₦airaland Forum

LadyBoss1:
Hmmm u sure
Ok at least we agree on dat .. Im a lover not a fighter too ..

Good.BTW i have a bad habit of checking up profiles of any lady wey comment on my post and im so so not sure you own that hot figure.

reallest:
Eiyah sowi babe,I will do dat n make amendment wherE it necessary

Thanks and you look homely except the fact that im skeptical about you considering you just got on board two days ago.

LadyBoss1:
This is not to bruise anyone ..
Cant u just chat without getting upset ?
We just giving our opinion .. If u didnt want it u should have said strictly private , only people who know u can comment or u will not tolorate any opposition finish
No need to get nasty ...

LOL!Missed it again. I seldom get angry. I am a lover not a fighter.

reallest:
What's different between u n op,generalizing every home base nigerian lady,I can only smh for u n op

Na wa o,shaking your head for me?

Why not simply relax and go through my article then come back and tell me if i ever generalized. This ladyboss apparently does not love reading else she will never conclude that i generalized.

LadyBoss1:
Gbam !
Thank jare look [b]go n click on all 78 topics his created not one made it i[/b]m trying to help the guy .. But he doesnt get it

Just change title to why are some finish ..

Lol! i hope you are not trying to imply that none made it to the front page? Don't make me puke abeg.

I am never a front page freak and those with intellectually sound mind will see sense in every topic i created especially in the romance section.

My source is my brain and that makes the difference.

LadyBoss1:
Weak men be blaming women for their problems since the days of Adam
*sips tea*


Op lol next time when u create topic its ok for ppl to oppose its all part of it
How are u suppose to have healthy discussion if u dont see all sides ..dont attack ppl just cuz dey dont agree its ur topic create n chill mehn . Anyway nothing do u

You don't know me but the truth is that i am a creative freelance writer and when i write,people tend to juxtapose my write up with my personal life die to the rich factual content but hell NO. I write mostly from what i see and of-course my experience can't be isolated.

As per criticism oh my that's my opium but if you must criticize me don't do it sheepishly cos you may get intellectually bruised as i am one hell of an embodiment of intellect so please go ahead and criticize but do so meaningfully and you will earn my respect.

LadyBoss1:
Yh but he can correct it so it doesnt look like a general thing ..
Lol yh but ur the dumb one u attacked ppl for having an opinion because u feel urs carry weight
Ab g go n sit down jare

My brother there was nothing there to correct as regards the generalizing.

In English language,using the word many is never the same as all so please just ignore her.

Let her cool down to read very well before making comments.

[quote author=LadyBoss1 post=36266389][/quote]Na wa o,

You are still making the same mistake of not taking a chill pill and read comprehensively.I bow for you o,must i start by writing some ladies? What happens to contextual writing? Abeg free me.

LadyBoss1:
U sure say u no modify
Lol
See nigerain ladies all over the world dey give u evils

Modify qwa,why will i do that? Its you who should try to read well before responding.No wahala.

STPEACE:
Commenting before reading the post is a very bad behaviour

Spot on dear and that is one peculiar thing about people who hate reading.

Imagine someone implying that this short piece is too much.lol!

Those who hate to read never grow intellectually.

LadyBoss1:
N urs makes sense
Try not to be a sheep
Read well n access anyone in their right mind knows . Not all nigerian ladies behave dat way
But i guess uve traveled the world abi ..


Learn to point out where his wrong although his got good point but u are the biggest dummy here .. Ignorance nah disease i swear

Ladyboss if you understand what creative writing is all about you will learn to look away from the title of the news but you will rather read the text before making conclusions and drawing criticisms.

I wrote Nigeria ladies not all in the title and if you now read the article you will see i stated clearly using the word MANY.Shey you get?i don't generalize when i write.

Cutehector:
Op needs to get laid

These nairaland teenagers have come again.

He woos you as a struggling guy and you say yes to him. You visit him in his one room apartment and you allow him screw you front,back and center and you have even lost counts.

You spend nights with a struggling guy,sometimes you cook for him, do his laundry and there is no single part of your body he can not describe yet you can't say yes to him if he proposes marriage to you because by your foolish definition,he is still struggling and living in a room apartment but i keep asking;are you not a wife to him already?

I have seen where many ladies left a guy they love so much and also loves them not because he is not ready for a marital union but because he has no money yet for a big time wedding just for them to marry another man who may not even have any real thing for them simply because the guy is loaded enough to conduct a glamorous wedding ceremony.

This is why many Nigeria ladies remain single till they become old and frustrated. To a typical Naija girl,if a man is not ready for a flamboyant wedding ceremony then he is not ready for marriage and many ladies now focus more on the glamour of wedding ceremony rather than the main marriage so the guy simply keeps mum and continues to bleep da hell outta you and when he is indeed ready for the wedding ceremony,he dumps your overused ass for a new younger babe and then you begin to cry that someone in your village is after you.

Another dumb thing ladies do is running to their pastor or prophet or baba to ask if a man is really their husband and they foolishly believe whatever the man tells them and many ladies have ended up as a prophet or baba's side dish.

If a man of GOD tells me a lady i love is not my wife,i will simply thank him for his spiritual insight and humbly ask him to ask the same spirit to tell me the name of the right lady for me,her house address,tribe,skin color and where i will find her.

Nigeria ladies should stop being foolish and dumb,they should follow their heart and understand that a wedding ceremony is different from a marriage union.Nothing stops you from starting life with that struggling guy in a room apartment. Except those born with silver spoons,every rich guy you see was once a struggling guy and if a guy loves you and you love him and will not mind spending your life with him,simply encourage him to visit your parents,do a little introduction and proceed to the registry. The truth is that most of the glamorous wedding you see between a young groom and bride are actually funded by their rich parents,family members or well wishers so stop giving your guy heat overt an expensive wedding gown,cake or marriage ceremony.

This guy won't remain in lack forever and when the money eventually comes,you two can have the moist expensive and glamorous wedding in the world.

Think Naija lady...THINK.

obyrich:
Such a handsome guy. I pray he is safe.

You sure not gay?

I was expecting that from a female

veekid:
iwor olohun, haha, Wetin person no Go see for this country ooo?

Na by force to write yoruna language? what is iwor olohun abeg i no fit laff.

lagmostkuit:
http://www.naij.com/498448-finding-hard-find-man.html

And this poo made frontpage when a more sensible thread like this one did not.

Nairaland is a joke.

https://www.nairaland.com/2432231/how-avoid-falling-into-trap

Rapmoney:
Sometimes, your personality, desires, attitude or character can be the very reason why you find yourself easily used and manipulated by women . If you find yourself in any of the categories below, it would be wise enough for you now to dust your ass and retrace your steps!!! Below are some types of guys that are easily manipulated by women:

1) #The Sex Freak#: Sex is surely, one formidable tool that women have been using to manipulated men by constantly draining them both financially and emotionally from time immemorial!!! If you are sex freak, you would do anything she requests for in order not to lose the opportunity to have access to regular sex! In the long run, you might find yourself spending more than half of your monthly income on her! Being able to control your sexual desires can greatly help you in avoiding the situation of you being a slave to babes!!!

2) #The Love-starved Guy#: I know guys who go about looking for love as if it was their destiny Though, it's not bad to search for love but when you show too much obsession for it, you could be easily used by ladies. Why would you beg a babe to date you? Promising her that you would take care of her or do anything for her? You must be a 21st century mugu!!! When you do this, you have laid yourself on the ground to be trampled on and used in the long run!!!

3) #The Emotionally-weak Guy#: Emotionally weak guys are easily used by women. Such guys tend to exhibit attitudes such as desparation, inexperience and romantic foolishness! They can't say 'No' to a lady's demand at all times...I call them 'Yes Men' It is this type of guy that will continue to call a babe up to 78 times, knowing fully well that she doesn't want to pick his call . He can easily change his important plans just to please a woman who doesn't even have an atom of love for him. He can starve himself for a babe just to provide her those expensive goodies she has requested for!

4) #The Show Guy#: You wan show yourself abi? Your last money on earth is 5k...you don't know where and when the next money will come yet you would still go ahead to take her to an expensive eatery in order to show her that you can provide her needs. This is where you end up spending almost all the money; if she tells you that she needs this and that and you discover that the bill would take almost all the cash, it would be advisable to tell her the plain fact! Emotionally strong dudes are not afraid to say the facts confidently but emotionally weak dudes are!!! If this is the case, you can be easily used by the babe because she would easily notice this. Nor worry, the owu wey go blow you still dey do road walk!

5)#Struggling Guys That Have Taste For Beautiful Women#: This category of guys are very prone to being used and manipulated by ladies. I once opened a thread on struggling guys . If you are a struggling guy with a low income, please face your front! In other words, face the most important things in your life and stop drooling over beautiful babes abeg! These girls will only end up using you when they become aware that you don't have the wherewithal or resources to live up to their expectations. Heart-break and emotional trauma are the end-resuls! Imagine the situation...you are struggling and she's so pretty and hot with so many men wanting her with their numerous offers! What do you expect to get if not being used? You nor get money but you wan chop Owerri soup! . I fear you o!

Warri First Son...

That last point is the reason why many ladies will remain single till old age.

If all of us begin to wait till the money comes before going into an affair yet we will be sxrewing these same clueless ladies who allow a strugling guy screw them front and back but can not marry same struggling guy.SMH

classicB:
.I think cheating and poor sex. Not everybody can cope with a cheating partner especially if the cheating partner keeps cheating with no remorse. Poor sex can also kill relationship if sex is the pillar of the relationship, i mean to some people sex o's as important as trust and faithfulness.
A relationship can still cope with no money, money doesn't guarantee the wellbeing of a relationship.

I love intelligent ladies.

Nice response.

Ok lets even assume she slapped the police man,are Nigerian police officers so daft to understand that there is a way to treat a pregnant woman even if she is 4 months pregnant let alone 8months.

Some police men are touts in uniform.

EnlightenedSoul:
To you, infidelity is not a good enough reason to leave someone, but in reality it's one of the most common reasons for breakups/divorces. It's up to wronged party to decide whether or not the offense warrants a divorce. If the person decides it does and leaves you, it matters not that you've 'replaced' them with the 'side' as they've already willfully left you, likely for someone else or their own peace of mind. As for guarantees, there are no guarantees on anything in life. That doesn't keep us from living life to the fullest, taking chances, and cutting losses wherever necessary.

If you're married and stuck (financially or otherwise) to a spouse who cheats, and you prefer the facade of that marriage to a divorce, you'll likely do whatever it is you need to do to stay sane as well. The wronged will eventually become emotionally numb to the cheater's transgressions as a matter of course, and start doing their own thing.

There are no two other ways about it. If the person stays, chances are extremely high that there will come a time when they'll eventually 'cheat' on the cheat and think nothing of it. The 'arrangement' may even suit them.

Im impressed by your intelligent arguement and you give me hope that there are still intelligent Nigerian ladies.

But be sincere,would you advice your daughter to divorce her hubby based on sexual unfaithfullness? Dont tell me its her choice but what would you advice?

wristbangle:
Bro, bin a while. How u dey?

I dey my brother...na hustling o make GOD bless our hustle.

tosyne2much:
[i]

Iranu

EnlightenedSoul:
Eeek(!), I don't even know where to begin...

The fact of the matter is, if it's an absolute must for two people to stay married, whether that be because of their financial interdependence or one's decency on the other, they'll do what they need to do to stay sane and stay married. If one cheats, and the other sees it, the latter may be emotionally wrought but eventually those emotions will turn stale, and you'll be left with two jaded folks looking beyond the "main dish" in their union to the point the "main dish" is no longer "main". If your happiness isn't hinged on the facade of being "married" in such a way and/or you don't believe in polyamory, you'll have no problem leaving the person to their devices. Being "replaced" is beyond the point if the spouse left you to begin with.

You be lawyer?

Because honestly you write like one but unfortunately i no comprehend at all abeg paraphrase am.

I just got saved from initial gragra.

DTOBS:
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ROTFL!

Some nairalanders wil not kill me... please was that surppoose to be a comment or space booking? lol! oh my

tuns9629:
Nice post...I really wish our ladies could learn frm this. Marriage is a forever thing, they shouldn't send the right person away by looking elsewhere..I'm talking frm experience. Peace out y'all.

When it comes to marriage,its more than feelings but its about that man who will really take you special and not the other way round.

I pray our ladies will learn.

Why some women will never be happy in marriage.

I am writing this no holds Barr article not to encourage the sinful and hell bound act of infidelity or give a good excuse for it but for every reasonable lady to read and meditate upon and for those who will shove this aside after reading this,it is quite apparent that the truth will always stare at your face even when you don't want to acknowledge it.

We all know that there are different factors that contribute to marital unhappiness for a woman but in most cases,infidelity on the part of the man tops the list.

If you are the type of lady who hinge your marital happiness or your happiness in any affair on your man's faithfulness towards you then please start having rehearsals on how to cry.

No matter how super sexy you may think you are and no matter how extremely beautiful you may look,there is still a very great probability that your husband will cheat on you even if he loves you with his life.

Oh yes there are men who will never cheat on their spouse no doubt and that is why i use the word most and not all but the truth is 8 out o 10 guys will cheat on you and some may do that just few days after your wedding and some might wait for months while some strong willed guys might just honor you by waiting for just few years.

Most times no woman is really interested in snatching your man but just want to share him and most men are never interested in leaving their beloved wife for any other woman but are mostly interested in just tasting her goody-bag and discard her.

But if the wife starts making problems over a frustrated and desperate side dish,,that is when the trouble starts and the man now starts misbehaving until the issue escalates and divorce comes up and foolishly you will now leave your marriage for a side chic to take over and trust me,she will take over your home and your man real good that your hubby will forget you ever existed.

If that sweet faithful husband starts cheating on you,Please focus on your life and child(ren) if any and just switch him to a sex partner while according him all the rights and privileges of a husband. Don't stalk him,believe whatever he tells you even when you know he is lying,care less about whether he is sleeping with a million side dishes(Desperate Ladies) and only then can you be happy in your marriage.

Dont bother yourself descending so low to revenge by rubbing yourself in the mud cos it will be foolish of you to ridicle yourself to a slutty level because a man cheats on you.

A faithful man will be faithful and a man who decides to cheat on you will do so and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.FACT

And Ionically,leaving a cheating hubby is never and i repeat,never a guaranty that the next man wont do worse and in most cases,these ladies end up sleeping around with randy guys or another ladys husband so of what use is your leaving?

Just try to be financially independent,GOD fearing,humble,a good cook and be a reckless LovePeddler to him in the bedroom and leave the rest to GOD.

The bottom line is that if you are not psycologically ready to cope with the possibility of your hubby having an affair with another lady please stay away from marriage.

For that man who has decided to be adulterous and will not mind damning his soul for sinful pleasures,please and please for the sake of marital respect for your wife,do it far far away from her because what the eyes do not see does not hurt and use a protection and for the man who is faithful to your wife alone i say GOD BLESS YOU and the works of your hand.

My candid take.

ken1982:
see ehn...this gay thing no be here o...when i was 17 years (1999) dem no born any MAN talk this kind BS....but nowadays them go just dy come out from cave like zombie dy yarn...now i pray for women children more...no more male children...i can easily understand lesbos but not tolerate sha...but gay men....how i wish they keep it to demselves and not try to bring it out there...and also d stupid media that talks and celebrates dem...dy made us like mumu music now they r making us or forcing this shit gay trans bla bla shit on us...my house no go get dstv...my son will not go to boarding house. tufia

lmao...your house no go get dstv lol..

Jsmile:
I didn't mean to sound the way you understood it or naughty in any way. As the topic rightly said, it's a testimony.

But honestly that demon behind gay act
strtong o.

How can i leave a round sexy voluptuous
sensual inviting succulent bouncy ass with
sweet hole for a man like me?Tarrrrrrrr
Omo i just tire.

Omotayor123:
Pastor

lol

Its funny innit?

Imagine Tayo as you dey wey you set,imagine me leaving those lovely sexual endowments of yours to start looking for a man like me to sleep with.Iranu abacha.

i can nver be agay even for a billion dollar.

francescainnoce:
I think he is gay

Apparently he is.

But honestly that demon behind gay act strtong o.

How can i leave a round sexy voluptuous sensual inviting succulent bouncy ass with sweet hole for a man like me?Tarrrrrrrr

Omo i just tire.