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Tonybills:
Dear palz, am really disturbed seeing my girlfriend wearing chain around her waist.

Initially i thought she indulge in lesbianism or runs girl stuff but she is not that type.

I asked her about it and she told me she do wear it since she was a kid unlike the beaded chain children do wear. the question now is i dont know the implications of a girl putting chain or beads around her waist or does it have any spiritual side effect. I'm just confused even though she promised to remove it.

Midehi:
*singing* *cut your coat according to your cloth.


broke guys always go for classless babes, so i dont think its a crime to visit such places cos they are both brokers

heykims:
Ekiti
dem local die..

Atk01:
Just because of $50 for a few days, oga Nedu lost his job. Who even asked him to take his family?


May foolishness not be our undoing in life.

marshalcarter:



Na OP dey do dis tin

meimoks:

manie:
If you earn 100k, I will advice you plan with 80k because some funds ought to be earmarked for savings and investment.

What works for you family, will definitely not work for another. My wife works and also gets some millions of Naira as rental income from the properties left by her parents in Lagos. I do not ask my wife for money, I don't even know what she earns but we have a formula for sharing financial responsibilities in the house.

We have a joint account which we both transfer money into every month. The money in the account is to pay bills, school fees, investment for the family and educational endowment.

Apart from the joint account, we both have our personal accounts which we spend as we please.

I have 2 completed houses in my name, my wife has 2 houses in her name, 2 other houses were inherited by my wife and her 2 siblings, we also have another house in my name and my wife's name.

Whenever my wife gets lump sum from rents and dividends, she comes to me for investment advice. I do not see the success of my wife as a threat to me, as a matter of fact my wife built her house before I built mine.

wristbangle:
Excellent write up bro.


Old flames re kindled atimes but it's left for who ever is the culprit to curb the memory away.

godoluwa:
u are ryt about the pains of heartbreak but he needs to be a man. the fact that he attempt to kill himself makes him a fooolish. only a fooolish man will kill himself bcoz of breakup.

Kelvin0:
I swear no woman is worth ma tears..
what nonsense.... mtcheeeew

chomytex:
Lol..as a matter of fact I luv cooking,apart from mum I'm the only female,so I guess that's it.

Ramon92:
Why you de expose ur side bae nah?? *in MI's voice, she sef be human being oo*

jaybee3:
First and foremost, you aren’t the only one with years of marriage experience so get that straight. Second of all, I would like to know the reason why your marriage didn’t work since you’ve claimed on this board weeks back that it had nothing to do with infidelity. Perhaps it had something to do with your egocentric nature?

You can’t go into a marriage with a superman mind-set and expect it to work.
Obviously, It’s safe to assume you had be the type that will demand she does all the manual jobs in the house because you’ve made yourself the sole breadwinner.
Obviously, it will be difficult for her to have an opinion when it comes to finances and/or decisions on major projects because it’s your money which you have singly earned with outright right to spend as you wish




It’s simply idiotic and outright stupid for you to consider a position with just one possible outcome. So you will basically continue working 24/7 just to prove you are the man even if it’s clear your wife can support the family where possible?



This is just plain ridiculous to be honest with you. How can you establish a mind-set that you will always provide then suddenly expect her to support you when you can’t ?
Why sell a lifestyle that you know won’t/can’t be sustainable since you’ve rightly agreed that there is the possibility of you being incapable of fulfilling your responsibility

You are simply a perfect example of those men that will cry foul that their woman ain’t supportive even though you’ve done this that for them. Why would they I ask if all you had be trying to do is introducing a new phenom into an already established agreement




How is it absurd if the contribution is entirely going towards the household?



How stupid of you, so you had deliberately restrict your family from life of luxury just so you can massage your ego?
You had basically send your kids to public school even when it’s clear that investment in good quality education almost certainly yield desired results in the long run



I’m interested in why it didn’t work despite being a superman



Good righteous women won’t see it as such since they had be seeing whatever contribution they make as their shared responsibility for the success of their marriage

Donpizzle:
NOTE: the essence of a woman in marriage is to assist the man and to be parasitic to him.

emmatok:
How do you know the women tell the whole truth here.
You don't judge another man without hear his side of the story.

But this thread is an eye opener about women folks in marriage, women will always want openness from men but they always do otherwise.

afrika:
If ur hubby give u nice hot fxxxxxxk, u will never bother writing it on this front page for help. Some mentioned experience to wayward husbands. Actually most of these men were guys that we begged, urged to get married to. How come they re wayward now? What goes around....

U can make ur man understand some things and gradually u can keep aside some monies in another account than in a general account.

MONEY THEY SAY, IS THE ROOT OF ALL EVIL. If this world was to begin afresh, the scene of the first man and woman wud be broken from "who steal my money"

oshaosha2014:
Iam sorry about your situation but iam not going to advise you. The more you put your family story on the internet, and follow advise from people who have their own problems they are dealing with, the more you will destroy what you have built up with you own hands.

jaybee3:
You are not making any sense at it's obvious you aren't married.

You need to get yourself outta the mindset of me me me in a marriage. There is no singular in marriage and all income earned should be for the marriage

It's idiotic to be suggesting a man should loan money from the wife then share the proceeds as at when it yields results.

I accept that circumstances are different and all as in you could be the sole earner or whatever but that doesn't mean you should still make yourself the superman without making her responsible for some family expenditures.
What happens if God forbid you lose your source of income and the stupid pride has enabled you cultivate the singular culture in your marriage?

You had better throw your mindset in the bin Unless you are already a wealthy man

Laredojohn:
Op your a very right but. will advice u open a separate account and save there, so it will not look different to him, some men sha they like awoof....anyways just to. Save him feeling bad

bayulll01:
The fact that u choose to fall in love with wrong men,who has battered,manhandled,deter ur hearth does not mean there is no good men outside,advice when next you fall in love choose to fall in love

jaybee3:
That much pride in your own marriage, who are you competing with?

So you will deliberately stop growing as a family so you can always be the MAN or how else would you navigate an income/expenditure mismatch

komek:
Shut up.

What most of u do is to marry a man who does not want ur progress because he is tall , dark, handsome, sixpacks, dimple even when it is obvious that the dude is broke.

How on earth wud a human being plan a life style in another man's pocket. @ OP, I will suggest u stand ur ground in ur decision and since u have not been keeping secrets from him pls continue that way and don't stop telling him reasons why he shud not be using money anyhow because he has a supporting wife. Pls don't mind this adviser that I quoted, she does not have a good home and she has come to scatter urs too that is if she is married o.

MarvellousGod:
favorofGod, be wary of advices like this, your thread has hit fp so you'll get all sorts of advice. Be wise!!

chomytex:
I will go first..

Mine is sweeping, it's not like I don't sweep, I see it as a heavy duty!

I prefer washing of clothes and dishes..

So fellow nairalanders, what's yours?..share it with with us.

This's actually my first post here so let's keep the ball rolling!

chomytex:
I will go first..

Mine is sweeping, it's not like I don't sweep, I see it as a heavy duty!

I prefer washing of clothes and dishes..

So fellow nairalanders, what's yours?..share it with with us.

This's actually my first post here so let's keep the ball rolling!

FavorofGod:
Thanks for all ur contributions. I think I'd just open a savings account without his knowledge and do a monthly standing order. But he knows my monthly pay and would know if I started saving, so I intend to wait till I get promoted later this year and then save part of the differential in salary. But as for this month and next month salary, my stand remains the same, until I pay my school fees.

enoqueen:
One of the many mistakes we women make is allowing our men know that we av money.

U did not do anything wrong and let it remain so even after paying ur fees.

When men sees money with us, they will be coming up with different project that they cannot do alone just to make sure that we spend what we av.

FavorofGod:
My hubby and I have had no financial secrets since marriage. He uses my atm regularly and it's almost as though we operated a joint account. This has worked for us until recently.

Now the issue is this: I'm saving for my masters school fees(distance learning) which invoves thousands of pounds. I had to defer it last year due to financial constraints. So from the beginning of this year, I had already started making plans to pay. Hubby promised to assist but each time he puts away some money, something always comes up to make him use it up.

I wouldn't have minded much if it was just that, but he turns around to deplete my own savings, promising to pay when he has money. I know he has no other means of income and cannot fulfill that promise.As it stands now, I've not been able to save a dime, and my fees is due in 2 months.
So I told him he is on his own as far as this month and next month's salary is concerned, cos I'm saving every bit of it. Some money being owed me at my place of work for months now was finally paid me yesterday. I didn't want to tell him at first, but later did this morning.

He said he was disappointed, that I've started keeping secrets from him. That he only spent my money because he was broke and not out of carelessness. I told him there was a cause.

He spends money as he sees it, and does not believe in saving for the rainy day. He is not frivolous, but will start projects he had earlier shelved due to lack of money as soon as he sees money. For e.g, He has been talking about hosting a big time baby dedication, and the whole family travelling to the village next month for holiday, which are all capital intensive projects, when he knows he cannot fund it with his salary alone.

I think he wants me to allow him use my savings, then hope for a miracle to pay my fees. I know he's not commited to my academic pursuits, though he claims to. He once used up money I had saved for a proffessional exam, promising to pay b4 the closing date, only to tell me to forgett about an exam I had fully prepared for a day to the closing date because he couldn't raise the money. I had to run around to borrow and pay that same day.

So, ladies and gents, am I wrong to have barred him from touchingmy money for thisperiod or not? Should I stop telling him how much I have exactly? Share your thoughts.

captainobvious:
Guys, you invited a girl for a date, after so much begging and persuasion she agrees.

You fix a date and you arrive the venue for the date early and decided to wait. As you were waiting, you saw the girl come down from a cab with 5 of her friends.

What would you do?

Ladies, if your brother finds himself in such a situation what would you advise him to do?

*Relax and spend on them?
*Hide
*Shout on her for bringing her friends
*Walk out on them?
*Allow them order and then sneak out
*Others (Specify)