₦airaland Forum

I understand, some people can be so dumb and annoying at the same time. Solution: tell him clearly to steer clear when your gf is around.

Firstly @ op, You shouldn't bother arguing with the ladies above,its needless,its quite obvious your perspectives differ.

Secondly, I agree with you. Nigeria is sort of like a ship about to capsize, migrating to a better country would be a wise decision if one can, you will thank yourself later. Go to where you can unlock your potential.

What you need is confidence. Age is just a member mate.

Be as direct and honest as you can and watch how you sweep her off feet easily.

What have I just read? Is this some sort of joke?

You are in an abusive relationship to begin with. Walk away from that relationship before it will be too late.

IamaNigerianGuy:
Foolishness does have any rational justification as you can see from the responses on this thread.

If you understand the time value of money and how compound interest works, you will not waste your money on frivolities or be a victim of corporations that want to get your hard-earned coin.

Even Americans are waking up to the realization that the iPhone is a big scam but for our brain dead youth, it's not yet dawn.

Excuse me! Can you explain in detail to me why a financially buoyant person buying an iPhone 11 is a waste of money?

Remember That the whole thing is subjective.

Enough of the black is beautiful pretence!. Deep down most of us would really loved if we were Caucasians. Las las who no like better thing?

I am not in anyway supporting skin bleaching. Its a non starter.

This and other factors are the reasons am still a virgin.

How about the wife? Shouldn't she posses the same attributes? Remember its a two way street.

stella1997:
What will they tell God?

nothing. Same as when they were eating or sleeping.

Here we go again!.

They are adults let them be and mind your own business.

Tattooing is a matter of choice. It doesn't portray immorality like many conservatives here think.

I don't have any problems with a lady with tatoo. I am more concerned about how good her heart is. Thats paramount to me.

The problem here is you think every man is like you - shares your likes and dislikes. No, we are individuals and one mans meat is another mans poison.

Adamumd:
OK thanks English Messaih, i ll brush up on my grammar, mind you i wrote this in a rush and am sure everybody understands what I wrote but am always open to corrections so it's very okay. Thanks Prof.

Am not a prof. The manner you replied show your level of intelligence.

All good. Not surprise.

GraGra247:
Go to school and afterwards read my post again.

Signs of an unintelligent chap. I Asked you to prove your erroneous claim and you are here spewing nonsense.

And sure I will never stop learning till the day I stop breathing.

Anyway, give me proofs or STHU!

To the best of my knowledge the USA was already a great power right from the start of the 19th century. But became a superpower after the second world war. However, the colaspe of the former USSR sealed it position as the sole superpower in the world.

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GraGra247:
I would rather you stick to the chats and skip the escort part for security reasons. Except of course the fellow has to present his "genuine" international passport, national I.D for a lawyer to keep till he returns you safely.

Music celebrities like Olamide are glorifying rituals and drugs so nowhere is safe right now.

Can you prove it that olamide is a glorified ritualist? Or are you echoing hearsay?

Why not sit him down and communicate clearly to him. Its way better than making assumptions. Chances are he may or not be gay. Find it out.

But if you are not bold enough to face him then kindly stay away from him.

Terrible write up! Brush up on your grammar, it will save you from further embarrassment.

Anyway, one life skill you should learn is contentment. Be contented with what you have however it is. A bird in hand is......?

Am pretty sure there are tons of ladies out there who are way better than your crush Friend. So you will go about hopping from woman to another. It
doesn't makes sense.

Remember nobody is perfect.

piroux:
Lol, it's not a big deal though. In a way, the way he is has showed me what i don't want in a husband. The minute i meet a guy who says taking care of children is the woman' sole responsibility, I just smile and shift away kiakia.

I don't need any man calling me evil in the future because he invested money alone while i invested my heart in my children. If we do it together, no parent is ever forgotten. There are children[b][/b][b][/b] who take care of both children equally because they know that both of them invested in their lives.

[If you have been doing all you said above, then you're a good dad.[i] May you not get tired and may you enjoy the fruits of your labour.

excuse me, are you saying men who don't change diapers , bathe their kids and the likes are bad and unsuitable?

sassy92:
Nooooooooo. Just package yourself well, you'll need to explain to the VO why you're going for another Bsc and what you've been doing all these years

thanks mate.

nairalandposter:
Any reason why Singapore was mentioned?

my point is nowhere on this earth is crime-free, reason why I mentioned Singapore which according to statistics has one of the lowest crime rate in the world.

And beside, however, the Rascals we have here are a reflection of our dysfunctional country. If say they were born in a decent country like Denmark or any higly developed country chances are they wont be as inept as this.

And lastly nobody willingly choose to be a rascal. Sometimes life can be very unpredictable.

Gerrard59:
There's what is called perception and this plays a great role in how Nigerians are viewed outside the country. If a particular set of people commit certain crimes continually in a particular place, then the residents have every right to view these individuals in whatever way they like. Prior to 2006/7, Nigerians could go to Singapore visa free but when there was an increase in drug related crimes perpetrated by Nigerians in Singapore, she stopped the visa free policy and adopted stringent policies towards visa issuance to Nigerians. According to you, Singaporeans are insensible.

Black people are at the bottom of racial groups worldwide (believe it or not) and the last thing to worsen how others see you is to commit crimes or behave brutishly or become loud mouthed. Unlike so-called Nigerian intellectuals who make asinine comparisons to Russians or North Koreans for cyber crimes, I condemn them in its entirety. Why? Nigerians are black people and that's a leverage lost. So because Switzerland has criminals doesn't mean they will be treated like Nigerians. It sounds unfair but that's how the world is and is ridiculous to worsen the situation.

My advice stands: whenever a set of people who behave brutishly and are loud mouthed reside, it's best to disassociate oneself from them irrespective of national or ethnic links. I'm not the one who started the thread neither I'm the one who controls the perception of how Nigerians are viewed in Vietnam, China, Malaysia, or Cambodia. I'm not the one who makes asinine and inane comparisons to other countries' citizens when I know the leverage I have. I'm not immigration officials who set Nigerians at airports from other citizens for further investigation. I'm not the one who doesn't condemn crimes but rather blame unemployment even in the US. I'm not the one who export cult activities to foreign lands. But hey, whenever I see these people, I should associate with them.

it seems you really didn't get my point. Anyway let's agree to disagree.

Gerrard59:
Not just the aggressive culture but the quality of people who migrate to those countries. An instance is Malaysia, the kind of Nigerians who move to Malaysia is of very low quality compared to those who move to Singapore. This is because the former has a relaxed immigration process than the latter. Most of these people didn't finish secondary school or at best dropped out from the university. Similar behaviour displayed in Malaysia happens in Indonesia, Vietnam, Cambodia etc. To worsen issues, most Nigerians are loud mouthed and display criminal tendencies.

The poster above me said it all, when these set of persons behave stoopidly in Nigeria, how then do you expect them to behave rationally in foreign countries? And these are countries where the law works. It's why I don't feel for those who were affected by the xenophobia in South Africa (call me whatever you like) but until the vast majority of Nigerians start obeying the laws where they reside, they'd keep facing problems from the host. Furthermore, my mom who spent a greater number of years growing up in francophone countries across the continent explained that Nigerians especially Igbos tend to be loud mouthed, haughty, disobedient and dishonest to the host. Which is why according to her, most Nigerians were pursued while in Gabon when the Gabonese were fed up with their antics. There was a time she was in a restaurant in Togo when some ladies came to eat and during their ensuing discussion, they asked which country my mom and her colleagues come from. My mom responded Nigeria and these ladies left the restaurant! Thankfully, the set of Nigerians migrating to Canada are of a different mentality (similar to Singapore). However, the problem is that there's a tendency most will become "woke" and "liberal" and start demanding for rights they didn't ask while in Nigeria.

OP, my advise is that in a situation where the vast majority of Nigerians are brutish and rascally in behaviour, don't ever claim to be a Nigerian except to law authorities. Try as much as possible to disassociate yourself from them. Claim Ghanaian, Kenyan or Motswana (someone from Botswana)

P.S. So-called Nigerian intellectuals on social media will continue to blame foreigners for holding Nigerians accountable but there will come a time when the average Nigerian will be thoroughly despised and avoided. Also, stiffer immigration policies will make things harder to relocate because of brutish attitudes displayed by Nigerians. An instance was when Singapore cancelled the visa free status for Nigeria because most who utilised it were transporting drugs and Singapore has the death penalty. Today, it's extremely difficult to get a Singaporean visa from Nigeria even for those who got admitted to INSEAD Singapore campus. You must prove all provable to be granted visa. But hey, "foreigners are against us", "they're jealous of our hustling spirit". Nonsense and ingredients hustling!

I disagree with you. your reasons on why a Nigerian should disown his country because of the actions of few is unsubstantial and thoughtless. criminals are found everywhere from Switzerland to Singapore.

Even white people don't use the same paint to brush us, because every sensible person knows such people are a tiny percentage out of our mammoth population.

Fantasy!

Criminals are everywhere, not even in the most peaceful country-Singapore. But hey, make no mistake in developed countries, there is rule of law.

What are the chances of 30+ going for bsc in Germany?

Could he be rejected? Is age a factor?

Dummest post I have come across in a while.

How this crack head came to this conclusion about all men shows his level of intelligence.

That is the problem with abstinence. You definitely will capitulate in the heat of the moment therefore weakening your resolve. Better to enjoy these stuff right from start. And play safe of course!

Anyway, first thing go for a check up, any thing is possible, you know. Stop patronizing whores.

Look round there are lots of Hot ladies around, get yourself one, play safe!

A silent reader, however I must appreciate the incredible job you are doing here. Absolutely amazing!.

You are an inspiration to a lot of us back home, slowly but surely we will actualize our dreams

Cheers.

Ladylite:
Why not LIE that you got a job, and come to where your sisters are at, why not lie with proof of employment and escape. Inbox me, I can help

lie for what exactly? Are her parents aliens? If she lied to them sooner or later they will find out the truth and it will make an already difficult situation worse. Honesty is the best policy.

Am 23 and exactly in the same boat with you.

Congrat man! Am sorry about what you passed through. Absolutely heartbreaking.

I wish you goodluck and don't forget to keep us updated.

A great thread!. I am enjoying every bit. However, what culture shock did you experience as a black person?