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Nairaland is an amazing place innit . You can't even get your story straight mate. The money you say you sent; first you claimed you sent it to a friend, then you changed your story to say it was to a relative.Then you say it was for medication and feeding money; you now changed it again that it was for a house project.

And you want us to believe what you just narrated here;yeah right.

Suddenly when people started getting suspicious about what you narrated here; suddenly it became sorted. Indeed!

BritishNaija:
I wish I could, I work in rig and the last time I tried using friend, £7000 was gone, I can't leave the rig for now.

BritishNaija:
It's not as easy as you think, the fact I sent £7,000 was for drugs and feeding with her and the maid.
But the family member is No more r eacheable.
He was the only one I still thought I could trust and sent him the money, he would have kept 1000 and deliver the rest.
This was before I flew into BP rig last week.

BritishNaija:
I'm still waiting for his reply, Orumba In Anambra ( nanka) My extended family members are no more trust worthy to do nothing, I was also heart broken to see a full house project I sent fully and was left unattended while I keep sending money, the last was just the £7,000 I sent.

A maid who can go and withdraw money using an atm and who knows about POS; should have knowledge of using a phone and downloading an app should not be a difficult task. This is the 21st century.

BritishNaija:
The maid is still a little girl and it's my mum I'm talking about.

BritishNaija:
She can't go to the bank, is there no way to send in naira? She normally give out card details to the maid to go and get cash

BritishNaija:
Mama is sick and over 70, The maid is not yet tech savvy, she only goes with atm to POS services to withdraw, that is her limit.

@Op; stop spreading WRONG, FALSE AND DECEPTIVE INFORMATION. What you have said is BASELESS as well as RIDICULOUS. That said; there is a Mod in this section and a silly and trashy thread like this is allowed to remain and not deleted for its falsehood; it beggars’ belief!

So because she wants to marry you, your Mother should now turn your fiancée into a slave right?

Your mum comes to you to complain that your fiancée did not collect the clothes from her to wash and you as the man can’t ask your mum why your other 6 siblings; 4 girls (Don’t know how old they are; but they SHOULD help their mum to wash her clothes) and 2 boys did not make any attempt to collect the clothes from your mum to wash for her? They saw their mum carry her clothes to wash and NONE OF YOUR SIBLINGS DID ANYTHING TO ASSIST YOUR MUM IN WASHING THOSE CLOTHES. You have the AUDACITY to say you will ask your fiancée why she did not assist your mum in washing her clothes; for what exactly? The NERVE YOU HAVE to even think of asking your fiancée; ABSOLUTE NANSENSE.

I didn't see anywhere in your posts where you scolded your siblings for not washing your mum's clothes for her. Neither did I see anywhere that your mum scolded her other children for not helping her to wash her clothes either. It was only your fiancée that your mum decided to scold and not scold her own children as if they are blameless in this situation.

If I knew your fiancée, I will tell her to run as fast as her legs can carry her away from your family as it is obvious you are going to make life unbearable for her and turn her into a slave IF SHE MARRIES YOU. Very soon, your siblings will also give your fiancée their cloths for her to wash as well to TEST if she is a “WIFE MATERIAL OR NOT”.

In all, I blame your fiancée who is trying to do over-sabi; “I WANT TO BE LIKED BY MY MIL; THEREFORE I WILL SWIPE THE WHOLE COMMUNITY COMPOUND, WASH ALL THEIR CLOTHES AND COOK FOR THEM TO SHOW I AM A WIFE MATERIAL. More or less a slave if you ask me. Also there is no need for your fiancée to be going to your mums place ALL THE TIME AS IF YOUR FIANCEE HAS NOTHING DOING? EVER HEARD OF THE SAYING “FAMILIARITY BREEDS CONTEMPT”? THAT IS WHAT IS CURRENTLY HAPPENING.

You come across as a mummy's boy and you really are not ready to settle down if you are asking to speak with your fiancée about her not washing your mother’s clothes. Instead of you to have asked your siblings why they did not wash their own mother’s clothes for her; you are here bringing the issue to NLand so that your fiancée can be condemned. I’m glad that the majority of people did not condemn her; but rather called you out and told you that it’s not compulsory for your fiancée to wash your mother’s clothes.

You never see woman we go sweep, cook, wash clothes join sef and do other things just to marry the man and then show her true colours after marriage? Maybe then your eyes go clear. You go know say no be by doing chores na em person go take know if na better wife na em e dey marry. Enough said.

@ bold; that applies if it is the state pension.

If you have/had a private pension then you will/would have been able to start getting pension payment from the age of 55 years. The amount you get will also depend on how much contribution you had put into the pension pot.

As you had lived in the UK for 20+ years, I hope you were able to contribute into a private pension. You mentioned that you are 55 years; and if you had a private pension, you can now apply to start your monthly pension payment. This in itself is another source of monthly income for you.

There have been good advice given by others here already on this thread and the only thing I will add, will be "If you live modestly; AKA cut your coat according to your size or better still, not wanting to catch up with the Joneses, then 100K should be enough for you to live on monthly". NOTE THE EMPHASIS AGAIN ON "LIVE MODESTLY".

It's a hard economy; and apart from the rental income, you probably may need other form/s of income as well to help in managing unexpected expenses that may arise.

uvie66:
naturally i have made contribution to my pension through National Insurance contribution, pension is only payable when one attain the age of 67.

Chai; a very shameful woman at that; just see how she dey fight on top another person property . If something like this was done to the mistress, she will do worst than what the estranged wife is currently doing. Something that the mistress can’t take, she dey do am to another fellow woman; na wa o.

If the estranged wife was not smart enough to include her FULL NAME(S) (and not just Mr and Mrs) on the property deeds that is how this shameless mistress will have claimed that she is now the one addressed as the Mrs on the property deeds and lay full claim of the property that she knows nothing about the hard work that went into building this property.

I tell you; the @Op; is just an attention seeker testing their writing skills on Nairaland audience.

Mindlog:
You have no idea what people do to get attention, do you know I can start creating threads and make posts that would give me "credibility" when in the month of April I create a front-page likely thread like this.

A big attention seeker at that and has taken His/Her attention seeking antics to a higher level

keenn:
i have never followed a topic in aniticipation until i stumbled on this thread.

i check on it virtually every day, out of curiosity i decided to go through some of his thread and wala...

the

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attention seeker.

you got me though!

Abi o; the tory sef worst pass fake

merieam16:
Lolzz...People actually believed dis fake story, una go grow iron bear bear

@Op; get busy doing something better with your time as this your write-up is nothing but a fake and make-believe story.

You must think that everyone who comes on NL to read stories can't see a story as fake and fictitious when we see one.

Reading from your other threads, it is clear that you make up stories a lot.

In one of your threads your first born is a girl and you married in 2016.

In another thread your first born is a boy and married for several years.

Don't know if you are a He/She; but from the look of things; I won't be surprised if you are not even married nor have any children as you can't even keep a consistent story.

@Op; only a DNA test can confirm if a child is yours or not. Forget all this he/she has my head structure, or nose structure or whatever structure you have that the child also has.

I was watching a paternity test program that featured a black man who wanted to know if the mixed race child he had with a white lady was his child. Shebi you go think say na the man get the pikin as the pikin wey dem born nah mixed race. The child was already an adult when the man found out through the DNA test that the child he had cared for to adulthood was not his. Don’t forget that the features of this child was mixed race; so you see why it's ONLY A DNA TEST THAT CAN CONFIRM WHETHER THE CHILD IS YOURS OR NOT IRRESPECTIVE OF WHETHER THE CHILD HAS A SIMILAR/STRIKING FEATURE/S LIKE YOU HAVE. I repeat; ONLY A DNA TEST CAN CONFIRM THE PATERNITY OF A CHILD.

It seems so. A lot of these stories are now coming out; both the fictitious ones,(this particular one posted above is obviously a fictitious story based on its narration), the make believe ones and the real ones.

GboyegaD:
Is this some fiction in the light of the current issues going on?

@Op; I feel your pain. Buying of things to be used in the household should not be left to only one person to do. That said, you would not be the first or last woman to be in this type of situation you are in. You now need to sit down with your husband with a pen and paper and both of you should write down what expenses each person caters for in the month. So even if a particular expense is fixed like rent, that should be included on the paper too as well as any other expenses. In that way, both of you would know the exact expenses each person pays for and then a budget can be drawn up for the month to avoid one party being burden down with more expenses than required.

Moving ahead, if for example you earn 250K per month, split your salary into 4 places as follows:

62.5k – Savings (COMPULSORY)

62.5k – Yourself

62.5k – Children’s expenses

62.5k – Miscellaneous/feeding for household/rent and other expenses

If you carry on the way you are currently going, the resentment for the situation you are in will build up so much that everything your husband does will irritate you and cause unnecessary quarrel. There is a reason why a man is the head of his house which SHOULD include providing and catering for his family both materially and otherwise.

ENOUGH SAID

notoracism:
Hi Guys,

This is really disturbing me, I do not have that dream home. How do I mean? Buying home fittings and keeping the house neat. We both work, but since we've been married my husband has refused to buy things at home. My living room has no tv as I write, this is over 2 years! I decided not to buy and it has remained so. I only bought one in the kids room. He drags remote with them atimes to watch sports!..

I bought the cushions in the living room when it has become so shameful having the old ones there, so bad that my kids were complaining they couldn't sleep on it. Talk of anything at home now, ai bought them from fans, to AC, to bed frame to whatever we have at home except the 2 mattress and they are old now. Our mattresses were in the floor until I bought the frame. Even Window blinds name whatever.

He wasn't a made man when we got married, I don't even discuss buying things at home before marriage because I thought we'd jointly make our home homely when we get married but na lie.

Even for the kids, the only thing he does is paying school fees, I pay a part too (Bus fees), after that, he doesn't care about cloths or extra items needed in school. Since we had our kids he never gives me money for kids Christmas clothes, he call them luxury. My husband went to market one time and bought them rubber shoes.

This same guy like good things oo, when it's time to go out he selects good cloths and shoes for them to wear but he can't buy them.

He once told me it's woman responsibility to take care of the home, I think his orientation about life is wrong but he is also had to convince. How do you Share the responsibility of taking care of the home married couples?

I love cute home but he doesn't. He says atimes, he doesn't mind sleeping on the floor. I have told him several times to let's jointly make the home beautiful but we'd decline. Am doing the little I can but atimes i get financially stressed. I have other responsibilities too.

Let me add, I bought even gen too after the first one we had got bad. I buy units, his excuse is he doesn't know how to buy it online. Am really getting tired and am feeling cheated. I don't know how to lie that I don't have money, he knows how w much I earn.

@bold; really? I remember that thread. Are you saying that request for help on that thread was a scam? How was it discovered as a scam?

CookingPot:
I am not a woman like you. I am a critical thinker and not going to fall for your emotional manipulations.

A while back a particular Moniker posted on this same Family section about being pregnant and expecting a baby. She kept changing the title of the thread only to be discovered as a scammer. She even posted a picture of her Moniker beside the buldging tummy.

I will post the thread here if I can find it. Heck! I can even bet you are probably the same person

@bold; I tell you. Some of the stories I read here, I take them as tales by moonlight stories and they are just told to help drive traffic on Nairaland.

GboyegaD:
Was it one lady whose moniker was O stuff who said she was a teacher and said she was in Ogun State? Just curious so that I can know how well to take stories serious on here.

@Blessing1142 is there any reason why you have not responded to what @Pious101 told you to do? Rather, you are here responding to other post and ignoring the request below? As you need assistance, confirm your story so that those who will assist you will do so.

Pious101:
ur response purely shows u ain't real. If u want to be helped post ur picture holding a ten naira currency on ur right hand and satchel water on ur left hand. If u can do this I would be d first to send u some stipends. Ensure ur protruding stomach is shown too

@Op; you well so? You had to bring this topic to NL rather than discussing it with your wife? SMH

You had to tell the whole world that your wife is dirty? SMH

You took a picture for so called evidence; really? SMH

You really need to grow up and stop this nansense (No offense and hope none taken).

GO AND TALK TO YOUR WIFE IF YOU HAVE ANY ISSUES WITH HER CONCERNING HER HYGIENE AND NOT NLANDERS.

I’m sure you will not like it if your wife should also come on NL to open a thread to let Nlanders know about your shortcoming(s)

Thank you; and this will make it easier for those who will help to do so if they can.

mikeywise:
I want to help verify the op, I am in Abuja and my office is at wuse zone 5.

@ Op, you will have to come to my office with the following;
1. An identity card
2. The receipts of the tests

You have to come on or before 10am today, your transport will be taken care of.

Note: it is not compulsory that you come, this offer expires by 10am today.

@Op; I have seen you viewing this thread at 8.15am this morning; so obviously you have seen this request.

Also, have you contacted your family members to assist you financially and as well make them aware of the health challenges you are currently facing and experiencing?

You got to be kidding me right; would you have given yourself this same advice if you were the one in the Ops shoes? If you say yes, I'll take that answer with a pinch of salt.

ikeno:
the fact still remains that they should keep trying to establish him with something doin.arresting or locking him up will not solve the problem.the guy is idle and he hangs around with idle minds.the should sit him down and has what he really want to do with is life.

Get busy doing something better/tangible with your spare time instead of coming up with A LONG-WINDED FICTITIOUS STORY. Even @Thorpido and some others could clearly see your STORY IS FAKE and busted you out .

FOR YOUR OWN GOOD AND FOR THE LADYS' SAFETY, AS YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO ACCOMMODATE HER, YOU BETTER TELL THAT YOUR LADY FRIEND TO GO BACK TO HER FAMILY IN PH. IN THESE DANGEROUS TIMES WE ARE IN, YOU AND HER, ARE PREPARED TO TAKE AN UNECESSARY RISK FOR HER TO SQUAT WITH A TOTAL STRANGER; FOR WHAT EXACTLY . IF AS SHE IS SQUATING WITH THE STRANGER YOU INTRODUCED HER TO; SOMETHING HAPPENS TO HER,YOU DO KNOW THAT YOU CAN GET YOURSELF INTO A LOT OF TROUBLE. DON'T SAY YOU WEREN'T WARNED. ENOUGH SAID.

You had to open a thread on NL to confirm from strangers if it's ok to buy your husband gifts from the extra income you now make; right? You got to be kidding me. . You think that because your husband is not making as much money as you are now, therefore he's not entitled to your buying gifts for him; really?

Don't be a selfish and stingy woman by buying gifts for only yourself and your children as it doesn't look right. If your husband start making extra income as well now and decides to only buy gifts for himself and the kids, you won't like it. You better change your manner of reasoning and don't allow any of your kids inherit this nansensical way of reasoning from you.

Just imagine; you had to wait for your husband to tell you first that you should buy gifts for him too before you know that you will do that. He's your husband for goodness sake; and there's nothing wrong in you pampering him with gifts every now and again.

@Op; good topic and this is the sort I want to see on front page and not the trash which has been the norm for some time.

Back to topic, ignorance is what makes ANYONE frown at a left-handed person. THE HAND YOU USE IS WHAT YOUR BRAIN TELLS YOU TO USE. IF YOUR BRAIN TELLS YOU TO USE YOUR RIGHT HAND, YOU WILL USE YOUR RIGHT AND IF IT SAYS YOUR LEFT HAND, THEN YOU WILL USE YOUR LEFT. PEOPLE DON’T REALISE THAT IF YOU TRY TO CORRECT THE CHILD, YOU MAY MESS UP THE CHILD PSYCHOLOGICALLY AND THIS MAY ALSO HAVE AN IMPACT ACADEMICALLY AS WELL I.E THE CHILD MAY BECOME SLOW AT LEARNING. ALL THE LEFT-HANDED PEOPLE I KNOW ARE VERY INTELLIGENT AND HIGH ACHIEVERS; SAME WITH RIGHT-HANDED PEOPLE WHICH SHOWS THAT IRRESPECTIVE OF THE HAND YOU USE, IT WOULDN’T MAKE ANY DIFFERENCE TO ONES LIFE. If parents are so worried, then they can train the child to use both their right and left hand equally well to become ambidextrous rather than stop the child completely from using the hand that their brain tells them to use. At least, I have seen the comments of some here where they can use both their hands or they train their child to use both hands as well.

I just dey laugh wen I dey read am. When people have so much time on their hands, they come up with all sorts of MAKE BELIEVE/ FAKE/FICTITIOUS/TALES BY MOON LIGHT STORIES. Indeed, anybody that believes this tale narrated by the @Op; will believe anything. Dem think say nah toddlers na em dem dey narrate tory to. I just dey laugh .

Ishilove:
Hehe. Believe this, you'll believe anything.

PS; what happened to that thread of a man who put his hands on his wife and the wifes’ brothers came and put their hands on him too and he now wants advice on how to reconcile with his wife and in-laws? I wanted to respond to your mention but the thread suddenly got removed? I think the yab wey dem yab am make am run go report to the MODS and dem come delete the thread. I hope he has learnt his lesson to keep his filthy hands to himself and use his mouth to communicate and not his fist next time when he and his wife get into a disagreement/mis-understanding.

@Op; this is how people get themselves into serious trouble. That said, you seem to be the male friend that this married woman wants to establish a friendship with right? Hence, your bringing it to NL to seek validation from Nlanders to carry on the friendship via whatsapp, calls and other avenues with this supposedly married woman presumably. Okay nah; your eyes go soon clear.

Don’t be the one to make this married woman withdraw the attention that she ought to be giving exclusively to her husband to you especially when problems start arising in the marital union. The male friend AKA you will be like a shoulder to cry on and then from there, other things CAN/MAY/WILL transpire. Save yourself from that stress so that you and this married woman will not cry crocodile tears (muttering had i known) if at all your so called friendship EVER leads to adultery. The above apply if the reverse was the case; i.e a married man having a female as a friend other than his wife.

You can clearly see the repercussion of a married man who kept a female as a friend in the case with this poster in the attached thread below who wants to eat his cake and have it at the same time. Though the story looks like a tales by moonlight story as NO ONE WHO IS COMMITTING ADULTERY WILL BE THAT RELAXED WITH THE SORT OF SILLY, NANSENSICAL AND TRASHY RESPONSES THAT THE POSTER HAS PROVIDED IN THAT THREAD. Learn from that example; Enough said.

https://www.nairaland.com/6071277/sinful-relationship

Some people just come up with these long ended fictious stories and think that they are relating them to people who can't see through them as fictitious stories. E think say nah so e easy to grant UK visa with children involved without their mother's consent who is still alive; I laugh in Swahili.

Mindlog:
How possible is it for a man to travel to the UK with his children without the knowledge of his wife, who is still alive? So the UK High Commission will grant those minors visas without raising questions about their mother?

@bold

ogawisdom:
Super story Mr nice man continue

As u make ur bed so u will lie on it

I won't say more than this

@Op; why are you making so much noise mate? This matter never reach make you bring am come Nairaland nah. Aside the other foods' your wife gives your son; he also needs milk to help in developing his immune system, bones as well as his brain development.

In regards to utilising the SMA Milk; try and have a daddy feed time once a day with your son. That once a day is when you will prepare the SMA milk yourself and feed him with it and voila; problem solved. No be everything na em you go make gra gra all the time. Be playful with your wife and let her know that you will like to feed your son once a day as well when you are back from work and that including milk in his diet will give him calcium and make him have strong bones . How difficult is that? You think if you tell her that, she will not like it or she will say no?

In regards to the worn-out cloths; all you need to do is go through your child’s wardrobe and get rid of all the worn-out cloths yourself and replace them with the new ones that are already available. If you don’t get rid of them, your wife will continue to wear them on your little one. Tell your wife playfully that you will like your son to be trendy with his new cloths ; it’s not that difficult.

In regards to her being a rude wife and not listening to even her mum; you already knew that when you were dating her and you turned a blind eye to her rudeness so you have yourself to blame for ending up marrying her knowing fully well that she is a rude individual.

Why is it that some people can’t just READ THE HANDWRITING ON THE WALL? A man is not responding to your messages and you are still asking if you are being ignored? If a man is really interested in you, when you send him a message, HE WILL GET BACK TO YOU PRONTO AKA QUICKLY AND NOT AFTER 3 DAYS. It is crystal clear that he is not interested in you or better still he is already with someone else and is just out to waste your time. Move forward NOW; and let him be before you get yourself all worked up unnecessary WITH THE SLOGAN; "HAD I KNOWN".

@Op. LEARN TO MYOB (I hope you know what this acronym means) as it has absolutely nothing to do with you. If you like, when you are married you can turn your own wife into a slave and make her age overnight due to all the chores you will leave for her to do in the house without lifting a finger to assist her. It’s not rocket science as it’s obvious that YOUR TYPE will not assist your wife at all to reduce stress she will encounter. REMEMBER THIS PHRASE; A HAPPY WIFE IS A HAPPY HOME. Lastly, since you are so worried about someone else’s matter that doesn't concern you, why not encourage your brother to buy a washing machine to ease the stress on his wife from washing clothes? ENOUGH SAID.

@Op; now put yourself in this situation you just narrated here. If you were the one, will you be okay with your husbands’ EX visiting? Especially if you know that the EX was the one your husband was to marry? As you have been told by a few others here; sending a message is more appropriate than visiting. Don’t get yourself into an uncomfortable situation with your EX and his wife. Leave your EX alone as he is now married to someone else.

@MODS, THIS IS THE SORT OF THREAD I WANT TO SEE ON FRONT PAGE AND HAVE A DEBATE ABOUT AND NOT THE TRASHY TOPICS THAT I HAVE BEEN SEEING ON FRONT PAGE OF RECENT.

@Op; good thread; kudos to you for recognising the amount of labour that went into doing your requested task which subsequently empowered you to up the fees from what was initially agreed to a LATER REASONABLE AMOUNT. Obviously, as @Unnerve pointed out that if you didn’t stay behind to see the labour that went into doing the agreed task, you wouldn’t have known the effort that went into completing your required task.

To the topic, I think it is lack of being humane that makes some people to price a product for a ridiculous amount simple because they know that the person offering the goods/services may still accept the ridiculous price you are willing to offer as the person offering the goods/services have one thing at the back of their mind; which is to sell their goods/services.

One rule of thumb I have for myself is this; the goods/services I require and price, if I were the one that was offering the goods/services and someone prices it the way I did will I accept it? A GIVER NEVER LACKS.

Keep doing all you can for humanity and along the way, seeing a smile on the face of someone you have helped in the form of purchasing their goods/services in a reasonable priced way (not in a ridiculously priced way) is priceless.