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ndcide:
In my office a lady who was eventually fired, Broke the heads of two of my male colleagues just because they corrected her.

Well, in the two occasions the two guys went home / clinic with bleeding heads.

From that day, I knew those who insist on "don't touch a woman no Matter what" are suffering from self inflicted daftness. Yes, they are daft. The lady in question wouldn't have done it to the second guy if she got equal feedback.

Years back here in Lagos a young female teacher beat up the principal of her school for having an affair with her and backing off. She went to his office, dragged his trousers, disgraced him in the presence of the students. The guy would have ended it if he WOZED her but he took the shame while the lady talked tough about it. Until they were both fired. It still happened here in lekki.

I've also see a woman attack a bus conductor because of change, grabbing his dickk. It happened at ozumba mbadiwe here in VI too. The calaba woman grabbed his dickk and jacked the conductor up to pull him down, before some of us intervened.

Sorry, my own take is, Do unto others as you want them to do to you. Who fucck up, suppose collect. Unless you have mercy.

Besides, ladies are becoming violent these days and boast about it.

And Seun has the audacity to use words like victim for the female folks...i know one day he will eat those words and will regret ever apologizing for this title.

My first conent says...never beat a lady which is fair enough and then listed the facts that are as true as day and night but Seun is still naive so i understand his point.

There was a lady i dated and she told me that she is the type tthat needs to be beaten up but i said never will i raise my hand against her and when she showed her color i gave her some verbal lashing that made her cry and for 3yrs she left the affair just to call me this year to say she would have prefered that i beat her up rather than going verbal...can you imagine.

Seun is indeed a learner when i comes to he issue of women so let jim postrate to nland ladies to apologize for the truth he will latter realize and when he does,he will hate himself for making that unwarranted apology...im 41 and i have seen things in life but all these todlers on nland knows nothing about this matter until they get to a more mature stage in life.

spill:
I wish I can click 1,000,000 likes for your post.
Any man that gets married to that lady will be declared COMPLETELY FINISHED.

MEN RUN AWAY FROM SUCH LADIES, IF THINGS TURN BAD FOR YOU AND SHE BEARS THE FAMILY LOAD FOR A PERIOD OF TIME, SHE WILL COMPLETELY FINISH YOU WITH INSULTS AND SILLY ATTITUDES.


TOKS2008, I LOVE YOUR WORDS OF ADVICE.
NOTE: Not everyone has the ability to comprehend.

Thanks bro...my threads are always controvertial but for those who are patient to rread thru,they will always see great sense in it.

GloryIsaac:
That no 5 though, some ladies can use their tongue to cause war shaa.. Say things that would pierce the mans heart . its best to grow a really thick skin (very thick) to avoid stories that touch....

Funny how people react when a girl slaps a guy in public, prolly laugh at him and mock him ..... then if its the reverse, some suddenly try to become heroes by beating the guy up or some other thing..

I'm not in support of women-beaters but if its a situation where she attacks first, Bro, better defend yourself ( not boxing ring oo, a slap should do ) b'cos these type of women can be really crazy......

I've noticed that some ladies take advantage of the general assertion of a weaker gender and use it to inflict pain on a man, and when the man reacts they are capable of crying a river... thats b.s!!

Btw, everyone keeps talking about what Real Men should or should not do.....
What about the Real Women or there's nothing like real woman

So spot on.

I have watched many instances where ladies play victims after they pushed the man to the wall.

Ngoziada592:
Many of us here are also married but if course you are not happy to hear from us since we don't agree with you. No one is saying some women aren't trouble makers, out point is your article is all about blaming the victim. Both parties in a marriage will provoke each other from time to time so everyone must learn to control their reactions and if you feel the person will lead you to do something you'll regret then it's time to leave. The same way some men will keep cheating till the wife snaps and kills him, does that ever make it right? Your Thread should have been balanced but you are onpbviously prejudiced. When s woman kills her husband will you write a thread about how men are responsible for their wives killing them

You keep hammering on the word VICTIM...which victim are we talking about? what has that got to do with the points i raised?

Im being practical lady and im glad that even the ladies cursing have gotten the message.

greetings:
Please why is there a reason for topic or headline? To give you an insight into the content..... A summary of the body of the article.

Yes, your content may make sense but your mislead us with your title on such a sensitive issue for that matter.

In actual sense, you failed to give us our times worth in the content, because you hadn't done justice to the delicious topic you used to invite us.

Lastly, please take criticisms. It makes you a better writer.


Ps. Men and women are both potential victims, as well as perpetrators.

Its even funny that my topic was modified by the mod cos this tthread itle was not the original one used by me and if mods can modify tittles i believe i is imperattive for the mod to make the title moe subtle if needs be and seun ought to have used this option ratther than take it off from home page bu as i wrote,i care less.

Seun:
I am so sorry about this topic. We have dropped it from the home page. Victim blaming is something that should never be condoned. It's not bad to say, 'here are the things you can do to protect yourself', but to say that the people who have been abused are the "main cause" is evil.

Seun look away frrom he opic and talk about the contents.

If i had used a serene title there will definiely be lesser traffic but any reasonable reader will catch the drift he momen they read it so save yourself the sress of apologizing cos its unwarranted.

Many ladies who have commented hardly read pass the title and married ladies who took time to read made reasonable comments.

one last word dude,you have known me since 2008 and if you check my titles you will see that i have a way of creating catchy titles hence im so disappointed that you are apologizing for the use of a title while keeping mum about the inherent deep message.Apparently your awareness is limited for you to say im being mean by blaming a victim and i began to wonder if you know how many men also fall victim.

intelligent people never judge a book by its cover and no dailies will sell if plain titles are used.

I care less if you take it down or lock it.

Iyawotuntun:
Me as a married woman, I totally agree with op and lastly abeg women, dnt ever argue with an angry man, if u kno he is angry dnt continue to run ur mouth and become defensive, u fit chop slap o! Ds are just practical ways to avoid it from happening in d ist instance

Im always glad when i read comments from married people because hey can rrelate better with most of my articles.

Peaceworld:
The OP also brought the storm on his head by putting up such a funny title. Rather the title should be... SIX FACTS EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW IN ORDER TO AVOID POSSIBLE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE FROM VIOLENT-PRONE MEN IN RELATIONSHIPS. Thank you.

lol...apparently you dont understand what creative writing is all about.

the title is perfect...just that many people focus on titles without reading the contents.

noblegrex:
it will be too hard for kids to understand the things of aged peeps. So many kids in here can't understand your points..thumbs up for you cos you've got points to prove.any of the above can provoke a man. I don't pray for shits to happen but as quiet as I can be,I'm not sure of what I'll do to my wife if she's found cheating...

I always tell guys who are quick to say hey can never beat a lady to rather pray o God o give them a woman who will not turn them to wife beaters.

Some ladies are pahethic...they can change your destiny with curses and can bring back the dead with abusive words...some will use unprintable words on ttheir hubbies tha even satan will marvel yye they say...dont beat a woman...i personally met a lady who told me that she prefers to be beaten and i told her GOD FORBID But i latter realized why she said so cos this babe is a professor of curses,abuses and so much that when she confronted a guy in my presence i was like...its a lie.

The fact remains that guys should avoid beating a lady even when we know some of them deserve it.

kingivie:
From d comment of some ladies here I alrdy see Dia husbands are going 2 be wife beaters.

Walahi you no lie...chai...

blayde:
Chineke!! U guyz going for d OP's head are bereft of critical reasoning. He started on the premise that hitting a woman is in every sense wrong(very good). But however dishes some advice to the women folk on how cases of domestic violence can b avoided such as making provocative statements. I bet most of u guyz are not married sef . It is easier to handle an explosive device than a woman's persistent nagging(i pitied my dad d day he lost his job way back when i wz a kid cos dt was literally d end of peace for him at home). In summary what i deduce OP is driving at his that both parties can help each other to avoid d breakout of domestic violence...Remember nobody holy pass.

Thank God for inelligent people.

mavinkalot:
Me wey dey cook serve my wife and kids! Is that one brusing ego? Please men spare me that ego, cooking for my family on many occasions have made increased and consolidaated my other half(my wife). It all depends on how we u see ur wife. When I wash my wife's panties n clothes, cook and serve her, I am see it as I am doing that for myself or my other half. I feel joy n effortless in doing it. My wife is me. No big dealm try ooking for ur wife n serving her. Try helping her in domestic chores esp those times she maybe getting choked with home chores only for her to see thaat it has been fixed by u. JOY, u hv reinjected life in her. Just as she is busy rushing back from office for market, just to make soup. She gets ur call akin her to come home straight n forget that stress. She meets the delicious soup served by u for her. Bro it takes notin from ur ego but adds to ur respect n love bank. I hv boys or wud be havin boys, so I hv to teach them how to handle a womn. My wife being the only femaale amongst four men needs all of the lov and Protection.

The botttomline is that it was your idea to help out and not that she forced it down your throat.

Odunharry:
Following.. Instead of people to read and learn or counter the point made by the op, they are busy insulting the guy.. kontinuu

toks2008, your number one point is so true.

lol,guy i am so indifferent to these insults...i am a no hold bar freelancer.

HaneefahRN:
I was expecting such a thread. Since Mr Toks justified the man that killed his wife cos she had supposedly cheated on him, of which there is no proof other than his loop holes filled story.
I only agree with your first point, cos some women would stupidly marry a man that had been beating them right from their courtship days saying he'll change. The rest are BS, if you can't cope with her behaviour, divorce her.

Useless men that will say, thank you sir, if soldier slaps them be forming Bruce Lee with a defenceless woman.

This is serious @the embolden.

Anyways,whatever rocks your boat.

Ishilove:
Actually I did. It is very offensive because no matter what, a man should not raise his hand on a woman because he is physically stronger than her. You started by saying a man who beats his wife is worse than a beast, then go on to enumerate how women bring violence upon themselves. That, Toks, is highly offensive
And your comment about people who don't agree with you being mentally mediocre says a lot about your blatant misogyny

If you know me very well,i have no issues with people disagreeing with my stand-view but what i loathe is people using vulgar words and that is not new on nairaland so go back and read the original comments of those i responded harshly to and you will see what i mean.

Apparently you are not on same page and i don't think you were unintelligent or immature about it but some people will use very appalling comments.

Nevertheless i respect your opinion and i have no influence on how you understand what i have up there but what i wrote is aimed at educating teh women folk about how to avoid domestic violence and it is clear enough.

Festivalofholi:
A lot of peeps commenting did not read d article. Op is not in anyway supporting domestic violence, instead d article is to help women to know how to curb domestic violence. U ladies shuld be thanking d op.

You get time dey explain to them...i enjoy it when they come on-line to show-case their mental mediocrity.

halfricanadian:
THERE ARE SEVERAL TYPES OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

SOME ARE PHYSICAL
SOME ARE MENTALLY
SOME ARE PSYCHOLOGICALLY
SOME ARE EMOTIONAL

pls address all not onlu physical cos d remaining two kills faster dan physical domestic violence

What people dont know is any woman that dies cos of domestic violence went tru all d 4 stages av listed

Ur husband cant beat u like u just had an accident he can never do dat even accident victims survive

Wat im saying is when a woman gets beaten

She goes crazy mentally trying to figure out wat went wrong

Den pyschologically she begins to feel so down of hersef

Den emotionally she becomes unstable

Nd if d violence continues steadily she is gone asin dead

Every thing is not always physical abeg


So many women are troubled mentally psychologically nd emotionally i wont deny im a victim of this it kills faster dan physical im telling u

Sis we have domestic abuse which are emotional,psychological..... but domestic violence is a different ball game.

ClassCaptain:
Very true Sir..

but i believe the problem comes with the generalization, i believe op should have used Some women instead of the generalization of Women.

There is nothing like generalization...A title must remain as catchy as possible and only intellectually sound people understand the need to read teh contents before making comments..many is not all and therefore there was no basis for generalization in the write up.

Strahovski1:
Shut up man. You are educated in the forest with animals. I wonder what you would be doing to your wife.

Stop making a fool of yourself.

I need to see your parents fast so that i can warn them not to bother spending more on your education.

You are so pathetic.I won't bother to reply you again cos its a waste of time.Just try to read first before making posts to avoid making mockery of yourself and displaying your odoriferous academic mediocrity.

ucheHapers:
Jesus, did people actually read the article. It's obvious people are in a haste to comment without reading even the first sentence. No wonder it's written

"They have eyes but cannot see"

This is the problem i have with many people who read my articles up-side-down and some just read the title and comment.

There is a big problem with the future of this country judging from the crop of many youths we have who find it hard to comprehend.That is how they will start saying i write against ladies because they are not mentally coherent to decipher the inherent points.

Ishilove:
This is very offensive

I can bet you did not read the article asides the title..

Please read first than comment.

Strahovski1:
Useless...

No matter what. You have no right to hit a woman. A man abuse you would you punch him? NO. But a woman you will.

*Pulls out dick and start masturbation on threaD*

I seriously pity you because it is apparent that you are far from being educated...please always read first before commenting and stop constituting nuisance.

*Every man must understand that the woman is a weaker vessel which means they could be weaker in emotions,actions and utterances hence the need to understand this inherent nature of theirs and not allow it to provoke you in anyway to the extent of raising your hands against them.A man who beats a woman is a beast and do not deserve to live with humans but with fellow beasts in the jungle...No matter how provoked you may be as a man,please never raise your hand to beat a woman*


It is no longer news that many women have lost their lives through domestic violence and the more we try to put the blames on the menfolk the more we will continue to blind our eyes to the fact that indeed,there are many ways women contribute to this menace but there are also various ways they can prevent it.

As i always tell ladies...if your man beats you the first time,take it as a mistake from him but if he does it the second time then it is a habit.

Nevertheless below is a list of ways women can prevent this mad act by some men and i hope ladies take time out to read and put them to practice.

1.Don't be Negligent: Yes this is one fact many ladies will not deny because there is no accidental character and the signs of a violent man would have been there . It is quite amazing that many ladies get beaten up by a guy they are dating and this guy will still go ahead and become their hubby and i keep wondering what these ladies were thinking saying i do to a guy who beats you up. Many ladies usually believe such guys will change but the honest truth is that a guy who beats you up while dating you may kill you when he becomes your hubby.RUN.

2.Put Sophistication at bay:Many people will wonder what this has to do with domestic violence but it has a whole lot to do with it. Sophistication is the bane of today's woman and the number one reason why many ladies find it hard to get a man to settle down with. Many ladies are too sophisticated to come to terms with the fact that they are married,this set of ladies will practically make demands that their husbands help out in the kitchen,the need for him to cook his food and even take care of the baby and subconsciously, these ladies gradually bruise the ego of the man who may continue to stomach these things until he gets pushed to the wall and reacts in a violent way. No matter how highly placed or sophisticated you may be as a lady,please understand that you are a wife and a mother and you must learn how to joggle these roles without turning your hubby into a domestic servant...if he decides to help out please let it be his decision.Not all men are sound minded to get the message when you ask him to help you domestically.
If you think the work is too much then get a maid.

3. Avoid Misguided utterance: This is a very common fact as regards some women and it is so sad that many ladies do not even realize they are guilty of this because they just might believe they are making sense not knowing that they are bruising the man's ego and killing him bit by bit mentally and emotionally. Misguided speech sometimes come in a very subtle way from the lady who may have no clue. For instance a lady footing the bills telling her hubby that "she can not go out all day and still come home to please him sexually" or "he can not satisfy you sexually", or funny words like "you should be thanking GOD for having me cos there are better guys out there" bla bla bla common.... A man is an egocentric person and any word that bruises his ego could bring out the beast in him. so try as much as you can to avoid using misguided speech because not all men are calm enough to overlook certain words.

4.Avoid Infidelity:This account for many cases of domestic violence leading to death. Yes men cheat as well as ladies but as a lady please be extremely careful when it comes to sexual infidelity. Scientists have proved that the effect of hard drugs on human is the same effect a heart break gives. If you must cheat on your man or hubby please i advice you just break up with such first rather than staying in that affair and cheating because the resultant effect is always a dangerous one.

5.Avoid outright use of abusive words:This is no doubt one reason why many gentle men have turned wife beaters.There are some women who can use their tongue to set a house on fire and you need to hear how some ladies speak to their spouses.

Many ladies are very erratic in speech and it is not all men that are gentle or can walk away as men are always advised.Please ladies,learn to bridle your tongues to avoid stories that touch...be submissive,be humble.be calm in your speech and avoid getting confrontational because men hate confrontations...remember...not every man is a gentle man so try to always. maintain a status quo.Understand when to keep quiet to avoid heated arguments which usually leads to violent reactions from the man.

6.Avoid Gullibility:Yes many ladies are very gullible when it comes to handling domestic violence.There are some guys who just make it a crazy habit beating up a lady at any slight opportunity even if the lady exhibits an angelic nature. If a man beats you once,assume its a mistake but if he tries it again,please don't go back to your parents or waste your time reporting him to family members because some will tell you to go back because of the children or because of shame...please its better to live with shame than to end up dead...go to the police immediately to report him and let him be invited to write an undertaken never to touch you again while you also maintain a proper decorum but if his madness persists,please leave that marriage or relationship immediately whether you have a child for him or not...it is better to remain single and happy than to lose your life.Gullible ladies who have listened to funny advices from family members to remain in a violent marriage for whatever reason are now 6 feet below....Be reasonable.


Hope this makes sense.

cococandy:
As expected from you.

Justify evil

Truth hurts.

ijames:
I have read so much stories on this NL about how "violence" some men are to thier wives, and how quick most persons call men all sort of names.
Let's be truthful and sincere for once, most women are the cause of whatever they are passing through or have passed though in thier homes.
You will not keep provoking someone and expect him not to react.
Men take so much bullish**t from women.
Most times we are quick to judge from one side because the women always play the victim, something they are very naturally skilled at doing.



MEN FEAR WOMEN O
When it happens na u dem go still blame.

So spot on.

There are many times guys just play the fool to avoid troubles and if we ever get pushed to the wall and react,they will ask why?

I have always asked guy who say they can never beat a lady to rather pray that they don't come across a lady who will turn them into beasts...trust me, some ladies can make angels lose it....Nvertheles guys must never raise their hands on women no matter how provoked they are.

In any romance saga,there are always three sides of the story.

His version
Her version.
The truth

Unfortunately,the woman is gone and we will never be able to hear her version of the story.

chiy:
Ladies!!!
Don't act like it is not important to you. Don't think that sex is secondary. You will not realize how important it is until you enter the marriage contract. If you are not of the school that samples before marriage, please take your time and ask!!!
Also ask about expertise, so that you can know where to start from and what to expect
As for me....

Exactly my point.

SemuhleB:
South african ladies have big booties and small breast clearly you have never set foot in South Africa. South Africa is the only country in africa which is diverse with many diffrent beauties in all shapes, sizes, complexions, cultures, races so its very clear that you have never beeen to SA before!

lol

jus came back from a week trip to S.A so i know wat im writing.

FuckTheM0ds:
i'm 26. We aint youths anylonger. We are now responsible adults

i hear you.

ireneony:
According to this thread https://www.nairaland.com/3089812/why-nigerian-ladies-worlds-finest

Nigerian ladies are indeed beautiful and intelligent . For those doubting Toks2008, I'm here to prove them wrong. Beautiful ladies come in all shapes, sizes and colours.

To the topic#

Here are the 10 most beautiful ladies on nairaland.

1. https://www.nairaland.com/layla129

2.https://www.nairaland.com/osedvgirl

3.https://www.nairaland.com/oliviaarims

4.https://www.nairaland.com/refiner

5.https://www.nairaland.com/suigeneris93

6 . https://www.nairaland.com/ivyy

7.https://www.nairaland.com/MissGdope

8.https://www.nairaland.com/sandoski

9.https://www.nairaland.com/missmary

10.https://www.nairaland.com/ladyjul

N.b: this is just my opinion, if you think otherwise...pls post your pics

Change the topic to outwardly beautiful and add my sweet heart jadekitana.

FuckTheM0ds:
how old are you? Are you more than 30?

lol

im 41

Cherlene:
Greetings

Case 1---> NO

Case 2---> YES

Case 3---> NO

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Cherlene

Hello.

i guess here is a thought provoking piece for the ladies.