's with the ball and it's invariably collected from him, it's torture! I think it's enough now: We've allowed him get some medals with us, let's offload him to Arsenal like we did his fellow dumbass Silvestre.

#2: O'Shea- One good season in the early noughties (I think 02-03, sha his 1st season) followed by crap! CRAP! CRAP!!! I just can't deal with him. And at least Park tries to run around (albeit aimlessly), this one doesn't even bother. He's slow, he's lazy, and he's not trying!! He obviously feels he's too cool for school!!! He's become like the David May of our current team: Celebrator-in-Chief, meanwhile do something worthwhile, he'll refuse. Effing waste of time and space.

There are also some who shall remain nameless out of respect whose contributions over the years I appreciate but who I think are mere shadows of their former glorious selves and should thus, begin to think of seeking less competitive football elsewhere while the memories are still sweet.

aalani:
Dimitar Berbatov has been voted best Bulgarian footballer for the third time in a row. The Manchester United player beat Levski Sofia keeper Georgi Petkov and Slavia Sofia midfielder Blagoy Georgiev. Berbatov, who is only 27 years old and has a whole future ahead of him, has now won the trophy five times and moves into joint first place with Bulgarian legend Hristo Stoichkov.

So, what is your view? Did Berbatov deserve this honor? To me, he has not been fantastic despite all the noise made about him before he left Tottenham.

Ok so who else would have won? It would be between Berbatov and Petrov (Bulgaria's only well-known exports), and Petrov was apparently not even in the running and frankly not following Bulgarian league, I haven't heard of the two mentioned so really it would Berbatov or um, nothing. And he did an ok enough job for Tottenham even if he isn't doing a wonderful one for us at United (even in spite of tonight against Boro).

If it weren't a marriage and if there weren't a child involved, I would say leave the relationship.

I think it would be a difficult situation. I mean is he bisexual? Is that what you mean? Because if it is, then as uncomfortable and disconcerting as the knowledge is of having married someone who has either had same-sex sex or struggles with gay feelings, it might work out if you can get past it as long as he remains faithful.

Obviously at some point he was able to perform with a woman for her to be pregnant. It would be horrible but I think there would need to be a lot of mature conversation and maybe it would be necessary to see what can be done to salvage the situation (if it is at all salvageable) either through counseling or modifications in sex life if both parners are amenable to such.

Of course it would be hard especially if the Mrs. didn't know beforehand and there will be feelings of having been deceived and anger etc but I think for the child's sake, it might be worth trying. I don't think the situation becomes super-critical until there is some (gay) cheating going on or unless either party can't stomach staying in the relationship, then at the point, the situation is hopeless.

@JJYOU about OBJ,

CORRECTION: I think you meant monkey WEARING A CAP. Truely ugly inside and out, that one!!! No redeeming qualities.

@ poster,

You seem quite shallow and I'm not sure you should marry her, you don't seem like you deserve her. If her looks are more important to you than her character, then do her a favor, and let her find someone who will appreciate her and not someone who probably thinks he's doing her a favor by condescending to marry her. I think you should be single for a little bit and figure out what it is you want out of life.

Season 1 and Season 2 were really really good and made sense. Even Season 3 to an extent. But I've long given up on these people. I'm just tired of their repetitive drama. Lucas-> Peyton -> Brooke we've seen this party done to death. I'm really over it. Actually I'll be quite honest I stopped watching when CMM and SB's (Lucas and Brooke's) real life marriage broke up. I just couldn't buy it after that.

(Side rant: I hate when tv show people get together in real life and then break up but then in the tv show they're still a couple; it ruins the believability of the show in my opinion. Another example is in House with Chase and Cameron and their real life broken engagement. I mean, WTF, it really spoiled it for me).

This is not my own combination and I haven't personally done this but a very good friend of mine loves jollof rice and cheese. When the jollof rice is hot she puts cheese on it so that it will melt producing an extra cheesy cheese jollof rice combo. I've tasted it and it's really really nasty!

Frankly I find it odd when a NIGERIAN guy does not like football. I just don't understand it. I'm like what do you like, then?!? Like even if he doesn't support the same team as I do, it's a little disconcerting for him not to be football mad. As in what else is there to do on Saturday afternoons but yell at your tv?!? I don't know.

In all fairness, it's not a dealbreaker or anything for me, but I would find it quite quite strange to me and I'm not sure how that would go down with my family. He'll have to be into some other sport I grew up watching like maybe cricket or tennis or something, he can't just not be crazy about some sport. Football would be ideal though.

Busy_body:
It is not fair to be generalising against all girls like this at all The real question you should be asking is "Why are you so dumb?" You are dating someone and she took someone else home to meet her parents and you still love her, shior

She keeps on having guys and you keep on dating other girls simultaneously, so whats your beef

You're exactly right!!!! Tell him!!!

In an ideal world,

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Regardless of his age, does he act like a kid?  
Some people have old souls hence, they are usually more aware of what they want.[/color]

this is true. And then love would have no age issues and you'd get married and have lots of babies in spite of the age diff.

In real life,
1.) First of all, it's very unlikely that this thing will end up in marriage. Most of these online relationship what-nots does not carry over that well to real life especially when there is marriage talk online, so I really don't think you should be that worried, and
2.)  Secondly, in the unlikely event that the online relationship somehow becomes serious enough as to make marriage the next step, you have already mentioned the unfortunate reactions that are likely to occur from family members. Moreover, YOU seem to have a BIG problem with the idea:
You've focused a lot on how he makes you feel young or remember your younger years. Maybe you're having a late quarter-life crisis (30 is afterall a milestone year) and that may be the reason you're toying with the idea that this could be "that" serious.

Personally, from what you've said. I think you're worrying prematurely about the whole thing. If you can't see yourself marrying someone that much younger, then let him know and let him decide if he just wants to carry on whatever it is you have right now (friendship, fun or whatever it is) or else break it off before someone gets hurt. I think unless he's already settled in life (i.e. w/career etc, he's not likely to be that serious or at the very least should not yet be taken that seriously).

Ok it's kind of a tough situation to be and I myself don't like deception but I really don't think you should tell the guy. It's not really your place to do so. What happened to the child? Is it still in the picture, even in that case, I think you should let them settle it between them. You've tried your best and tried to talk to your friend. Does anyone else know about the baby from the past? Maybe you could also encourage them to help you get the girl to tell her fiancee. In the end, if she refuses, I still don't think it's your place to tell him. It's not right, I know, and it may feel like a really lowdown thing to do to because he's your friend too, but it's not your place.
If it was the other way round, I know you'd want to know but at the same time, do you think he would tell you? And would you understand why he didn't tell you?

I don't think there's anything wrong with re-gifting. Like bless someone with something you don't need or are never going to use. I mean I don't think you re-gift everything, some things have sentimental value but many things are taste items as in many times you get other things e.g. perfume or fabric or things that are not to your taste and you appreciate them, but you know you're never going to use them. Also sometimes you get something you already have. Or certain WTF (what the eff) items all of which you appreciate but are never in a million years going to use.

Why let them go to waste? Perfect opportunities at birthdays and christmas to regift.

It's always interesting when someone whose judgement failed them when they were picking a girlfriend chooses to tar everyone with the same brush. I have many Nigerian friends who are abroad and they are nothing like the girls that NL guys choose to report in the romance section.

I don't know where you guys find these effed up girls or why they're the ones you choose to go out with and that you allow to make you bitter but I like to think that there are many good-mannered Nigerian girls in naij and abroad.

In life people have good and bad experiences in relationships. It's not like Nigerian guys are all so perfect and we ladies have nothing to complain about. There are always good and bad eggs. Just look at it as a lesson learned and move on.

CyberG:
Well, fast forward a short-period of time, I met another lady from the carribeans and her complimentary on Naija girls was really ugly and not so different from the terrible image these girls have created for their families and a whole country. (Yes, she said something about Naija guys too but she added a compliment - something she admired). Anyways, if a girl will be a loser, it doesn't matter who she meets! Ori ti o je iya, bi won da lekun, ko ni gbo! (A destined suffer-head is irredeemable, no matter what you do to help, she must still suffer!)

You're so very simple and easily flattered. She obviously knows NOTHING about anything and is talking smack. Why does she think she can comment on Nigerian girls in general. Is it that Caribbean girls are one and all so excellent. I know horror stories about them but it's not like because of that I'm tarring all of them with the same brush. The two of you are obviously very simple-minded.

Na wa o. Completetly rotfl.  

Ok but just in case you're serious and not being funny, I apologize for laughing.

You are concentrating too much on the things that are wrong with you. Most girls like confident (don't read this to mean cocky) men. Look around you, is it like you've never seen short and unusual-looking married men.

Go to places where you'll meet single ladies (e.g. singles fellowship at church is usually a hotspot), but because we can all also be shallow, go in with the intention to make friends. As they get to know you as a person and get to be friends, I'm sure someone will overlook the physical once they get to know you.

So don't give up hope. I think there's someone out there for everyone.

First, don't put the blame on anyone else but yourself (even the psycho roommate) because it's your fault. Unless you're saying she raped you, u don't unwittingly have sex with someone. It was very weak of you and quite wrong but you need to get past that.

Second, stop letting her blackmail you and turning you into her "beech." You never give in to blackmailers because it will never stop. Your relationship is already messed up by what happened. Today she wants to collect sex from you, tomorrow it could be money. Just stop with everything and confess to your girlfriend and throw yourself at her mercy (beg her etc). The closer the confession to the cheating event the better. Nobody likes to think they've been fooled for ages.

topup:
[color=#cc0066]That's a 'cock blocker'.[/color]

Oh yeah. That's right.

I don't think the red is that bad. It's a bit on the hot mess side, but it's manageable. It's blonde hair on very dark skin. (Beyonce is at least fair so she might get away with it).

At the salon in Lag last christmas, one girl who was dark as in like Alek Wek dark, was doing a very light  yellow blonde (scandinavian-esque) weave. It was quite disturbing. At the end, the salon people were like "ah it's very nice," since then I don't trust those salon people when they tell me anything. That this was aweful. It was like something died on her scalp.

I am not at all a fan of Dr. Miracles. In 1 week it weakened my hair so much that I had to stop and I know for a fact that I'm not the only one who has experienced this.

I can sympathize with the love blocker thing. I've done it once or twice in the past. I think for me it was not that I didn't like the guy, I just got cold feet not necessarily because I was yearning for the single life but just because I think longer term relationships are work.

I think I love blocked myself because I saw the "thing" was getting serious and I wasn't really ready to commit myself to putting that kind of maintenance work (calling, texting, doing things together and just all the generic dating cuteness etc) into a relationship at the time and I'm not someone who will string someone along or waste someone's time. (Abi make someone no bring my tori to NL).

I think it's relationship immaturity really. I know for me it was. I think if you were really ready (emotionally) to be in a relationship and if it was someone you really liked, then the love block thing wouldn't come into play.

Sidenote:
I always thought a "love blocker" was the friend whose constant presence prevented a guy from reaching his targeted chick.

I've observed that there are many facilitators to abuse in this thread o!  "He will change he will change" That's what every abused woman is always hearing. Please let us break the cycle eh?

@ poster

Whether you are asking for advice here or not, ultimately the truth is you'll do what you want to do. Please think carefully before you make your decision. You need to decide:
1.) Where this relationship is going i.e. can you seriously see yourself marrying this guy because if not, 4 years is more than enough commitment to this.
2.) Is he really going to change? He has promised change before about his jealous attitude and now things have escalated to the physical? Are things really getting better or worse?
3.) Do you plan on changing your friendship patterns? Because you seem like someone who's really friendly and open with guys (not that I'm saying it's bad, I'm just saying this seems to be your personality)? Because maybe you need to find someone that understands you if you're not planning to change.

You have said that this is the only guy you've ever been with and that you've invested 4yrs already into this relationship. Yes 4 years is a long time, but a lifetime is even longer. Don't stay with someone for only sentimental reasons; everybody deserves to find someone who will love them for who they are both you and your guy.

I think it's kind of clear what I think you should do as far as dumping him, but I won't say it because in the end you'll do what you want. Only please please please, think about it hard first.

I've actually seen this kind of thing happen before. It was a photography class (for art general requirement) and the professor was always praising this boy's work and the rest of us were like ah ah it's not that good. Next thing we know the professor and the boy were hanging out and like really good friends, they had inside jokes and the boy was even working with the professor after hours and getting paid. The boy was really feeling special like teacher's pet until the prof. tried it on with him. That's how mid-semestre this boy dropped the credits and left the class. He was like he'd rather repeat those credits in another class later.

As for what you should do. I think you should just tell him that you're not interested in him or in men (i'm assuming) and if it's causing problems do as omega25red says and start collecting evidence so you can report him. You shouldn't have to undergo that kind of harrassment. Don't mind him jare, SHAMELESS!!!

BabeX:
Salut! C'est pas en retard. Moi aussi j'ai entendue parler qu'on a plus de travail en Abuja. Maintenant j'ai deja trouver un travail mais je n'utilise pas la langue malgre le fait que ma patronne est camerounienne. J'espere que apres mon nysc en juillet je trouverai quelque chose ou j'irai fait mon "masters" a Paris. Je sais qu'il y a plusieurs qui parle francais dans ce pays mais il faut les trouver,

Quel dommage! Je souhaite toujours que j'aie su ceux qui parlent francais a Lagos ou a Nouvelle Orleans (ou je fais ma maitrise mais pas en Francais). J'oubliais beaucoup de francais parce que je ne le parle jamais.

Une Maitrise de Francais serait une tres bonne idee a mon avis. Ce serait tres bonne particulierement pour une carriere internationale (ou on peut utiliser le francais). J'espere que tout ira bien pour toi.

QueenAnais:
Ma question est pour les gens qui sont au Nigeria, est-ce que c'est facile de trouver du travail quand on parle francais et anglais?
J'habite au Canada maintenant, mais dans 1 an je vais demenager a Lagos avec mon petit ami, SVP aidez-moi a trouver du travail, je suis bien eduquee et je ne veux pas dependre de lui financierement!

Merci!

BabeX:
C'est tres difficile a trouver un emploi comme ca au Nigeria.
Moi j'ai etudie la langue francaise aussi dans une ecole de commerce a paris mais je n'ai pas trouver aucune chose et il ya 5 mois maintenant.
Probablement c'est parce que je suis a Lagos ou je n'ai connais pas personne.
Bonne chance

Ca depend. Je sais que ma reponse est un peu en retard mais je sais qu'il y a beaucoup d'opportunite a Abuja pour les traducteurs aux conferences, aux colloques, aux entretiens etc. Aussi c'est mieux si vous avez un diplome de traduction ou des experiences professionnelles avec traduction. Quant a Lagos, je ne suis pas sur, peut-etre vous pouvez travailler avec les banques avec interets internationales (par exemple beaucoup de banques a les agences aux capitales d'Afrique Occidentale). Ou peut-etre vous pouvez donner des cours francais?

Bonne chance.

Aproko51:
Look around. forget about theory this is practical. and verifiable.

Scientifically it may have something to  do with hormones. Androgens and oestrogens.

But practically, the over fine girls are just a liability to the men!

Those who the guys think no fine are the ones who inspire their husbands to great achievements.

I love how it has become scientific. Androgens and estrogens indeed. What kind of busted science is that?!? What do hormones have to do with ugliness and what does ugliness have to do with liking housework?

Or are you saying ugly girls don't like to leave the house because they are ashamed and since they are at home all the time they do housework as a matter of course? Because that would be really offensive; it would make more sense than the "scientific" explanation, but it would be REALLY offensive, even though it seems like you're in some way trying to give ugly girls some kind of shout out.

PoohBeer:
If ur talking bout the haemen(sp?) not all females r born with it! or can be broken from sports, tampons or mastubation with toys() so it might be easier for U to enter, I'm really not intouch with my biology so,

No you're exactly on point. The hymen (the usual tangible idenifier of virginity) CAN be broken not necessarily by sexual intercourse but from sports, tampon use, masturbation, or even pelvic exams at the doctors. The latter is common especially if the girl gets pap smears etc and the doctor is not particularly careful.