Coming from a man, he hit the nail on the head! If we as women could take these words of wisdom to heart we'll save ourselves a lot of unnecessary stress and heartaches.

Love isn't just an emotion. I believe Love is also a choice.

I look at relationships these days (e.g. marriages in particular) and you hear people getting divorce because the love doesn't exist anymore. I ask, do you stop loving your mum/dad just because they pissed you off? I believe not. So why do people stop loving their spouses based on the filmiest excuses.

I find it hilarious when you see grown men/women crying because they were denied visa! This thread is too damn funny!

You sure its not your breath Mr? Some breathes would actually make you cry a river.

Raiders:
your friend is stingy lady. What is wrong with a woman helping out her husband with paying for the bills. I hate stingy women

By their words you shall know them! Anu Ofia! You are the lazy man who would leech on a woman like a parasite! I hate lazy men who are shameless enough to be fully dependent on a woman! The same way I do not condone women who fully depend on a man!

There is absolutely no issue with the woman contributing to the household or assisting with the bills, but demanding that she submits her whole monthly income to you is just foolish! Maka gini! That man can go to blazes for all I care!

Women be carrying this marriage thing on their heads like that's your sole aim in life! No man can kill me because I'm married to him! At the end of the day if we die, we all get buried in different coffins, so why should one man be causing me unnecessary stress! Mba nu!

I love when my man calls me baby. . .Gives that butterfly feeling.

However if its a guy I have absolutely no romantic attachment/feeling for, its plain annoying and irritating!

Media Law & Turkish 101. Both courses were crazy but pulled through.

You sure about that? Looks could be quite deceiving.

That picture is from 2012, very misleading please take it down!

You friend shouldn't have married her if he knew he couldn't forgive and forget.

I wanna believe this is a made up joke?

Lol. This is just crazy.

Seems like a good initiative. But would this actually be implemented?

I'm sorry but I'm gonna spank the crap out of my kids when they act up. I lived abroad for a while and I've seen the outcome of their way of raising kids.

safarigirl: Being born into a society such as the Nigerian one connites certain things for a female.

From the day you can tell your right from your left, you're basically taught to be subservient to men. You're told that your place is in the kitchen and your brothers' place is in front of the television. Most of all, you're told that your only purpose in this world, is to fulfill the desires of some dude, serve him and bear his children. You are not to aspire for anything more and failure to live up to these expectations means failure as a person.

Well, this thread was inspired by a certain thread that was on FP today:

https://www.nairaland.com/1911041/why-nigerian-girls-should-not

Now, the stupidity of this thread is baffling. Basically, it's some lady telling females to settle for less. Telling us that we do not deserve the best and we shouldn't make any efforts to aspire for such because that would be foolhardy.

I honestly sympathise with her that she was unable to get the man of her desires, and eventually chose to settle for Plan B, who in fact was not what she desired, but as they say, when the desirable is not available, the available becomes desirable.

Time and again on Nairaland you find numerous chauvinists telling women basically that they have no opinion, telling us that we ought to dance skelewu because one of these rare species called 'men' looked upon us with pity and decided to marry us. And for those poor souls like Rita Dominic, Linda Ikeji and Genevieve Nnaji who are yet to be honored witha wedding ring? They should keep praying the rosary and hope they don't die 'marriageless'

Marriage is the be all and end all of a woman, therefore, she must settle for a raggamuffin if she hasn't found a gentleman at the ripe 'OLD' age of 27. Once you're through with University, your next bus stop should be a man's house.

Many women have ended up in loveless, frustrating marriages after settling for less, because all your friends got married after University doesn't mean you must marry at that time. Don't be the one whose story ends with 'Had I Known'

Feel free to live a little, keep your head on your shoulders, walk with your chin up, if you want your man to be as tall as Lebron James, don't settle for Tom Cruise, if you want him to be as charming as Antonio Banderas, don't settle for Al Pacino, if you want him to be as fit as CR7, don't settle for Mr. Ibu. If you must settle for less, let it be reasonable, don't go from a Lebron to a Kevin Hart because you're 'getting old and all your mates are married" no be who marry first dey happy pass.

Even the bible says "ask and it shall be given unto you" so if you tell God "I will manage..." He will bless you with a 'manageable' man.

God bless you as you settle with the best

touché!

I remember chloroquine as a child! That sh*t got me dancing awilo and azonto combined!

She looks a hot mess! She acts like a 50 year old woman going through menopause!

I have to agree Emirates inflight entertainment is the sh*t...But I'll give their food zero as well as Turkish airlines! Qatar has good food especially their Nigeria Doha route.

I could talk to him about anything and everything.

kaka22:
Amen... I've discovered that MOST people that go around talking about how what one made in school won't affect one's future are those that didn't make 1st class or 2.1. They always try to pass their defeatist mentality to those that made good grades so that they can be at the same level. It is not everyone that will be entrepreneurs and it is not everyone that will be employees but those that made good grades through God's grace and their efforts(not through bribing lecturers) have upper hand in seeking employment and getting scholarships to further their studies.

I wish you best of God in getting that scholarship.

Thank you.

1one:

We should open another thread.. "HOW TO FLASH LIGHT-5 Essential things every lady needs to flash the correct shade and intensity of green light"

Lmao!

kaka22: @op... Well done, you are on point. To make at least 2.1 is not everything, it is the only thing. The issue of connection is over-exaggerated in Nigeria. Yes, we have issues like nepotism,favouritism and connections(who you know) but that doesn't mean that there are no companies that recruit based on merit. MOST people who come out to say that 'what you have in school will not determine where and who you will be in future' are the unfortunate and the unlucky. What you have in school will surely determine who and where you will be in future. If you later establish your company/business you can be rest assured that you still have your 2.1 or first class pali(certificate) to search for work when the need arises.Yes, we have some 2.2 and third class fellows that are making it but that doesn't mean that 2.1 fellows are also not making it. I make bold to say that the percentage of 2.2 and third class jobless fellows is more than that of 2.1 and first class. Even if you won't use your 2.1 to work, still make sure you have it because you never know...

Advice for undergraduates
Avoid anybody that discourages you from graduating with 2.1 or first class. Such individual doesn't wish you well. One of the laws in 48 laws of power says that avoid the unlucky and the unfortunate.

Last bullet: Yes, 2.1 or first class is not everything but make sure you have it before saying that nonsense...

GOD BLESS YOU!!!

I cannot stand when people come out to say oh your grade doesn't determine your success! Yes it doesn't but trust me it gives you an advantage over others! I got a job a month before I finished service, I get invited to interviews like crazy, that I have to start turning some down!

I'm planing on doing my masters next year and the schools I'm interested in, said I''m qualified for a scholarship because of my grades! So for undergraduates who have the opportunity to get it right, do not allow anyone tell you good grades do not matter because they do! So work hard! Get those good grades and do not stop trying to improve yourself!

Number 9 was very popular with my mum!

MizMyColi:
Ohohohhoho

@TheEmboldened should become a word on marble.

Somebody will quote her now and say, she's unafrican, how can she possibly choose to be single.

But I know what she driving at and I support that

Trust me dear, I've stopped caring what anyone thinks a long time ago. My life, my choices.

MizMyColi:

So, I stumbled on a thread on here yesterday on why the “beautiful” ones are still single and the “ugly” ones keep clinching the best mates in town.

I laughed.

I can only imagine the kind of depression it would cause a beautiful guy or lady with different varieties of poor self image or worse still one who just got jilted and vice versa, seeing that post and some comments made there in (especially those who haven’t grown a turtle shell for NL).

The general impression is that, once, according to societal standards, a person is deemed beautiful, he or she couldn’t possibly lack the constant attention and companionship of the opposite sex (same sex in some cases).
It’s even worse for a Nigerian female because she is “supposed” to be married at latest, 25.
If she isn’t, then something must be wrong somewhere.
What about those who are 30, 35 and unmarried
Their own must be a deliverance case!

It won’t be strange finding a lady who is under so much/so little/subtle pressure to tie the knot already or win herself a man (like he is a trophy of sorts) asking herself questions in the lines of:
Why can’t I keep a man?
Am I an Ogbanje?
Am I cursed?
Maybe my stepmother is after my progress?
Is it because I’m not a virgin?
Is it because I’m a virgin?
Maybe I have a smelling character that repels men from afar? (even though she’s consciously working at being better)
Maybe this my dressing is too holy holy
Maybe this my dressing and piercings is/are too Ashi-ish
I could go on and on……..

The opinion of guys, on this subject range from “men are intimidated by her (especially if she’s successful too)”.
“She’s a runs girl” etc.


For me, why a single beautiful girl is single is entirely her business and is not for me or anyone else to puzzle out.
Her being single doesn’t make her less or being engaged make her more.
I say treat ladies with respect, out of the mind-set that they are not incomplete for whatever cause they are single.
Relieve them of the pressure of the lies that they are less without a man in their arms.
#NuffSaid



The quote below might inspire someone out there, so I thought to share here, with permission from my diary:
"I'd rather be the prize you felt you deserved, than be the option you felt forced to settle for. If we BOTH don't feel blessed to have one another, then we shouldn't be together." ~Rob Hill Sr.

Right on point girl! Its funny that some Nigerians most especially the men folk, find it hard to believe that a lady can choose to be single.

Its all about personal choice. I made a conscious decision a long time ago, that I wasn't gonna allow family or society dictate how I live my life or influence personal choices that affects me or my happiness. At the end of the day, when I die, I'm buried alone in the coffin. Quality over quantity any day please.

I'm single because I'm not willing to settle for less than I deserve. I'm too selfish to be in an unhappy relationship and marriage so as soon as I start talking to a guy and I sense his gonna be trouble, I run. I love my happiness and peace of mind way too much to settle.

Apart from that there is just sooo much I wanna do and accomplish, so taking out that time to improve myself in terms of professional and development.

free2ryhme:


A sharp tongue is no indication of a keen mind. Keep commenting may be someday you will say post sumtin intelligent.

Even after his supposedly "brilliant" farewell speech, he still couldn' t help responding. now who's the unintelligent one.

OK I'll stop cus I can sense you about to cry. Aiight. It was fun dear. Toodles.

free2ryhme:




I will avoid as much as possible the name calling. As regard your question ur hand dey scratch you go look am up for dictionary then revert and for the records I don't deviate I state the facts the way they are. I don't raise hands during roll call we do the roll call and others raise hands. Have a nice evening !

I bet you feeling soooo fly with your closing speech? You must be patting yourself now on the shoulder?

What you lack in intelligence, you more than make up for in stupidity and cheap talk. Keep up the good work!

Anyways, it was fun exchanging banters with you. Next time try not to burst a nerve.

yousouphe: I pray this ebola doesn't manifest later, cuz we ve been hearing successfuly managed and discharged without the presssumed vaccine that works for ebola ,now US is praising Nigeria the same US that refused us their ZMAPP isn't this questionable ?

Thank you!

So let me get this straight, I wash my hands, I walk into through the security door, I have to press the button to get inside.

Lets assume I've got sweaty palms, then someone else after me presses that same button. I mean doesn't that defeat the whole purpose?

DoTheNeedful:

You are still very young ,hence the above. You are most likely to be under 25 years . I can only take what you wrote up there serious from a 40 -year-old woman that is genuinely happily unmarried . You still dont know your left from right . Continue enjoying the dates while they last

Lol. . .I'll keep enjoying them!