It's sad that COVID19 has spoilt a lot of things and made people to question our faith. Miracles are real and they've been happening.
Unfortunately, People of faith who believed Coronavirus couldn't destroy them ended up having the virus and dying in the process. I don't blame CAN. There's no way the Government can measure your faith to know if you're immuned from it or not.
KingZaddy: temperaments are important, for one to become an alpha he must be at least 40% choleric, the choleric trait is very important because it holds everything about taking charge.
choleric sanguine/ sanguine choleric and choleric melancholy/ melancholy choleric, these combination can create the best alphas.
of all four the choleric sanguine is the best because of how spontaneous he is and how much he can blend into any situation or career, the melancholy choleric comes next because of how much he can create ideas, intelligence and how he does wonders with the power of silence and self control.
if you fall under any of the four then you have the traits of alpha
If you don't have these traits, what next ?
I have an issue. There's this lady I met online and we got talking. She came over to see me for the first time. She dressed provocatively, and we kissed and played. She kept saying I have a girlfriend and I want to cheat on her. I told her I used to have but we didn't continue. This lady's b'day is coming soon and she's asking for a gift. I really don't want to invest much. Now, what do you think I should approach the situation and still Bleep her ?
Disclaimer: I AM NOT A SAINT AND MY WIFE IS NOT THE DEVIL. I HAVE JUST BEEN UNFORTUNATE TO BECOME A VICTIM OF MATRIARCHY WHICH MANY MEN SUFFER ABROAD...
I have been hustling abroad for a few years while wifey was working in Nigeria and living with children. Marriage has always been turbulent and we even almost got divorced after I travelled out. We somehow worked on our issues with the help of pastors, family and friends, and after a few years of ''roughing'' it abroad to pave way for them, I finally succeeded and my family arrived a few months ago.
I used to be hot tempered, but I have had enough time to gain insight into my inadequacies and reflect on them. I am now significantly calmer due to the determination to make my marriage better and as per ''abroad levels''. My wife on the other hand is fully taking advantage of me and the environment we find ourselves in. First thing she did on getting here was to cut of my entire family. She said she doesn't want to have anything to do with any of them anymore. She has also not been too keen to kickstart her career, as all she does is endless picture taking and editing for social media hyping. I know this might be due to the initial ''euphoria'' phase cos she is coming abroad to a big house, big car and having no limits on most things we used to manage back in Nigeria, and she thinks things are bread and butter. You would never think for a second that she is a married woman if you check her profiles on social media!
She has become even more toxic person than she ever was in Naija. Now very bossy, never backs down, always the attacker, ever ready for a fight, lazier, always on social media, communicates with me as little as possible, embarrasses me in the neighbourhood with the constant noises from our house, and finally her threats have now tripled! Madam is now so fierce that I have become the house chicken. Just within a few months of being here o! She tells me that she will show me for all the ''gra gra'' I used to do back in Nigeria. Friends advised me against bringing this woman here but I no wan hear word as per responsible family man wey I dey claim to be.
The popular threat is usually ''I will end your career''. I wasn't taking this too seriously initially, but she then started following through with the threats by constant calls to the police and other services, making spooky and baseless career ending accusations and allegations against me.
I have never been the one to first lay my hands on her, but I have spilled drinks on her before when she attacked me. My wife now gets very physical without having any element of self control, fear or restraint after the simplest argument and sometimes, she damages things out of anger. She does this so often and never hesitates to dare me to do my worst.
I discovered that she has signed up on dating sites and when I even caught her chatting about sex to a particular guy in our area, she said that it was all my fault. She did not apologise for this. She even referred to it one time after an argument that if I am convulsing like this over just a sex chat, she's waiting to see what I'd do when I see a man on top of her.
My productivity at work has declined significantly and I am now on the verge of depression. Neighbours called the police on us one time after a lot of noise from out house. She accused me of domestic violence. The police had to separate us and I was stuck at home for an extended period and could not go to work due to this. I am now being investigated for domestic violence, which is a serious crime as madam wants it and I have had to report the situation to my company! The whole thing is so messy that I am scared that I have not seen the worst yet.
I am so afraid of losing it all and returning to Nigeria broke cos I spent my last card and even racked credit card debt to bring them here hoping to pay off gradually. I still have a few years to get my citizenship and if I lose my job now, that is the end for all of us!
For now, I don't know what is going to happen to us, as this woman is so determined to cause great and irreparable damage that could ruin our lives, just to get back at me and she is being cheered on by her family and friends.
THE SITUATION IS SO MESSED UP!
UPDATE:
Divorce has now been filed. I also recently got lucky as I was able to secure a restraining order when she messed up again and hit me daring me to do my worst. I called the police and made a proper case and she was arrested. She has been banned from the house for a month. The police advised me to talk to my lawyer and extend indefinitely if I want to. I hope to get this done ASAP. The law here does not only protect women but also protects innocent men. All you need is patience and wisdom. Thank you all for your ideas. Still several hurdles to cross but I am on the winning side for now.
I'm happy for you..... The Lord will see you through. Amen.
Ndeoma: Their is this lady I have come to develop feelings for. She is a graduate and intending to go for service before November... it's just this pandemic that is delaying things. She is also a member of my church and serving in one of the service units. I have been observing her for a while and in the course of time grew feelings for her.
I took courage and approached her and she told me she is engaged to be married this December but the problem is that after that our chat she has been tailing me. She always comes around me to sit close to me during service meetings. Some times she'd be starring so much at me that you'd wonder. I'm beginning to think wether she actually told me the truth about her relationship status earlier or she is just trying to hold on to me as alternative just incase here marriage plans with the other guy goes south.
Please friends I need your sincere advice on what to do as am confused. I really love the lady and would like to marry her.
If she's giving you green light, go for it. But don't bring up the marriage topic.
johnkey: I hate royalty, I've never bowed to any king and i will make sure I avoid any situation that'll change that. All men are born equal. Modified: keep your negative opinions to yourself if you wish you can go ahead prostrating at every palace you pass, but I'm not born to worship any man born of a woman. Capiche?
Chris is in the news for another controversy. Where did he get his facts from ? Which scientist is he quoting? I wonder what doctors and scientists attending Christ Embassy will say.
sweetmelanin: I think you are the shallow one here who has clearly refused to reason!
1. Why is Bill Gates (a college dropout with no medical background) suddenly the spokesperson for global health? 2. Why is the vaccine (which we have no idea of it's long term effect) being pushed to be mandatory? 3. Why is Bill Gates pushing for digital identification of those who have been vaccinated (ID2020)?
Bill Gate is doing this cos he's a philanthropist. Firstly, this COVID19 came from China. And it was not until this virus came that's when Bill Gate pushed for vaccine. Bill Gates has given a lot of money to fight diseases especially IN Africa. Many of these projects, you know nothing about.
pDudd: She has 4 kids from 3 different men and the oldest of her kids is a few years younger than you are. She may or may never have been married. And if she was married, it is obvious she had a failed marriage because here you are .
And be prepared to live with grown kids that are not yours. Her youngest child may be 2 or 3 years old while her oldest may be 15 or 16. So the choice is yours
Also in this dynamic relationship you now find yourself, be prepared to have those other men in your house from time to time, and unannounced, because they have every right to see their kids that they had with the woman. Also try not to scold or discipline any of the kids that are not yours because they will tell their daddy . And their daddy is a muscular, tattooed guy who has been to prison several times and he won't hesitate to kill you for laying your hands on his kid
landmark86: I graduated from Osun State Polytechnic, Iree. She also graduated from Babcock University.
We both met in 2015 during our NYSC at River State. We serve in the same PPA. She is good, lovely and caring. And to crown it all she is beautiful. I mean so beautiful.
It all started with friendship which later led to relationship. We share so many things together during our time in River State as per what the future holds.
After our NYSC, we both went back to our various base. She is based in Lagos while I reside in Osun. Immediate I finished my NYSC, I got a job with a private organisation as a factory supervisor. But she went further for her Masters in Covenant University, Otta. Despite the distance we still communicate from time to time and at times I do find time to check on her in Otta, while she also do check on me in Osogbo.
After her M.sc, her dad got her a job with a big company in Lagos.
Last year December she came to Osogbo as usual to check on me but fortunately she met my parents and my siblings at my place. They all love and accept her. When she was leaving the next day she told me that her parents told her that they want to meet her fiancé.
12th January, 2020 I travelled down to Lagos to meet her parents. When getting there I met her parents with her only sister. Her dad ask of my parents, state, my qualification and what I do for a living. I told him and immediately he stood up and told me he will never allow his daughter to marry an HND holder.
He said he can't send his daughter to a university & end up marry an HND holder. Never!!! Though my gal is not in support of that, even ever since that time till now she's not her self in that house. I truly love her and I know she truly love me too. But her parents is the major concern. Should I call it quit?
Please your advise is needed, what should I do?
Get her pregnant and you'll see whether Bsc/Hnd issue will come up
Donhezzy: I immediately dropped my books and was curious to know were she was heading to. So I followed er, she was far ahead of me and I didn't want to run after er so dat I won't look needy or desperate like a wu33y a77 nigga
God so good she stopped along d hallway and decided to go read under one of the trees, on knowing I went back to take some of the vital things from my bag so as to prevent stories dat touch ( I hope u know wat I meant, if u don't niether do I ) well i gave my bag to a friend of mine to keep an eye on it.
so I decided to go get a table water to cool my system( why rush a meal dats der for the taking) and perhaps I was really thirsty. So I bought d water and took a note wit me and off I went
I finally got to were she was, sat close to er and brought out d table water n started drinking. Wen I was done I relaxed and viewed d nice serene environment b4 I opened my note, pretending like i was reading wereas i was flipping tru d pages NB : I didn't even look at er for a sec during dose while, well u may ask y, well heres the reason one 1) I didn't want er to get d memo dat I chased er all d way from d class down here bcuz i wanted to collect er digit in which she will read as ( here comes anoda peacock on heat can't just do wit anything under skirt. probably anoda one of dose nice wu33y average guyz ) , bottom line, neva let a gurl know ur true intentions towards er
2) sendless; make er less important trust me ladies love attention alot especially d hot Chic's and they get annoyed easily n obsessed wen a guy do d opposite why don't u DARE to be DIFFERENT
So I was busy reading my note while she was well God knows wat she was doing i neva cared to know. she got bored reading and went on doing all sort of things to get my attention which I didn't budge. wen she noticed I wasn't getting any of it, she took er handbag brought out er phone and started pressing while she sheepishly stare at me wit one side of d eyes ( sleek move). Lol, dis continued for several minutes and i neva gave a flinch nor did i look at er for a sec. in my mind i was just laughing
Wen i saw all sort of stunt she was pulling trying to get my attention. I den brought out my phone n took a grimpse look at d time b4 i came to reality dat if i dont strike a convo sooner rather later, I'm going to end up not engrossing n spuring entangling fun out of er boring life. i quickly took a grimpse look at er n found out she was having hard time understanding a course cuz she was just staring at d book like it wants to choke d hell outa er. On seeing this i decided to strike a convo
Me: Are those words in ur book written in flames or cud my eyes be deceiving me? ( said it putting on a serious face)
She: *smiled*....I don't get
Me: ur head is oozing out of smoke, now I'm beginning to worry this tree might just catch fire
She: *laughed*....I'm just finding hard time wit dis course(phy301) ooo its giving me tough time
Me: is dat y u pondering urself over it, lucky 4 u I happen to know it
She: Omg! really?
Me: easy gurl yeah, buh u should know my service ain't free
Her: hmmm...so wats it for me den
Me: well heres not the time and place to discuss dat..........(took er phone, input my hotline n told er to call me to find out. stood up n told er I've gtg)
Her: oh so quick? btw wic side are u heading to cuz I'm already tired of reading let's just go togeda
Me: you tired just now, hmm i might just change my mind about d tutor stuff, how I'm I sure u not going to fall in love wit me d instance we start n 4get u came to learn (smiled at er) inshort I'm not tutoring u again don't wanna break dose tiny little heart of urs n make u make u still fail ur exam
Her: (laughing so hard, she was stunned)..., imma big gurl n besides I don't fall dat easy.....let's go joor ( drag my hands and was forcing me to go)
Me: I must warn u my heart is too big for one girl too carry oo, if u fall for me its at ur own risk...btw I don't think u can handle the heat
Her: *laughing hard*.....sha be feeling urself by d way I ve a boyfriend
(in my mind i was like, so dis gal thinks she can throw me off balance wit dis word, well she gat to do beta dan dat to get me. only if she knew wat she has just done.. using er own words to hurt herself) Me: wait! did she just try to play a fast one on me (i did it as if I was talking to myself wit a low tone), well u ve do beta Dan dat to get me
She: for real I have a bf n I love him dearly
Me: oh poor guy! It wud ve bin beta if u dint meet me cuz from now henceforth he's gonna be in a very long queue
She: Lol, wat makes u think I'm gonna leave my bf more or less for u....... I love him ok
Me: *laughed out* why is ur conscience judging u already, lol, no nid to feel guilty cuz I'm not about taking u away from him, perphaps i don't want to break d poor guy tinys heart n besides I don't ve a thing for dark gurls, u might just go staining me soft skin (mind u she is chocolate, got dat perfect blend of color admonished by nature. oh! forgot to mention shes a 9ner...hmm)
Her: see ur head, Do u know thousands of people ( guyz most especially) dat drool over my color I guess u dont know....do u know anything at all self
Me: Lol wat do u expect to hear from dose guyz dats tryna impress u..... of course they would go. waxing lyrically how blooming, glooming n enchanting ur skin is. they wouldn't wanna tell u d truth would they??
Her: lol, I receive compliment from girls also if u don't know
Me: so she's a lesby! well let me see ( I looked at er intensively like a doc inspecting one of his patients) for a start er height is not bad for er body 5.4ft tall (I looked at er again n noticed she was putting on shoes) oh! u think u can deceive me wit dose shoes abi OK I think 4.5 wud suffice.
She:arrrrrrh! I'm I dat short haba ( she was eager to hear the full analysis about er)
Me: she's got nice lips tho buh aint sure she knows how to use em... n d worst case scenario is, shes a lesby 4 dat mata, too bad cuz I've totally lost interest before she even get d chance to impress
Her: *cant help buh burst out wit laughter* so its me u analysed like dis abi, iyaf do b4 u finish me... wait!, oooo can't bliv ive bin talking to u all dis while and I dont know ur name. (I guess she joltted back to reality n obviously dis word kept jolting tru er mind, ''can't bliv I'm so free n laughing my ass out wit a guy i dont even know his name''. yeah if I hapn to be d one I wudnt think more or less )
Me: oh so u can go n give it to one baba so u both can go saying my name at night abi......as if wooing me is not enuf buh still u want to use love portion on me. rababa, I'm covered wit da blawd Arrrh! no way I'm telling u my name
Her:* laughing so hard to the extent she almost fell my bag from me hand...i kinda got embarrassed cuz dis time around, it was loud n obvious. I was like so dis same gurl forming hush n posh not quite long can laugh dis hard in public without giving a damn if anyone is watching er*
Her:U wish.... Pls just tell me ur name b4 u start to feel urself. hmm dont tell me u re dat scared to tell me, dont worry i wont bite.
Me: Nah, I don't want u go saying my name at night while u go hugging ur pillow wishing I was der......i wouldnt want d whole neighbourhood to know my name b4 I get to introduce myself
She:* cracked up big time*.....so wat should I do for u to tell me ur name
Me: why don't u call to find out buh 1st uve gat to impress me For me to pick d call n so far u havent impressed me ....beta start to show me wat u re good at. u can sing nice song for me or rather still dance, let me see if u even know how to use dose gift of urz or dey re just dormant..( brought out my phone n pretend as if i was looking at d time) ur time start now n u got just 10sec
She: u know i cant do dose things u asked of along d road ppl will get to stare at me n btw why don't u just tell me joor it s not a big deal (said it wit a sexy baby voice)
Me: oh dear u havent got to impressed me yet, i gave u d chance to impress me n u dint. oh! well, n besides Ive got alota admirer, u neva can tell if one of dem is keeping tabs on me ryt now, surely don't want any1 to go stalking me on social media (i smiled at er in an annoying way)
She: lol,for ur mind u be James . u ain't even happy I'm curious to know ur name ( she didn't bliv dat a guy can turn a sexy living creature like er down)
Me: ( already out of d school walls) u know wat dear, if u really curious to know my name y don't u call to find out.....* board a bike and took off*
To be continued
P.S: I brought out my life long experience wit em so dat most of u guyz can learn from my experience cuz it pains me to see my fellow niggas run after em ladies go doing every of der biddings just to impress dem to d extent not having a life of der own and get friendzone or rather still turned into a maga/mugu..... some guys really sucks at initiating a convo......it is a disease wen u suck n don't know u suck wit gurls well I just hope ya'll can obviously learn from my experience
Nice convos. How long did it take you to smash her after this first encounter? Did you get another date ?
Ishilove: Transitioning from adolescent to adult? He is an adult.
At least that is what his big, dangling balls suggest...
It is still growing and has not yet reached full maturity. A full grown Male is bigger than this.
What you have to understand is that some large breeds are usually very stubborn. They require a firm owner. As it is, it's a bit bug for you to get physical with it. It may want to attack back.
What you do first is to chain it for some days. Like previous posters said, you can use food to punish it.
Dangrace01: I noticed some white guys do pays black guys to fuk their wives. After everything the white husband and white wife still live happily together.
With the rate of moral decadence on our society. Do you see Nigerians getting to that point.
These thoughts came about while reading this fling thread on nairaland
Share your thoughts. Do that white guy really love the wife to allow such in his presence?
I asked this question because I noticed black men don't condone cheating of any form.
It happens. Such husbands are known as cuckold while the wife is called hotwife. Things do happen.
TIGRITIS: Oga prof, with due respect sir, you are an authority in your field. Medicine is not your field of study. The situation at hand is not about who is being paid for whatever reason. It is also not about trading of words. It is about the safest approach to save lives. Sir, in this case, a 400 level medical student is of more relevance than you. I'm sure you know it. So, oga prof, leave matter where e dey. If you have any contributions, don't hesitate, but if non, pls shut the fvck up.
�. I wonder what he has to say now that the figures have increased.
The likes of Janice Griffith, Veronica and Naomi have small ass, with the exception of Naomi who has big boobs. Don'treally find them that appealing. That's not to say they're not doing a good job
pride4legacy: Mr Godson Madu a graduate of Imo State University currently serving in Abuja is adjudged the tallest corper in Abuja just before they left Camp he was introduced to Amina who presumably is the shortest in Abuja Camp. Picture of them together is currently a internet trending on Social Media.
Elitism6 reporter in camp broke the story of how the two became internet sensation shortly before NYSC Camp activities was suspended due to Coronavirus.
Taich: I don't trust CNN anymore, Amapour and Aisha (before she retired) bashed the former government and suddenly lost their focus on reporting the ills going on in Nigeria. I don't support Trump's action, but CNN sounding so concerned over our situation is turn off for me. CNN should continue their well known Anti Trump reports and leave us alone to lick our wounds in peace.
Davidwilliam101: CEO Of A Fitness Centre Slams Customer For Complaining Of Poor Services
CEO Of a fitness centre in lekki talks brutally to the customer who complains about their poor services as she asked of a refund of her money.
He was angry on the manner of approach the customer talks to him as he abuse and chase the customer out of his office without providing solution or refund to the customer,customers are said to be always right in every way as reverse is the case in this kind of situation.
Christianity Etc › Re: Chris Okotie: Social Distancing In Church Is Like Blasphemous Infidelity by vislabraye(m): 1:01am On Jun 01, 2020
