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If you are finding out just for confirmation of what is very likely. Then don't go wasting money, just fake it like someone already advised.
But if you want to find out so you can take any serious action, then you should really do the test and confirm so you don't go acting on assumptions.

But it's late. You had to wait 30yrs before you grew the mind to investigate what's not right. What are you going to do now that will matter.
The time has passed too much to make any ammends.

murphyibiam15:
All these you're saying is in the situation the man wants to listen. What if the man sends the mom and him out which is very much likely

That's very unlikely to happen. Most dads won't have annoyance towards the child, as he has no hand in the betrayal. It's the wife that gets to feel any action he might take in anger.
Since the boy is now a grown up capable of feeling the pains of a fellow man, I think the dad will listen.

The only thing I know that will spoil everything is him trying to advocate for the mom.

Only him can truly save the family sef. This is his chance to be a hero.

SmellySperm:
You just corroborated with what I said earlier na. No point for the show off

Not really. Your first comment is more of condemning virginity, than condemning the public show of it.

SmellySperm:
Yeah highly commendable but must you snap and show to the world? All this social media marriages sha

Though I don't see the need to show it to the world. But what do you expect when we live in a world that a 14yr old is already well into sex.
The decay in the society made her think what should be a normal is now worth celebrating

SmellySperm:
Virginity doesn't guarantee perfect marriage.

Are you deliberately bending things now?
No one said it guarantees the success of anything, but it's commendable.

Though virginity might not add any material thing to the marriage. But I still think marrying a virgin version of a particular girl is always better than marrying the non virgin version of the same girl.

Barrister026:
My dad called me on the phone 2 days ago asking if I be coming home for the holiday, which is unlikely of him, because I just left home not quite long and he hardly call. (I school within our state, studying law)..... while we were on the call he mentioned about the Dr appointment. (We normally do routine check-up every 2 months )

Throwing the question to me if I even know my blood group. (I replied, no)
At FIRST I thought it's just a normal question.

Am 21yrs old, eldest among 3 siblings and I think my dad has something planned out, he's an Internet freak even more than I, he's actively online on twitter, facebook, and seeing all the uproars about DNA test here and there on Nairaland, I think he's going to ask me to come to the hospital with him disguising it as me Knowing my blood group (for a DNA test.)

The thing here is am scared, because all my life I have seen people saying never to trust a woman (I love my mom, but still am scared)

What if it's a DNA test (which I strongly believe it is)
What if it's turns out complicated
Would he still accept me? Or abandon me to myself.
So many thoughts running through my head, they are reasons for that.

He's black, I am fair (though my mum says I took his father complexion)


Pls help me...am thinking to stay back in school or go home This evening.
Am confused.

For you to be afraid shows you have ample doubt he's your dad.

Just allow him do the test and don't in anyway try to discourage him.

If it turns out you're not his. Have a man to man conversation with him and tell him you still want to belong with him. Reassure him you would always be as much of a son as his own child could be.

Make it very evident that you're mad at your mom for holding up such high level of betrayal for over 20yrs. The big mistake you will make is to side your mom, or try to defend her, or try to advocate for softer punishment. Allow and support him in any way he wants to punish your mom.

Afterwards. When things get cooler, you can talk to your dad to possibly forgive your mom.
You stand ten times more chance reconciling and saving your family, than a thousand village elders. But for you to wield this power, you must totally support your dad in the disagreement that will come up and show zero support for your mom.

That is if you are not his

A305:
You explaination pertaining to Earth is the affirmation of Earth 9% gravity.

Mars has 30% gravity, this is why Gravity on Mars is slower than on Earth.

Umm. Make me understand please. Does it mean I've been wrong thinking earth has a stronger gravity than Mars?

A305:
You truly mixing things up. And i don't want to make this seem like a back and forth argument because that fact(s) is scattered right here on the internet.

I take lessons from Neil Dygress Tyson and Prof Lawrence Krauss, so I will not argue what i know and spend more time still learning.

If you say your answer right over mine — then you right, but your answer won't change the objective fact of knowledge.

Astronomy and physics are so fun to learn and same time humbling that they changed my world view from being Atheist to Agnotic.

And by the way:

We know the other 3 dimensions, just study harder to figure it out yourself.

Oh. I see I've been conversing with Einstein himself. I would also not want to continue conversations on this particular aspect, because it appears we both can't agree.
And I didn't number the dimensions, and didn't know where you got the 3 quoted.
I think you should read more carefully even as you study all the things you claim. Maybe that would help.

A305:
This is very correct. And Earth has about 9% gravity. Mars 30% gravity.

Earth has far more surface gravity than Mars. I think you mixed up the figures.

A305:
You got this slightly wrong.

Light bends around space NOT space bending itself.

Space is a mere vacuum that comprises of 3 dimensions but for us (human) to fit in, the 4th dimension had to be included (space time).

My bro Einstein had to do some mental gymnastics to come up with the 4th dimension, which altogether was a different ideology from that of my man Isaac Newton.

No. I'm not talking about bending of light. Space is not just a vacuum as you think, except you are limiting your definition to the absence of air.
The space is said to be a mesh of what they called space-time. And yes. We could bend this space-time, just that I wanted to keep it simple that's why I called it "bending space." Bending of light doest not change the distance between two points, but bending space-time does.
The 4th dimension is simply the time dimension. Other higher dimensions exist, but we don't have full understand of those yet.
Science has added a lot of things in the past few years. We don't have only three types of matter anymore. I think it's now up to six.

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Humanoid01:
Lol I wonder the rationale behind the space bending theory. What does ”space bending” mean literally?

YouTube would really explain it more than me. Do you also know that. According to Einstein, gravity has something on time. Time passes very slowly in regions of low gravity, and very fast in regions of high gravity.

Beloved3:
Really strange scientist with a strange brain. They had to preserve and research his brain after he died.

A very strange scientist indeed. With a lot of brain stretching theories.

He also theorized that space can be bent.
Like it's possible to bend the space between two distinct points, to bring the two points closer to each other.

Take for example. We could bend the space between Lagos and California, that people in these two cities could literally see each other and even trek across.

And has a hand in exotic matter.

fabienjoe:
That's a sign of insecurity. If this is that important to you, how do you ensure it doesn't increase after she must have started an affair with you? It can only mean one thing...you would suffocate her with jealousy and stalking..Don't dig too much into a woman's past. Live only with the secrets she's comfortable to disclose. You may not live down some of her ugly truths. So long as those remain her past and not part of her life with you, you'll be fine...Yes, you don't need to know .

The bolded is wrong. It is not within anyone's hands to determine for another what they need to know and what they don't. I can't debate this with you because you are coming from an entirely different point.

Most people ask this question for reasons that is not even related to any of the things you wrote up there.
How do you feel insecure and jealous when the relationship has not even started. Because this question comes when you start considering taking someone serious.

We all have standards. If her past is too ugly for my ears to hear, then I'm definitely not going to take her serious.

michigang:
anything under 2.5 is okay by me

What is 2.5 again

Because they see marriage as a battle. So they try to take the battle on a ground that they'll have victory easy.

No matter what you are passing through. Never do court marriage.

Omicron007:
I have heard about Body Counts before but I did not think it was that serious until I met one girl recently.
She wanted something serious between us but she said she can't date me unless my Body Count is less than 5.

For some who haven't come across the term before.
Simply put, body count is the number of people you have had sex with. It does not matter how intimate the make out was, or how much stuff you have done with someone, if there hasn't been penetration, it does not count as sex in this context.

Body count here refers only to the number of people you have had penetrative sex with.

So my question is this.
Is it necessary to know your partner's body count?
Do you know your Body Count?

I don't know why people keep repeating the bolded when it comes to questions they don't want to answer.
You ask someone a question and they will hide the answer and begins to preach necessity.

Simply tell her your body count, and answer other questions that will follow.

For me. If a girl won't disclose her body count, then we don't business. Necessity or not. Though I know she could still lie about it.

purples25:
Mr Tickles! Thank you. I love anything art, but I need money

We all need money. But we could still start off at no cost, and I might compensate you later. Not necessarily a payment

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purples25:
My little sketch on a Real City called Nairaland ...lol.

You are really good. Wish you would do something similar for me without charging me
Or at least not charge me upfront.

I'll tell you the truth. It's late. Yes. There's not much you can do now about it. You should now focus more on self development and financial stability.
You had your chance but you didn't take it. Being very social during your university days is one of the best things you can do for yourself.

Hang out with fun, visionary, money minded guys. Especially, the non conformists. Plus a handful of fine and kind girlfriends to cuddle with.

Not having money should not stop you as you don't really need much money to live good life in campus.

Your next stop is nysc but I wouldn't advice you focussing on sexual relationships. Take it if it comes, but not devote yourself to it. Use that one year to create a better life for yourself, because post nysc can be nightmarish.

Remember to alert me when you have my spec of jeans

Fiscus105:
Executive producer is he who finance the project simple, he may not necessarily be the owner of the film

Take for example ! I as a producer of a film, might not have enough money to produce a movie, but I have friend, relative or an organization who can finance it.

If he/they put in money for the project to come out, he/they become executive producer but not the owner of the movie.


Though on many occasions, it executive producer who owns the movie and atimes they jointly own it

Okay. I was talking from experience though.
When I say the owner. I mean the person or persons who invest in the project and take the profit or loss that comes from it.
Even if they're more than one person. They all own the movie according to the amount of money they put in.

In simpler words. Let's assume a movie is a building.

The executive producer is the owner of the building. He's the one that gets to own it after completion. He may or may not know anything about construction (film making). He simply contracts a producer, and brings the money for everything.

The producer is like a contractor he is the one in charge of the constitution. He makes the quotation of the material (cast and crew), and cost estimation of the building. He's the one that employs labour and sources the materials (or entrust it to one of his employees). In fact he's simply the engine head of the whole thing. He doesn't have to be on sit (set) 24/7, but should be there most of the time to make sure the project is going as planned.

The director, usually employed by the producer and works closely with him. Is like the foreman of a construction site. He's the one that call the shots in accordance to the directive of the producer. He often hear him say "action."

AutoChick4U:
Last heard or saw 2019 after he traveled, friends and family didn't even know d whereabouts. Till today nothing, number unavailable so I simply stopped hoping at some point. Who knows what happened

That categorizes him more as missing. 2 years is too soon to conclude that someone must have died.
And some replies you gave people somewhat points that you may not have been married to him, maybe just his girlfriend. But let's leave it at that.

I'll advise next time you try to create a thread that both the story and the replies doesn't lack in consistency.
Otherwise, most serious minded people that could render significant help would not take you serious.

AutoChick4U:
Everything I posted is d truth.

Is the death of the dad also true?

AutoChick4U:
Well, I definitely don't think that will be an issue with me though

You might actually be doing like that, but you wouldn't know you're doing it. Unless there are other reasons that makes them leave.

Reading further. I discovered the credibility of your story is questionable, as most people have taken time to point out some inconsistencies.

It is too bad if you could lie so convincingly. And declare someone dead simply because you've not seen him for long.
Going by what I read here. It also seemed you were never even married, but simply had the child out of wedlock.

I'm beginning to doubt your story myself.

AutoChick4U:
Wow, it ain't easy at all, it weakens my very soul that all I've worked for have really gone and no way of making ends meet for now.

Do I regret bringing another being into this world? Perhaps I do when I'm down and emotionally at my lowest but I've learnt to be strong atleast for my kid. Unfortunately finding a love interest to serve as that emotional anchor ain't even easy in our society, once you tell them, faim! Its all over.

I'm probably feeling depressed but I still hope on loving and being loved. Hoping on God wiping away my silent tears, hoping on a shoulder to lean on and a listening ear. I sooo need someone to talk to.

Location is Abuja in case of any business or job connection.

Why the bolded happens is because single mom always put their child first. Sometimes unknowingly.
How would you feel being in a relationship where a child that is not even yours gets 80% of the attention.
You definitely wouldn't like to keep up with such. Right?

Your case is a bit different because the child didn't come from promiscuity. So most men will overlook that, if you will minimize how you prioritize the child in the relationship.

Your story got me. I know how it feels to provide solace for other people, but there's no one giving it when you need it so badly.

I particular love the gender balance of this thread.
Ekene diri unu n'ile.

corporateDan:
I want to upgrade my Samsung s8.


Should i go for iphone x or samsung s10 or google pixel 4xl... which one is the best among the three phones in terms of camera,display and speed

Thank you

Pixel 4XL straight