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^ please do tell why he only bath with the daughter and never the son?

Lady poster, let her go. Very nicely and with the uttermost respect. If you can afford to give her 2 months pay, do so.

When it comes to children, gut feeling /mother's instinct should always be followed , I could care less if it makes no sense to the intellectual and educated mind

As far as I am concerned, you could be the best domestic / nanny in the universe but if I feel uneasy around you, you are not coming near mine and I don't own anyone no explanation.

By God's grace, none of us will be barren Amen, when yours come, do it your way.

RIP

RIP soldier man
So sad

ogugua88: [size=13pt]I don't think she'll forget wearing thrift shop clothes to school and being ridiculed by her friends, not when the woman took photos of her.[/size]

If she is popular in school, trust me, most girls will want to copy the style. Little girls can be sheep like in their behaviour.
Anyway, each to their own.

jidegirl12: Kids are different and grow with diverse milestones range, I can't even begin to tell you what I'm still doing for mine

don't worry when time comes you'll - hear I can do myself ! with a frown

Lol so true.
Another one is mum you are embarrassing me.

I am not a baby you know. I am a big boy

Hmmm I actually think those outfits are cute.
Anyway that is play play parenting as far as i am concerned. If you want to deal with a bully that happens to be yours, you deal with them very well that they wont forget in a hurry. What nonsense. Anyway everyone with their own parenting styles.

Mr husband, you are the architect of your own problem. Surely you can't be that nice a husband and your ex woman that vindictive a woman because you got someone else pregnant. That woman is not crazy, mr I want peace husband threatening to kill a pregnant woman.

You are not man enough to handle your issues instead obviously you run away from them.

You should have had the decency to let the mother of your children know that you are married regardless.

If you can 100% say Amen to a random boy treating your daughter the way you treated her mother then it is alright.

Listen, life is what you make it. No one can force you to do anything you don't want to do but please forget the whole painting the mother of your children bad and be man enough to say I found love or whatever somewhere else.

1,2,3,4,5 infact all can be said about some trained outside the country as long as you have the Nigeria blood in you!
We just need the right opportunity and we will revert back to "the Nigeria way" quickly. I honestly believe when Nigerians meet Nigerians, our "Nigerianess" comes out!
I mean just visit any of this places
1, Nigeria Embassy in London
2. Nigeria churches in London
3. Nigeria shops not Asia shops, proper Nigeria shops and even restaurants
4. Infact anywhere that there are 20 Nigerians gathered and no foreigner in the midst

The funny thing is we know how to act, we act right when we are with foreigners!
I mean for example, most recently i experienced this, this man at Heathrow acted right even with delays, unnecessary searches but immediately we landed at MMA, you couldn't tell him nothing! Dude nagged and complained all way through the checking process

Very one sided narration. You choose to believe your cousin and her hubby, have YOU heard the EX's side of the story. lets call a spade a spade , the man is a pathetic excuse of a man. 4 kids, 17 years and you just realised the woman that was by your side is mentally disturbed/bad etc.

If your cousin knows what is good for her she needs to vacate and let the rightful wife take back her place!

Trust me, as long as kids are involved, there is NADA your cousin can do about the relationship the man has with the mother of his 4 kids. His kids will always come first and that comes with their mother as well

[quote author=Adviser.General]I have since stopped working away when am angry; it used to work for me until I woke up after 16 months in Orthopedic after I broke my Tibia, Fibula, Clavicle and Ankle in a fatal car accident. I tried to avoid what would have been a very big embarrassment to my in-law. He slapped me publicly in the process of an arguement (not family related arguement), to make matters worse he is the husband to my younger sister. I left him and drove off, the remaining part of the story is 16 months with pains.

Now, no matter how hard you try to provoke me I simply smile and shake it off. I look the person straight to the face and smile.[/quote]Whoa

The smile on their face when they see you. That is one of my heaven on earth times

Insanity!!! Coming from a man, thank you!!!!

Most ladies by their own doing have made themselves subservient in a very perverted way and then wonder why my husband does not respect me. Human beings (ALL, even cute adorable babies) will try their luck, it is up to YOU to set your boundaries

Now I am not saying don't kneel down, do so if that is what you want/do but when a man start giving conditions and threatening fire and brimstone on top of kneeling down, bIko what will he do when faced with real marriage challenges.

Reminds me of this proverb "you can force me to prostrate and I will but inside me I am still standing tall"

You are young in your marriage, start to set your boundaries now. If he is willing to dissolve the marriage because of this issue, then obviously there is something fundamentally wrong with your relationship.

I for one will just stand my ground and say NO, he will forever be threatening divorce to get his way if you let him. Anyway entirely my opinion. You know your limits. Good luck

The man got tooooo comfortable, so for 3 years, the man couldn't get anything? Anything at all? 3 good years and anyway 3 years without work, who will employ that kind of person to a 600 000 naira starting salary. Ok!

Anyway most women in love will probably do same but definitely not as sugary-sweet as this woman. This woman is "Perfect" making us all look bad. Anyway may we never experience such AMEN

even women not in love sef, no woman want to be a divorcee but you should expect big time demoralisation!

What you did was wrong, It is very important you tell your husband as soon as possible. Also, don't try and take on your boss, resign, return the money and let that be that. His comeuppance will come one day if he does the same to an INNOCENT person


What your boss did was even more wrong! you are small fry because you really don't have much say in the goings of the department.
He has overall responsibility for what happens in the department. So if all the women start stealing and it covers them all up by sleeping with them all, tell me won't the whole establishment collapse.

gentlegg: Unfortunately, finally she's gone. She died yesterday afternoon. Sobbing.

Oh dear, I was really hoping for a happy ending.
May her gentle soul rest in peace and grant solace to the husband and baby she left behind.
My condolences once more

Poster, is your wife and most importantly her family also pleading with you? If they are, then good. Let them sweat a bit and after that call a family meeting and put a stop to the leeching once and for all.

From your post you seem to be a man easily pressurised and with a wife heavily influenced by her father makes an interesting combination!

Poster, once you are back together, man up when it comes to finances, let your no be no and yes be yes.

Give it another go, don't divorce her

[quote author=c.fours]there are always a few exceptions to the rule.
i am talking about the rule.

of course u will see extremely beautiful girls like CHLOWI who decide to settle with a garri drinking homeless man.
just as u will see billionaires like ?? (*can't think of any ) who settle with wrinkled ugly women.

but these are just exceptions to the rule. they are rare.[/quote]Yes, there are extremely beautiful girls that started from scratch with their hubby. Just because you have not experienced such does not mean it is a fantasy!

Poster, enough of the pity party and excessive whining. You are not the first that this has happened to neither would you be the last. I suspect you don't want to divorce her hence why you are here. If you wanted divorce, you will be asking for good lawyers details not writing epistle on your wife cheating ways.

We women are our worst enemies at times! is it not on this same forum that women will be advising themselves to keep on praying for their cheating husbands even when the said husband is non-repentant. One even suggested he takes 'his' child from her.

Poster, work on your marriage, forgive and FORGET. Sure it will take some time but that is the best option, separate for a while if you must.

I am a 21st century woman . . . well I think I am but I am still guilty of the suffer-head strategy if that is what it is called.

I just don't have the time to be buying foodstuff one by one, I will rather buy everything in bulk. The only thing I can say I still buy quite regularly is bread, milk and eggs.
Also, I am a bit iffy on buying foodstuff online especially perishable items that needs to be freezed.

On that saturday that I have scheduled for food shopping, everyone in my household knows and cooperate fastfast

Very nice website though

Not really surprised
Lion pikin must to resemble Lion na.
Daddy GO is also very humble

Rule 17 should extend to other religion, not only is the rule very patronising to the 'real' Muslims but there is obvious partiality. I for one don't even bother going to the religion section anymore and it was a favourite of mine when you actually pick a thing or two from. Nowadays a very good topic that you can LEARN from becomes a joke after a few minutes all thanks to some atheists and other ignoramus
The other option is create another board for BORN AGAIN CHRISTIANS, then another for Catholics, then another, then another etc
As the leader/owner, you must be seen as FAIR.

What I do and still do is the whole kneeling down and hugging them at the same time pose, before my knees reach the floor, they will carry me up.

If my relationship is not at the body contact stage, I will just knee down and stand up immediately but continue greeting them unless as someone rightfully said they are praying for you.

Poster, hypocrisy or not, bi won se se ni ilu ti wa, ewo ibomiran ni meaning what is done in a town might be a taboo in another. That is how it is done and that is what you should do. Period. Watch your husband I am sure your husband don prostrate tire in his life!

Misery likes company. Why dig through a woman's post because she confidently said her hubby is not cheating. At times, we need to be very cautious and sensible when we deal with people, what is the point of putting doubt in the poster's mind.

Anyway @ poster, you are playing the part of submissive wife very well. I can perceive it from your write up. Kudos to you. However at times, we need to communicate better with our significant other so as not to have resentful feelings toward them. I guess my point is talk to him. Good luck

God be praised.
Congratulations

1. Advertise (most important) by word of mouth ( church people, your work people) Fliers, Internet ( Facebook page, Website etc).
2. Be very glossy ( I mean let your shop look the part) : most people unconsciously base their opinion when it comes to beauty on the beauty of the environment!
Let your mirror and light be flattering. Get white fluorescent light.
3. Give incentives that will make people come back meaning FREE stuff, get lipsticks, eye lashes, nail polish etc in bulk (wholesale price) and give it to your customer ( This is not for you to do forever, but just as a starter business)
4. Last but not the least, put it to God in prayers and also remember if your wife is good, it is just a matter of time before she is well known

No I will not. If it displeases him, sooner or later I will hate it as well anyway. That is just the way it is with us. Can't really explain.

Oh poster put a sock in it. From your write up, you come across as a very insensitive man. You refused to go visit her parents after the initial abuse. Were it to be your parents who abused you, would you do same? Evil deeds because she does not earn a kobo? and oh of course you want custody of your daughter because you were the only one that brought her into this life?! I guess you will also be wanting custody of the foetus as well?! Or is their another sisi oge lurking in the corner?!

Four years into a marriage meaning she got pregnant almost immediately and now she is 7 months pregnant again with a toddler as well and you are complaining she hasn't earned a kobo into the marriage. How will she earn a kobo when she is forever either pregnant or cleaning after her baby.

Mr poster, what exactly do you do or say that makes her insult or abuse you? What was she doing before you got married? Did she leave her job because she married you and had to relocate? How is her pregnancy journey? Did you at any point in time advice her to leave her job? What small scale business do you want her to get into?

Listen poster, life is not a bed of roses and definitely not marriage.

No reasonable person that cares about you will advice you to divorce your wife that has two children (God willing) for you based on those flimsy excuses and you gave without trying all other avenues to make things work out.

It is probably difficult for you being the only breadwinner of the home and obviously you will be frustrated and quite rightly so but divorce is never the first, second even third, fourth option.

Biomedical science in today's UK job market.

Didn't you know the person you married before you signed the dotted lies?

You initiated the divorce and as it is now, been the person she is , she won't beg you.

You, mr man need to have done better at managing your home. The instant you started saying sorry for what wasn't your fault, you more or less started allowing resent ful feelings into your home

If you are hurting as much as you are, you better go for counselling with her, let a neutral third party mediate before you allow your pride to make your kids a statistic in the single parent ish!

Lmao. Agidi Ati aruwo sha. Hehe.