₦airaland Forum

Royver: I am a genius.

^^Not really,it's not rocket science! it's common sense from the brief intro at the beginning of the post

Aggrippa: hey miss don't conclude just yet! these zodiacal signs and attributes are the results of centuries of intense critical research.

jumbotron: I have found that you can not have these discussions in a room with SOME African men. I look forward to when we all can talk about this without y'all asking questions like "If women are so XYZ, why are they not in the BH sect"? Or coming back with retorts like "Its a Man's World".

Sisters, keep doing it for yourselves. Work hard, keep taking care of your families. Women do not blow their trumpets about their hustles, they just...hustle. If you are blessed to have reasonable brothers, enlighten them on how to treat women. Shout out to the men in my family!! When you raise boys, teach them to be self sufficient as well. Our mothers are at fault for some of these comments. If you are married, the man is the head of the household but he is not the slave master. Get your education and be about something. Better yet, marry a man who will train his sons and daughters to be self sufficient as well. Meet men who are comfortable in their masculinity and their place as a man to allow a woman climb the ladder and assert herself. Too many of these comments reek of bruised egos.

Guys, no one can take away the fact that you are a man. Stop making it seem like we are challenging your masculinity. We get it, there is no competition. Just learn to share. Times have changed. The quicker you get hip to this, the better for you.

lakesguy: [/color][color=#990000]we jusst ordinary people
Maybe ѱє̲̣̣̣̥ should take it slow
Cos ѱє̲̣̣̣̥ al ordinary people
Maybe ѱє̲̣̣̣̥ should take it slow
Take it slow
Ooooooooo
Its time to take it slow
Take it slow
OoooooOo
It time to take it slow!

Caduceus: It's just a thought, only a thought,
if my life is for rent,and I don't learn to buy,
well I deserve nothing more than I get,
'cause nothing I have is truly mine

Da Julee: "She lose lost her virginity after I married Her".

OP,your post makes no sense to me but I have done the needful,corrected your grammatical error

Lordlexyy: Your spirit is surely bless.

jay bee: How do you propose they pay the bills in the short term?
I mean over here most bills are done via direct debit hence my suggestion that one should be opened for this reason alone
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jay bee: I think most of the people here have already adviced you accordingly on the best approach to take concerning the matter at hand.

Here is how I would advice you go about it
Sit him down and make him understand in a firm/concise manner how the current situation has to stop and how he has to accept your non negotiable proposal on immediate/medium term.

Immediate Plan
Retrive your ATM cards from him – You are not his slave but his wife
Open a joint account – This is necessary so you can tightly control your expenses. All bills should be paid from this account
Do up a monthly expense analysis – If he has absolutely no income then be prepared to pay for all the essentials (accommodation, food) for an agreed period. I will suggest 6 months or thereabout.
Agree an interim monthly upkeep – As an example, if you are left with 50K after all expense has been taken care of, give him 10% of that and save the rest.


Medium term
You expect him to have an income within 3-6 months
Withdraw the monetary upkeep support you give him within 3-6 months
Reduce your monetary contribution to the upkeep of the family in stages (You can do a gradual 5-10% incremental withdrawal up until he is able to shoulder the majority )


All the best

The emboldened..Joint account for what?after the access he has to her personal account she should then open a joint account making him a signatory to the account..Mba nu!

OP,your siblings are right,you definitely spoilt this man..Kai!I'm so gutted for you..He is just an irresponsible man who has decided to be a leech..I know it's not in my place to call your husband names but,I mean,this is the height of irresponsibility

You need to apply tough love like someone said,does he even realise he's a family man at all?Living off his wife?
I don't know how you intend going about it but you need to withdraw all the stipends you give him..Stop indulging him if you want the best for him and your family..

What nonsense..I'm angry sha

kaeyame: Dear National Assembly Members,
This is indeed a good development, please those who profess Christianity amongst you should remember James 2: 14-26 which tells us that "faith without deeds (works) is dead"
Pray all you want, without works (actions, leading by examples, "doing the job Nigerians elected you to do" all the prayers will just be...noise!!!

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tankara1010: What is " Passes-out" ? I thought she collapsed or something...

jay bee: A smart interviewer will then do a follow-up question along the line of:

How would you stay motivated if we fail to match your expectation monetarily since money is the key determinant factor in your chosen career

Yes,I'm here for the money but experience also birth wealth(wealth of knowledge).The experience I get from working with you would propel me to my money-making land.With that in mind,I would stay motivated

(I was messing around with the initial post-it's just amazing how the most sincere ans-"I'm here for the money" is loathed by interviewers/recruiters)