₦airaland Forum

The recent increase in ritual killing is ONLY as a result of the validation Nigerians give seemingly wealthy people without asking for evidence on the SOURCE OF THEIR WEALTH.
Any Nigerian who tells others to mind their business and not ask for the source of the wealth of an individual is the sole creator of these evil monsters we have in Nigeria today.
These people MUST be held responsible for emboldening ritual killers, kidnappers, armed robbers, fraudsters, assassins, corrupt politicians and their likes. This get rich ANYHOW or die trying syndrome in Nigeria is the only reason people find the confidence to perpetuate the evils that they do. If they succeed? They know they will get willing defenders in many Nigerians without any form of moral compass.

Awon developer aye!
How many of such developments has he done in all 5 eastern states?

Your father loves you but you don’t love yourself.

NnolimNzubechi:
Hello Nairalanders.
It's A Long Read But Please Bear With Me

Am the only child, Am A Boy,my mom died when I was 3 years and am the only child.so it's been only me and dad since and his girlfriends..

Recently I started smoking, He noticed it..My dad too smokes but only cigarette,He has been smoking past a Decade Now But He looks very Healthy And Chubby Too So You won't Know He Smokes Unless Your Saw Him smoking.

So He told Me To Stop Smoking,And He Was Angry With Me For A Week plus,Later The Anger Reduced..He Taught I Smoked Only Cigarette but I Smoke Both cigar and Arizona Weed,Jus those Two.i Don't Take alcohol.
I Stopped Smoking Though,It Was on Saturday Being Feb 4,That I Relapsed,I Smoked A.Z,So My Dad And Her Current Girlfriend Came Back,She went To The Backyard And Saw the Aches and The Brown Rizzla..Then she went and Told My Dad,My Dad Came Into My Room And Started Saying Plenty Things,Lastly He told me To Leave His House Tomorrow Being Sunday Feb 05. He then left My Room, I Was Shocked,I Didn't What To Do Or Say To Him

So in The Morning I went Out To Buy Something,When I Came Back He Locked The Back Door From inside,So I Couldn't Open It With My Keys.I Knocked And Told Him It Was Me,He Told Me To Go Back To Where I Come From And i Should Not Knock Ever Again.This Made Angry,He Didn't Even Give Me The Chance To Apologize,I Used Vex And Told Him Oya Let Me Carry My Property,He Said He Will Throw it For Me,That He Is Already Packing My Belongings,Few Minutes Later He Threw It for Me,I Was Down So He Threw It From Up...So I Left to Stay With a Friend in another State.


So My Question Now Is what My Father Did The Right thing?My Telling Me To Leave His House Cos I smoke, Am 19 Years Of Age, I Will be 20 This Year.I heard too Many ulcers and Helicobacter pylori Which Leads To Stomach Cancer,Yet He Told Me To Leave, He Was The Buying Medicine For Me But He Knows The Ulcer And Helicobacter pylori Hasn't Healed Final.He Knows I Don't Have Money To Fend For Myself Yet,i Always Go To His Shop To Help Him With His business.

What He Did By Telling Me To Leave Is It Right?I Don't SMOKE Outside,I only SMOKE In Our Flat,Cos I Don't Want People To Know I SmokE,My Dad Will be Ashamed When People Tell Him I Smoke ,He is a Very Popular Man Here..


Today I Chatted Him And Told Him Am Sorry For My actions,The First Thing He Told Me Was (you will never see good In your life)..I Didn't Mind Though The Curse though, I Begged Him,And He Told Me To Come Back,But Am Really Not Happy With Him,What if I Have Accident?what if I was Kidnapped?He didn't Think Of Those ones instead He sent Me Parking, I Have always Be A Good son which he tells me Frequently,I don't give him Headache.Just Only That Smoke

Even Though He Told Me To Come Back Am Still annoyed With Him,Instead of Him to Help Me To Stop ,He Told Me To Leave His House And Go continue Smoking.Those Words Hurt Me....

Should I Go back To Him And Start Planing To Save Money And Relocate?Cos I don't Have a Dime Now,And My ulcer Hasn't Healed Complete...I haven't even Eaten Good Food since yesterday,Just one okpa
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My Main Question Are (Did My Dad Do The Right Thing By Telling Me To Leave,Should I Go Back To Stay With Him??Or should I Stay Here At My friend Place and start Hustling For Myself??

Please Moderators Should help Move to Front page,Am in Deep confusion Now.Thanks

When will Nigerians pay monthly house rent like it happens all over the world?!

Same deceptive narrative. Just like clueless Buhari wearing suit & tuxedo to scam Nigerians.

What a reason to want to be president! Northern parasites!

The parasitic North contributing nothing but liabilities to the country they are so desperate to keep together.

This is not a bad idea. Each region should learn to be self sufficient.

Very reactive! They were bent on getting a foreign coach until Senegal won the nation’s cup with a local coach who groomed his team through wins and loses for 10years.
These Nigerian leaders and heads just collect huge money without the capacity to be strategic thinkers.

Greedy old man! You better go and enjoy your ill gotten wealth at old age in peace.

Who is talking about underaged marriage here. An 18yr old is not underaged as long as consent is involved. As I earlier said, the man only needs to wait for about a year or two to tick all the boxes.
You talk about men marrying those old enough to be their daughters, what is wrong with that as long as they both mean well for each other? In this case as long as she is 18years?
It is better for a 45year old matured male to marry an 18year old matured female, than for a 60year old matured male to marry an immature 33year old female. Both have the same age difference, however each individual matures differently.
I have seen excellent marriages between 19year olds and disastrous marriages between 40year olds.
The average Nigerian's notion of maturity is so warped. I am sure it is because parents endlessly spoonfeed their kids even until they are in their 40s. It is such a shame. One day we will wake up and say an 18year olds cannot vote because they are still teenagers. This is why we keep creating an army of entitled and lazy kids who think they are still children at 18yrs old, when their mates already eke a living in saner climes.
'Teenage' is a group word only created from the 'teen' at the end of numbers. Maturity begins at 18years in Nigeria & generally speaking.

BRATISLAVA:
Extend your advocacy of maturity to 12 year old boys. Until you do so, you aren't serious.

Anything at all to excuse underage marriage and sex with girls young enough to be their daughters, due to selfish reasons with no consideration for what the girl truly wants without their influence —that is the way of most Nigerian men.

Life is more than advocating, predating and dictating what is good for teen-aged girls cervixes because men need someone to control sexually and physically for their pleasure and theirs alone.

There is no 18 year old girl —no teenager— who is guided properly that would want to be married to an old man at that age.

It is only when men want to have sex with a fresh young thing that you begin to hear of the maturity of little girls. Maturity that doesn't extend to little boys, because little boys aren't as sexually interested in little girls as grown men are.

Some men are ready to marry 12 year old girls who look no different from little boys and sleep with them because it is making the girls chaste at that age, and because they will have a new possession to own, use and control. Their law permits it, so they must do it. Nevermind the other laws that they break or ignore, this very one takes precedence. Libido over ethics et al.

The evil men support.

You clearly assumed a lot of things on my behalf. Where did I write that 18year old males are not affected by the same yardsticks?. Which scripture or ethics are you using to justify your position?
The Bible & Quran clearly states that a child can be married off as soon as they enter puberty. Although medically for females, that may not be appropriate, because the cervix is still too narrow at 11-14yrs, but by 18yrs most can carry a baby probably better than 30yr olds.
I tell you again a lot of so called adults have the emotional maturity of a 5yr old, while you find some 18-21yr olds handling relationships with the metal dexterity of a genius.

BRATISLAVA:
1. Teenagers aren't ready for marriage at 16, except to men who want to manipulate and use teenagers for their sexual ends and control them. Maturity isn't by having breasts, hips, a uterus and a vagina. That is what men think maturity is, because it fulfills their sexual cravings for a young virgin. Afterwards they claim the little girls they put themselves in relationships with are fish brains. What do you expect from a child?

2. Because they are legally ready at that age, to satisfy cradle snatchers, that means that you must get a teenager to marry? Can we stand and look at these things ethically, rather than desperately trying to support putting little girls in situations that little boys aren't put in? The law says that fornication and adultery are not illegal and you should make up where you can, must you fornicate and commit adultery because of that or will you stand ethically to know it is right or wrong? Same laws have loopholes for you to marry your cousins and aunts, but you have refused to though they are hot enough for you. Why?

3. Mentally they aren't ready for it. You people have simply convinced yourselves that boys of 18 are brainless so that older men can have sex with teenagers young enough to be their daughters. What is scary about being with older women who are mature, fear of being caught out in manipulations? At 18 many girls are interested in their lives until an older man comes to derail them with his manipulative brand of love.

The justification for such relationships it's getting old. Let the girl mature and grow to a point where she can make informed and decisions, not from infatuation, intimidation and trying to please and elder who has promised her sex and money.

This wouldn't be something you would fight for if it were a 44 year old man and a 17 year old boy in love.

You are asking me those questions? Do you know how many High School sweethearts go get married immediately after high school?
FYI, I lived in these places, so I know what I am saying.
Unlike Nigeria where you are all forced to go to tetiary institutions to make a decent living, high school grads at 16-18 already have jobs they can manage with. Many of them don’t even go to college after high school.

Carot:
do you know most minors in the US still live with their parents? Do you know most american citizens dont marry on time aside the ones that have babymamas n babydaddys

I clearly separated physiological, legal and mental maturity dude. I understand your Nigerian thinking. That is why you people still collect feeding money from your parents at 21yrs. Most parents abroad will kick your lazy matured asses out at 18-19yrs!
I deal with facts. You are the one that has boxed yourself into shallow thinking. Physical maturity means they have matured enough biologically to have sex and procreate. Which is partially the aim of marriage.

Just think outside your myopia and Google age of consent around the world. Hope you know consent means legally allowed to have sex & kids?
I hope you know that even in the US, age of consent ranges from 16-18yrs?
In Australia age of consent is 15yrs. Canada is 16yrs

https://www.populationu.com/gen/age-of-consent-by-country

Carot:
false. What kind of people are this ones?

You are partially wrong.
1. Generally, all women are physically & physiologically ready for marriage at 16yrs.
2. They are legally ready at 18yrs.
3. Finally, mentally they are ready at different ages between 18yrs and infinity
You could be 40yrs and be mentally immature for marriage and be 18yrs and mentally ready for marriage.

The difference in age counts for nothing. There are many 18+ who married and had a lifelong of a great marriage and 40yrs + whose marriage did not last 48hrs.

BRATISLAVA:
Even in 2-3 years she will not be mature for marriage. Marriage was not made for teenagers and people barely out of their teens.

All the old men predating on teenage girls know why they do so. It is never for her. Selfishness in men didn't begin today.

Mr man, there is nothing wrong if they are truly both in love and have no selfish or ulterior motive behind their decision to marry.
Your 17 year old sister is too young tho. You guys can ask him to wait for 2-3 years for her to fully mature.

Scammer! Nigeria is not doing her best. It is Buhari & his clueless team that are doing their selfish best. And their best isnt good enough.

Mark my words, you are married to a woman that will kill or destroy you. Pack what is left of your life while it is still intact and LEAVE THAT MARRIAGE.
She has a lot to hide from you and you never know the gravity of her secrets. Maybe your kids are not yours sef!

Please report the phone number and account number ASAP. To save others from the scammer.

What kind of help are you asking for again? No decent woman will date a guy with a shady source of wealth… whether Yahoo, rituals, kidnapping or any other CRIME that we call ‘business’ in Nigeria.

I will advise you not to go there. If she ever loved you, she will NEVER have chosen your best friend over you. There is almost 100% chance she just wants to use you to get back at your best friend who dumped her. Women are vindictive like that.

Good observation. Three reasons can account for this:
1. She had always been like that, but she only initially hid it from you so that you don’t run away before you got deeply emotionally involved with her.
2. Like you said, she has probably just met a real Tiger who f*cked her brains out & she wants to replicate that in her sex encounters with you.
3. She may also recently have started watching & liking porn & masturbation because of your intermittent absence. Now, she wants to replicate the porn moves on you.

Zeal0000007:
Pals just don't know what to think, here is it, my fiancee's sex libido increased rapidly than before, I work at sea returning back from work , the way my woman has been spinning during sex is disturbing.
I know she must have missed me but she is not a very sexy driven person. This time around during sex, she can raised her legs up to her head, and its shocking, the way she moans its unbelievable, this time around she loves doggy style, like say tomorrow no dey, she wants to come up top me and alot more.

My imagination is trying to tell that she might be having it with someone that is very good in bed while I was away, pals this is giving me a lot of concern. Soon I will be going back in matter of days, from my observations since I came back I have not seen strange number calling her.

Stupid and jealous husband! Why would you go to that lenght to express your anger and displeasure?!
I know it is very sad and disappointing to realize your wife was hiding money from you while you struggled to fund the family month in month out. Especially if she was the demanding type & you had to sacrifice so much to make her financially stable and happy.
I know, because similar thing happened to me & I just added it to many other reasons to divorce her selfish, wicked and lazy ass.

These unreliable & unstable politicians that are just desperate to get power without knowing what to do with it ehn!!!

Rubber stamp senate president! You will go down in history as the worst senate president Nigeria ever had the misfortune of having.
Buhari has ever been in a hurry to underdevelop Nigeria into a COW COLONY!
Clueless cowards like you sufficiently enabled him!

You are going through a natural phenomenon.
You can only curb but not eliminate sexual urge through higher thinking, such as spirituality and meditation.
1. Pray continuously to the God you believe in to help you.
2. Exhaust your mental, physical & mental energy with activities such a martial arts, exercise, chess, sports activities, motorcycling, etc. Make sure that you are not idle for most part of the day.
3. Avoid subtle & aggressive sexual stimuli such as sensual scenes in movies, night clubs or bars, gym, etc.

If all these fails, seek out a psychological therapist, it may be because of your age or hormone imbalance.

300whitewolves:
This is really taking a toll on me, and it's getting worse day by day, am finding it difficult to keep myself in check, the harder I try the more it comes. I even make sure I don't look at a woman backside twice cos I know what that can cause. I have a girlfriend but we are far apart, and I don't want to cheat on her. Please my fellow nairalanders help me out of this situation. Konji na bastard for real.

His brother’s wife committed an abomination, yet he is still wondering what to do?
Some Nigerian mothers have successfully raised an army of weak cretins in Nigerian men. Na wa o!

Your sister-in-law married into a family of WEAKLINGS & she has chosen to take full advantage of your family’s weak nature.
How can you say your brother & family don’t want to ‘go hard on her’ for denying the poor kids education They are lagging behind their mates & when those kids become miscreants for being raised improperly, they will be your WEAK family’s & society’s burden to carry.
Even some state governments have criminalized what she has done, yet your cretinous asses are tolerating her!
I pity those kids so much!

Dailyparrot:
My brother lives in the remote part of Ikorodu. They have three kids.

The children didn't go to school throughout last term and this term again, they've been staying at home. When other kids in the compound have gone to school, his kids will remain at home with the wife doing nothing.

The reason the wife stopped the kids from going to school is because she wants them to leave that part of Lagos and move to the developed part of Ikorodu or any township part of Lagos.

Invariably, she's using the kids staying at home to protest and punish the husband, maybe?

I feel she's punishing the kids and not the husband. My brother leaves for work very early in the morning and will not be able to take the kids to school himself.

He's not financially capable of relocating at this time but I feel he can plan with his wife and save towards relocating, maybe in a year's time but I doubt the wife is taking the best approach.

The wife said she's not taking up any job or starting any business until they relocate from that area. So for now, the whole burden is on my brother.

Please, what's the best approach to this their family issue. We don't want to take side and go hard on the wife, but, don't feel she's taking the best decision for the kids.

100% kwaret!
Watch how broke, entitled, lazy and selfish bimbos criticize this truth. They also have male woman-wrapper cretinous accomplices!

You are very kwaret!

Agbe-cowards, talk is cheap! Just do it if you can! Warning your oppressor sounds chicken and stupid to me!

This is the most stupid assertion in the world!
Do you know RELIGION in Nigeria is a BIGGER distraction to the youths and adults alike? Should we suspend religious activities too?!