Congratulations
God blessings on you all
She will be a blessing to her generation in Jesus name, a source of joy to you always
Amen

Live and let live
Happy married life to them

Rest in peace x

The blood of Jesus on him
It is well
Amen

Chai, I wasted money o. It was £18 I think per hour then. I had two different driving instructors. I used to do 2 hrs every Saturday and that was continuous for almost a year I think. My problem was I didn't do any independent lesson!!!

Steve first thought me, very nice, calm guy, always explaining why I should do this or that etc. I did practical test, did not pass!

Then this guy can't remember his name, he was a shouter!!!! I was always nervous entering his car and I was paying him o. He will just shout at me. I guess that was his style because I learnt a lot from him within a very short timeframe.

It was definitely a testimony when I heard the "congratulations you have passed".

Hand on heart, any other law - inform the authorities. Immigration law keep mute.

From your write up, I perceive the guy is hurt I mean he even reported to pastor so he must have some sort of affection for you.
You might be at fault or he at fault, but both of you are too "strong head". Also, I am sure you too said terrible things to him as well sef.

The crux of the matter as far as I am concerned is the "other" girl. From your write up, it does not appear like he is cheating.

Sha don't go back to him, let him come for you that is if you are still interested. Both of you need character overhaul. Grabbing phone etc.

I actually see this the other way
Some parents are like that, they believe it is 100% education and any sort of deviation will be detrimental to that.

God will look after those that have nothing, that have to suffer etc before they can go to school but thankfully this young man case is not like that, he has a capable family that can take care of him,

Poster, quite rightly, even if you get a part time job, for the first week or so you need help for transport and the likes. I will advice you to get your mother on side, let her see things from your angle, once your mother agrees with you then you are alright

Ninilowo: The boy try ooo. No initial cry cry thing. Ah! I trust ma soldiers na one term them take cry.

Hehe

My last was just very excited he finally had a lunch box and a backpack after years of him watching his siblings hehe, I shed all the tears saying bye bye at the gate my feelings was hurt mehn when he didn't even seem bothered but I was secretly happy when his teacher told me he cried when I left lol
Good old days

Awwwww look at his belly
Cute

Can we have more pictures
Love seeing things through other people's lens

Yes

Lmao, comedy. I suppose that stupidity is limited to the funky dad only or are they calling their father's age mate and uncles by name as well hehe.

I trust the Nigerians around me
Even if you tell them that you wanted it that way, they will still correct the pikins

God bless my peoples!!!

Nawa o. Why would you want to change their names? At least, if not for anything but as a sign of respect to the late husband. Thank heavens at least the husband knows that a compound name is better than wiping the poor late man's name entirely.

Let me clear this misconception - adoption does not mean they change their last name please. They can retain their last name and still be "full and legal"

Night$hift:

1. She stopped my mother from visiting and I said that is not right and when she stood her ground, I banned her mother and every member of her family as well and she started screaming blue murder.
2. She said she was taking the children to cathecism class but ended up in a Priest's hostel giving him food and collecting a pair of shoes in return as a gift without my knowldege even though I was in the house when she left and when she returned. I found out by chance while my children were gisting days later and when I asked her, she ignored me and never saw anything wrong in her actions until it became a full-blown argument.
3. She prepared and was set to jet out on pigrimage alone with the help of one of her friends and only told me in passing some few days to her planned departure. Of course, I stopped her and it became a major issue.
4. I asked for complete financial openness on her part when she got her new job like we were both doing before but she bluntly refused just like she's still refusing now. But then, I left her just to avoid being seen as overtly intrested in "her money" as she puts it. But with her building without my knowledge now, I have made it the only condition for negotiation on the marriage. Every other discussion will revolve round this.

Thanks for your response. Listen, people are finding it difficult to believe this is happening to you because the usual norm is for victims to be "female"
I mean were this to be a female lamenting like this, the response from majority will be fast and pray, love more, be even more attentive, call family meeting etc so perhaps you may try that!

If you are 100% sure, you are completely innocent, you may also try this, whatever she is doing / does as long as it has no adverse effect on the children, let her be. Don't show any emotional response to her wahala . STOP arguing with her, stop asking her to do anything. Just watch her. If she complains to family, that is her cup of tea, tell them to respect your privacy and let you sort out your issues.

Listen, a woman's body can only take been ignored by her husband for so long, after a while, if your acting nonchalant towards her is not affecting her, then Mr shift you have a serious family crisis on your hands and a woman that does not send you.

This "minor" argument that you have that makes her call everyone and their mother, could you please tell us a few? Also has she ever suspected you of cheating or insinuated that she does not trust you?

Beautiful couple :-)

Area-Fada:
@OP

Be careful about the opinions offered here.

When such a topic arises, it is very easy to allow tribal instincts take over.

People are using "insecurity" here very liberally. It must be a trendy word these days.

Your hubby learnt to speak Yoruba fluently so he cannot have anything against the language as such.

He fell in love with a fine yoruba lady and married her and in one fell swoop got Yoruba parents-inlaw plus Siblings-IL, so I doubt if he has anything against Yoruba people.

He lives in the SW and I guess he attends a few "owambe" thingz, so he's unlikely to be averse to local culture. It is illogical to stop his son learning what he learnt himself.

The question is what is he against?

My guess is this. Because he lives in the SW and speaks Yoruba, you may never have shown any genuine intesrest in his language and culture.

As a woman, you can use your enormous "soft power" to make your man feel more important and loved.

"Honey can you get me a book in Esan? I want to be able say some basic words so that I can talk to your elderly relatives".

"Darling, can you try to speak more Esan to junior now that he still young?"

"Sweetheart I am never gonna learn Esan if you don't speak it with me more".

"Dear when are we going to have that lovely Esan meal/dish again?"

Such proactive attitude can make him feel that his culture is not totally discounted. Moreover, you'd be shrewdly pushing the responsibility for fostering some Esan culture in the household to him.

It is an intertribal marriage. It can be absolutely fun if there's proper communication.

Having been in a few interracial relationships myself, little things (like Afam said) do matter.

PURE GOLD.

This is minor stuff

Don't fret it. Shebi YOU shouldn't speak yoruba to him directly ni ? comply. Do you speak English at home all the time? If the answer is no, then baby will pick it up.

Even if hubby bans you totally from speaking yoruba when the boy is there, don't worry, nothing spoil- several ways to skin a cat dear - will the boy not go to school? Go to your relatives, grandma etc for visiting, even your location help your cause.

[quote author=soul_glo]OP if you cannot protect your child then you are not fit to be a mother. How dare you let your child starve. If you were in the US I would call child protective services on your ass because you are an unfit mother. You don't deserve that child. Really? Get the heck outta here. Men so pissed just reading through this thread. Slap yourself.[/quote

How insensitive.
Just shut up.

Bless you OP, your posting signifies that you are "Omo jeje" that hates "argument"

If you are not producing breast milk, get some age appropriate formula and feed her, Poor baby might be starving.

When it comes to your baby, please you are allowed to go as crazy as you wish for their safety. Follow your instinct, if you feel it is not right, it is not.

Do you have an elderly relative that can come and do omugo as well? I fear mama is taking the piss and talking crazy because she knows your character.

Are you dead? If the answer is no, then be patient, be hopeful and have faith in God
He makes it all beautiful in HIS time.

......Now I have never seen anyone serving life in prison for having a caustic tongue however you know what carries a life sentence and destroys families? Murder!

A dead person is exactly that dead, killing someone is not a punishment for them, it is more or less yourself you are punishing. It is not their lost, they dead!

If a woman irritates you so much, go!

There is no justification for murder. None at all. Think!

I actually feel more sorry for the wife. Clueless stupid naive wife. She will get it in time.

Leave him and his behaviour to themselves. Think of it this way, you don't have to have any contact with this man on a daily basis, just hello and be civil at family gatherings finito! Imagine your poor sister has to co-habit with this animal.

Your sister will always be your sister. Forgive her please, let's blame it on her hormones this time round :-)

Perhaps Hubby + kids became their no 1 priority and they don't have the energy to chitchat for hours on the phone like the olden days or it has been wrongly drummed into their heads by the Aunty/ uncle advisers the potential harm single friends can cause, who knows.

No need to sound bitter about it in the sense of preempting marriage challenges for them

Anywhoooo, the truth is if you are a cherished friend, no wedding band will give her away from you, perhaps when she got married and became a "new" woman, she decided to let go of the old things that were not particularly adding anything to her life who knows

dudet:

The OP specifically referred to women; besides, if my dream is to have a happy home (as a woman/wife/mother) as against a successful career, does that make me any less an individual?

It certainly does not, that is what you want, you really don't need to justify your actions to anyone

@ post, Us Women needs to calm the hell down. Always wailing more than the aggrieved. If you must be a career woman, please do. If you must be a housewife, please do. If you can find the right balance. Good for you. One is NOT better than the other. There are pros and cons involved in both so don't come and lord your personal choice over anyone here

I presume that majority of this people in here shouting equality are not married, go and ask the ladies that are TRULY enjoying their marriage if they are not submissive. Enough gragra jare. The secret that most silly ladies don't catch on is that submissive women always always have the final say in decision making at home. Trust me on this!!

Women are emotional, men have their ego. You understand this as a woman/ man then happiness awaits you in your home.

All worship songs

"Sweet" Nigeria food and low calories are enemies!
Even the way our salad is prepared sef, at the end you will just ponder and this is meant to be healthy
Nigeria food should be taken in very small quantity with lots of water and exercise afterwards

wwwkaycom:
Dear nairalanders, kindly advise me on what to do. I have 2 little boys and a girl. The first is 4 years while the second is above 2. The two have almost the same height that some people think they are twins. The major issue is that the two of them fights a lot. They fight over everything, food, dresses, tv, etc. They compare every thing and fight over it while each is claiming that his is better. They will fight over food as if each would not have enough and at the end of the day there would be leftovers. I just came in from a store where I bought another tv now, one is already claiming the new one belong to him while his brother should take the other.
If one want to watch WAP tv, the other is asking for Mr Beans, then fight ensues. I think I have given these little boys more than enough beatings this year that I am now cautioning myself. I have also discovered that beating isnt going to solve the problem.They always wear their mum out anytime she is with them, I come back home everyday to meet them quarelling, enough complaints with one reporting the other to me. My mother in law has been saying they will outgrow it but I am really tired of these acrimonies btw 2 brothers. A[b]gain, their younger sister who is less than one is already showing some forms of aggressiveness, always wanting to join one in beating the other even with her feeble hands[/b]. See my house see drama. I put them in school and still pay teachers to organise extra lessons for them, this has not in anyway reduce their restlessness, what can I do? Kindly advise, Barka de sallah.

They will get over it with time
Just be fair at all times and don't take sides
Awwwww, little babygirl want to join

You too, stop committing knockable offences or change the conditions, tell her it is kisses you want now rather than knocks!!!

Thank youse