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. . .You see why I like me some tall, dark, chocolate smoothie. . .

I don't think friendship is forced. . .you don't wanna be nice. . .you don't just wanna be nice. . .simple!

Of course you'll fall in love again. . .and when you do it will heal all the past hurts. . .trust me!

I think this question should be directed to guys. . .I guess the few good eggs have been affected by so many bad eggs. . .

Most of the guys are full of shit. . .so maybe such a lady has been with so many bad eggs that when she finally meets a good egg she finds it hard to believe he's just nice. . .

Exactly if he's your bf why don't you know his numba by heart?

bros1234:
This lady is not married so pls disregard her. She is still looking for miracle husband.

This is the best advise in this thread. Listen to it or you will soon be a single parent

LMfao. . .really? Am I? Well point of correction Mr Man! I do not fall into the category of women who think that being married defines their ultimate happiness. . .I'll rather stay unmarried than be someone's punching bag!

FYI am in my early 20s and not lacking suitors!  but I won't settle for less just because I wanna be married or stay married. . .hell Nah! 

I simply cannot stand or tolerate all these Nigerian women who say be patient, pray bla bla bla. . .pray for who? a man who beats a woman without considering a baby?

I come from a home where my dad never laid his hands on my mother for any reason at all. . .no matter what. . .so why should I tolerate it?

I feel women who think its ok for a man to beat them. . .must be use to such treatment and therefore see nothing wrong with that. . .

Let me tell you I have seen this up close and personal. . .My aunt was beaten to a pulp several times by her ex-husband. . .she carried it to the igbo community where she stays. . .what was the advice they gave her? to be a patient wife bla bla bla? WTF!

It was when she almost lost her twins and her own life after being beaten by this same man. . .she had to call the cops. . .everything was sorted out and she's doing far better now without the idiot in her life. . .

So puhleaseee. . .spare me all the bullshit. . .I believe if he hit you once. . .he'll do it again whether you provoke him or not. . .now you don't wait till your dead and gone before taking action!

omar22:
on the other hand,


Whats wrong with her call the cops? should she wait for him to knock 7 bells out of her, in 1995 a Nigerian beat his wife to death only because she didn't want to call the police due to his immigration status, she died because of blood clot to the brain but the husband thought he was dishing out a lesson (well that's what he said in court).

Look I would tell any woman, "if the husband is dishing out a beating to you" you have a duty to report him, run or wait and see how strong your chin is when he lands the blows

I'm glad you finally see where I'm coming from. . .I lost a family friend to this same issue and almost lost an aunt to this same issue. . .The bastard kept on beating her. . .and she was then 7months pregnant with her twins.  . .now in such situation some blind peeps would come and tell me she should have still stayed married to a demented fool who can beat up a pregnant woman just because she wants to keep the married status?

geez some women need to be woken up!

Tell them all to go to hell! Can't stand all this f**ked up elders who try to force their beliefs on other peeps. . .Why don't they offer up their own sons to the woman now? Since they are so caring. . .

Don't allow anyone steal your future from you!

Responsibilty ko. . .helping ni. . .Mchewwwwwwwwwwww. . .

omar22:
THIS IS AN ENGLISH PERSON

Calling me an English person makes no difference. . . She hitting him back was totally uncalled for. . .I do not support that at all!

She also should learn to control her tongue and temper. . .still doesn't warrant the man beating her up!

Read her story. . .obviously its not the first time he's hit her?

Now a man who can hit you without thinking of your child. . .can kill you!

So because I'm in love and married. . .I'll allow some idiot kill me before I do what's right. . .We only live once. . .I didn't come to this world with anyone. . .so I won't allow some demented fellow cut it short. . .because I'm hooked up. . .

I won't also say because I want to stay married and dead. . .then allow some idiot beat me up!  

skyone:
then she should divorce him ini, you are big fool, she knowz why she didn't call the popos and i respect that. plz stop giving devilish advise if you've got nothing in your empty banging brain of no human use.

Just imamgine nairaland, ' she's insunuating that any slight domestic problem warrants her to call the military against her spouse i pity you, ' i'm sure you are either a lone parent or street buster of a kind.

lmfao. . .you think your insult means shit to me?      

work yourself up dude. . .while I sip on my soda here. . .

I don't mean to be rude. . .but honestly when would some women just wisen up, stop being foolish and chasing after lost shadows? 

Your story is just so?

So you lost your phone? You didn't save his number somewhere else?

Hitting him back wasn't a wise choice. . .sorry I would have called the cops were I in that situation. . .screw what anyone says. . .he hit you once without even considering your baby. . .he would do it again!

Speak for yourself or the minority you've come across that enjoy a guy treating them as shit. . .




And Nope I do not want a dude who ain't treating me right the reason why the dude messes up and his outta of the door. . .no crosses or checks!

My dear, my only advice to you is let go. . .
The message below by T.D jakes has really helped me a lot. . .you need to read it and put it not practice. . .I hope it helps.

Let it go,
By T. D. Jakes

There are people who can walk away from you.

And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk
away from you: let them walk.
I don't want you to try to talk another person into
staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to
see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone.

When people can walk away from you let them walk.
Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.

The bible said that, they came out from us
that it might be made manifest that they were not for
us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have
continued with us. [1 John 2:19]

People leave you because they are not joined to you.
And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay.

Let them go.


And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it just
means that their part in the story is over. And you've got
to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep
trying to raise the dead.

You've got to know when it's dead.

You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell you
something. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's the tenth spiritual gift, I
believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm
faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me.
And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it. Stop begging people to stay.

Let them go!!

If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong
to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to,

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to past hurts and pains ,

LET IT GO!!!

If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and
see your worth,

LET IT GO!!!

If someone has angered you ,

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge,

LET IT GO!!!

If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction,

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents ,

LET IT GO!!!

If you have a bad attitude,

LET IT GO!!!

If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better,

LET IT GO!!!

If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take

you to a new level in Him,

LET IT GO!!!

If you are struggling with the healing of a broken
relationship,

LET IT GO!!!

If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try
to help themselves,

LET IT GO!!!

If you're feeling depressed and stressed ,

LET IT GO!!!

If there is a particular situation that you are so
used to handling yourself

and God is saying "take your hands off of it,"

then you need to,

LET IT GO!!!

Let the past be the past. Forget the former things.
GOD is doing a new thing in your life,


LET IT GO!!!



Get Right or Get Left
. think about it, and then ,

LET IT GO!!!

"The Battle is the Lord's!"

Going for weekends and all that fine. . .but moving into his house. . .nah!

You better avoid her. . .nothing good comes out of such involvement!

You for real? cus your reasons are just so absurd!

Two can play that game! 

whitelexi:
Dude, your girlfriend is just very rude, i wonder how u put up with her, she comes across like very childish and the type that will find it very difficult to stay in a relationship. . .  When she eventually cons a man into marrying her, she will give him a heart attach oh

I think thoniaslim is just showing her true colors, pls ignore her

Your simply a fool. . .So Ignored!

@topic

long yawn. . .yea rite!

lmfao. . .

3spade3:
I don't have any. Before you jump to conclusions, I'm setting the foundation so I can take care of my wife and kids lordwilling.

Why am I not surprised you don't have any!

3spade3:
The 3 S's of being a woman

1. Simple
2. Silent
3. Submissive

All women should be like this. ALL!!!

silent? Interesting. . .Good so I bet your gf/fiancee/wife must be a zombie?

LMFAO

Pilots does it for me. . .aren't they just smoking hot in their outfits? Damn!

You've started something, and your almost there. . .complete it up dude.

Your doing a really good course and an opportunity to travel abroad would arise in the future. . .

how are you so sure the grass is greener at the other end?

You really wanna be at the mercy of her and her uncle? cus I won't be surprised if that happens. . .

So because of some childish  school meeting you come to the conclusion or rather question "why are girls like this?   

I can't even believe you can bring such a flimsy issue ere. . .Honestly like how old are you peeps, 10?

Are you a kid who just got access to the internet?

Leave her alone pls that's child abuse! are all the 20s ladies gone?