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Teach her.

THE AMAKA:
[color=#cc00cc]why waste your time, she doesn't even know what she's talking about.
na 12-16 in girls? lol[/color]

Who doesnt know? Who shouldnt waste their time??

Sorry, dont believe you can be IN love with three guys at once. Its probably just lust or infatuation. Love is very different and easy to confuse it with other feelings.

[quote author=mama-gee link=topic=423638.msg5815031#msg5815031 date=1270166703][color=deeppink]Anything from size 12-16 is way too big for a woman.[/color][/quote]Wow! I dont know if our sizing is the same as yours but you are talking about the average aussie women 12-16! Size 12 is not fat or 14 for that matter. Also depends on body type, height, etc. Each to their own. Some like skin and bone, some like a bit of chunk and some like a lot of chunk. All makes the world go around!

But what about the ladies? Do they like skinny men, chunky men, muscle men?

Oh my gosh! I am so sad for reading your story. What a nightmare!! Take your child and dump her. She has proven she is not worthy of your love and commitment. I will not 'defend my kind' as one poster put it. I cant find words to describe how discusting her behaviour is. Leave her to the other man, she will do the same to him. Please take your child out of that situation and live a happy life. Focus on raising your child and you will be happy again. My prayers are with you in this time.

Ebonyeyes:
The are human beings too you know? White people turn red as well.

Very true. A white person can turn all sorts of colours. Red from the sun or embarrased. Blue from the cold. Brown from sun tan. Green when sick, lol!! So she turned red, big deal. Thats only one colour!

I understand your point but please be careful and dont act on emotion. In the future how will your son feel about you when he finds out you stole him from his mother. He WILL find out. Its not right to keep a child away from his mother no matter how you feel, unless he is being abused or neglected. You obviously wont be going back so he can see his mum cos you will be thrown in jail. What are the legal agreements with your country and his mothers? What if she comes to Nigeria to hunt you down or worse.

I have a son from my failed marriage and even though i would love to have absolutely nothing to do with his father, i have no choice. Its not my son's fault his parents failed so why should he be punished. My son as your son never asked to put in this situation. I hate they way my ex is with my child but he is not being abused and as soon as my son says he doesnt want to go visit i will not force him. But til then i have to do whats best for him.

You have to put his needs first. Wait til he is old enough to come to you on his own and until then stay in contact with him at all times. It will be hard but in the end it will pay off. Please be careful and put alot of thought into the consequences your actions would have on your son.

justwise:
You will see more than enough of them here, begging on the street, sleeping rough on the street. U telling me u don't have them there?

There are homeless people and a little begging here but still they have places to get fed and i would not think the poster is talking of those particuar guys taking women from the 'good looking rich men' in your country. Any white guy that would be in a position to have a relatioship would not be hungry.

If you look at my posts you will see almost all are anti cheating, lol!!! For me, i just dissappear from them. No contact at all!! Like a ghost, i am gone.

Please deal with this legally. If you kidnap him and they find you then you wont ever see him again and have totally messed your son up for life. You just have to work hard at being part of his life. I dont know what the custody rules are there but its up to you. Put your son first and make the effort to stay in contact with him til he is old enough to come see you on his own. Even if you get rubbish from his mother dont let that stop you. The child is whats important here. When he is older he will then know you loved him and wanted him cos you worked hard to see him when he was little. Good luck to you.

'Hungry white man'!! Hahaha!! I have never seen a hungry white man! Skinny white man, yes but never a hungry one. Not here anyway.

I agree with your information, unfortunatley alot of people arent taught this til its too late. I was not raised in a christian home so didnt learn this til i became a christian as an adult which of course is too late to fix it, lol!! I definately believe in soul ties.

Its good you put it on here so people can learn and then make up there own minds.

Hey there. I am an Aussie in love with a Nigerian man who lives in Maylasia for now. He is visiting family in Nigeria but we sms every day. It can be expensive but hopefully worth it in the end. Its rough but we do visit every few months. msn is what gets us through. Its been over a year now. Sometimes i can do my own head in wondering if he is being faithful but i know that if he is not i know i will find out eventually so i try to be relaxed. I wish you everything good and postive in your long distance love.

harakiri:
Woman neva do you strong thing. . .dat na why you dey reason like dis.You neva see woman wey the man go luv,care for am,pamper am,make am comfortable and in the end, she go sleep with him best friend or driver?E dey happen every day. . .no be news.All dis oyinbo women wey dey divorce their hussy like say na competition, if you do research, you go see say na the woman instigate everything directly or indirectly.

End of!

WoW!!!!!!!!! So bitter! No wonder you can only talk of bad experiences with that attitude! Why would any girl stay to listen to that dribble!!!

My son is 10 and i still dont let him sleep over unless its family. I have many reasons for that but i would not let a 6 year old sleep over at a friends. Not until they are big enough to defend themselves or old enough to get help in an emergency, eg: fire, accident, etc.

I am so sad for you reading your posts! Regardless of your personality he married you and has a commitment to you so he should be honoring that. Please, if you are going to work on your self do it for you and your baby, Not for your husband. Trust me, if you do it for him it will make no difference. He will always find fault with you to justify his behaviour and you will be left as a shell of yourself with nothing left. Be stronger for yourself and your baby. Start living for yourself and your baby. He is doing his thing and if your doing yours he may take notice that you are not paying attention to him and dont need him. Last time i checked marriage didnt mean slavery. It takes two to make it work not one!

You are playing with fire my friend! You will lose both and end up with nothing! Very greedy and soooo not cool!

For me, NO!! No second chances in a relationship. If i was married, maybe one chance but cant guarentee it. Its the number one deal breaker for me. But each to their own.

I soooooo dont believe the BS thats is a man thing and it makes him a man, what a crock!!!. Women do it too and it all comes down to self control and ego. How about an agreement that if your man or women cheats you get a free pass to do the same. Thats not my thing but think it may stop a few who seem to like cheating but would hate their spouse to do it to them!!

[quote he said cheating is when u cant tell your partner about the other person, no matter if its a phone call, text, date, or sleep over. the reason why u ar partners is to open up on all levels. I kind of agree with him.

[quote][/quote]I love this explaination!! Brilliant!!

It depends on each persons idea of cheating. One of my friends believes that if her guy even thought of being with someone else then he has cheated already with just a thought. For me its being physical with someone other than your partner.

At least she was being honest and up front and only wants you as a bed mate not a boyfriend. Now its up to you, wether you want that or not, All the best with that.

I am not hard on myself, just my people, I was trying to respond to the post by saying why should what my ancestors did hundreds of years ago affect me being with any colour man i want to be with now. Its silly.

daduke2k:
Really? U knw am in2 literature as a study. Wen i kom acros those events. My bloods heats up 2 boiling point, d strategies your fore fathers used in makin us luk like fools and slaves. Dont get me wrong ,am hapy 4 civilization bt it could hav been done witout slavery. 2 show u d fact dat d pain stil lives in d blak man. Read African novels. Come bak and tel me wot u read.

Yay! Homework, lol!!

But please dont assume what my forefathers did. Just cos i have the same skin colour as the beasts that thrived on slavery doesnt make them my fore fathers. You wouldnt appreciate it if it was the other way around. I totally agree with what you are saying that slavery should NEVER have been an option! What makes one person believe they are better than the next?? I dont get and never will.

I am an Aussie and trust me, we have our own horiffic past with the original Australians here. But I personally have no control over what they did over 200 years ago and i should only be judged on my own behaviour now not theirs. I can only be ashamed and horrified at what white people here where responsible for in the past. I also know what some conversations are like in an all white family and i totally agree that racism exists in some people and it makes my blood boil, its insecurity, ignorance and stupidity of my own people!!

daduke2k:
Dating whites? Its a maybe but marriage is a no no. Am black and proud and reppin 4 ma hood. Racism aint over yet. Prove me wrong . . . . . .

Small and closed minds are a very dangerous thing.

I am happy its 2010 and i dont get blamed for what some white person did on the other side of the world decades or more before i was even born.

I spent a lot of years being ashamed of my white skin cos of all the history of what white people have done. But i am not personally responsible for that. I am only responsible for my own actions and heart while i am in this life, Thank God!!! I still get a bite in my soul when i hear of past actions of white people and probably always will. But am very happy i live in this time in this country and can love whomever i choose regardless of colour, background, etc!

Its the heart, character and personality of a man that is important. Not with the colour of either of us.

For starters, there is nothing and no one in this world that could make me leave my child!!!! I never understand a women leaving her child/children. Secondly, if my brother was in this position i would suggest he doesnt give a single thought to taking her back. If she really loved him she would have stood beside him in the hard times!

190:
No men, no human race!!! Deal with it! At least life is never boring with men! Sooo funny!!

I agree, it works both ways!

Maybe you just want what you cant have? OR have imagined her to be more than she is, just a thought.

Poster, you better protect your bits cos i am sure there are ladies on here that will tear you a new one!!

sofeco:
Never mind him. Maybe he just get scammed by a lady.

very true! His question did give me a great giggle fest, so not all was wasted!!

Really?? Is that all you got?? Funny, funny, funny!!!