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Politics › Re: Uzodinma: Fast Till God Answers Prayers, If You Refuse To Join APC by tobechi74:
He was once in PDP

He fasted, his prayers were not answered
Then he Joined APC

Now his prayers are answered.

What is the moral of his story

God does not answer prayer to those that fast and pray

He is dragging God into politics


https://tobechispeaks./2020/10/23/game-leaders-play/
Family › Re: How Premarital Sex Is Ruining The Marriage Institution by tobechi74: 2:57am On Nov 28, 2020
Marriage is not for everyone
What’s Wrong With Sex?
Is there anything wrong with two people coming together and just having sex — for fun — without first having an emotionally intimate relationship (assuming safe sex is practiced of course)?

I was raised to believe the answer to this is yes, that there is something wrong with it.

As a sophomore in high school, I had to write a school paper on why premarital sex was wrong. I did the assignment and regurgitated what I needed to get an A.

Privately I had doubts about what I was taught. And of course I went ahead and had premarital sex anyway, which turned out to be a lot of fun with no guilt or regret.

Looking back, I think I would have preferred to get an F on that assignment and had more fun instead. �

Today I see absolutely nothing wrong with having sex just for fun, as long as it’s done safely and consensually. I think those who feel that sex is wrong, dirty, or immoral are terribly repressed. I’ve never met a genuinely happy person that felt this way about sex. Perhaps if such people just got laid more often, they wouldn’t be so grumpy.

Prerequisites for Sex
What prerequisites do we actually need to engage in sex? A willing partner is really all that’s required. If you have a willing partner, you can have sex.

Serious rocket science here, eh?

Just to be clear, let’s assume your body and your partner’s body are physically capable of having sex as well.

All other rules, constraints, and requirements arise from social conditioning and are therefore unnecessary.

You don’t need to be married or in a committed relationship.

You don’t need to be dating.

You don’t need to be in love.

You don’t need an opposite-sex partner.

You don’t need to be exclusive with your partner.

Your partner doesn’t need to be exclusive with you.

You don’t need to be programmed in multiple techniques.

You don’t even need to have met the other person first.

All you need is consent.

Technically speaking, even your partner’s consent is a socially conditioned prerequisite, but I think it’s one we should maintain. The alternative is illegal, unethical, and hurtful. We can certainly enjoy sex without resorting to rape. Acting out your kinky fantasies, on the other hand, can still be completely consensual.

How many extra rules do you have in your head about what’s required for you to have sex above and beyond the most basic?

How are those rules working for you? Are you delighted with the results they’re producing?

Do your rules make it easy for you to enjoy the sexual experiences you desire? Or are they simply getting in the way and blocking you?

Do you realize that you have the freedom to choose the rules you want to keep as well as those you’d rather dump?

I’m not suggesting that you need to lower your standards to the absolute minimum. I’m simply suggesting that you take a good, conscious look at your current rules and requirements for having sex, and consider whether they’re helping you or hurting you.

Personally I have pretty high standards for when I will and won’t have sex. These standards, however, are ones I’ve chosen because I’m happy with them. I don’t maintain standards just because everyone else feels they’re proper and necessary.

Pavlina



Let go of unnecessary sex rules that don’t serve you. You decide what’s really important to you, and drop the rest.

https://tobechispeaks./2020/09/04/sex-and-marriage-are-not-government-buissness/
Romance › Re: How by tobechi74: 2:48am On Nov 28, 2020
False
Romance › Re: Which Psychiatric Hospital Will U Take Him To ? by tobechi74: 2:48am On Nov 28, 2020
He is matured guy. See you don't know what is happening behind the scenes. The guy may be a 4 minutes man so he permitted her to sleep outside since he cannot satisfy her. From there, Belle swell up.
Romance › Re: Five Reasons Why You Should Marry An Imo Girl? by tobechi74: 2:43am On Nov 28, 2020
Your counter thread is weak. Even an imo girl will be ashamed.

All na tribalism sha
Romance › Re: How I Overcame An 8-year Addiction To Porn And Masturbation In Just 14 Days. by tobechi74: 2:42am On Nov 28, 2020
Masturbate or premarital sex or adultery

Which is the worst_ Adultery
Which is the best - masturbate
Romance › Re: How To Quickly Find Out If She Just Wants To Chop Your Money by tobechi74: 2:40am On Nov 28, 2020
Ask her for urgent 2k
Family › Re: One childhood hurt your parent inflicted on you that you will never forget. by tobechi74(op): 2:37am On Nov 28, 2020
Fussion1000:
Confronting parents if they led you astray may be good, but confronting parents because of how they hurt you, perhaps to discipline or hurtfully enthrone you on the part of greatness is foolishness.

Many people mistaken discipline during upbringing as wicked on the part of parents.
True
Education › Re: NUC Directs UI Governing Council To Appoint Acting VC by tobechi74: 2:30am On Nov 28, 2020
Politics
Education › Re: 10 Countries With Best Educational System In The World by tobechi74: 2:29am On Nov 28, 2020
England is not on the list and we are immitating them. Let's ditch them for Finland
Romance › Re: UBUNJA's MISEDUCATION: (2020) A Man's Commitment Gives Women Orgasms. by tobechi74: 8:45pm On Nov 26, 2020
Economics of sex
Romance › Re: What Is The Most Difficult Thing You Have Ever Done? by tobechi74: 3:06pm On Nov 26, 2020
Putting thread inside needle
Romance › Re: Signs Of Emotionally Bitter Guy by tobechi74: 3:05pm On Nov 26, 2020
They need healing.
Romance › Re: Do Your Sisters Do This? by tobechi74: 3:05pm On Nov 26, 2020
Girls love to be center of attention among their peers.

If you are giving that attention to someone else, she feels jelous,

Next Tim, d topic should be about something wonderful she has done, .... Jealous stops
Romance › Re: What's The Most Embarrassing Moment You Can't Forget by tobechi74: 3:01pm On Nov 26, 2020
Embarrassing......when Buhari was announced winner. I was embarrassed, so some people voted him again
Romance › Re: Don't Start What You Can't Finish... " She Said by tobechi74: 3:00pm On Nov 26, 2020
Putting fear inside you and it worked.
Politics › Re: IMSUTH MGT In Trouble by tobechi74: 3:43am On Nov 26, 2020
Sad
Phones › Re: Nigerian Develops An App Help Stop Police Brutality #endsars by tobechi74: 3:42am On Nov 26, 2020
I love your creativity and desire to cash out from the happenings in the country. Better than the pastor with the crusade poster: your SARS will end
Politics › Re: Niger Delta Youths In Ukwuani Shut Down Oil Facilities At Night (Video) by tobechi74:
Politics › Re: El-Rufai Kicks Against Zoning Of Leadership Positions, Says 'It's Absurd' by tobechi74:
I totally agree with him. But The timing is wrong. Definitely not now when his fellow northwest guy is about to leave office. It means oga rufaivwilk never be president until 24 years later when he is 80.

https://tobechispeaks./2020/10/30/a-missing-ingredient/
Romance › Re: Why Are Black People So Religious Yet So Stupid!? by tobechi74: 1:02am On Nov 26, 2020
Religion is an illusion
Romance › Re: Being Single Is Not A Bad Thing, But Rushing Into Marriage Can Be A Bad Thing by tobechi74: 1:01am On Nov 26, 2020
SavageResponse:
Africans find it very hard to understand and accept this
It is best to be single.
Family › Re: Are You Hiding Your Savings From Your Spouse/partner by tobechi74: 1:00am On Nov 26, 2020
If your partner has running mouth, keep many things from such person..e get why
Family › Re: 10 Characteristics Of The Average Nigerian by tobechi74: 12:57am On Nov 26, 2020
They love to yab government but If you give them that position,they will do nothing better
Family › Re: At What Age Is It Rigth For A Military Man To Get Married by tobechi74: 12:54am On Nov 26, 2020
At what age is it right to raise fatherless children
Christianity Etc › Re: 'my Kids Are Asking Me How God Created Himself' -nathaniel Bassey by tobechi74: 12:00am On Nov 26, 2020
Tell him it is a lie
Christianity Etc › Re: What Is The Difference Between Jesus And Prophet Mohammed? by tobechi74: 11:59pm On Nov 25, 2020
One preached peace

The other preached. Erm . Erm. Erm.. keep waiting
Christianity Etc › Re: Which Religious Sect Comes To Mind Anytime You Read This Verse? by tobechi74: 11:59pm On Nov 25, 2020
The Religion Christianity plagrized from
Christianity Etc › Re: The Market Place: Afrocentric Analogy Of Life by tobechi74: 11:57pm On Nov 25, 2020
If the boy no reti,e Papa go go market go find am

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