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Diversify, since you already have fixed.
Invest in something else, either Foreign stock market or cryptocurrency or bond if you still want financial sector

Or try something else. Estate Management etc.

Do not put all your egg in one basket

If she had the work before she met you, you have no right to stop it

1) Life Purpose

2) Relationship with people who will help you achieve your life purpose

3)marry and build a family with a partner whose life purpose is similar to yours

It depends on what you did that made her leave.

There are crimes that even If you lie down and beg, there is no comming back.

Tell the full gist

midehill:
Dear guys,

I humble write to you all. I am sure some of you will go against me and some of you will surely support me. Anywhich way, I got to say what is on my mind.

Before I start, pardon me for my use of words, I am not perfect.

I humbly beseech my humble men to stop deceiving women mainly because you want to sex her. If you eventually have your way with her, what did you gain. Absolutely nothing. You only enjoyed it when you are doing it but after the deed is done, you feel so tired and empty.

Most men have loose it because they want to have their ways with the girls... The reason why most guys does this is because maybe the girl is sexy, that is having a big boobs and a gorgeous ass with a beautiful face. But I tell you, all this are just materials things because when you eventually reach there, you will realise all this things are just vanity.

Most men have married wrong wives just because they were deceived with the ladies structures which is having a sexy body features, beautiful face and a cool voice. I am telling you, so many men married their partner based on this assertions.

After some years or months into the marriage, they begin to see that they made the wrong choice because the wife is no longer cute like before again, no longer sexy also like before again. Even though she is still sexy, there will come a day when the solid breast will fall. When her beautiful face will become wringle, when her cool voice will be coarsed.

So men, before you marry any lady, ensure you pray about it earnestly. I know no one is perfect but at least when you pray about it, you receive directions from the spiritual sides. Nowadays people just jump into marriage without doing any courtship, without getting to discuss together things they can accept and things they can't.

After getting into the marriage, they will now be maltreating their wives by not taking care of them, by not paying school fees, by not paying house rents, by becoming totally irresponsible.

Some even beats their wives, some shouts on their children, some comes late at home, some run away from their wives when thy are pregnant. Though I know some women too are terrible but we dont have to pay evil with evil.

Let me summarize what I am trying to pass across below:

--- when we maltreat our wives, we are hurting ourselves also in one or the other because when we do this, we are hurting another guy brother, mother, sister, child which is the wife you married.

What I am saying here is your wife is either any of this, (a wife to a guy, a child to guy, an elder sister to a guy, a junior sister to a guy. So When we hurts her or maltreat her or start coming home late, we are also hurting ourselves as the male species on the long run) I hope you grab my point.

--- Dear men, are you finding your wife unattractive, this is what you should do. Take her to get new clothes, the ones that turns you on, take her to a makeup shop, let them make her up for you... Make her happy and give her peace of mind and you will see your wife very attractive to you once again.

--- Men, don't act like a weakling in your home... Always be in charge and also give her a chance to say her mind also...


Dear guys, please let us stop hurting women or deceiving them. If you know you don't love her, please avoid her, don't engage with her.

If you love her, don't tell her yet, make friends with her to be able to know who she is exactly. Then this will let you know if you want to stay with her or not.

Guys, so tell me why are you hurting your wives or girlfriends, why are you maltreating them...
Let's discuss

Kind regards!!!

Best advice I have read on nairaland in a long run, you deserve a packet of unadulterated, undilluted, condom for this.

Ningen:
WTF??
Guy, you deserve to be stoned in public.

That's the only way to appease your ancestors.

You sacrificed your self worth, self esteem and confidence. Shít. That's totally dishonourable!!!

You see this guy with ego and pride under the disguise of self worth? I pity their wife.

Good

I have fallen in love with your write up. Of your post were masculine, that makes me a homosexual.

Marriage is not compulsory. Marriage is not for everyone. Do not follow the society. Society is confused. Follow your conscience.

Several years ago,I was squating with a relation before I could get my own apartment. During the buisness news, the husband lamented how the market capitalisation had dropped down and how the change in government had led to uncertainty among investors. He predicted a decline in the market share price in the next few years. His wife nodes her head like she was following only to say moments later.

I like the style of her blouse.

I could see the dissapointment in the husbands face. He found it difficult to engage in social- economic discussion with the wife. Here he was discussing serious issues and she was interested in a piece of clothing material. Both of them were from two different worlds.

Today,I heard they were involved in divorce litigation. He was accused of committing adultery. was not surprised. She was a fashion designer with many apprentice working for her. He was a financial analyst .


The relationship was dead from the beginning. It was only a matter of time before it could manifest.We must always be in relationship with like minded individuals as this motivates us in our day to day life. Our partner shapes our life and our thoughts. When we exchange ideas and values with those who have similar goals and inspirations it plays an important role in our


Have you ever wondered why most men get involved in an affair with their co- worker. This is because both spend time sharing their thoughts on similar project. They are like partners. From official discussion to semi- official discussion. From there , It leads to personal discussion. From there, It leads to relationship discussion. He is more open to her than he is to the wife . The affair did not start the day they had their first kiss. Then he says ” If I had met you earlier, I would not have gotten married to my wife.


That sounds harsh but it is reality . He was moved by her beauty when he met her but today, he has learnt that there is more to physical appearance. He desires one he can communicate freely on issues of similar interest.Their work-life and interest are miles apart. Nothing brings them together.


Relationship is no longer about two individuals who want to get married and raise kids.because they have come of age or teaming up to meet our basic need of food, shelter, sex etc Relationship is about one person who is on a mission and discovers another person who is on a similar mission and they team up to embark on facing the challenges together .Relationship is a journey not a destination.Your partner inspire you to become a better version of your self. Not all relationship should lead into marriage. A relationship Should make you better version of yourself while pursuing the mission. The mission is the focus of the relationship and not the partner. You do not complete your partner or look for a partner to complete you. No, you focus on something outside yourselves .


The mission could be to render legal services to those who cannot provide one or to design a more efficient way of generating electricity or reform the lives of ex convicts or to impact values and principles to preteens or to spread the Marxist philosophy to the world or to build a mediation center for conflict resolution or to speak for the freedom of the oppressed.You grow with your partner. When the mission is a long term mission of over twenty years , They may decide to get married. Marriage should never be the mission for any relationship. Marriage may be introduced for long term journey .


If you discover you are on a different path from your partner,do not hurriedly leave the relationship. Ask her to list her about twenty activities she likes to do. List twenty hobbies you enjoy too .Find the hobbies you both enjoy together. If it is music, start singing together. Compose a song Individually and sing it on your anniversary. The point is consciously create a life by engaging in activities together. Ensure It is something you both enjoy so no one feels burnt out. Reignite the spark.


https://tobechispeaks./2020/11/04/a-little-fragrance-of-divorce/

Nothing is compulsory in this life. Marriage self is not compulsory.

Self-made rules to being a side chick.


Always keep the secret.

LOL.
Keep your mouth shut even from your best friend. This whole affair is clandestine, nobody wants to hear your story. You are a secret, your relationship is a secret and letting it out there would just ruin the fun. Learn to stay in your lane always.

 You may find yourself in situations that may twist your mind to make you think you need to admit that you are a side chick, do not! Let the man be the one to do it, if he wants to. With millennial, you may have the urge to profess this affair on social media, don’t listen to that devil please. Nobody wants to hear about your coastal vacation with the man who’s involved with nani (who) Rule numero uno!

Stay away from PDA’s

FOR POSTING HIS HAIR. HAHA
You just can’t go public with him no matter how much you want to. Without secrecy your relationship is dead. Lol. Honestly, you do not want to go out displaying affection to the guy we know is dating who. Unless you want to give the public a show. It may get messy real quick.


Set the goals for the relationship and stick to them.

A man can date his soul mate a secret for his whole life and keep it a secret, and so he will have no problem keeping a secret of you. Set the goal for the relationship and keep it a secret. Have funn.

Avoid drama like you avoid covid-19

When someone hears the word side chick, what rings in their mind is drama. If you are a drama queen, take it to the movies please. Be the safe haven, where he comes to find peace and safety. Thou shall never leave behind, a scent, a nail, an earring, a bra or a piece of hair for the main chick to uncover and cause drama.




https://tobechispeaks./2020/11/19/laws-of-being-a-side-chick-just-for-laugh/

Tomorrow,you will hear AFTER ALK, I HAVE DONE FOR YOU, YOU REFUSE TO MARRY ME.

Obvious

I got F9 in my Waec exam but I got A1 in my further mathematics exam. This is basic mathematics. It is do simple that I failed it. Give me harder further mathematics question and watch me pass it

Michael Jackson bleach .....is it because of men too?

The gods say I should tell you that It is a sign you will be a billionaire. Soft palm is needed to count the money

He is wise. Wise Enough to understand that you do not loose a jewel because of one act.
Wise enough to understand that last last,bshe is the owner of her body and she decides what to do with it

At least you know your talent is in your mouth. Use it to earn money , hope you are a journalist

This is the fastest way to advertise a car.

Do you know the most confounding thing about the word slut? Arguably, it is the most ubiquitous slur used against women. Nobody defines it.  But they can easily point you to a direction of a woman to describe to you what a slut is.

I was brought up to believe that I shouldn’t be called a slut. Otherwise, my promiscuity will be in question. Girl’s purity is an egg to be guarded;

Dress codes

Specific curriculum

Even laws and legislation.

Having too much sex as a woman means you need mental therapy, or you are handling a mental breakdown. A heartbreak maybe. Or you are just being a prosti-tot.

SLUT; a girl, a lady, a woman who deviates from norms of femininity. Do not conform to the society gender script.

The nebulous quality of the slur slut is what makes it seem so distressing. ‘Slut’ hits and sticks to a person in a way that ‘asshole’ never will.

Apparently, the society has decided it. The first rule to being a slut is being a woman.

Men of course are immune to this frenzy definition. When a girl sexts, she is a slut, when a man sexts, he is free from judgment.


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Women are sluts while men are, well, men are men.

Several years ago,I was squating with a relation before I could get my own apartment. During the buisness news, the husband lamented how the market capitalisation had dropped down and how the change in government had led to uncertainty among investors. He predicted a decline in the market share price in the next few years.  His wife nodes her head like she was following only to say moments later.

I like the style of her blouse.

I could see the dissapointment in the husbands face. He found it difficult to engage in social- economic discussion with the wife. Here he was discussing serious issues and she was interested in a piece of clothing material.  Both of them were from two different worlds.

Today,I heard they were involved in divorce litigation. He was accused of committing adultery. was not surprised. She was a fashion designer with many apprentice working for her. He was a financial analyst .


The relationship was dead from the beginning. It was only a matter of time before it could manifest.We must always be in relationship with like minded individuals as this motivates us in our day to day life. Our partner shapes our life and our thoughts. When we exchange ideas and values with those who have similar goals and inspirations it plays an important role
https://tobechispeaks./2020/11/16/relate-dont-marry/

So you decided to create another thread just for this rather than leaving your reply there

Marriage is not compulsory

They do STD and HIV test before shooting and take lots of pills after

Sorry

Do you watch him sex animals ? And you love it? It turns you on
Do you intend having a child with him
Do you feel he may sex your 15yr old daughter

The scripturesaid that even first ate apple and face Adam
That is where original problem started.

So either the scripture is not right or....


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Parrie:
Yes you are right........
But u forgot to add hoeing and prostitution

Who is the victim in prostitution?
Who is hurt in a sexual buisness?
What is the difference between serial dating and prostitution?
Whose body is she using to prostitute?

Relationship should not be exclusive ownership. Have open relationship.give your partner freedom to sleep with another. There will be less break up

Break up occur because we force people to stick with only one person.
What is so special in monogamous relationship? If monogamy is natural, why do we struggle at it? No one teaches fish how to swim? Why do we have books on how to avoid cheating? To answer this question,we look at what researchers revealed

Evolutionary scientist David Barish compared monogamy among various animals.

Only 9 percent of mammals practice monogamy

29 percent of primates are monogamous

Before westernisation, 86 percent of indigenous society are no monogamous

Overfamiliarisation with a partner kills a woman libido

30 percent of women have extra-marital affair despite being happy with their marriage.

The numbers are against monogamy. One advantage of monogamy over polygamy is the assurance of a mate for every male. No group of wealthy powerful men can marry off all the women leaving the non powerful men single.. AThe spread of Christianity could be be a dominant factor. Monogamy offers an exclusive sence of ownership each woman on the man rather than having to share him with other women.

Monogamy restricts each party from love and sex with another. Are these two not one of the sweetest feelings? Limited my experience of them should be seen as punnishnent and not something to jubilate to.

In casual friendship, my friend could have other friends beside me and I am cool with that. But in monogamy, It is me and me alone. Any attempt to share love and sex with another is considered cheating. A woman should only love one guy but she can share her love among her children equally. Why can’t she love six men equally? Is this not hypocrisy? It means the heart is capable of loving many but man Jealously choose to limit it to one. In some cases, we argue over what constitutes exclusive acts? Holding hands, seeing one another naked,sharing a bed, kissing etc.

Before we say monogamy is natural, think again.
https://tobechispeaks./2020/09/04/sex-and-marriage-are-not-government-buissness/

The issue of Simp has been stressed here too much.let me repeat this ,here

Girls  who enjoy highly competitive games with a desire to win also increases their aggression (masculinity). We tag such women names like Tomboy. They are ladies with highly developed masculine side and poorly developed feminine side.. Such masculine girls are attracted to  the beta guys. If a man is more masculine in nature,he will be attracted to a very feminine woman who will compliment his energy. Balance men prefer neutral women.. Masculine girls at attracted to a feminine guy or sisi or beta guy . Such guys are few as society teaches guys to wear the Alpha mask. She can only find solace among her fellow feminine women. This is the origin of homosexuality- . Heterosexual are no different from homosexual as both seek balance .

Society has widened this energy balance over the years. Civilisation is bring closing the gap. Homosexual are closer to achieving balance compared to heterosexual. Yet, Homosexuals feel guilty for not complying with society expectation. . There is nothing wrong with homosexuality, for it IS what is. However, we need to bear in mind that society at this time is traumatized due to so many centurie conditioned to comply with that. DO we want to fit in? Until WHEN? We need to learn to Love who we are, while allowing others to be what they want to be. Acceptance is the way of Life.

We should understand that each individual hold masculine and feminine qualities within us. When both qualities are not well alligned, the person is out of balance. The traditional gender roles over the years has created highly masculine males on one hand and highly feminine female on the other side.  we are drawn to certain individual that help us correct these imbalance. These highly masculine males become attracted to highly feminine female.

https://tobechispeaks./2020/09/23/sexual-imbalance/

I heard devil is a woman.