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Quite a funny post. Your marriage lacks effective communication and you know it's the backbone of every successful union.

There is room for improvement you can start making changes today.

fk001:
Nonsense

So Many Nigerians are not patriots, slightest opportunity given to them, they will insult Nigeria. We have alot of beautiful places in this country that she would have use to recreate the picture maybe even beautiful than where she snapped the first.


No country in this world that doesn't have slum.

I like how people like you always try to downplay how bad this country is. And saying all countries have slum is a silly argument, because the average slum in say Germany is where the average millonare here reside. Probably you are living in mid-income neighborhood therefore you have no idea what current realities are. Personally speaking I am a very patriotic citizen of Nigeria but that doesn't mean I shouldn't say reality. Saying otherwise is sheer dishonesty and akin to self-deception. The country is in a very bad state at the moment, mentioning some of the its challenges will consume bulk of my time. We condemn,criticize and castigate when necessary and no soul can stop that not even the inept being in aso rock. Deal with it.

melodynk01:
The x-rated movies you watch, why do you think they put"not suitable for persons under 18" there?

meaningless assumption. You mustn't comment on anything.

judgementyard:
Calling someone's effort trash?
Time will judge you, you this anyhow person

take your stupidity elsewhere.

lexdino:
I work Monday to Fridays (and some Saturdays) too and it's 4 months now since I became single again but I have successfully placed 6 girls on rotation at the moment, calling each one of them just once per week. Some weeks, all 6 flakes, other weeks I get sex from 2-4 among them. Among these 6, I only had to approach 1 when I got the right opportunity. The other 5 were girls I met through social network. Two of the girls journey from a very far distance when coming to my house and one of them doesn't complain about t-fare but the other is always demanding for t-fare and even went as far as snatching my wallet (jokingly) one time to confirm if I really don't have money because I always complain about not having money each time she demands for t-fare.
The funny thing is that 2 among these 6 are already demanding for exclusiveness from me but I'm not willing to clip my wings just too quickly. In 2017,before I became exclusive with my ex, I had 11 girls on rotation despite working 5-6 days a week too.
The reason I'm telling you all these is because being busy with work makes you scarce and increases your value to women, if you know how to play your cards right.
If you need any help on how to improve your game, you can ask me and I will assist you with the best of my knowledge.

thumbs up man! I really got your point. I am also Single at the moment. yet to find one that actually meet my standards. finding my right girl is becoming a mirage to me.

Why are you discriminating against people below 18? Ain't they matured enough to handle this trash you spill here? As far as I am concerned a 16 year old is an adult. And may even be more sensible,smarter, decent than a 40 plus.

So what's your point ?

comradewanle:
so south africa is also feeling the heat.

which heat if I may ask? If you are referring about border closure then you are probably deluded and to some extent have no idea of what you are talking about.

Mine would be Switzerland for obvious reasons: Liberal and forward thinking,Prosperous, a welfare state, low crime rate, highly efficient economy, clean and safe and the list continue.

Runners up should be England, the Netherlands and Denmark.

Well, imagine the stress average guys passed
through just to tour an average shit hole like Seychelles. That's African countries for you, lagging way behind when it comes to civilization.

I bet you won't encounter a quarter of these nonsense if it was a decent European country like Monaco or the Spanish island of Ibiza.

Edoloaded:
Yes I did that oh.. i was even thinking that maybe the more we talk and play with eachother the more bonded we become

then forget it bro. They probably just wanna be friends with you but the more important thing which is sexual attractiveness ain't there. So the ball is in your court, either you remain friends with them or
you walk away and find someone finds you attractive and more importantly want to be your friend.

Edoloaded:
Okay good day guys have been thinking about this issue for a while now. I have like let's say two girls have been asking out for a while now the surprising thing is that we are kind of close to the extent that I sometimes just hold them inappropriately and they don't even react just let me touch and kiss sometimes and stuff like that but when they are with their friends they introduce me as their bestie so I'm wondering what actually does this bestie mean because me I don't understand is it that they just want me close but they can't date me or what. cuz me and I'm just confused. do any of you guys have any similar experience

Girls I want to know what do you mean by my bestie

have you made your mind clear to them? I mean have you actually come forward and speak out your feelings?

Let's start from here

Get more busy. Engage more in your hobbies. Go out and meet new people. Socialize more.

I have been there.

Freehuman:
JUST HAVE ONE CHILD, WORK DAY AND NIGHT TO TRAIN THE CHILD. EACH MONTH PUT 100,000 NAIRA IN YOUR CHILD'S ACCOUNT. AFTER HIS SECONDARY SCHOOL ,SEND HIM TO A DEVELOPED COUNTRY FOR STUDIES. THAT'S THE SUREST WAY OF BREAKING GENERATIONAL POVERTY OR THE VICIOUS CIRCLE OF POVERTY


MANY NIGERIANS WILL ASK GOD "WHEN"? THE POWER IS IN YOUR HANDS. YOU CAN BREAK GENERATIONAL POVERTY BY CONTROLLING HOW YOU BREED. EVEN IF YOU ARE NOT THE RICHEST , AT LEAST LET THE POVERTY IN YOUR GENERATION END WITH YOU. IF HALF OF THE CURRENT POPULATION YET TO HAVE KIDS DO THIS, NIGERIA WOULD BECOME A BETTER PLACE WITH JOBS AND MONEY ENOUGH FOR EVERY FAMILY AND NOT JUST ONE FAMILY

you just said what I frequently think about.

Stupid threads left, right and center.

If you are in good terms with a lady she will even probably be the one to reward you after a pleasurable sex. But even if you paid for it so what? Who has the moral code to judge if its wrong or right? Ain't you an adult? Who cares?

Your sweeping generalization is ridiculous. You don't know the reality of every guy. Not every one is like you,you know.

stanliwiser:
Mistake 101, if you try this, she will sweet talk you and tell you that you're paranoid. Don't try this at home.

It will even make you look less of a man, Girls of this nature are well prepared against confrontation of this manner.

there is nothing unmanly here. Its a matter of figuring out things logically. If I have an issue with anyone, I prefer we talk about it. After that I will pay attention and see if the outcome is effective. The moment I realize am been taking for granted I will simply walk away from such toxic relationship. There are lots of decent people out willing to give true love you know, so why should I stress myself? This is a more sensible approach. And more importantly I have nothing to lose.

Victorex001:
Thanks, I appreciate your encouragement.

I guess you’re over there right? I plan on coming to do an engineering course, I studied B.Eng Chemical Engineering....
Would the German school in Lagos here be of help? I saw it’s 65-90k for 11-13wks learning...

Am not currently in Germany. Yes it would be of great help to you because by the time you arrived in Germany you would have know how to speak the language and that is a huge advantage.

Victorex001:
Thanks for feedback.

But Boss you keep mentioning me exhausting my block account, pls come out Sincerely and direct, do you mean I won’t easily find menial jobs? Or...
Like I said earlier, my Block account is my lifetime savings if I come over there and can’t find a job while my block account is exhausted I’m doomed and I wouldn’t want to put myself in such situation...where would I get another block account to renew my visa the next year or feed....things like that push ppl to desperation.

Pls come out directly, tell me the reality over there and let me know exactly what I’m getting myself into, the indirectly answers everyone has been giving are helping....things like this push ppl to do illegals when they get over there becos one has to know exactly what he/she is getting himself into.

Coming is not a problem, I have 5m fixed to abroad abroad, I would like to know exactly what I’m getting myself into. I even have a mom whom I intend to send at least 50€ monthly for feeding.
But everyone seems to be hiding some realities n are not coming out straight....Help a brother pls.

Pls anyone with direct, blunt, reality n sincere experiences n advise.

Thanks everyone.

I perfectly understand your fears and worries. I can relate bro. I feel you will sort out things when you get there. Though it ain't gonna be easy, but its doable. People seem to be hiding vital informations for reasons beyond me. Or worse sugar coat or misled you.

I will urge you to try as much as you can to learn Deutsch. It importance can't be overstated. Also equip yourself with some relevant skills. Chances are you will find minimal jobs even in smaller cities (but opt for bigger cities, the bigger the better)

Here is my take:
1. That you won't touch your BA money is to some extent impossible and unrealistic. But try to be as frugal and economical as you can. Live within your means.
2. Get mini jobs and save wisely.
3. You may even be fortunate to have someone lend you this sums at the end of the year or better still you may land a lucrative part time job.

Its possible. Don't limit yourself, be optimistic and have a positive mind. I can assure you you will turn out fine.

Jessejoe07:
What can someone do to erase it's regretful past..

Am not sure if there is anything you do to change your past. Its gone. The most sensible thing now is to live a more better life now and plan for the future. There is hope that one day things will be better.

motionarena:
There is this girl am dating, and we love eachother or so i think.

She is fund of doing something that pisses me off.
She at times uploads her WhatsApp status with random guys but that is not the worrying part.

The strange thing is the caption that follow the status.
She will give d guys pics captions like
"My love, i will always love you"
And stuffs like that.

I have seen her do this for 3 guys on three different occasions.

When i query her and ask her why she will do such, she will say they are just ex-school friend's that the guy in particular has helped her in the past and she is just appreciating them.

And mind u this same girl i think loves me has never uploaded a pic of me on her own status to appreciate me.

I beginning to look stupid.

I get you bro. Remember to "trust people actions and not their words". She clearly knows what she is doing and she is happy that she is getting away with it.

Am not sure she truly loves you(even if she does it must be negligible). you need to man up and have an honest discussion with her regarding exs and male friends, state clearly what and what acceptable. Make sure the outcome is something you are comfortable with. But if she object, then toss her out and walk away because thats a toxic relationship. and I can guarantee that you will be better off without her.

Quality20:
And u think she gonna give honest answers.?

since you are quite aware of how dishonesty she is, why be with her? Isn't it more sensible to walk away from such toxic relationship?

Nigsrdumb:
You are a weed smoker .. lol making assumptions about people you don't know because you expect everyone to be like you.

Do you want people to post their pictures as prove.

Lunatic �

You are yet to prove the lies you made up there.

What astonished me wasn't even the lie itself but the manner in which you try to down play and try to spin it is beyond me.

A dishonourable lowlife is what you are.

Nigsrdumb:
You are a weed smoker .. lol making assumptions about people you don't know because you expect everyone to be like you.

Do you want people to post their pictures as prove.

Lunatic �

you have no self no respect man! I am not sure if I my hands have ever feel what weed is.

You are a disgusting pile of trash.

Nigsrdumb:
Prove what claims, you seem very immature.

My point was clear.

1 u need papers , skills and credit worthiness to succeed in Europe

2 on a salary of 100k pounds , you are not guaranteed to become a millionaire.

3 don't travel via Libya or a visiting visa ,it could be challenging and u may end a slave in Libya

4 if you have capital, pr, connections u could make money faster in Nigeria.

5 populism is on the rise in Europe along with the possibility of a recession, it's only going to get tougher

6 self enlightenment means I prefer my own country.

What did I say that's so alarming

I don't need your sermons! I am up to date with current events not only on things concerning Europe but the world at large. So keep your stuffs to yourself. You have no idea what plans people are devising to better their future. That you even mentioned the Libyan route says enough about you. And who told you the sole aim of people leaving this shit hole is to make money? You are wrong. Quality of life is something money can't get you. Polpulism is on the rise? So what? Ain't we battling with ethnic, religious and political tensions here.

You are sounding ridiculous!.

And your 4th point about making money in Nigeria. That again proves my presumptions that you are out of touch with reality. For the records Nigeria is ranked near-bottom on the ease of doing business. Its currently one of the hardest place on earth to do business.( frequent power cuts, insecurity, weak economy and so on ) what's your point sef? More than half of its population are living on less than (1.9$). extreme poverty. The country is on its knees and people like you seem to be down playing the reality.

Enough of this nonsense man!

What sort of people are in this thread? I mean lies and misinformations right, left and center. And we complain of leaders when we ourselves lack integrity. The inept people at the helm of affairs in this country are products of our dysfunctional societies. For this country to change we must change our mentality.

Imagine two crack heads up there. One telling us he made more than 30 m in the lat two years and the other on how engineers make 500 pounds per day.(its obvious he knew its a lie) And lots of silly lies up there. Imagine? Who are you gonna to impress with these nonsense? Certainly not me.

This disgusting lack of integrity most of our people posses has done a lot of damage to us collectively and if we continue this way am afraid it will take us nowhere.

Nigsrdumb:
You could at least explain why I'm wrong.

I know folks earning 500 pounds per day doing contract work , maybe on some coded council flat run , very comfortable but will never be millionaires.


You don't get it , don't know if you one of those jolly just come..hey gang in there.

U may need d attached

still spewing nonsense. I challenge you to prove your claims.

Ladies and gentlemen I present to you the greatest liar in this thread.

Nigsrdumb:
Europe is a shit hole, it's designed to keep you alive and happy to a certain extent but not to be rich ...

On a doctor's salary of 100k pounds per annum, your disposable income is slightly over one thousand pounds per week after tax , and you have to pay your bills from that.
In Nigeria u can become rich if u use ur brain. Eg sell any product at a profit margin of 5760 to 60000 people , u don become millionaire be that.

U have to ask yourself why the Chinese r coming to Nigeria/Africa.

I regret coming to Europe, thankfully Ive re strategized for Nigeria,and I can tell you it's been positive despite all the screams about Nigeria being a horrible country.

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Your idiocy is legendary! Am pretty sure lot of guys would laughed off your comment and they will be like see "mumu"

Not really. But why not ask her - and get honest answers.

But remember you can always walk away if things don't seem to be working.

Here we go with another load of nonsense. Am Tired of this frequent ridiculous generalization and silly stereotype about men.

stagger:
Dumbest advice ever.

The freelance license in Dubai costs $7,500 per annum. You are tied to work in the region where the sponsoring agency is located. Then you have to pay for accommodation, transportation, etc. Where will his $1,500 a month take him?

you fail to realize that a struggling economy affects everyone regardless of profession. As far as am concerned this guy will be better off in Dubai than turkey, simply because of the booming economy there.

And who told you freelance license is free in turkey?

You mentioned accommodation and transport? Does he get that free in turkey? Aren't you sounding dumb?