Romance › Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by Toks2008(op): 12:58pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Lollittaa: Toks2008 Zukwanuike. Second time im seeing this.. Abeg what does Zukwanuike mean? |
Romance › Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by Toks2008(op): 12:55pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Mercychen: Something is wrong with you. So because someone decided on her own to make you a sperm donor before she hits menopause, you're now forcing advising everyone to do the same thing. For what?
Why force someones view on others? That's thoughtless of you.
Every one is old enough to think and make decisions for themselves. We don't all have the same choice. It was your friends choice to do that. It may not be for others.
Sperm donor kor. Egg keeper ni. Are you sure you are not depressed cos you obviously have some form of mental illness else you won't post this rubbish? How does an opinion become a forceful motion? Are you just dumb to know this or you just want to showcase your foolishness. You can never find a husband with your attitude and if you are married it is only a matter of time before you are dumped. Only a mad person insults another cos of an opinion. Be guided please. |
Romance › Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by Toks2008(op): 12:52pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
Mikester: Wrong. Terming men irresponsible or immature for having standards is wrong. Turning down single moms doesn't make a man irresponsible. There is a huge difference between responsibility and burden. A man who turns down a single mom does so to not place a burden that isn't his upon him. Does that make him irresponsible or a child?
Women place high standards on men who intend to marry them but men misguided by information such as yours lower their standards for damaged women and commit to them.
Get your mentality straight and stop guilt-tripping others for making their own choices. You are very right. Thanks for the correction... Well noted. |
Romance › Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by Toks2008(op): 12:40pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
pocohantas: 1: Use juju and hook one man.
Don’t waste your time going to Shiloh or all these scam pentecostal churches. They will end up hooking you up with one boring evangelist that suffers premature ejaculatiôn.
It is better you use your hand and hook the one you like. But treat him well.
Nothing wrong in hooking husband. Even the bible says the kingdom of God suffereth violence.
2. If you are open to polygamy, give it a shot. As you get older in Nigeria, it gets harder to see a never-been-married man with noble intentions. So if you don’t mind polygamy, if you just want to have your kids by one man, find one polygamous man and have all your kids with him. Permit me to include this number 2. Very apt. |
Romance › Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by Toks2008(op): 11:48am On Oct 24, 2021 |
SmellySperm: E go shock you say na your fellow man u dey yarn with  Probably |
Romance › Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by Toks2008(op): 11:47am On Oct 24, 2021*. Modified: 12:13pm On Oct 24, 2021 |
pocohantas: Use juju and hook one man.
Don’t waste your time going to Shiloh or all these scam pentecostal churches. They will end up hooking you up with one boring evangelist that suffers premature ejaculatiôn.
It is better you use your hand and hook the one you like. But treat him well.
Nothing wrong in hooking husband. Even the bible says the kingdom of God suffereth violence. Kayamata
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Romance › Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by Toks2008(op): 11:41am On Oct 24, 2021 |
Sonnobax15:
 Nice write up 
But getting a sperm donor Instead of going afternoon the real source, don't you think it's kind of cheating on nature? . Must science deny man of all his rights? As a man,I'm supposed to be the one to plant a seed inside of my woman,and not the other way round.......
Las las,tho meno-stop is something that no woman should joke about,but I think the best advice I'll give to any young lady is that she shouldn't be too over selective on her choices of men......I See as for ladies being selective, we can't change that cos the heart wants what it wants. Let them just have a baby first so they will calm down to be with the man that pleases them. Believe it or not,in most cases, single mums get the best men. |
Romance › Re: If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by Toks2008(op): 11:35am On Oct 24, 2021 |
Iyaebe: Hmm i know the lady you are talking about,her Monika starts with "V" . I'll need your services and that of pansophist too since I'm 60+ and still hopeful. Are you in or not? As per the moniker you talked about I don't know about that but regarding my services... With that your figure I will say I'm fully in lol! Just gladly be my lifetime legitimate concubine. Modified : This babe no well o.. She just changed the pics on her Dp from one hot curvy lady to an old woman... Wereh |
Family › Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by Toks2008(m): 11:27am On Oct 24, 2021 |
duyox2004: I hate it. I’m 41, never married, no kids.
I’ve been close…twice. But ended both relationships when they were caught cheating.
I’ve dated several men since then, most older than me, and they seemed to be in no hurry to even be in a committed relationship. Which is crazy to me that these men are mid-40s and still trying to hangout with the guys and party. I met a whole guy group of friends in Houston 2 years ago…all single, all 36–45 years old. They were throwing house parties during the quarantine…parties!! ��
When I was in grade school, I was told to get a degree, don’t get pregnant, just enjoy being single, make friends, keep dating, and the right man will find you.
Now that I have two degrees, traveled the world, developed hobbies, and avoided pregnancy…my doctors are telling me to just be a single mom because I’m running out of eggs as I type this message. �
I beat teenage pregnancy to be considering single motherhood at 41. �
Damn you, parents, counselors, pastors, and everyone who gave me that advice. I can’t get that time (or my eggs) back. I hate being single at this age!! �� I just created a thread on this issue. Check it out https://www.nairaland.com/6817991/lady-late-30s-still-single |
Family › Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by Toks2008(m): 11:26am On Oct 24, 2021 |
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Romance › If You Are A Lady In Your Late 30s And Still Single, Please read This - Opinion by Toks2008(op): 11:24am On Oct 24, 2021 |
Creating this thread has been on my mind for a long time but for some reasons I kept shelving it but after coming across a thread on front page about a 41 year old single lady asking for advise I think it is about time I drop this.
Now what you are about to read is for ladies who are still single in their late 30s and I will make it as simple and as real as possible...
You will never come across the advise I'm about to give you from pastors or many relationship experts but as many people already know me, I keep it as real as possible.
1. Understand that not everybody will get married:
Marriage is not a do or die thing... Marriage does not define who you are and you must never be bothered by what people say cos most of them are Clueless about the institution of marriage. Those who truly understand will never look down on you because you are single. Your happiness is more important than marriage.
2. Be financially independent: Any single lady in her late 30s should never make it a priority to get married cos the more you worry about it the more pressure you put on yourself and this is bad for your psych.
At this stage of your life, self actualization is what you need and trust me, by the time you make it a priority to get the best out of life, this will inadvertently gravitate men to you.
Before I give this third advise let me share this very touching story...
I remember a certain lady who contacted me about 6years ago and she said she has made up her mind to be a single mum if she turns 36 and she is still unmarried and asking me to be ready to donate sperm for her cos she sees me as a responsible guy... Furthermore, she will not put any pressure on me to be financially responsible for the child as she is well to do but she just want to have a child to avoid a situation where she will reach menopause and still childless.
Unfortunately she left this world before she could make this happen... So What is the point?
3. GET A SPERM DONOR TO BEAT EARLY MENOPAUSE.
The paramount purpose of a lady is not necessarily marriage but to multiply, bring forth new generations and replenish the earth. The good thing is that with the modern medical advancement, any lady can achieve this without getting married.
Believe it or not, it is better to get a sperm donor and be a single mum than getting married under pressure to a jerk who will make life hell for you.
If you are a lady still single in your late 30s please get a man to donate sperm for you. You don't have to sleep with him and he needs not be financially responsible for the child but just for you to point to somebody in future as the child's father. This will let you relax to get a better choice of a husband.
4. A man who will love you will love you.
Some may say once they are single mums, guys will run from them and YES I agree but this will also attract real men who understand that single motherhood is not a taboo but Infact a proof that a lady is fertile, a proof that she is responsible enough to keep a baby even when they had the choice to abort.. No genuine man will reject a lady cos she is a single mum especially if the child(ren) is her first.
5. And lastly as suggested by Pocohantas in the comment below... If you are open to polygamy, give it a shot.
According to her, as a lady gets older in Nigeria, it gets harder to see a never-been-married man with noble intentions. So if you don’t mind polygamy, if you just want to have your kids by one man, find one polygamous man and have all your kids with him.
All I wrote, this is an opinionated advise but any lady in this position could still decide to wait until she finds a husband but she must understand that whilst she is waiting, her time is ticking and menopause will definitely come regardless.
I hope this makes sense.
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Family › Re: What Is It Like To Grow Old And Never Be Married? by Toks2008(m): 10:50am On Oct 24, 2021 |
duyox2004: I hate it. I’m 41, never married, no kids.
I’ve been close…twice. But ended both relationships when they were caught cheating.
I’ve dated several men since then, most older than me, and they seemed to be in no hurry to even be in a committed relationship. Which is crazy to me that these men are mid-40s and still trying to hangout with the guys and party. I met a whole guy group of friends in Houston 2 years ago…all single, all 36–45 years old. They were throwing house parties during the quarantine…parties!! ��
When I was in grade school, I was told to get a degree, don’t get pregnant, just enjoy being single, make friends, keep dating, and the right man will find you.
Now that I have two degrees, traveled the world, developed hobbies, and avoided pregnancy…my doctors are telling me to just be a single mom because I’m running out of eggs as I type this message. �
I beat teenage pregnancy to be considering single motherhood at 41. �
Damn you, parents, counselors, pastors, and everyone who gave me that advice. I can’t get that time (or my eggs) back. I hate being single at this age!! �� I was about creating a thread On this so I think it's about time. |
Politics › Re: President Buhari To Unveil eNaira On Monday 25 October 2021 (Photo) by Toks2008(m): 11:03pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
Iliveforever: As in I’ll use my hard earned money to buy this worthless shit coin?? Even if I pluck money from trees, I still won’t try such.
And I can as well bet that buhari won’t unveil anything come Monday Do you have a choice? |
Politics › Re: President Buhari To Unveil eNaira On Monday 25 October 2021 (Photo) by Toks2008(m): 11:02pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
Naija bitcoin version. |
Romance › Re: When you come across any Lady With the Entitlement Mentality, tell her this. by Toks2008(op): 9:01pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
UyaiIncomparabl: I can't share my man. Better remain single. Hotter and fresher women share so who you be? As if she has the power to make a man stay faithful to her. Small pickin talk. |
Romance › Re: When you come across any Lady With the Entitlement Mentality, tell her this. by Toks2008(op): 8:52pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
Socialsunny14: How many did your father give u and your mother and how many have you given ur mother, father and sisters I am the OP, I'm a male and a mature Redpillar with sound reasoning faculty. Know the difference between a simple lady and one with entitlement mentality. Learn to give without expecting a lady to be subservient to you. Lastly pray to GOD to bless you financially. |
Celebrities › Re: Pictures From Nse Ikpe-Etim 47th Birthday Party by Toks2008(m): 5:55pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
I just love her acting skills and she looks good at 47. |
Romance › Re: When you come across any Lady With the Entitlement Mentality, tell her this. by Toks2008(op): 5:15pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
KiNg0G: your a simp my nigga.
am off This thread. First pray to GOD to be financially blessed. Now understand this... A broke or struggling guy can give a lady 100k and cry a river if the lady misbehaves, a millionaire will give double of that and smile if the lady misbehaves. So when I created the thread I was referring to ladies with the Entitlement mindset so be smart enough to know the difference. You can't claim to have a lady if you can't spend on her, give her gifts or even invest on her of you can but if the lady is the type who feels she is entitled because she is with you then that changes the whole narrative. I know about two ladies on Nairaland that if I'm dating I will spend millions on to boost their business cos these ladies have never shown any sign of entitlement to men instead they do their best to have their own businesses... All these boys on this thread saying they can't give a lady their money are not mature enough to grasp the concept of giving to a lady who is worth it and ignoring those who think they are entitled to it. |
Celebrities › Re: Sina Rambo Adeleke Weds In Court (Photos) by Toks2008(m): 4:41pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
Kestolove: D girl wan resemble me but i still fine pass her Finennes no be for face o... Nah for shape. |
Romance › Re: When you come across any Lady With the Entitlement Mentality, tell her this. by Toks2008(op): 3:54pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
KiNg0G: I nor know which side you dey...weda you be simp self I nor know. Me I spend big time for a lady but I do it without expecting any form of loyalty. What I don't do is spend on a lady who feels she is entitled. |
Romance › Re: When you come across any Lady With the Entitlement Mentality, tell her this. by Toks2008(op): 3:41pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
KiNg0G: Logged out already, but anyway this pic go circulate real bad.
Instagram, twitter, facebook and whatsapp status tv.
Your popular to be the first Nigeria nairaland female leech who admitted it publicly.
Kudos.
Me don ALREADY share am to my whatsapp status...I don't know where it's going from there. This guy nah wereh
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Foreign Affairs › Re: Taliban Beheads Mahjabin Hakimi, Female Volleyball Player & Posts Photos Online by Toks2008(m): 3:00pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
I don't think the talibans did this. |
Crime › Re: How CCTV Saved Man From Going To Jail After Lady Accused Him Of Rape. by Toks2008(m): 2:57pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
sandra50: This is the reason why I'm so angry with the western world..someone will sleep with a guy she loves and when she finds out he doesn't love her or the relationship didn't work out she starts with blackmail or you raped me and someone's son will actually go to jail because of this. It is always a woman's words against the men. So sad but this is the case. A lady once threatened that if she does not have her way with a certain guy that she will claim that the man molested her and the guy just gave in at that point. Any man wey no fear woman is toying with early death. |
Crime › Re: How CCTV Saved Man From Going To Jail After Lady Accused Him Of Rape. by Toks2008(m): 2:52pm On Oct 23, 2021*. Modified: 3:56pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
This is why I play the devil's advocate sometimes..
As a man that was molested several times by ladies in the past, I have come to realize that ladies have been playing the victim since the days of Joseph who was wrongly accused of rape....
I have come to understand that not all rape allegations are true but the moment you bring this up on a thread about rape... Some senseless daughters of eve will come for your jugular.
I'm happy for the guy. |
Romance › Re: When you come across any Lady With the Entitlement Mentality, tell her this. by Toks2008(op): 1:52pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
UyaiIncomparabl: You sound so pained. Sorry, your gender can be stupid sometimes.
You're talking about getting laid when I haven't even met with the miscreant and never will meet him. I don't do married men. I put that as a caveat when he came to me. But he stubbornly put his head like a cow. Offered to send me money too many times even when I said it wasn't necessary. Well, this last time, he will send it and I will receive it. I no beg am.
So, please, quite typing rabid messages to me. SIMP. There is nothing bad in doing married men, just marry him rather than becoming a mere side chic. Polygamy is not a sin, adultery is. And mind you, most men are polygamous whether they are married to one woman with many side chics or outrightly married to more than one lady. You ladies should stop fooling yourselves with "I don't do married men talks" |
Romance › Re: When you come across any Lady With the Entitlement Mentality, tell her this. by Toks2008(op): 1:39pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
UyaiIncomparabl: I pity men who will ingest this. Well, this is social media where every man can claim he doesn't give a woman money.
But, I can tell you for free how I have one notorious asslicking womanizer begging me offline to just accept 50K to manage for the weekend. I have told him 100K or nothing. He said he will send it tomorrow unfailingly. I will wait.
That's one of your gender. A married one for that matter. I do not pity them. I will suck their nectar dry till they have nothing else to offer to the outside world. You are missing the point babe. What you wrote here is more of a transactional fee. A man can pay a hoe N1M for a night if that is the fee... Mind you I'm not calling you a hoe but just explaining... So the guy could pay you cos he wants to get in between your legs and understand this... That 100k you billed him might just be peanuts to him if he is a billionaire so stop making yourself look cheap. What we are referring to here is THE ENTITLEMENT MENTALITY of a lady you are actually dating not an olosho you are paying to sleep with. Hope you understand. |
Romance › Re: When you come across any Lady With the Entitlement Mentality, tell her this. by Toks2008(op): 1:34pm On Oct 23, 2021 |
Youngjohnosas: I was chatting with a girl and she said a guy sent her 3k that she was broke at that time and I was saying the guy loves u oo, maybe u should give him a chance and the next thing she said on top ordinary 3k.i was just teasing the babe.
I was stunned, I told her it's not about the amount he sent but since he has the heart of giving u the small 3k like u insinuated just try and check out the guy if his attitude suits u and give him a chance.she still insisted that the money is nothing to her but you are always broke and begging for urgent 2k from me.
If 3k is nothing to u then my 2k is a waste of time and ever since I stopped giving her a dime.i hate entitled and ungrateful people. Can you imagine.... *ordinary 3k* not minding if the 3k is his last. |
Romance › Re: When you come across any Lady With the Entitlement Mentality, tell her this. by Toks2008(op): 5:01am On Oct 23, 2021 |
Richywiz: the act of giving is something you men should learn.
You should give to your women if you have, you could ignore the giving if she felt its her right to collect from you. It may necessarily not be money, you could also give gifts like bracelet, most people give money cos they don't know what to buy for their women.
Currently, my man showers me with gifts, I always give him too, though he gives more due to his financial muscle.
Sometimes I just see something which I feel will be good on him and I buy it for him. You shouldn't be a miser cos she is a lady Most guys do all you wrote. the embolden is what I'm referring to. And I hope it's not only boxers and singlets you buy for him cos that is the typical gifts of Naija ladies to their men... |
Romance › Re: When you come across any Lady With the Entitlement Mentality, tell her this. by Toks2008(op): 1:04am On Oct 23, 2021 |
Carchoice: To be honest, giving ladies money, especially Nigerian ladies. Is a big waste. What you gave yesterday no longer counts today. No be lie. The crazy twist is that most ladies value what a man gives over the sacrifice he makes... Simply put, a typical naija girl will value a man who gives her 1M out of his billions than a guy who gives her 100k out of 150k he has home and away. So why should any man kill himself trying to satisfy a lady when she is most likely to cut your call just to answer a guy that gives her more regardless of the sacrifice you made? This is why I tell men to give ladies only what they can afford so that at the end it won't be too painful if the lady disappoints. |
Sports › Re: Patrice Evra: I Was Sexually Abused By A Gay Man by Toks2008(m): 12:44am On Oct 23, 2021*. Modified: 1:25am On Oct 23, 2021 |
Me I suffered serious sexual abuse that I lost count.
Believe it or not, it is a terrible thing cos it totally changes your perspective about sex.
Raped at 17 by a 19year old lady...
Taken advantaged of by another lady over and over again and I felt it was normal.
When in the uni girls will just enter my room to virtually have their way with me and I stopped visiting ladies in their rooms cos they always threaten to rape me...
Unknown to me this changed my perception totally... I don't know how to chase a lady till this moment cos I have never chased a woman in my life... I tell you I desire you and once you act up I forget you.
And what about sex?, I only enjoy domination simply because that is what I'm used to...
I'm sharing this because many people think men are cool with getting molested but sometimes the psychological effect lasts for a life time..
We guys keep quiet a lot, posting this sef dey make me feel I'm revealing too much. |
Romance › When you come across any Lady With the Entitlement Mentality, tell her this. by Toks2008(op): 11:31pm On Oct 22, 2021 |
No long story.
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Romance › Re: Guys, Which Of These Lady's Complexions Do You Prefer? (Pictures) by Toks2008(m): 5:41pm On Oct 22, 2021 |
Bolarineliza202: 1.fair girl 2.Brown skinned. 3.black skinned.
Be sincere oo All as long as she has a beautiful bxxbs and sexually appealing to me. |