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Great song. Nice collabo

Lovely thread. Nice one Donald. Fantastic work you are doing. Please go on.

Only in a Nollywood movie would they play an entire Celine Dion album as soundtrack.

Big ups to them though. They found a way to survive in a difficult terrain.

With the slight improvement in the economy and emergence of the middle class, they will definitely improve.

Source: http://m.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-practice/201301/50-common-cognitive-distortions

1. Personalizing.

Taking something personally that may not be personal. Seeing events as consequences of your actions when there are other possibilities. For example, believing someone’s brusque tone must be because they’re irritated with you. (Tips for not personalizing.)

2. Mindreading. Guessing what someone else is thinking, when they may not be thinking that.

3. Negative predictions.

Overestimating the likelihood that an action will have a negative outcome.

4. Underestimating coping ability.

Underestimating your ability cope with negative events.

5. Catastrophizing.

Thinking of unpleasant events as catastrophes.

6. Biased attention toward signs of social rejection, and lack of attention to signs of social acceptance.

For example, during social interactions, paying attention to someone yawning but not paying the same degree of attention to other cues that suggest they are interested in what you’re saying (such as them leaning in).

7. Negatively biased recall of social encounters.

Remembering negatives from a social situation and not remembering positives. For example, remembering losing your place for a few seconds while giving a talk but not remembering the huge clap you got at the end.

8. Thinking an absence of effusiveness means something is wrong.

Believing an absence of a smiley-face in an email means someone is mad at you. Or, interpreting “You did a good job” as negative if you were expecting “You did a great job.”

9. Unrelenting standards.

The belief that achieving unrelentingly high standards is necessary to avoid a catastrophe. For example, the belief that making any mistakes will lead to your colleagues thinking you're useless.

10. Entitlement beliefs.

Believing the same rules that apply to others should not apply to you. For example, believing you shouldn’t need to do an internship even if that is the normal path to employment in your industry.

11. Justification and moral licensing.

For example, I’ve made progress toward my goal and therefore it’s ok if I act in a way that is inconsistent with it.

12. Belief in a just world.

For example, believing that poor people must deserve to be poor.

13. Seeing a situation only from your own perspective.

For example, failing to look at a topic of relationship tension from your partner’s perspective.

14. Belief that self-criticism is an effective way to motivate yourself toward better future behavior.

It’s not.

15. Recognizing feelings as causes of behavior, but not equally attending to how behavior influences thoughts and feelings.

For example, you think “When I have more energy, I’ll exercise” but not “Exercising will give me more energy.”

16. All or nothing thinking.

 e.g., "If I don’t always get As, I’m a complete failure."

17. Shoulds and musts.

For example, "I should always give 100%." Sometimes there are no important benefits of doing a task beyond a basic acceptable level.

18. Using feelings as the basis of a judgment, when the objective evidence does not support your feelings.

e.g., "I don’t feel clean, even though I’ve washed my hands three times. Therefore I should wash my again." (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder example).

19. Basing future decisions on “sunk costs.”

e.g., investing more money in a business that is losing money because you’ve invested so much already.

20. Delusions.

Holding a fixed, false belief despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary. For example, believing global warming doesn’t exist. Or, believing you’re overweight when you’re 85lbs.

21. Assuming your current feelings will stay the same in the future.

For example, “I feel unable to cope today, and therefore I will feel unable to cope tomorrow.”

22. Cognitive labeling.

For example, mentally labeling your sister’s boyfriend as a “loser” and not being open to subsequent evidence suggesting he isn’t a loser.

23. The Halo Effect.

For example, perceiving high calories foods as lower in calories if they’re accompanied by a salad.

24. Minimizing.

e.g., “Yes I won an important award but that still doesn’t really mean I’m accomplished in my field.”

25. Magnifying (Cognitively Exaggerating).

For example, blowing your own mistakes and flaws out of proportion and perceiving them as more significant than they are.

Making a mountain out of a molehill, but not quite to the same extent as catastrophizing.

26. Cognitive conformity.

Seeing things the way people around you view them. Research has shown that this often happens at an unconscious level. See the Asch experiment. (video)

27. Overgeneralizing

Generalizing a belief that may have validity in some situations (such as “If you want something done well, you should do it yourself.”) to every situation. This is a type of lack of psychological flexibility.

28. Blaming others.

29. Falling victim to the “Foot in the Door” technique.

When someone makes a small request to get a “Yes” answer, then follows up with a bigger request, people are more likely to agree to the big request than if only that request had been made.

30. Falling victim to the “Door in the Face” technique.

When someone makes an outlandish request first, then makes a smaller request, the initial outlandish request makes the smaller request seem more reasonable.

31. Focusing on the amount saved rather than the amount spent.

e.g, Focusing on the amount of a discount rather than on whether you’d buy the item that day at the sale price if it wasn’t listed as on sale.

32. Overvaluing things because they're your's.

e.g., perceiving your baby as more attractive or smart than they really are because they're your's.

Or, overestimating the value of your home when you put it on the market for sale because you overestimate the added value of renovations you've made.

33. Failure to consider alternative explanations.

Coming up with one explanation for why something has happened/happens and failing to consider alternative, more likely explanations.

34. The Self-Serving Bias

34. The Self-Serving Bias The self-serving bias is people's tendency to attribute positive events to their own character but attribute negative events to external factors. (Tips for overcoming the self-serving bias.)

35. Attributing strangers' behavior to their character and not considering situational/contextual factors.

36. Failure to consider opportunity cost.

For example, spending an hour doing a low ROI task and thinking "it's only an hour" and not considering the lost potential of spending that hour doing a high ROI task.

37. Assumed similarity.

The tendency to assume other people hold similar attitudes to your own.

38. In-group bias.

The tendency to trust and value people who are like you, or who are in your circle, more than people from different backgrounds.

39. "You don't know what you don't know."

Getting external feedback can help you become aware of things you didn't even know that you didn't know! 

40. The tendency to underestimate how long tasks will take.

41. The belief that worry and overthinking will lead to problem solving insights.

In fact, overthinking tends to impair problem solving ability and leads to avoidance coping.

42. Biased implicit attitudes.

Psychologists use a test called the implicit association test to measure attitudes that people subconsciously hold. Results show people subconsciously associate fat with lazy etc. 

It's useful to be mindful that you may subsciously hold biased attitudes, then you can consciously correct for them.

43. The Peak-End Rule.

The tendency to most strongly remember (1) how you felt at the end of an experience, and (2) how you felt at the moment of peak emotional intensity during the experience. Biased memories can lead to biased future decision making.

44. The tendency to prefer familiar things.

Familiarity breeds liking, which is part of why people are brand loyal and may pay inflated prices for familiar brands vs. switching.

45. The belief you can multi-task.

When you're multi-tasking you're actually task (and attention) shifting. Trying to focus on more than one goal at a time is self-sabotage.

46. Failure to recognize the cognitive benefits of restorative activitIes and activities that increase positive emotions.

For example, seeing humor or breaks as a waste of time.

47. Positively biased predictions.

For example, expecting that if you sign up to a one year gym membership you will go, if this hasn't been the case in the past.

48. Cheating on your goals based on positive behaviors you plan to do later.

For example, overeating today if you expect you'll be starting a diet next week. Often the planned positive behaviors don't happen. 

49. Repeating the same behavior and expecting different results (or thinking that doubling-down on a failed strategy will start to produce positive results). 

For example, expecting that if you nag more, your partner will change. 

50. "I can't change my behavior." (or "I can't change my thinking style."

Instead of telling yourself "I can't," try asking yourself how you could shift your behavior (or thinking style) by 5%.

How to Become Mindful of Your Cognitive Distortions?

Try printing this article and highlighting the cognitive distortions you think apply to you. I suggest you then pick one cognitive distortion at a time and keep a running list for a week of how that cognitive distortion manifests in your life.

Agimor: ^^^
Bunch of cowardice.

Giri nwanyo!!

greatgod2012: I dont know why d guy still have to stay in that apartment, if he wanted to respect himself, he should have vacated d place even b4 d burial of d lady.



To d family of Bisi, stop fighting over her properties, you pple are suppose to still be in mourning mood....smh for you.

If he vacates, they will say her spirit is pursuing him.

A Nigerian will probably pay tithe with the money.

Ortis: We are over 150million peepz in nigeria fight tru d buzzle n struggle of life bt if ur nasty little sis tinks SUCIDE is d answer 2 her small little poo poo shit problem...dem let her b n i wil b happy becos d population wil go down 2 149,999,000 peepz i guz,...datz a gud news n pls email me her burial date

Are you aware that it is the spirit of the devil that made you make the comment above?

You better change so the devil will quit using you as a vessel to propagate hate and wickedness.

You owe OP an apology. Start from there.

Failure, even in marriage, is relative. All depends on the failure threshold of the parties involved. Everyone has a threshold.

However, I have seen seemingly failed marriages bounce back really well through prayers, selflessness and hardwork.

No, divorce is not the only way.

CohenJane: u no get eye ni? god not God

Thank you very much. Some people just need to loosen up.

So?

1. Bottle was cut from bottom.

2. Eggs are not real but inflatable egg like balloons or even rubber eggs compressed and put inside the bottle.

3. Bottle was cut by the side and eggs dropped in. Then bottle was sealed.

So many ways. Do it with a glass bottle and you have something.

Dem dey fight for nairaland?
Dem dey fight for nairaland.

Dem dey abuse themselves for nairaland?
Dem dey abuse themselves for nairaland.

Nairaland na number 1?
Nairaland na number 1.

@OP cool stuff. Compliments people.

None of the above.




Loving your God with all you have and loving your neighbour as yourself.

Confessing that Jesus is the Son Of God. And Giving your life to him.

It depends...

kay dibs: Bet world wait na Bet world wait na. I haven't found love yet, no money in my account, no property of my own. I neva even experience childbirth looool.

Heya.
Yours was touching.
The world is not coming to an end.
You shall find all you seek. Amen.

ROSSIKE: There's absolutely nothing 'weird' about it. There are over 200 countries on earth. How many of them have a 'national icon' you can readily name?

Less than 10 I'm sure!

So what IS weird is having a 'national icon', not lacking one.

Spot on!

Step 1: I read the article with an open mind
Step 2: I followed the discourse, accusations and counter accusations
Step 3: Evidence was presented. Precisely 57:27 on the 3hr long embedded video.
Reference was made on the article to the booing when the issue of electricity was brought up by Labaran maku.
Step 4: I watched the video. Specifically I watched from 56:20 to 58:05.
Step 5: I noted the reaction of the crowd on 57:27(in the background because they were not showed, however flags were raised)

CONCLUSION: THEY DID NOT BOO LABARAN MAKU on 57:27-30 (They should have but they did not). THE AUTHOR LIED AND THE EVIDENCE IS HERE FOR EVERYONE TO SEE.

I do not support GEJ and his cronies but a deceitful and misleading watchdog is even worse than the thief. Tonight I am disappointed in Sahara.

Ellashow: 2baba gene na die, what a cool kids, so cute and adorable

@nwa-ngeme nice valid points.

But no matter how you look at it, 'this' deserved mention.

sambussie: I dunno wher u got these figures, but if its correct, then sentiments apart, its unfair.
The same happened btw Eedris & 50cent & we all backed Eedris up.
I think we shld put ourselves in dere shoes. *in dere country o*
But dey shldn't have chickened out,cuz Sakordie who is even bigger than dem is gonna perform anyways. 5000USD is better than nothn.
But truth b told, P square has payd their dues in †ђз industry, they are far bigger than any Ghanaian artiste. R2beez shldn't expect equal pay na.

What are you people saying?

All fingers are not equal now. HABA!!!

Can't even waste time on this. It is a no-brainer.

Malta guinness should sue them for breach of contract.

stpat1: But didn't she suspect or better put know what was ahead of her before agreeing to go for it? She knew it was prostitution quite well and the only reason she backed out was because of the amount she was to pay back. She should count herself lucky she was not arrested.

Somebody has been deported and you are still talking about arrest.

she came into the country illegally. The penalty was deportation abi? Or is there something else they are meant to do to her?

I admire the girl's courage joor. She dam.ned the juju, her madam, what people back home would say etc because she would not succumb to slavery.

GARRI (x7):
Nice one!!!

Diezani is next......

U go old.

I am glad we have started talking.
If we do not talk, then the sleeping giant cannot awake.
We must rise above our history and take our people to greater heights.

After we have addressed the pain from years past, we can then forge ahead with unity of purpose.

Igbo Kwenu!!!!

Nigeria Kwenu!!

Tales by moonlight.

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