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The man probably killed himself by not paying attention to his health. He also most likely took libido boosters to satisfy his woman.
I tell men to do your 'natural' best and leave the rest when it comes to s*x.
Pay attention to making more legitimate money. Women usually only complain about exual performance with poor men. Sadly, these Nigerian women make almost no effort to support the man in making s*x better, they just selfishly expect to be given great ecstatic s*x with zero inputs from them.

He keeps denying everything, yet we see his hand in every evil and incompetent venture in this administration! What a pure evil and callous character! Power is transient fool!!!

You have started well by placing the blame well … ON YOU!
1. Keep a shark eye on your business. Wake up in the morning, do a short prayer, check up on your kids and go straight to work. Oversee every singls transaction and collect your money yourself. Stop being a lazy motherf*cker that allows the sales boy/girl do all the selling and expects not to be ripped off.
Stay in your shop from opening to closing. Don’t attend any religious service during the week.
2. Cut down on ALL your expenses by at least 50% until you pay off all your loan. Move to a less expensive or smaller apartment, change the kids school to a good but affordable school, stop all giveaways to family or friends (you are in financial trouble & ONLY your kids & wife are entitled to your money). But cut down drastically on ALL frivolities like expensive clothes, food and outings even for your wife & kids til you break the debt chain.
3. Ask your wife to support you financially until you break free. If she isn’t working, make sure she goes look for work!
4. Don’t be deceived by religious houses to give money you don’t even have anyway.

Duke007:
Hi every one, l have been a nairalander for over 10 years and have seen people get advised here, thats why l am putting this up with my account.
I am not blaming anybody for my predicament, neither do l blame the loan app company for their shark like business sytle, l take responsibility for my actions. I am one of those people who criticized people for Falling into the trap of online loan company. It's basically a rat race syndrome and tends to take you deeper and deeper from the seemingly innocuous first attempt.

It all started when my side hussle of buying and selling food stuff suffered a decreased in cost of replacement due to inflation and my sales boy stealing my money. I took my first loan to boost my business and realized that the cost of the loan is high. Since then, it's been a malicious cycle of robbing Peter to pay Paul. I realized that l was lossing money in each transcation and in order to meet up with my payment to avoid defaulting, l resorted to other loan company. Now, l don't even no what to do, all cash injection coming to me is spent on servicing the loan. I can't even feed my family and pay my children school fees. I am tire of this scenario and want to break free. It has taken a toil on me physically, mentally and spiritually.

I seek advice from people who have gone thru this ugly experience on how to break free before it is too late. Below is the list of my indebtness:

Ucredit #22,976. 15.03.22(due date)
Oxloan #26,250. 17.03.22
Lcredit #60,000. 17.03.22
Eazycredit #58,904. 21.03.22
imoney. #20,242 24.3.22
Okash #42,416. 31.3.22

I welcome any useful suggestion on how to break free. Thanks

This is the circle of assumptions that make men not help men.
1. If a man comes to you for help & you automatically assume that such a man will ONLY help women if he was in your shoes, then you are part of the problem.
2. Money is a store of value & you just don’t want to fritter away that store of value. Believe it or not, men who give to mostly or only women are exchanging or expect to later exchange their store of value for another thing they consider valuable. Most times this is SEX or romance. This is why you will notice that most of these men also don’t help ugly, wrinkled, OLD WOMEN too.

The lesson here is, since you don’t have the potential to be such men’s sex mate, you need to make yourself valuable in other ways. This way, they will have justification to give away their store of value.

lecturer50:
Another thing that is surprising is that most men don't help a fellow man but would rather help women.

But when they have problem, it is a man they would run to for help.

Most men would not go to a woman to get help but they would rather seek help from a man.

But these are the people who like helping only women.

So if they have a need, why not go to women to seek help since it is only women you help?

Why go to a man?


If you are a man, and you help only women, why do you think another man should help you when you don't normally help a man?


I mean, it's very ironical.


Most males believe it is not proper for men to ask help from women.


They equally believe that as a man, they should help only women.


But when they have problem, they still expect a fellow man to help them.


Is it not totally ironical that you don't help another man but you expect another man to help you?


If you believe you must only help a woman, why not seek help from a woman when you also have problem?

I don't understand the irony that characterizes the life of men.

Wetin dey do this one that is a guguru & groundnut SAN?
He is shouting ‘APPELATE DECISION’ like a kindergarten lawyer.
Is the appeal court not lower than the supreme court that ruled in the Ameachi & Yahaya Bello cases that the votes belong to the party & not the individual
Also, why does the constitution not accommodate INDEPENDENT CANDIDATURE if it is individuals & not party that the law accrues votes to?!

1. You have chosen to spare the rod and spoilt the child.
2. You do not also have the will to follow through on your punishment for wrongdoing. Why will you apologize for scolding your child for wrongdoing
3. Lastly, you have given your child liberty to talk back at you ( this is the ultimate sign of bad parenting).

Correct the three points above and see changes come speedily. Hopefully, your damage on the child is still reversible.

Look, you are very confused. You shouldn't be in any relationship at the moment.
What you need to do is:
1. Work on your self esteem and self worth, With that you will realize you don't need a physical, sexual and verbal abuser in your life.
2. Shed the Nigerian selfish, lazy and worthless girl attitude of seeking financial reward from relationships. This is what keeps Nigerian girls in relationships they know may kill or dehumanize them.
3. Get a job, focus on your career and work on financial independence. This way, you will be able to make better decisions in choosing a man without the selfish bias of financial gain.
4. Pray and fast fervently for divine direction and guidiance.
5. Learn to love yourself and God 1st. This way you will be less attached to someone that is distant.
6. If you haven't, seriously learn about your body and female sexual health. I have a feeling you may get pregnant for someone you don't love, since you currently are capable of dating for selfish reasons. This way you don't get entrapped by pregnancy.

When you are done with the above, position yourself in the right places and start looking out for the right guy in your life. In the meantime, RUN from any relationship until you are prepared for the pros and cons.

MamiTer:
Hello good people of nairaland, I have a pressing issue and I really need your help.

A couple of years back I broke up with my boyfriend whom I really loved due to distance barriers. Getting over him was difficult for me so I had to go into a relationship with one of my toasters in order to get him off my mind.

I achieved my aim after a couple of months but the current guy was unwilling to let go, I didn't love him and couldn't get myself to love him despite trying to. I know I was selfish and opened up to him but he insisted that I would warm up to him with time and grow to love him.

The relationship was far from perfect, I was in it solely for what I benefited but we weren't compatible and it was from one issue to another. We were always at logger heads all the time. He insults me and my family at any given opportunity and talks down on me using secrets I shared with him as leverage each time we quarrel. He shredded my self-esteem.

He was insecure and attacked my male friends at any given opportunity including my lecturers, he would access my social media accounts and send derogatory message to any male contact he feels is making a pass at me.
All these attitudes made me fed up with him and I decided to breakup for good.

Early this year I met a guy online and somehow we vibed together quickly, we met physically for the first time and it felt like we've known for ages. Everything moved so quickly with this new guy that I started developing serious feelings for him. I was scared because I never knew I would feel something like that again after I broke up with my other ex.

This new guy makes me happy and treats me like a woman, anytime spent with him is always memorable and I don't feel like leaving. The chemistry that we share is super strong and everything seems so perfect.

Now to my issue, this new guy is a fresh graduate and not yet stable, I don't have issues with his financial status because he made me realize a Lady can actually be happy without money being thrown at her. But I'm still scared of going all full into the relationship he might go for service and never come back to me. I don't just want a repeat of my previous relationship that got shattered after my ex relocated.

On the other hand, the other guy is hell bent on getting me back, he's been pleading and sending people to beg me even though I told him I've moved on and has even had sex with the new guy but he still wants me back.

I'm confused and don't know what to do, my heart is with the new guy but the other guy is making things so difficult for me and almost driving me insane. Can I still grow to love him?? Though I've been unable to after almost a year.

Should move on with the new guy?? I've known him for barely two months but it seems I've known him for ages, my feelings are exploding and I can hardly control them which is making me scared.

I'm sorry for the long epistle but I had to let it all out.
Please advice me.

As blessed as Osun state is, she is always unlucky with those who try to be governor.

Good move!

I hope you have chosen the color and design of your casket, because that woman wants to kill you at earliest.
So artificial insemination is not an option for her?

Maybe you are becoming too much of a liability. Go get a job. Try to be financially independent of him or even be financially committed in the relationship & see if it is still redeemable.
Your idea of 'attention' seems to be the money and gifts you get from him. You sound so much like the typical shallow, selfish, lazy and worthless Nigerian girl. Apologies if I sound harsh, but please change the image you project of yourself if you want a better chance at a good deal with men.
I also hope he is not a Yahoo plus boyfriend who has milked all he wants from your destiny and moved on.

This gender can't stop amazing me. Especially, the Nigerian version.
I think you are just jealous of your cousin. Women just hate one another. They are only United in their fight against men.
FYI, 70-80% of men will cheat on their wives.

I hope you collected your rent receipt/ rent agreement? If not, you are on your own.
If you collected your receipt, you can ONLY be evicted when next rent payment is due.

Eiya! Failed business venture!

Lawan is the worst senate president in the history of Nigeria!

To start with, the error of sending the money twice was yours, so acknowledge that 1st.
Secondly, I think she may have just suggested a way for you to get your money back at the earliest. It is not so easy to take money out of a corporate account. If you have no immediate need of the money, you can formally request for the refund. Given how Nigerian coys are, I think it might take a long time before they send it tho.

Tell him to go & pay his loan instead of asking this kind of stupid question.
Wicked Nigerians who find it easy to take loans they don’t intend to pay back.
Y’all in Nigeria are just evil people!

The West is trying to distrupt the lifestyle of russians so they force the everyday russians to revolt from within.

Half of you in PDP were in APC & half of you in APC were in PDP. So what’s the difference between both parties?
Sadly, most Nigerians are too dumb to realize they are dealing with two sides of the same coin. As long as Nigerians still think their choice MUST be only between PDP & APC? Nigerians are the losers & the polithiefcians will win over and over again.

The guy is one of the few real men remaining in Nigeria.
Not the woman-slave simps that a lot of Nigerian men have become.
Why collect from the man If you won’t give him what he wants?
The greed of most Nigerian women will not let them refuse romantic gifts, even when they know they feel nothing romantic for the guy.

Through thuggery, bribery & corruption I guess?!

Because you are God abi?
All these monarchs with mouthful of ‘dodo’!
Endorsement for hire season!

Arrogance in abysmal failure!!!

Excellent move.

So what if he is dead? How e take concern you? You want to go and report to him where he is? Is it your para?

DarkJeddi:
Na dead person you dey para for?

Sick president who has zero confidence on his own health sector, but selfishly and callously expects other Nigerians to use the destroyed health sector.
Sick president overseeing a sick country!

Award for sale!

Women selfishly expect men to fight this fight for them... IT WILL NOT HAPPEN!
Women know how terrible their gender is, but they will never acknowledge it before men.
How else do you explain how women still vote against fellow women when they are more than men in the population and amongst voters.

Women refuse to support fellow women, yet they scream exclusion by men. Women are the ones excluding women from power. Men are just protecting their interest and survival too.

Nigerians are just terrible people with zero moral values! Those saying Apple lost are just funny thinkers.
Unlike most Africans who think like baboons and monkeys, there is something called ETHICS and PRINCIPLES. As a business, the financial bottomline is not the ONLY reasons why you do business. Sometimes you can choose not to sell to someone who has money because of your convictions.
You can even get gratification from giving part or ALL your profit away in philanthropy. This is what a lot of Africans cannot process.
That is why rascists like Donald Trump's father refused to rent or sell his properties to Blacks who had money to pay.
It is possible to derive satisfaction from not selling to people you are not happy with. Such satisfaction can even surpass financial gains.
Some Nigerians do it a lot. They will prefer to loose a sale by giving the buyer they don't like a high price. Even if such buyers leave, they still get a deep sense of satisfaction.

Coward! If you no longer fear death, why not die for a good reason?
Why not confront the enemies of Nigeria with your life?!
Why not confront the enemies of your loved ones with your life?!

Sweetie, 'affliction shall never rise again' ONLY if you have a PVC and vote. You MUST also take it upon yourself to educate others to get their PVCs and vote right too. Otherwise, your fears may become reality.

MadamVanessa:




Imagine?

That was how they pushed the current calamity that is occupying aso rock now down our throats.

The bible had put it clearly that affliction shall never rise again. Tinubu is a bigger affliction than the dullarrd. So his aspiration and ambition shall come to nothing.

Those trying to push this thing on us, should rather be concerned about Tinubu health, because I don't know what could make an ancestor urinate and defecate in public without being conscious of it..so shameful.