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Fhemmmy: I have done it oh . . . Doing that does not make me less of a man.

Awwwwww, I e-love you.

IZUKWU: and that's what marriage should be about? Do me, i do you ?

Izu, I don't know ok, I'm not married, never been married. But one thing I know is, I cannot always be at the receiving end, ok.
I know men have ego, pride and all and it is my duty to protect those, same way it is his duty to protect my vulnerability. But we can't do this if we don't completely trust each other ok.

Most times men let pride and ego get into the way, I understand they are wired that way, but I'd be more forgiving if letting this pride come in the way is unintentional. But when a man intentionally beats his chest in pride for me? I'm gonna stick with this proverb then; ita m aru n'isi na asoghi ntutu m, aga m ata gi aru n'ike na asoghi nshi gi. I'm sure u understand that, sweetheart. *winks*

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Don't even think of it, young lady!

baba dey: "I'M GONNA BRING HIM DOWN TO HIS KNEELS, WITH EVERY STRENGHT OF A WOMAN IN ME. AND WHEN I DO, I'M GONNA TELL HIM THEN KICK HIM OUT"

That's what is wowing me.

oh u bet I will!
But fortunately, I'm also stuck with guys who don't give me the reason to.
I'm also stuck with guys who help me clean my shoes, paint my nails, do my laundry and comb my hair once in while. So I don't need to bother myself about bringing them down. I just bother myself about loving them more and giving anything in the world to make them happy.

Broke azz nigga!

baba dey: Wow and wow again.... Sorry for ma inquisition madamoiselle, Are you from Mbaise,imo state?

nah, I'm not from Mbaise. I'm from Imo state tho.

If I may ask, what's wowing u?

bukatyne: Don't mind them, they think they have the reserved rights to demand fidelity from their women.

Lol! Why are you not a feminist?

I don't agree with some of their ideologies. And in practice, I don't like the so much anger in them.

IZUKWU: i can't be that type of man and even you wouldn't want to be married to such a man, a man should learn to be a man period. I can't imagine my father kneeling for my mother for whatever reason. Why should i subject myself to that!

You know what? You are right! I want my man to be a man, the same way he wants me to be a woman.
But the only way this would work is when we forget who and what we are, especially in private, and just seek to make each other happy.
But for a man to come in here, and beat his chest in pride? I'm gonna bring him down to his kneels, with every strength of a woman in me. And when I do, I'm gonna tell him then kick him out.

Is it plus or minus flings?

Mr. Cork, if your flings and one night stands are added, I'm sure yours would be up to 150

@ Op, you are so on point! But I also have reason to believe that most of these "whinning" threads are opened by kids. We have a lot of them here you know?

Donalð Genes: Like what kinda power you girls wield over us (men) how many guys have qrovel for you before?

Nah, I'm not get into this, ok. I don't pride myself in it, you know why? I have grown pass that.

I think you all should sharrap! We also live in the real world! And we have seen men grovel, cry, promise, some even deny their families for a piece of an azz yet you all come here to feel like Jack Bauer.

We wield a lot of power over u, accepting this fact doesn't make you a weakling.

and to all of u who say that u can never get married as if the ladies lives are supposed to stand still cos of it? "After all, getting married is a huge favour to the lady." I say good riddance.............. Kiss my azz.

pleep: Its not competition its the fuckin truth lady.

Cheating hurts men more because of different instincts. This is not only about ego and self confidence bla bla bla, its about "who is the real father of my child." That is something males have to deal with but women don't. And so we evolved to have a deep seated tik that women don't have

You ever wonder why many women can tolerate polygamy but almost no man can? its because we are wired differently

You cant argue with evolutionary biology... cheating effects men more, just accept it.

We pay the "bride price" so its not so much to ask.

How much fuc...king bride price do you even pay?

Bro face it, men are weaker vessels. You can't just get ur acts together, stand up and own up to your responsibilities, no! You always push the blame to someone else. What does that make u? Cry babies. You guys are just weak.
And its good a lot of you are served the very food you prepared. At least you get to see how great it tastes.
When next you see a woman on the road? Duff ur cap for her! She is an epitome of strength.
And I didn't say this from a view point of feminism. I'm not a feminist.

A lot of you guys are just full of shi..t and I wonder how women put up with u.

Rooneyboy: Who's the man that offended u this much

U've been sounding so bitter

Offend me? Nah, nothing a man does surprises me anymore. I just have a problem with u guys shifting all the blames to women when u are not better yourselves.

And from ur posts, I can deduce you don't like women either.

Aren't men just hypocrites? You can't kneel down for a girl (privately) even tho I know a lot of you do. But you guy's don't have a problem kissing a girl's azz! what's that sarcasm again? The one that says "kiss my azz!" And you guys are actually doing a great job at it.

If I hear!.............

CAMEROONPRIDE: Can you explain your last paragraph? How exactly are they going to ridicule his family? Where is the shame?

CAMEROONPRIDE: Can you explain your last paragraph? How exactly are they going to ridicule his family? Where is the shame?

Why don't you find out on your own, sweetheart? I think a simple survey research would do just that.

ayobase: A lady that screws men is tagged a prostitute, but a man that screws women is tagged a Don in most cases.

Why?

The trauma of woman cheating is FAR heavier than that of man!

As a woman, u are bound to counter me on that, but its the fact!

Oh yes, I agree with you. You are practically right! Bravo!

But if men aren't so selfish and egocentric, they would see that cheating destroy women just the way it destroy men. You guys are not the only with pride and ego bullshit, women have those too!

If they aren't so self centred, they would notice that something dies in these women whenever they cheat! And they (women) begin to wonder "am I not good enough?" "Am I not beautiful, and intelligent, and smart enough?" "What has this 'other' woman got that I don't?"
Do you guys realise how you crush women's self esteem when you cheat? Of course how would you? When u are so obsessed with urselves.
Do you u think women don't contemplate suicide, or maybe blow ur fu..cking brains off? Along side ur who...res?
Yes, they do! But they are stronger and more passionate and compassionate. You have no idea what women tolerate, the pains they bear to put up with ur shameless cheating azzes! And at the end of the day, destroying their lives because of one lousy son of a biatch is not worth it! There are plenty thing to live for.
So don't u ever think for one moment that men's cheating is less grave. Just because a lot of women tolerate it doesn't make it ok.

Trust me, if putting a trigger to one's head is legal, a lot of men would be with their ancestors by now.

Cheating is bad on both sides! Let's not make it competitive.

biolabee: People with persecution complex
Never opening your eye to know that men cheat with.....





WOMEN........

The same way you need to open your eyes to know that women cheat with men too. Men are no better......... So they should save us this holier than thou attitude! Cheating is bad on both sides!

But that's not what I'm after ok.........

And yes! I get your previous post, no one is talking as if his/her life is perfect, God knows my life isn't even close. I have born pains, I have been betrayed, life has knocked me down many times, sometimes life really really sucks. And I know no matter how hard we all try to put on brave faces and smile through the pains and act like everything is alright, we still lock ourselves up in the closet and weep in sorrow, wishing that life should just end so that we would have peace! Yes, we all shed tears and gnash our teeth for different reasons.
But do you know what keep most people going? What keeps them going is that fact that no matter what they are passing through, someone somewhere is passing through a lot worse!
Then choosing to end our own lives? How would this affect the people we would leave behind. The humiliation and trauma and shame our loved ones would go true. Also knowing that things no matter how awful things are they get better with time. You know you get so used to those pains that with time you would no longer feel them. These are the things that keep people going in the darkest night!
It also takes someone who has been there, to know that yes these pains are excruciating but overcoming them is not IMPOSSIBLE! It only requires an indomitable will!

He committed suicide, he took a life that does not belong to him. Now how does this guarantee peace? I'm sure if there is any place like hell, it is not a peaceful place.

Death is not painful to the diseased, the people that would feel the sting of death are the people he left behind. And trust me, their hurt will be more of humiliation and shame than actual mourning. And I ask again, why put your love ones through these kinda shame, pains and humiliation?

I feel for the people he left behind, I feel for that mum that would be stared at and ridiculed everywhere she goes cos her son committed suicide. I weep for that innocent child that would be stigmatised all the days of her life cos her dad committed suicide. Yes, the woman wasn't good enough, how about the child? Wasn't she good enough too? Wasn't she worth living for? In my dictionary, this is the definition of selfishness.

Suicide is unacceptable and unjustifiable!

This is my opinion, you are entitled to urs.

Bebetter: [size=14pt]Yeah i understand what you are saying but put into consideration that people are different, and the way they react to situations differ, question vivian: Have you ever heard of Acute depression... this is a very very terrible state of depression & self loathing that someone can be afflicted with after a tragic event... [/size]

R.I.P to the dude. Pele to the friend. sad one indeed.

Of course people are different, that's why I have a different view about suicide.

There are lots of people fighting to live, to have one more chance at living even if its for a day, you know most of them are kids and the most heartbreaking part of it is most of them would probably die. And a man chose to end his own life?

ayobase: Its easier said than done!

I aint saying u aint correct.

Believe me, this happens only to those who TOO love their wife......the TRAUMA aftermath......my wife opening her legs for my younger brother to swim through.....the woman I considered as my friend, mother, wife, lover......the sight of the drama alone is killing swthrt.

Its always more painful for men than women.....I'm talking about the seeing the action, just as the man saw his brother ramming the ONLY one he loves so much!

Believe me, that kind of guy has been very faithful to his wife!

No excuse for taking his life, but I love what 'Mac' said, "devil whispers into the heart of man at his weakest point"

We are not still sure if he did though!

Oh yea? So women that pulled through and dealt with their cheating husbands didn't love their husbands because they didn't choose the cowardly way out? Oh pulease.......

Did the woman do a horrible horrible thing? Yes! But the man taking his own life? That's cowardice. Where I come from he would be thrown into the evil forest, isn't that a shame?

Maybe you guys should start respecting women, the strength of a woman, cos we deal with a whole lotta things that you guys can never fathom.

Many women have also been with cheating husbands. These husbands screw their sisters and friends and all, but when they find out they don't committee suicide or whine like cry babies, they simply deal with the pains, move on and find love again.

This woman is terribly, what she did was horrible, but she did not kill this man! The man had other choice but he chose to take his own life!

byvan: You are on point,if women with cheating husbands start commiting suicide,I wonder what the mortality rate ll be like.

That's eh my sister, na only few women for remain for this world.

Rooneyboy: This just came from a woman

Yea, it came from a woman. Look, I know you must be hurt, losing someone you love sucks, alright?
And the wife cheated on him with his brother, that's a terrible thing, but sweetheart these things happen all the time, even worst. When life knocks you down, you and only you will decide to remain down or to beat it. And in his own condition, he chose to give up, not putting other people that love him unconditionally into consideration, including his lovely daughter!
I don't feel sorry for him, to me he was selfish, and stu.pid. And if my own brother for any reason takes his own life, a life that does not belong to him in the first place, not minding the impact his action will have on me? I will spit on his corpse!
A lot of us have passed through hell, we have been heartbroken, betrayed, and hurt. Did some of us at some point contemplated suicide? Hell yes! I know I did! Let's face it, there was nothing to live for, so we thought, so I thought. But we were wrong! There are plenty of things to live for! And those reasons are manifested in the faces of those who chose to love us no matter what, those who still need us.
The pains are excruciating, lord knows! But it gets better with time cos we must learn to find joy again through those pains, if not for anything, for the sake of those who love us! For the sake of that beautiful son or daughter who is gonna live without a father, who in ages to come would live with the shame, the psychological trauma and the stigma that her father committed suicide.

Now, if this man didn't think of all these? I'm sorry, I don't feel sorry for him, and I know as hell God will not!

I'm sorry if this sounds insensitive, this is just how I feel about suicide, and I'm not wrong.

I'm also sorry you have to go through this pain, I'm just mad that this pain is so not worth it.

I don't feel sorry for him, committing suicide? That's the height of selfishness!






*let the insult begin! *

Nice!

I would bring up the info to the person, discuss it and hear his own side of the story. The conversation would determine if I'd stay or bounce.

BBDelta: How do you know that you don't snore Don't tell me nobody complained, remember you are in a public vehicle and in most cases no friends / relations to give you that kind information.

Sorry, most times I sleep in the same room with friends and family and its being confirmed that I don't snore. I'm a peaceful sleeper, you won't even hear my breathing. I'm also a light sleeper, I notice everything that happens around me unless I'm dreaming.

Btw, I have huge phobia for snore, it creeps me out.

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