₦airaland Forum

amrichy:
Banning Twitter in Nigeria is a petty and thoughtless move by the FG. But then, in the first place, Twitter shouldn't have the power to delete a president's tweet (any president whatsoever).
The Nigerian government and Twitter have both equally erred!

Twitter is a private platform.
Everyone who signs up for Twitter does so, agreeing with its terms and conditions...
The terms and conditions permit Twitter to delete tweets or even shut down accounts it deems violate its rules.
If Twitter can permanently ban the US president, why do you think they do not have the power to delete the tweet of the president of a banana republic and third world country?

homodele:
Hello house, kindly help me in reviewing my transcript critically.

ME: Good morning Sir/Ma
CONSULAR: Good morning

CONSULAR: Pass me Your Passport and i-20
ME: Okay Sir/Ma (passes it)

CONSULAR: Why Are You Going to the US?
ME: I am going to the US to study for my Master’s in Econometrics and Quantitative Economics but with a concentration on Quantitative Economics at the Western Illinois University, Macomb.

CONSULAR: How did you get the school/how did you hear about this school?
ME: After coming across a research paper written by Professor Shankar Ghimire which was very useful to me during an undergraduate study, I grew interested in the scope and works of Professor Ghimire. Furthermore, I complemented Professor Ghimire on the excellent knowledge he shared in his research paper and I also informed him of my strong desire in having a graduate degree in an analytical field of Economics. Professor Ghimire then spoke to me about the Western Illinois University and the type of scientific economics program they run that would fit my description. Upon Professor Ghimire recommendation of the Western Illinois University, I carried out an extensive personal research on this school by making use of search engines such as 4icu, US News, The Grad Café, and I was better informed and at the same time convinced with the high analytical program offered by the western Illinois university that perfectly meets my academic desire.

CONSULAR: How Many Schools Did You Apply To, how many gave you admission and name them?
ME: I applied to 4 Universities, and all 4 gave me an admission. They are; Western Illinois University, University of Colorado Boulder, Rowan University, and Youngstown State University.

CONSULAR: Why did you pick this school/ why Western Illinois University?
ME: After carefully comparing all the schools in which I was admitted into, and the various coursework I will be taking in these schools, I noticed WIU shifted from the traditional economics coursework which comprises of theories mostly but rather emphasize on data analysis, data optimization, and data interpretation as a course. This would be beneficial to my career here in Nigeria as it would help me proffer suitable scientific solutions to the Nigerian Economic issues. And also, unlike the other Universities and their Economics program, the Quantitative economics degree offered by the Western Illinois University is designated as a STEM degree giving me the opportunity to being opened to a wide range of extensive researches and scientific analysis which is important to me, my studies and my career. In addition, the western Illinois University has the most affordable tuition for a high analytical STEM degree compared to the other universities I got admitted into.

CONSULAR: What is this course about?
ME: Econometrics and quantitative economics is a branch of economics that focuses on the systematic study of how to make use of mathematics, statistics and data analysis to analyze economic phenomenon and problems in a scientific manner with the aim of providing practical and scientific solutions. E.Q.E is a field of economics that depicts and explains economic theories using mathematical models, statistical diagram, and data analytics.

CONSULAR: Why Do You need this Masters/what will this degree do for you?
ME: The Quantitative Economics degree being highly analytical and mathematically technical will provide me with the skills needed to achieve my short term career objective of becoming a Financial Analyst at the Federal Ministry of Finance, Nigeria. In this position, this degree will provide me with the expertise needed for analyzing high financial risk situation, and the mathematical competence needed to forecast and predict changes as well as factors that might affect the Federal Government financial decisions. All of these skills, and the years of working experience I would be acquiring will propel me to my medium term career goal which is to occupy the position of an Investment Analyst at the Nigerian Sovereign Investment Authority. In this position, I will analyze the investment decision of the federal government of Nigeria, and give necessary recommendation on the most profitable and viable investments. In the long term, I plan on becoming a financial consultant and advisor to the Federal and State Government of Nigeria.

CONSULAR: Tell Me About Your Academic Background?
ME: I graduated from the Osun State University in 2019 with a Bachelor’s degree in Economics and a Second Class Upper grade. As an undergraduate, I was an active student in the research department of my undergraduate institution in which I was involved with carrying out researches and analyzing related data. I am competent in the mathematical analysis of economic phenomenal, and I am also experienced in data analysis. Due to my selfless act, I organized tutorials and tutor my colleagues and junior students on various economics courses.

CONSULAR: What Have You Been Doing since you graduated?
ME: After graduating from college in 2019, I undertook the compulsory Nigerian Youth service scheme meant for all college graduates in Nigeria. In this scheme I was deployed to the Lagos State Ministry of Economic Planning and Budget, where I contributed to sourcing for development partners’ ready to collaborate with the Lagos state government on various developmental issues, I also attended various stakeholder meetings on the review and Implementation of the Yearly Lagos state government budget. After a successful completion of this scheme, I got a job as a Financial Analyst Trainee at *****. In this position I am being trained on analyzing various financial trends, providing statistical analysis for various financial decisions, and researching on business opportunities and threats.

CONSULAR: What are those courses you’ll be taking/ Tell me about your program?
ME: I will be taking 6 core courses and 3 elective courses. Some of the core courses are; Macroeconomic Theory and Policy by Professor Ghimire, Price Theory by Professor Lin, Econometrics 1 by Professor Kassing, Statistical Software for Data Management and Decision Making by Professor Jessica. The elective courses are; Thesis Research and Thesis in which a supervisor will provided to me upon decision of the departmental graduate faculty.

CONSULAR: What are your Study plans?
ME: I will be taking a total of 30 semester hour courses, and I am expected to complete my program on the 12th of May, 2023. Upon completion of my program, my immediate plan is to return back to Nigeria to work has a Financial Analyst at the Federal Ministry of Finance. In this position I will work in the capacity of a consultant rendering financial risk analysis to selected private institutions in the Financial Industry. My medium term plan is to work as an Investment Analyst at the Nigerian Sovereign Investment Authority. In this position, I will analyze the investment decision of the federal government, and give necessary recommendation on the most profitable and viable investments. My inevitable long term plan is to establish a financial consulting firm, rendering advisory and consultation services to the public and private sector.

CONSULAR: Did You Write Any Standardized Test?
ME: Yes, I took the GRE test, with a total score of 300.

CONSULAR: Are you married?
ME: No, I am not married.

CONSULAR: Have You Travelled Before?
ME: No I haven’t had a reason to travel out of the country.

CONSULAR: Who Is Paying For This? / Who Is Sponsoring You?
ME: My mother is my sponsor. She is a successful business woman in the Nigerian hospitality industry. She specializes as an Hotelier owning three 4-Star Hotels, 1 home appliances Supermarket, and 1 large consumer-product retail store in Lagos state, Ogun state, and Oyo state. In addition to that I received an international commitment scholarship in the sum of $4000 due to my impressive undergraduate academic achievements which would be covering a portion of my tuition

CONSULAR: What do you do presently?
ME: I am currently employed as a financial analyst trainee at *****, a Private Firm rendering financial and accounting services, where I am gaining experience which will prepare me for my Masters in Quantitative Economics. In this position I am being trained and developed in providing financial advisory expertise, research expertise, financial market analysis, and financial consultation services. Basically I analyze financial instrument, examine various financial decisions made by our clients, prepare statistical model to aid the firm’s senior management decision, and I carry out SWOT analysis for various client, amongst other functions.

CONSULAR: What are your career plans / what is your plan after graduation/ what will this degree do for you?
ME: As I have earlier stated, this degree and the professional experiences I would be gaining, will make me a best fit for the position of a financial analyst. My immediate plan is to return back to Nigeria to work as a Financial Risk Analyst specifically at the Federal Ministry of Finance, Nigeria. In this position I will work in the capacity of a consultant rendering financial risk analysis to selected private institutions in the Financial Industry. My medium term plan is to work as an Investment Analyst at the Nigerian Sovereign Investment Authority. In this position, I will analyze the investment decision of the federal government, and give necessary recommendation on the most profitable and viable investments. My inevitable long term plan is to establish a financial consulting firm, rendering advisory and consultation services to the public and private sector.

Thank you very much house.

Looks like you’re prepping for an exam, not an interview.

Your “how did you learn about this school” section reads phony to me. You can’t convince me WIU has such a fantastic econometrics program than Harvard, MIT, UPenn etc. keep your answers short, honest and straight to the point.

Stevenssen:
I think business is okay

Agreed.

slimmy2005:
I would advice you go on your own. Schooling in America with a baby, the Visa Officer knows it’s Herculean for American citizens let a lone international students.

So it would be easier when she is 2000 miles away from her child who isn't even 1 yet? I would think there is room for compassion...

shoyinka35:
Good everyone,
What is the is d chance for a woman who has a 9months baby that want to go for her masters with the baby be given visa OR she should rather not go with the baby,which is the best option for her visa to be approve.

Your chances are as good as anyone else. Your baby is 9 months... no one expects you to leave him behind to study.

Coolkid2222:
Good morning nairalander
Please I need your advice on this
Went to America embassy for third time
Two Lagos and one Abuja
2nd of June

Vo: good morning
Me: good morning sir

Vo: why are you going to the US
Me: am going to ***university for my bachelors degree in *****

Vo: why did you need this degree
Me:I have been work at ***** as an administrative officer in other for me to attain a executive managerial position at **** this degree is essential

Vo: I can see you have been denied before this was not what you told them
Me: for my two interview I was not asked why do I need the degree

Vo: so you want to work with the government now
Me: yes at federal ministry of ****

Vo : sorry you are refused for same reasons

Please guys I don’t understand the reasons

How can you be confused? the reason you were denied is staring you in the face. The VO gave you hints twice. First he reminded you that your reasons for choosing to school in the US was different from what you stated in your previous interviews. He gave you a chance to get your story straight... he asked you "so you want to work with the government now?"... meaning you had previously stated you wanted the degree to work elsewhere.

This is one of the biggest problems I have with people posting visa transcripts for vetting... you should prepare for your visa based on what YOU want to do - it is a personal decision, not based on what someone has told you will sound good. That way, you always have one story regardless of how many times you take the interview. The interview is about you, make your answers about you.

Pefuele:
This is inspiring. Feel free to make more indelible marks by stating the name of the university. That could inspire more!

I think he already made indelible marks by showing others how it is done... it is up to them to either put in the work or sit here asking for names of universities to copy.

moyin29:
Congratulations
I really took my time to read through very inspiring. So happy for you, could you please list USA universities that yiu applied too

Are you sure you "took my time to read through"? Re-read his post and do better.

fdecisive:
Date: 1st June 2021
Status: Approved
Funding: Full Ride

Since last week, I have been watching boxing legend Mohammed Ali and his fights with Frazier and Foreman. So today when I was inside the consulate, I began to get a bit nervous. So I began to warm up (subtly though) just like Ali does, from left to right... . Watch him on YouTube, you'd love it.

While on the queue, I saw several cases being adjudicated. There was a guy who couldn't string two or three sentences without a serious grammatical mistake, he didn't sound like someone who passed English at all. On top of the fact that he was telling obvious lies. But he was speaking forcefully, and in the end, his visa was approved, to everyone's surprise. There was a guy who was practically fidgeting, didn't know where he had worked just a couple of years ago, couldn't say what the degree will do for him. But his visa was approved. In my mind... See grace. There were others who seemingly said everything right, and were calm and confident too, but were still denied. Fear God.
It got to my turn.

VO(Caucasian): Good afternoon
Me: Good afternoon sir.

VO: So tell me, what are you going to do?
Me: I'm going to the university of xxxx to gain knowledge and conduct a research with Dr xxxx and Prof xxxx, on how government policy on internally displaced persons, refugee, and migrants are formed; this study will lead to a masters degree in International Studies, and prepare me to take up a role as Director of Corporate Social Responsibility at xxxx, where I currently work. (I stopped, and VO was still typing and looking through my i-20).

VO: (He kept mute for about 20 seconds. He was checking my I-20 all the while I was speaking and kept typing even after I stopped.) Suddenly, he heaved a sigh, opened his mouth, and said... Alright, I will be giving you this document, and approving your visa. We got a lot of folks in queue and I can see you got a full ride, so let's not waste much time.
So here's your i-20, you can pick up your passport from Monday next week at DHL office, VI... Have a wonderful trip to America.

Me: Already smiling. Thank you so much. Have a nice day!
The whole process took just over a minute.

First of all, I want to appreciate the Almighty God for this. I return all the glory to God. I will share part of my story below to motivate and inspire someone out there. You can make it, if you will try!

As of August last year, I had no clue and no plan to study abroad. I had different plans for my career, which included doing a Masters at UNILAG . That same August, a friend of mine John (not his real name) who won a commonwealth scholarship to the UK visited me. He had travelled to Lagos in order to process his tuberculosis tests at Ikeja. He shared his story with me and challenged me to apply for Chevening, Commonwealth, and any other scholarships I could find, adding that I had exceptional experiences that will make me stand out. I was inspired because this was a guy who grew up with me in Warri, walked the same streets with me, attended the same fellowship (FECA), he was even my junior throughout our days at UNIBEN, and here was he going to UK on a fully-funded Scholarship. I believed I could do it too. I decided to give my applications my best shot. As God would have it, we were working remotely at my workplace, so I could devote a lot of attention to research online. I made up my mind to apply for UK Chevening and Swedish Institute Scholarship (NOT USA - I did not think I could afford their numerous standardized tests, and other fees, etc). The USA was out of it for me.

From late August to November last year, day after day, night after night, I did meticulous research. I got vital help from John and others too. I tried to string a coherent story from a pretty diverse career story spanning journalism, news broadcasting, community development, refugee support, humanitarian aid, corporate communications, etc. I wanted to develop a solid personal statement from my experiences that will always be convincing.
After sleepless nights, and managing my applications with my full-time job, I got admitted to 6 UK schools (Universities of East Anglia, Leicester, Bournemouth, Lancaster, Westminster, & Cardiff). I applied for the Chevening Scholarship. I got favoured by God, and was shortlisted for an interview. Last April I did my interview at the British Consulate, Lagos. It was successful, as the panellists shared their feedback with me that I I was outstanding. I'm confident I will be shortlisted for the award when names will be released this month.

But this is how my US story began. In early February, another younger one of mine from my NCCF (NYSC), with whom I had chatted around Christmas last year, reached out to me. He told me that he was now in the US studying, and told me I could actually apply to schools for PhD and get funding too. I never knew - ignorance ain't good. I immediately modified my personal statement, adjusted my references, and started conducting another massive research on US schools that had my course, and was going to waive the application fee, GRE, TOEFL, etc. I wasn't into these standardized English tests, as my English was excellent as far as I was concerned. But to get the schools that were waiving these was a real work... Night upon night I searched patiently. I was lucky to stumble upon my current school, and applied. I requested that the application fee should be waived, and they did. In fact, at some point it looked as if they were appealing to me to send in my application, after reading my personal statement. Two weeks after applying, I got admitted with full graduate assistantship, health insurance, return flight ticket, tuition and fees waiver. I couldn't believe it! I danced and danced that night, praising God, and I'm sure others in my flat must have heard my loud screams, and tonguings too .

I share all these to inspire someone. I am not from a privileged background. Life has been hard several times. I fought my way through undergraduate studies Uniben. It was hard, but God helped me.
Pick yourself up! Don't give up on your dreams to be the best you can be. Always demand the best from yourself. Set the bar high, and aim for it. Wipe the sweat off your face, and persevere. People will misunderstand you, underrate you, discourage you, and even frustrate you, but by the help God, be determined to press on. You will prevail.
One day, I know I will do my PhD at a prestigious school as Harvard. I believe it's possible and I'm going to put in the "hard and difficult work" it will take, by the grace of God.

Above all, have a God-given vision to improve human life, your community, and your society. God will always back those who are called according to his purpose. You will never lose energy as your vision will energize you to keep going.

I wish everyone reading this success in their endeavours. God bless you.

I am many years past your experience but still, this write-up is one of the best I have seen here in years. You are the epitome of what hard work (and faith), sincerity and dedication can do. Congrats and welcome to the United States!!

Yikes12:
Good morning guys ! When I wanted to start this visa processing my agent told me that I can't apply for F1 visa cause my age is above 20 . So he said I should get another Birth Certificate and I should use the new age to get my passport . I got my first passport and 2002 was written there as my DOB and I was born in 1998 cause I have this age on all my documents... Have been given admission with scholarship but am wondering if there might be any issues on my interview day ....cause the vo might ask 4 my age ...I posses two DOB now . 1998 is on my i20 while 2002 on my passport ... Am confused pls help me guys [color=#000000][/color]

You're not confused... you're only looking for others to affirm your dishonesty and intent to deceive. You are one of the reasons visas are so hard to get for Nigerians. Go ahead and explain the discrepancy in your age to the VO as best you can.

morpheux:
Hello guys,

I need help with financial docs to process my i20, I have scholarship but I still don’t know why my school is asking for docs to release the i20. Anybody to the rescue ?!

What help do you need? Provide the documents the school has asked for, I'm sure they spelled out exactly what they need.

plexxyus:
Hello people,

Thank you all for the good job that you are doing here. I recently joined the conversation last year and the volume of information and help I have gotten is enormous. Thank you.

I am in a tight situation here. I am going for my MS in Mech Engr and I have my visa interview already scheduled for Monday, 05/31/2021. However, my dept reached out to me on Thursday last week offering me a GA position in the department - someone else previously awarded had cancelled. However this is coming quite late and I reached out to my International Student Office on Friday to revise my I20 but I haven't heard back from them and it might be too late already, since my interview is tomorrow at Lagos. My GA offer letter from my department comes with full tuition waiver plus $21,000 salary for 1 year employment, leaving me with about $3k deficit. My mother will sponsor the remaining deficit.

Is it advisable to go with my GA offer letter to my interview as proof of my GA funding? Or do I reschedule my interview and go with an updated I-20? Has anyone been in this situation before?

Thank you in advance.

Best to cancel and re-apply with a new I-20.

CSTRR:
You ain't getting the A-10.

The Americans don't put much stock in the tucanos, possibly why they agreed to sell it to us.

At the very least, if we have gotten the SU-25 frogfoot, it would have been a more competent plane and a better use of money.

Agreed. The US was looking to phase out the A-10 at some point since it's been in service since the 1960s, but they stopped because the Navy absolutely loves the aircraft...

Racoon:
Nice effort so far by the Buhari's government but let's step up to the F-I6 and other supersonic jets class. Tucanos can easily be shot down by surface to air missiles from BH terrorists

We do need F-16s at some point but it is doubtful we will ever be able to purchase them. What we need are A-10 Warthog aircraft... absolute beasts as close-air support for ground troops. Far superior to the Super Tucano.

BigDawsNet:
Just sell my country the B2 bomber and we will never smell any form of terrorist again on Nigerian soils....

Very expensive but I know the Nigeria gov can afford it

Chances that the US will sell the B2 Spirit to Nigeria... well below 0%.

Wearemoving:
But this US are so stupid is not that am supporting Mr Rufai why are they giving statement everytime about this man and why are their not saying anything about the killing going on in Nigeria

I say they are rather smart. They are prosecuting someone who stole THEIR money. That people (non-US citizens) are being killed in Nigeria is not their problem. That is up to your government (if it exists) to solve.

raddyworld:
[23/05, 7:10 pm] Oluwase!!!�: But it's getting harder to get papers in USA. Students visa is just like visitors visa, the only difference is you can study and work
[23/05, 7:10 pm] Oluwase!!!�: As soon as the visa expires, you will be in the same category as people with expired visitors visa
[23/05, 7:10 pm] Oluwase!!!�: Having employer file for you is an uphill task, because the employer has to prove that there is nobody in the whole on USA that can do that job except you
[23/05, 7:10 pm] Oluwase!!!�: USA is not what it used to be, notwithstanding, people are still getting papers everyday in yankee
[23/05, 7:10 pm] Oluwase!!!�: The problem is if you can do whatever they are doing.



Please guys, I asked a question concerning after school and getting a job immediately sometimes on this forum. This information above is from a someone that lives in america.
It is true that I will be stranded after studies. Bcus I tot companies will employ me immediately so as to file for my papers and invite my family.

Pls advice before I rush into what I will find difficult to do.


A big thanks to anyone helping with real advice and info.

Be patient. this takes time:

1. You likely will spend 1-3 years on a STEM OPT (less if you're not in a STEM program)
2. You'll need a company to file for an H1B for you - you can stay on this visa for 6 years.
3. In that time, you need your employer to file for a green card - this can take 2-4 years depending on if you need to file in the EB1, 2 or 3 category.
4. You are eligible to naturalize as a citizen after 5 years on a greencard, unless you marry a US citizen in that time.

Reminder - you are most likely only able to bring your wife and children once you're on a green card. It can take at least 2 years. If you plan on bringing your parents, you can on a greencard but will take you a few years too. It will take way too long to bring your siblings over 18 years of age so I wouldn't bother.

Pefuele:
I think it is better if full or part transcripsts is posted here for review. Part Transcripsts in terms of where you have a challenge & full if you want to know what areas needs corrections. Transcripts corrections is good but Transcripsts delivery is more significant. How you deliver your Transcripsts is more important. Audio mock interviews is nice but video mock interviews is better. I suggest for those doing mock interviews it is better to have it with those who have had rejects( like 3 or more rejects at the US embassy) cos they have more experience in those areas or those who have conducted several mock interviews with F1 students. I actually do mock interviews but it is not free because it is my time. I have to monetize the time because I could have used it for other productive business. I don't charge before but when I noticed guys where giving my information to agents who are making loads of money from it I started charging.

No one should be paying for a mock interview... you have enough info on these threads if you are willing to invest the time.

ADEX0123:
Hi, an agent told am to pay all this money to get admission into university in usa for my masters
- admission fee - 80k
- my admission charge - 40k
- i-20 - 150usd
- sevis - 350usd
- documentation 100k

kindly help!!!

Why not just do it yourself? You don't need an agent - if you are a genuine student.

horlahsunbo225:
Censoring name is school is not good

@Twoods let people that want to copy continue their laziness, they'll know what's up at the embassy.....

That is a personal choice and we should respect that. Likely what you'll get is schools starting to restrict applications from Nigeria.

[quote author=Racoon post=101917490][/quote]But Section 37 of the 1999 constitution does not say HOW your privacy will be protected. It can still be protected even if you give the government your IMEI number.

TEMIT0PE:
We are censoring name of Schools and Majors now ? Interesting.

Frankly, I think everyone else should. Too many people are intellectually lazy, coming here to simply copy other people's experiences rather than doing their own work.

RENOWNED2:
Could you give us an over view of the type of schools to target? There are a lot of schools and not enough money to applw to the lot of them. Cc fairheart please send the gre materials to me too. Thanks

crowniran:
Good evening
Took my GRE this week. I got 312
Q163
V149

I need suggestion on schools for Structural engineering/Construction management. I wish to target Spring/Fall 2022. Kindly help. Thanks

Google is your friend.

Kaysnotch:
Pls I really need your assistant with these situation to prep for my interview.

Nothing anyone can do to help you. Go and hope for the best. Every application is your responsibility… you should always thoroughly review anything sent in your name.

lucaschukwuka:
She can't easily do that. She's living with her little daughter and aged parents whom she takes care of. It'll cost her too much to travel. And I frankly don't feel too comfortable asking her to. Initially she wanted to file for me and apply to have the meeting requirement waived on condition of extreme hardship but we've been advised that those are impossible. So she suggested I visit, and then she can file for me later.

As for F1, I don't really want to lean too much on that. I don't know that I have the profile that should sail with VOs regarding the financing. I mean I am going to have to pay for my education myself and unless I get good funding, that's going to be hard to gather the funds fully.

So I really want to visit first, fulfill the k1 meeting requirement and she then she can file for me. When I get a k1 visa, move to America, I can see about going to school with my new status. Should be more cost effective.

This might be more suitable for the US visit visa thread, but responses are too slow there and I believe there's the element of study in my situation.

A big requirement for a visiting visa is that you have no immigrant intent and are fully committed to returning home after a short trip. Traveling to the US to fulfill k1 meeting requirements won’t fly. Come up with another idea.

lucaschukwuka:
Thank you. Can you please advice what I could give for a reason instead? Something that won't flat out be a lie and compromise me in the future?

Nothing frankly. Why don't you have her come down to Nigeria to visit and then file for a K1 visa for you?

This thread is extremely sad - Jesus washed the feet of His disciples, he complimented them, encouraged them, strengthened them when their faith was weak... that same Jesus asked us, husbands, to love our wives as HE loved the church... Philippians 2:3 Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.

“Husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church because we are members of his body” (Ephesians 5:28-30).

The bible is super clear... nourishing your spouse not only involves meeting your financial obligations to her, but it also includes building her up, feeding her soul, making her feel important, heard, loved, and supported. Compliments are hard - I know, I'm a Nigerian, we are not used to it or raised to compliment others, but I learned - there is power in your words that you may not understand. Always remember, YOU are the most important person to your wife... regardless of how strong she is emotionally, she craves your approval, she wants to know that she means more to someone, she wants to walk on clouds, knowing there is someone who thinks the world of her.

Love is not simply paying the bills... if that was the case, Jesus would not have bothered to wash the feet of the disciples, encouraged them, prayed for them, ate with them, told them that they would sit down with Him in paradise... He could simply have come, died on the cross, and be done with it.

When your wife has to come to a social forum to ask why her husband has not complimented her in 7 years, you have failed as a husband. When fellow men tell her to get over it and be grateful she has someone who married her, we have failed as a society.

I am not perfect... but if there is one thing that drives me, it is knowing that anywhere my wife goes, i want her to be one of the few who says "thank you Jesus for my husband" under her breath when others are busy complaining about their husbands. If that means making sure i compliment her 5 times a day, so be it. Compliment a woman and she will move heaven and earth for you. Nobody refuses to water the soil and then acts surprised when seeds do not grow.

Kettlecorn:
Let me try to shed more light on the birthing issue as you seem to be missing an important point that was mentioned by the poster you seem to have an issue with. The problem may not be ensuring that you paid all your bills. It could also be that you were charged a subsidized amount. It's typically the fact that hospitals in the US at that time provided discounts to cash paying customers which brought the price down significantly below what the embassy considers market rate. The inference they are making (right or wrong) is that non cash paying customers (insurance and the taxpayer/Medicaid) are subsidizing cash paying non citizen patients. The way around this is to bring your proof of payment showing that you paid "market rate". In addition, there were some hospitals that the embassy knows for doing this, such that once they see receipts from these hospitals, it becomes an uphill battle to overcome. I recall there were one or two in Texas. BTW, just curious about this. If you gave birth in 2012 and travelled on the same visa in 2018, it implies that you probably got a multiple entry visa in 2012 close to the time you traveled. Did you disclose that you were travelling for birthing purposes/you were pregnant with intention to give birth in the US at the time of the visa interview and at point of entry? How long did you say you were staying at POE vs how long did you actually stay? Note that it could be problematic if for example you said you were staying 2 weeks and stamped in for 6 months then stayed past the 2 weeks you stated at POE. Consistency/honesty is key. The interviewer has all that info on their computers. These are all issues that sometimes haunt folks at renewal.

You hit the nail on the head. I read the birthing costs for Nigerians paying in cash and I wonder... if birthing was that cheap, many middle class families would choose to pay cash to have their kids than rely on insurance. The fact that others faithfully paying insurance premiums and taxes are subsidizing cash-paying Nigerians seems to be one that gets ignored by Nigerians who are often too quick to announce how they are "paying cash" as if this cash is what the US runs on. While you may pay cash to have your baby, neither you nor your child will pay any taxes to support the country that your child will someday come to benefit from. For the next 18 years, other Americans will pay taxes to ensure your child has a safe society to live in... some day your child will choose to come here to attend high school or college... it will be paid for by the property taxes that millions of us pay every year, while you stay in Nigeria eating your cake and having it. Sometimes a little humility goes a long way.

lucaschukwuka:
Hello, thanks to everyone who's contributed to this thread. It's no small job that is being done here.

I have a situation and I'd like to hear our experienced persons' take on it.

I want to visit the states so as to satisfy the fiance visa meeting requirement. Been more than 2 years since the last meeting between me and my gf of 10 years whom I now intend to marry.

Is the above a satisfactory answer when asked why I intend to visit the states? Do I need to bring proof of relationship to support my answer? I do have tons of those.

Also, I intend to run my masters degree in a university close to her home after we get married and I'm legally residing in the states. But just in case I apply for a visit visa and don't get it, will that affect my chances with f1?

What would you advice?

Thank you sincerely.

No. you won't get a visa for that.

Farid24224:
That's murder, it happens everywhere... I think you should go find out what "terrorism" is.

It doesn't matter... I'm sure fulani cattle rearers can find more than enough land to graze their cattle in their own lands... this is 2021, not 1578.

Farid24224:
How does trespassing and illegal grazing relate with terrorism?

When it involves murder of the landowners?

Farid24224:
But what does she has to say about the killing of the herdsmen, so when was it added to the constitution that open grazing is liable to death.... Herdsmen that violate the law should be arrested and given a fair trail at a court instead of some rouge group taking the law at their hands by killing both the herders and their cows...

You don't negotiate with terrorists. You demanding for a "fair trial" are the same people who disparage common law by setting up sharia courts in your own states. You can't treat the law as haram and then demand to be judged by that same law when it is convenient for you.