₦airaland Forum

Salyass555:
Hello friends, I’m having trouble with NIN verifyme. I haven’t received the confirmation mail from them. Am I the only one facing such difficulty?

I have created a profile and I have keyed in my NIN.

However,I am having trouble paying for the verification.

The page keeps failing to link me to any payment site.

Please did you have issues with this?

Yes

Emotionss:
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People like you are one of the reasons we are where we are today as a nation.

Leave am leave am na woman or person mama e be.

Leave am leave am na elderly person oo don't you have respect for your elders

Leave am leave am na my brother or tribe person

Na so Nigeria take scatter finish

Sentimentalism

Age
Gender
Class/wealth
Ethnic Group
Friend
Tribe
Self
Blood
Religion
Race
Organization
Social Group


An average Nigerian thinks and considers these before taking any action. Hardly are actions taken for general common good.

MDBrand:
OK Sir

How is it going Sir?


Any progress with this brief.

WhatsApp 08147714004

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Take this Brief.

Requirement: Logo (will move into cards, flyers, etc latter if Logo is accepted)

Company Name: iCarol (Note: Name is from Owner of Company- Miss Isioma Carol)

Business Type: Female Aesthetics/Beauty and Personal Hygiene/Cosmetic Wellness (what ladies of nowadays call ''Make-up business''

Business Services/Products: Beauty Products Company e.g. make up services, make up products, fashion, body extensions (hair,nails,eye lashes, etc), creams, perfumes, etc. To open chain of beauty shops for beauty products, etc., etc., etc., Imagine NIVEA, L'ÓREAL,MAC,NEUTROGENA, LANCOME, and other beauty/cosmetic brands.

Brand Essence: To make buyer and user feel sophisticated, good and comfortable when iCarol Products/Services are used.

iRepNaija1:
Tell her that you've been to the doctor recently for a checkup and he/she told you that you need to reduce your sodium intake. Simple.

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You will live long in marriage.

AlphikkaTech:
How would you tell your wife the food is salty without offending her?

Please follow the wisdom above. Or do/follow something similar.

Forget all the "tell her directly" and all the "sweet names" methods aforeposted. You are delving into a sensitive area in marriage and the life of an African Woman-Cooking/Home Making. One of the critical areas where their egos are founded upon.

Hypocritical Conservatism.


Liken it to the Lombrosian Theory of Deviance.

His warped opinion about marriage.

Marriage is never defined by the bearing of children.

Children from marriage etc. are not your property. They are beings allowed to sojourn on earth through you the parents. It isn't by your power or might that you procreated.

While everyone is entitled to an opinion, not all opinions are sensible or worth emulating/paying attention to.

Wisdom and sense do not come with wealth or fame or followers.

meelife:
Yes it will be .Please send via email.
I will appreciate.

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meelife:
Hi I believe the exams are similar.
Can you please assist me.

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Interesting.

KosiEric:
Its not as simple as that on Nairaland,

I just got b a n n e d on my mountainview account, when I tried to.

Can I send you a message??

The account was not opened conventionally.

I consider Nairaland mediocre and will not use a real email address.

MountainView:
its on my profile, you can check it out

Interesting.

You cannot make a pitch of one or two sentences about the Tech Startup, its scope, etc.?

Further note that upon clicking the link it takes you to a page where a logo shows. Nothing more and a lot less. See Picture 1 below.

Thirdly, your profile does not do justice in pitching your Tech Startup. See picture 2 below.

MountainView:
Ashawo


Please, I'm looking for an investor for my Tech Startup

What is your line of interest in the tech world. What area of tech are we talking about?

meelife:
Hi all please is there any watsapp group for those who have successfully passed and intending to write CRSP exam?
I will like to be added.
Thanks.

The same CRSP (Canadian Registered Safety Professionals) by the BCRSP (Board of Canadian Registered Safety Professionals)? Well, perhaps those in Canada who are on the platform and are HSE Professionals might be of help.

I am more conversant with the American sister Body i.e. BSCP which handles the CSP/ASP Examination and Certification.


Check here for some information about them https://bcrsp.ca/sites/default/files/documents/BCRSP%20CRST%20Examination%20Blueprint.pdf

INVESTIGATION: When Generals Turn Bandits: Inside the massive corruption in Nigeria’s security contracting
This story was first published by Premium Times.
SecurityiReports
By Admin On May 15, 2018

By Ogala Emmanuel

“…with the NSA involved I was fine with it. Afterall he is the chief accounting officer of Nigeria’s national security. If he wants to buy it at N100 billion who am I to say no?”

Two years ago, as the late evening sun cast the cityscape in brilliant colours and long shadows, the two of us dragged our chairs under the Ube tree behind the Abuja office of PREMIUM TIMES. The setting sun had left room walls radiating excess heat.

My guest was a contractor who was turning his back on the Nigerian defence contracting gang. It was the second day of a series of interviews that lasted several months. A tripod propped a camera in front of us as he squealed on his collaborators and described a particular corruption-ridden, hyper-inflated gunboats purchase contract he masterminded.

“Why did you not back out (when the government guy approached you to inflate the cost)”? I asked. “…for the sake of the country. For patriotism.”

“Well, you are talking about morals, ethics or considerations like that, but don’t forget that this is a state affair and the state does not embody morality neither does it embody those fine sentiments that people will wish to attribute to it,” he said.

“The state is a living thing of its own and our kind of state is a very predatory state. It thrives on power. Absolute power. And the basic source of capital accumulation for those running the state and their political matters is through primitive accumulation of capital, otherwise theft.”

My guest was describing an inflated contract in which the government was paying him to buy military boats that it already paid another contractor to supply.

Details of this and other tainted contracts are the focus of a coming PREMIUM TIMES investigative series that will reveal the greed and lack of patriotism of some of our country’s security chiefs, abuse of public trust and mindless theft of public funds that characterise defence procurements in Nigeria.

The Objective Situation

Contract inflation is a public sector term that translates to “treasonable stealing”. For a number of high-ranking government officials in Nigeria, stealing public funds through contract inflation is a way of life.

A number of past Nigerian officials are currently undergoing trials for alleged corruption-related offences linked to defence procurements.

Back to my guest. He told me he decided not to walk away from the fraudulent deal in question because it posed no immediate legal threat.

In fact, the deal, he said, got the backing of two National Security Advisers – Andrew Azazi and Sambo Dasuki.

“…with the NSA involved I was fine with it,” he said. “Afterall he is the chief accounting officer of Nigeria’s national security. If he wants to buy it at N100 billion who am I to say no?”

“If the public servant holding power decided to add to what I have submitted and steal it, what can I do about it?” he asked.

“The best I can do is to report it. But who am I reporting to? To him, the very person doing the thing (stealing)? So this is the objective situation.”

My guest’s narration that afternoon portrayed Nigeria’s defence contracting as a sector operating like a pure criminal gang with a well-formed sectioning of roles split between high-ranking government officials, contractors, and manufacturers.

Government officials with authority to initiate defence procurements award inflated contracts to contractors who ferry kickbacks back to them. Patronage, rather than performance, therefore, is the predominant deciding factor in awarding contracts and dissent is treated with grievous repercussion, insiders said.

“Here, I think it is too much asking of me to back out from a direct decision of the NSA,” my guest said. “It would have meant totally shutting the door forever as long as that NSA is in office.”

In subsequent parts of this series, we will give you details of the fraudulent gunboats contract my guest discussed. But for today, as part of this overview piece, we are reviewing Nigeria’s top defence scandals as well as ongoing court cases related to corruption in security procurements.

Top Defence Contract Scandals of Last Decade

My guest was a member of a criminal industry that has robbed Nigeria of trillions of Naira and an estimated 20, 000 deaths of both soldiers and civilians, according to Global Conflict Tracker by the Council on Foreign Relations. The fraudulent contracting processes have also cost the nation multiple international embarrassments.

According to a Transparency International report, a network of Nigerian military chiefs, politicians, and contractors worked together to steal more than N3.1 trillion through arms procurement contracts between 2008 and 2017.

The contract my guest was involved with would have seen himself, military chiefs and a couple of other agents steal N3 billion.

Here are some of the top defence and security procurement related scandals in recent memory.



1. Cash in bullion vans For Special Services?

Late 2014 to early 2015

Cash withdrawal from CBN using two bullion vans.

Former President Goodluck Jonathan authorised the withdrawal of N67.2 billion in cash from the Central Bank of Nigeria between November 2014 and February 2015 for “special services,” linked to defence and security operations. How the funds were used remain unclear.

2. Cash for Black market Arms in South Africa?

September 5, 2014

The South African border authorities seized $9.3 million belonging to Nigeria from two Nigerians and an Israeli who arrived the country in a private jet owned by a pastor, Ayo Oritsejafor. Customs officers discovered the money stashed in three suitcases after the suitcases were put through airport scanners. The Nigerian government later admitted the money was meant for the procurement of black market arms for the Nigerian military.

3. The Amit Sade contracts

October 6, 2008

On that day, Amit Sade, an Israeli contractor – who does not own any arms manufacturing business – working out of Nigeria was gifted a combined N5.2 billion contracts. The first was to deliver “assorted ammunition” at the cost of N2.1 billion. The other was to supply “20 units of K-38 twin hull boats” at the cost of N3.1 billion. He was paid 95 percent for the ammunition, he delivered a 63 per cent worth. On the K38 boats, he was paid 80 per cent, he delivered only 40 per cent. In the last decade, Mr. Sade, records show, was gifted another six heavy-weight military contracts worth N6.721 billion. He is alleged to have failed to deliver on any of them. He could not be reached to comment for this report. He did not reply emails sent to him, and his current location remains unknown.

4. NIA #IkoyiScandal – Defence cash stashed in defence chief’s wife’s apartment

April 12, 2017

Whistleblowers led the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission to a house in upscale Ikoyi where $43.4 million was kept. The NIA director later claimed the money was meant for undisclosed special security and defence projects. Investigations are still going on and the real motive for keeping the fund in that location remained unclear.

5. Progress Limited “gift”

April 29, 2005 to October 19, 2010

The ministry of defence gifted two purchase contracts to Progress Limited for the supply of 42 units of BTR-3U Armoured Personnel Carriers and spare parts for the Nigerian Army without documented contract or agreements. There was no cost negotiation between the two parties. Two years later, 26 used APCs were delivered but they broke down almost immediately after they were deployed for peacekeeping operations in Sudan.

6. N2 billion grew wings from the office of the National Security Adviser

May 13, 2013

The Nigerian government released N1.35 billion to re-stock ammunition for OPERATION BOYONA, aimed at dislodging terrorist camps along the borders with Cameroon, Chad, and Niger. Two months later, the National Security Adviser, Sambo Dasuki, requested and got approval for additional N2 billion. It does appear neither the Defence Headquarters nor the soldiers on the battlefield benefited from the second cash released to the NSA. The money is believed to have disappeared, an allegation Mr. Dasuki is denying.

7. “Urgent” N7 billion Boko Haram funds missing

January 2015

Nurudeen Mohammed, the then Minister of State Foreign Affairs, requested N7 billion to urgently fund operations of the Multinational Joint Task Force in the Lake Chad Basin. The funds were released to the National Security Adviser. It is unclear how the money was used. Officials say most were traced to companies that had no business with the Task Force. One and a half billion naira was withdrawn in cash.

8. Santa NIMASA

September 3, 2014, to April 30, 2015

Between the seven months of September 2014 to April 2015, the Nigerian Maritime Administration and Safety Agency paid out N8.5 billion to the Joint Task Force Operation Pulo Shield – the military unit fighting insurgency in the Niger Delta. Most of the funds were described as operation enhancers.

Over 70 per cent of the funds (N6.2 billion) were converted to US dollars and handed over to an unknown “Private Citizen”. No one also knows what happened to the balance — N2.3 billion.

9. The Shaldag contracts

2010

The Shaldag contract is one of the deals that paved the way for a regime of kleptocracy in the Nigerian Defence sector, and the emergence of a gang that has grown to be more powerful than elected regimes.

The 2010 deal saw an Israeli shipbuilder, Israeli Shipyards, win a $25 million contract to supply Nigerian Navy with two fast assault boats. Their market value at the time was estimated to be $5 million each.

Nigeria, therefore, lost $15 million in the deal. It is unclear how the $15 million excess was shared between everyone involved, but the Israeli police have established that the middleman, Amit Sade, received $1.47 million in what is now termed brokerage fee. Three people are facing trial in Israel over this deal.

When Generals become bandits — List of Nigerian Military Generals Standing Trial For Corruption

Military Generals in Nigeria form an important part of the contracting gang stealing from the country through defence and security contracting. In July 2016, an investigative committee set up by President Muhammadu Buhari, shortly after entering office in 2015, released a report indicting 18 senior military officials, 12 retired and serving government officials, and 24 CEOs. The panel recommended further investigation and prosecution of the indicted individuals.

In February 2016, the Nigerian Army announced that it handed over 12 senior officers to the EFCC for their alleged involvement in arms scandal. The army did not name them but said they included three serving major generals, and one retired, three brigadier generals, four colonels and one lieutenant colonel.

“We have charged some people to court, but the investigation into others has not closed,” the EFCC spokesperson, Wilson Uwujaren, said.

Here are some of the senior military officers indicted by the panel in its report as well as those publicly known to be undergoing trial.

Lieutenant Colonel Sambo Dasuki, retired: Although official banditry in Nigeria’s defence and security contracting predates and goes beyond — the former National Security Adviser, he is the highest-ranking government official held. He was arrested on December 1, 2015, by officers of the State Security Service (SSS) over the utilisation of $2 billion meant for buying arms for the military.

In the scheme, high ranking members of the then ruling Peoples Democratic Party, as well as other members and friends of the government, set up companies and approached the NSA for contracts. As it was later found out, the contractors simply walked away with the funds while soldiers at the battlefront wrestled Boko Haram with bare fist. Prosecutors claim the fund were diverted fund the party’s campaigns in the 2015 elections.

A Presidential panel was later set up to investigate defence and security procurements dating back a decade. The committee indicted Mr. Dasuki and other individuals.

He has been in detention since his arrest despite bails by four High Court judges in Nigeria and an ECOWAS Court.

Lieutenant General Azubuike Ihejirika, retired: Mr. Ihejirika retired from the army in January 2014 after serving as Chief of Army Staff for four years. He was appointed Chief of Army Staff on September 8, 2010, by President Goodluck Jonathan. Seven months after his retirement, Stephen Davis, an Australian negotiator who was working for the Nigerian government as a go-between in the Boko Haram war called out Ihejirika, as well as Ali Sheriff, a former governor of Borno state, as the “sponsors” of Boko Haram.

Nigeria’s State Security Service later claimed they found Mr. Ihejirika to be innocent.

Mr. Ihejirika was indicted by the DasukiGate Panel for using family members and fronts to procure arms contract. Twenty months after the indictment, the EFCC invited him for questioning. As at the time of this reporting, he has not been charged.

Lieutenant General Kenneth TJ Minimah, retired: Mr. Minimah took over from Mr. Ihejirika as Chief of Army Staff and handed over to the incumbent, Tukur Buratai.

On June 30, 2017, an Abuja High Court froze his accounts after the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission accused him and a company, Stoke Synergy Nigeria Limited, of stealing N13.6 billion from the Nigerian Army.

The EFCC claims Mr. Minimah has refunded N1.7 billion.

Air Vice Marshal Alex Badeh, retired: Mr. Badeh was the immediate past chief of defence staff.

The EFCC is accusing him of stealing N3.9 billion from Nigeria during his tenure.

“He allegedly abused his office as Chief of Defence Staff by using the dollar equivalent of the sum of N1.4billion removed from the accounts of the Nigerian Air Force to purchase properties in choice areas of Abuja between January and December 2013,” the EFCC claimed in a statement.

Mr. Badeh and his family company, Iyalikam Nigeria Limited, are currently standing trial for the “theft” of N3.97 billion Nigeria’s defence and security funds.

Major General Emmanuel J Atewe, retired: A former Commander JTF Op PULO SHIELD is standing trial for allegedly “stealing” about N8.5 billion defence and security funds the operations received from the Nigerian Maritime Administration and Safety Agency (NIMASA). Mr. Atewe is charged alongside a former NIMASA boss, Patrick Akpobolokemi, and two other staff of the agency: Kime Engonzu and Josephine Otuaga.

An Abuja businessman, Arinze Nkem, on Monday, June 19, 2017, told an Abuja High Court that the General regularly paid huge sums into his bank account with instructions to convert the remittances to US Dollars and redistribute.

“I bought a guest house for JTF, Operation Pulo Shield for N170m upon instruction by Atewe,” Mr. Nkem told the court. “I once paid the sum of N297m to a company called CISCO Nobot Limited. I also paid N99m to Ocean Gaz Limited and another N88m to Lord Fem Nigeria Limited, which all belong to him( Atewe).”

Air Vice Marshall Tony Omenyi, retired: Mr. Omenyi and his company, Huzee Nigeria Limited, are standing trial for allegedly stealing N136 million defence and security funds. He was formerly a Managing Director of Aeronautical Engineering and Technical Services Limited (AETSL), a company owned by the Nigeria Air Force. His strategy was simple. According to court proceedings, he would cause his office to award contracts to Sky Experts who subsequently will forward the money to Mr. Omenyi’s company, Huzee ltd.

Mr. Omenyi claimed the monies were “refund of loans given to Sky Experts,” indicating a further breach of a constitutional code of conduct.

Air Marshal Adesola Amosu, retired: A former Chief of Air Staff is standing trial for conspiracy, stealing, money laundering, concealing of proceeds of crime and converting N18 billion belonging to the Nigerian Air Force, NAF, to personal use.

Mr. Amosu is being prosecuted alongside two other high ranking colleagues: Air Vice Marshal Jacob Bola Adigun, a former Director of Finance to NAF and Air Commodore Gbadebo Owodunni Olugbenga, a former Deputy Director of Finance NAF.

Their corruption scheme was similar to others in Nigeria’s defence contracting industry. NIMASA paid NAF’s N3 billion to NAF’s Special Emergency Operation Account with Zenith Bank Plc. Other sources paid N15 billion. The money was then forwarded to five companies: Right Options Oil & Gas Limited, Judah Oil Limited, Delfina Oil & Gas, McAllan Oil & Gas Limited and Lebol Oil & Gas Limited.

These are Bureau de Changes, not oil companies as their names suggests and an insider, Mr. Adigun, was an opening director at Delfina Oil & Gas and McAllan Oil & Gas.

These FX companies converted the funds into US dollars and returned to Mr. Adigun and Mr. Olugbenga. Delfina Oil & Gas and McAllan Oil & Gas Limited paid a chunk of what went through them directly to Solomon Enterprises, a company owned by Mr. Amosu, the EFCC claimed in court.

The three military chiefs finally used the funds to buy properties in Nigeria and the United Kingdom. Mr. Amosu’s wife, Omolara, one of the directors of St. Solomon HealthCare, also received N95 million from the largesse.

Vice Admiral Usman Jibrin, retired: A former Chief of Naval Staff, is facing trial alongside Rear Admiral Bala Mshelia, Rear Admiral Shehu Ahmadu (all retired) and Habor Bay International Limited.

The Nigerian Navy had no need for the house and had no plans to buy it. There was no budget for it. Apparently, a company owned by Mr. Jibrin’s family, Habor Bay International Limited, needed it. The three Naval chiefs worked out a plan and pulled N600 million from the account of Naval Engineering Services to pay for a property at Plot No. 2717 Cadastral A06, Maitama, Abuja.

The property’s documentation shows Habor Bay International Limited as the buyer and owner even though the Nigerian Navy paid. Essentially, the former naval chief used Nigerian Navy resources to illegally gift himself a N600 million property.

Others high ranking officials recommended for prosecution over alleged corruption in security procurement include:

Major General JAH Ewansiha, retired: Mr. Ewansiha served as the Chief of Training and Operations in the Army.

Major General Ugo Buzugbe, retired: – former COPP(A)

Major General ER Chioba (Rtd) – former DG DICON

Major General AI Muraina (Rtd) – former CAB(A)

Major General DD Kitchener (Rtd)- former COLOG

Brigadier General DM Onoyiveta – former Chief Of Staff to Chief Of Army Staff

Brigadier General AJS Onibasa – former OMT

Brigadier General M Mamman – HQ NAE

Brigadier General Ashinze – former SA – NSA

Colonel AA Abubagaji – former Assistant Director Finance

Colonel AM Inuwa – former Assistant Director Finance (COPP)

Colonel Lt Col El-Hussaini Boyi, retired – former Assistant Director, Finance

Colonel Sqn Ldr M Oyaduogba – Finance Officer JTF Operation PULO SHIELD

Colonel Abubakar Usman.


Source:https://www.icirnigeria.org/investigation-when-generals-turn-bandits-inside-the-massive-corruption-in-nigerias-security-contracting/

pablobellins:
He who finds a wife......

meet my sugar.

Wow. She is quite a looker.

You have good eyes and are lucky.

Ensure her inner beauty is as good too.

Also ensure you are good to her as well.

Already Sexualized.

That didn't take long.

Men should also realize that though less common, they can also suffer from Breast Cancer.

The creation of awareness is not solely for the ladies alone. Men also need information on risks, signs, symptoms, treatment, management and prognosis.

Additionally, the WHO opines that breast cancer is the top cancer in women worldwide and is increasing particularly in developing countries where the majority of cases are diagnosed in late stages. In Developing countries, the cancer does most damage as a lot of sufferers do not take action, like seeking professional medical help, until it is too late.

Risk factors include family history, mutation of certain genes like BRCA, smoking, obesity, inactivity (lack of exercise), late age at first childbirth, and as a matter of fact, the general adoption of a western life style by developing countries has had a correlation with breast cancer cases.

Ify05:
An American lady identified as @erika_flow354, recently shared her experience with a Nigerian man, with members of the internet community.
@erika_flow354 explained that the individual had asked her out on a date, and she deliberately cancelled. However, to her utter surprise, instead of him to get upset, he replied her message by saying: "Say less."

As if that was not enough, the lady explained further that within a week of turning him down, the guy got a new girl, built his home and started a new business, all without getting in touch with her anymore.

In a different tweet, the lady explained that the experience was humbling. She said a lot of women have gotten used to taking guys for granted because of the amount of attention they get.

https://thickmatch.com/american-lady-learns-sad-lesson-playing-hard-get-nigerian-guy/

She is following books like 'The Rules' and other 'Miseducation' and pseudo knowledge instructions on how to be this and that and keep a man.

Good luck to her.

Look on the bright side, it might not have worked with you by his side.

Blanc8:
OK, we all want an HSE certificate, how many has been able to secure jobs with HSE?

Let us also remember that we needn't necessarily "Get A Job" with it.

Two or three of you can come together. Float a business and carry out HSE Consulting Activities. You can get CAC Certificate for the Company. There are guys in the business section doing CAC Cert. Business for about 40k. Then get permits from DPR, LASEPA, etc to offer services.

Then go into Consulting.

How many persons know HSE Consulting Firms in Nigeria?

How many know FUGRO (Now FESAS)? How many know MDS? How many know Tidal Flow Nigeria Limited? How many know ERML? How many know Jawura? How many know Klaeon? How many know IESL and PHELPS? How many of you know ESSOH? What about MAKON? Erosalem? Finny? Kevron? Kitlan?

How many have participated in workshops to get networks of professionals? The HSE Conference for Oil and Gas holds once every 2 years. How many come there to attend. Even if to ask for discount, meet people, or set up a company and come with fliers to advertise?

What steps have you taken to improve your network?

Listen, how many of you have thought about the entrepreneural angle to the discipline? Investing into the discipline? Get a job or learn a skill or get a loan or family funding. Set up the business and then run it.

I am not saying getting a job is bad. I am saying as much as you are trying to get a job.. Do other things. And note also that the skills and knowledge of the discipline can be put into other services like training, manpower development, consultancy, integrity testing, HSE Audits and Studies, Environmental Impact Assessment Studies, Safety Culture Development and Promotion, Tier 3 Hazard Assessment, Critical Control Point Assessment, Instrumentation Engineering, Emergency Response System Testing/Drills and Improvement, Dropped Object Calculations and Protection, Safety Interlocking System Designs and Functional Safety, etc. etc.

Just like every other professional and academic degree, people are now going beyond HSE Level 1,2,3. People are going into NEBOSH and MSc. Safety Engineering. People are into Loss Prevention and Reliability Engineering. See, you guys need to know a lot about the possibilities and various aspects of the Discipline. HSE Levels 1,2,3 is good as foundation. NEBOSH IGC is good for better and more comprehensive applications and appreciation. After this there are more technical aspects of the course.

What most people claiming to be professionals have here is even rudimentary knowledge. HSE Appreciation. Slips, trips and falls sort of thing. I wont let them near a platform or chemical process plant.

GodsSon07:
my brother i honestly thing you are suffering from anxiety disorder and this is the begining stage,
ask your doctor about it so they can help you out .
its well bro

It is almost going into panic attack stage. The thing with anxiety disorder is the fact that you don't see it creeping up on you. Various stressful events follow one another in one's life and then brings on a symptom. Your fight or flight response sees the response as danger. Then you start worrying about various symptoms. Sex, stress at work, etc. are enough to jointly trigger anxiety disorder. Worry makes it worse as your mind keeps throwing dangerous possibilities and effects. Which leads to more worries. In fact for now he is still worried about BP Alone. Soon he will worry about heart attacks, etc. He will browse the internet for hours. And anything Doctors tell him will make no sense. He will look for more Doctors and believe the doctor's don't know what they are saying... Haha.. I can go on and on.

mayordy:
Good day people,

A month ago, I suddenly started feeling pain in my chest and dizzy eyes and numb palms and feet, I thought it was shortness of blood because I have been stressed for the past 6 months waking up out of bed getting into traffic to work and coming back in traffic late at night.

The chest pain feeling like my heart skipping a beat still didn’t go away, i couldn’t get a sound sleep every morning I wake up unrefreshed and tired through out the day

I checked my blood pressure one day at the pharmacy and it was abnormally high and I’m just 26 I went to the doctor and conducted PCV to check my blood count, malaria test and fasting sugar, all came out normal, he suspected angina so I also did an ECG which also came out normal, the doctor gave me paracetamol, vitamin B12 capsule and since then that is how I have been frequenting the hospital, each time the blood pressure still high.

Last week I was still at the doctor last Thursday and my BP was 148/96 at my age, yet the doctor doesn’t really tell me much he just keep prescribing the same sleeping pills and vitamin B12 and iron capsule.

Right now I presently can’t help myself to sleep, my day is always filled with fatigue, headache, dullness, I lose concentration at work, I can’t seem to get anything done because my eyes get heavy and my head be pounding me seriously. I don’t know what is going on I’m gradually losing the sharp young man I used to be.

Please, I don’t know if anybody has gone through a phase like this or if we have experienced doctors in the house please.

Please I need all the help I can get

Classic anxiety and insomnia cycle.
The feedback loop.
You are making it worse.

You might develop panic attacks if care is not taken. Stress triggered anxiety, anxiety triggered insomnia, insomnia made anxiety worse, worse anxiety leads to panic attacks and panic attacks lead to more anxiety and insomnia and the cycle continues.

I have a loooooong story for you.

Please I know I sound silly.

The best thing about insomnia is to do NOTHING!

Yes even I am laughing about how your response will be. Do nothing.

Let me ask you one question. Did you use to sleep well in the past? If the answer is yes now Ask your self, did you use to take anything....any of these fancy stuff here or doing anything to sleep? I guess the answer is no, right? You simply got home, maybe ate, bathed, watched TV and went to bed. You did nothing special.

Now why are you planning on something to do about the fact that you can't sleep? I have not started yet o. I am laughing because I have been there. Yours is even nice.

It got to a point that Nitrazepam and Diazepam became useless and my body developed tolerance. In order words they stopped working and I needed bigger and higher doses. Hahaha.. See. I have plenty things to tell you. Because I have been there and you remind me of myself. And when I look back now.. I just smile. See.. Your own situation is mild.

See I know you are listening to people. As it is you want a quick fix with whatever it is that is wrong with you. Hahahahahaha.. There is no medicine or portion or local herb or mixture. You don't even need them. I know my response doesn't sound like what you want to hear. You want a quick fix. A magic pill. Etc. As long as you don't want to be drug dependent for almost ever, then ignore the stuff you are reading here from a lot of persons.

Ellatee256:
Hi everyone,
I'm 23 yrs and currently running my HND program.
I have a bf and we have been dating for almost a year.

We do almost everything together and we see each other every single day...
But now am irritated by him.

He comes to my hostel from his office everyday but now seeing him irritates me the more.
I just want a break but I don't want to hurt him.
This isn't the first time its happening to me,
I've had two boyfriends before I met my new bf and same thing happened with them.

Its just like I meet a guy I like..,we love each other and I get excited and then few months later I get irritated by them....

I told my elder sis about it and she dragged me to church saying I have spiritual problems but that's not the issue....

Sometimes I just want my time alone but my bf doesn't seem to understand that.
Have tried to ignore him and all but he doesn't get the message am passing........
He wants me to meet his mum but have been giving him excuses....

I don't know why I feel like this with only the guys I date cuz I don't feel that way with my friends and family in fact I want to be with them everyday but its different in my relationships...
I want to end things with my boyfriend without hurting him cuz I can't keep acting and I can't keep wasting his time.

I think I have a problem and I don't know what to do.
I don't want this to affect me when I get married cuz there won't be a break in marriage...
Pls kindly advice
Thanks

They are becoming annoying doormats. Allowing you inhale but waiting to exhale. They aren't giving you breathing space. It is not only annoying to you. Even men hate it when ladies do this. Most ladies think they are being homely and showing their domestic side by being there always at the guy's beck and call and reporting for "duty" daily.

No one wants them to be there everyday. Neither do you don't want them to be there everyday. It is a natural reaction in my opinion.

They need to be scarce. When you don't see them for a while you'll look for them. It is classic human psychology. Why is sand considered dirt and diamonds considered valuable? Because diamonds are hard to find. Sand is everywhere. Seen everywhere. It is annoying to the extent that it is called dirt. But then sand grains are also minerals. Just not valuable.

It could be that you provide great company. You are smart, great company and you are physically attractive. Hence they want to be with you, spend time with you and they are afraid of loosing you and don't trust that other men aren't trying to snatch you. They are trying too hard to show you they care and miss you. Their mitigation is probably to try as much as possible to be all up in your face.

But this backfires because it becomes irritating like "ahn ahn.. Guy, don't you have other things to do? I should not be the beginning and end of your life na".

Forget the men talking about Shiloh etc. Men (especially Nigerian men) are afraid of a woman who doesn't mind calling off relationships. It pricks their egos. Marriage isn't an award or achievement.

Funny thing is, even as men we also want our alone time. It is known that psychologically when we return from work we want to be alone and rummage over the day. We do so most times in front of the TV. This comes from our hunter gatherer ancestors who after hunting dangerous wild animals, sat in front of fires in the evening reliving their near death experiences. They also want to plan for the next day. We have evolved with that as men till date. The women also evolved with wanting the men to be gone too. To go and hunt. To chase Down the Mammoth. To be missed a little so that when they return (with the kill) the women are glad to see them. So yes, there is an innate desire to see the man gone for a while. There is an innate desire by the women like yourself to have their own space.

You are quite independent and don't hide your feelings. That is the difference. Other women subdue the urge. You seem to be a vocal and very expressive type. And you take actions on your feelings. That is the only difference. Other women will die in silence yet loathing the man/men. Men need to be alpha males. And need to be strong even if it means miss seeing you a a day or two. They should have a life.

People love differently at various times in their lives. Some people will latter overlook this or mature enough to swallow being smothered by a lover. Some will never want to. You are young and as such have the luxury of choices as well. Perhaps when you mature further you may realize it isn't so bad afterall. But your feeling isn't strange. Not at all.

Of course everything has its pros and cons. In the society of ours where men have bloated egos, it hurts them to see a woman who acts based on her likes/dislikes. Men expect you put up with them and not the other way round. So be ready to face societal reactions like the one from your Sister who feels you have a spiritual problem.

Preciousgirl:
What can make you exchange blows/punches or fisticuffs with another man or woman?

Me, no matter the provocation, I wont physically fight another

I hear there are husbands and wifes that trade blows. That's sad!

If she is being physically attacked. Especially an unprovoked attack.

Preciousgirl:
Can you have sexx with somebody's wife?

Be honest

Why and why not?

Risky.

Based on religious and moral grounds, it is frowned upon.

But religion to me is nothing.I really don't give a shit about the church thing. Intact people in church commit worse sins. Also, traditions are man made. Reasons are not always sane or sensible.

Truth is people are attracted to one another and the above reasons have not stopped a lot of persons.

If I find a woman I am attracted to and she is married I'll weigh the pros and cons. It is strictly conditional and situational. My main concern will be the effects on the woman and the consequences if the husband finds out. Eventually such things lead to regrets. My rational mind will only focus on risks and inconvenience and nothing else.

In some instances I will. In some instances I won't.

I have successfully avoided most married women who have come my way. I quote one who angrily retorted to my avoidance: "I dey give you fu.. Ck to fu..ck, you dey do shakara "!. I had known her to be someone so refined, I was surprised she could speak fluent pidgin English.

ESSOHEngineers:
Work Place Sexual Harassment is common and both ways, however women are statistically more on the receiving end that the giving end. However as common as it is, it places a lot of emotional and psychological stress on the Victim. This is because it is just a step away from rape/assault.

Do not assume you are overreacting. Report him immediately to your boss. Escalate it. He is already stalking you by coming to your door. Perhaps creeping and peeping and listening.

Tell him you will report him to your boss. Tell your boss that you are doing so because it is the right thing to do in such a circumstance. The reason for reporting to your boss is not only because you want him cautioned. It is also because from an Occupational Health,Safety and Well-being perspective, it is simply the procedure to follow and the thing to do. Tell your boss to call a chat with you both and complain further. I am assuming it is a small company,hence no strong HR Team. Also, where possible report him to other male folk within the apartment. This is so that you have witnesses to show you have complained. If you want, also write a formal report of complaints to your boss and keep a copy.

And if he doesn't stop, tell him you will file a complaint to the police. Where possible avoid all manner of mundane and trivial gist with him. Keep your conversations and association formal.

Keep evidence of all his behaviors. You might need it. Where possible send him warnings via text messages and keep those too. Next time he does that put your phone camera on video record and make a video. Don't worry about if it is clear or if you got a perfect shot. Just make a video/videos of you warning him sternly about his harrasament and how you don't fancy it.

Harassers usually feel victims are playing hard to get. Generally for women they are usually harrassed by their Seniors. For men they are harassed both by their bosses and juniors as a matter of fact.

Where it is not conducive you might need to leave the job. It is better than living with the horrors and trauma of rape. The Nigerian hypocritical and patriarchal society is unforgiving to women assaulted. If you follow the trend, it is common for Nigerian men to lie and say the lady agreed to have sex for a specified amount and that when they didn't pay the woman decided to claim rape. He will even claim he has been dating you. Finally it moves to cognitive dissonance where they blame the Devil or blame the "thing that came over them" and how "they usually don't act like this" etc. At the end people will say why didn't you speak up. Why didn't you leave. Etc. So, be careful and speak out. Don't ever assume you are overreacting. Put a stop to it otherwise he will get bolder.

Eventually if it gets bad, you may have to decide if it is worth your continued stay of if you should leave. No one can make that decision for you.

One of Many Examples of Workplace Rape and Assault.

https://www.nairaland.com/5437096/man-rapes-co-worker-death-ogun

At least Nairaland still has some value to offer. It hasn't completely gone to the dogs.

Interesting.

Interesting.

Interesting.