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izeek:
they met when they where both in secondary school. he was 4yrs ahead. he really loved her and i think she did then. now they seem far apart, but she will never brake up with him because his dad is the head of marketting debt at nnpc

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izoneb:
Radiant is right.Maybe mad genius is the woman leaving her husband.I suspect strongly.
Frankly there will be lots of men waiting to devour her but they will sure go for single girls when they are ready to marry.
Just 5% may be willing to and that percentage may still be wanting her financial support.
Please be calm for the love of that baby involved.

alright, I see why you suspect mad genius as being the woman leaving her husband. First of all, this woman is smart - a genius - (according to Bolarge55) and then she's obviously mad at him  Funny. Seriously though, I find your comment about "lots of men waiting to devour her" very curious. Don't you think she'll be smart enough to figure out the real deal?  And I'm also wondering where you got your 5% figure from and how come you can tell their intentions Could it be that you're just generalizing

GNature:
When guys get married, some women drive off their husband's friends. Can any of you guys relate to this ?

Gosh, I can't stand it

Hmmm, just a quick detour --- 

if your wife wasn't insecure before she married you and then she "suddenly" becomes insecure after marrying you, then there's something that you're doing to make her feel insecure. Find out what it is and stop. Perhaps you're devoting more time to your friends than to her. Whatever it is, find it out and stop. You'll be a much happier man when you make your wife feel secure by giving her first priority in all things.

OK now back to the topic : I dislike ("hate" is too strong a word) men who engage in lies and deception  Can lead to some serious trust issues. Big time turn-off for me.

@topic: Not so fast dude, no one should do any cursing just yet.

If the mum's husband is alive, then he (the husband) is her primary care taker. That however doesn't mean that her children (whether sons or daughters) should neglect her completely. If on the other hand the mum's husband is dead, then (at least from a christian point of view) her primary care takers become her children -- The bible says this is pleasing in God's sight (I'm no preacher by the way). If the man neglects his mother when he should be taking care of her, then it's his own IRRESPONSIBILITY, even if he's getting it by listening to his wife or girlfriend. His problem is not his wife or girlfriend, he's just using them as an excuse to be irresponsible. Someone needs to wake him up to his responsibility, but no cursing sha o 

Who the heck is Branda and what the heck kind of a name is that anyway??

Ol boy, you no get mouth to talk for ya sef? Tell her you're not interested and then make yourself scarce

omoge:
yes they don't marry early enough but go about f**cking women around and having illegimate children,
bringing fiction to the real lady who waited to marry, finally marrying him and him and his family forcing the real
wife to take the illegitimate children,
bunch of pretenders they are!!

my goodness, I feel some hate in da house. Calm down girl, not all men are like that. There are still many decent ones around

By way, why do I get the feeling that you're talking from experience

Hmmm, steph, on some level I'm sad to hear of yet another failed relationship in your life. and on another level I'm happy that you've left the guy. I never for once believed that your relationship with him was genuine anyway. Just because someone helps you in your time of need doesn't mean they'll make a great partner.  It's usually unwise to make  decisions like that when you're at your most vulnerable.

If the guy went about telling people all that you've said, then he really didn't love you and was probably feeling trapped in a relationship that he didn't find fulfilling.

Now let's talk about you. NO ONE can truly make you happy. Relationships are give and take, and if you want to keep a happy and interesting person, you must be a happy and interesting person yourself. Now that you're single and free, invest in yourself big time. Go do something that'll increase your worth -- could be getting a new degree, going for that motivational class, becoming active in a community group or church (if you're christian) etc etc. Do something that'll bring you fulfilment. That way, you'll be a blessing to anyone who comes in contact with you, and they'll count themselves lucky to have you (rather than go about telling people that they're tired of you, etc). You'll also be clear-headed enough to identify and love someone who's for real 'because you won't be too needy and clingy to think straight. Just get out there, do something new and different and make yourself count, I know you're a strong woman!  You can do anything you put your mind to.

I won't handle anyone. I'll just simply "dash" him to her and get myself a better life. No cheat is worth the effort, and life's much too interesting to live in misery  . And yeah, he'll be needing a good lawyer too

Someone also just told me yesterday that UBA is planning to give a bonus of 1 for 7 to shareholders this year. Does anyone know if this is true?

Does anyone have any idea what has been driving up the price of Afribank shares lately? I know they have not yet come out with their results, but is there any good news on the horizon?

Radiant:
Mummy Deby thanks for your reply. The simple truth has been spoken.

Hmmm, Radiant and mummy Deby na wah oh. I suggest you don't get ideas into this man's head oh. I know you're entitled to your own opinion, but did you read the part where this bolarge guy said his wife told him that she's "tired of him"? From my perspective, that statement is loaded. No one just gets tired of someone overnight, there must have been a lot of water that has passed under the bridge She's probably had it with him up to her eyeballs. If she's up to something like you imply, why would she even bother bringing him with her to the States? wouldn't that have been her perfect escape route? Anyway, I don't want to judge, but if you both give this guy the idea that his wife is up to something, then he might turn around and begin to accuse her of something, while the log is still in his eye. That will only make matters worse.

Bolarge55, I suggest you admit your misdeeds -- only you know all of the story behind your wife's actions and I believe you know her actions are justified that's why you're feeling the way you're feeling and doing all you can to get her back. So please continue on your quest to get her back and ensure that if she comes back, you give her a reason to stay -- by your actions of course I hope you've truly learned your lesson

Damsal:
And please don't call girls kokolets, i don't know what it means but i'm sure it's not a very polite word.

, and perhaps that's one of the things that makes your girlfriend think you're uncaring

Get over yourself my friend, and stop dreaming Besides, this section is for business, so take your love affair to the Romance section

under18:
any married woman wants to posses the husbands two names

Naaaah, I think they just want to own the man, that's why they take both first and last name. Nothing spells "I OWN YOU!" better than that.

Get it

Hmmm, Steph, you and this your new Yoruba man makes it sound like "love on the rebound" to me. U sure you were clear-headed enough to make the right decision or was it just becos he was emotionally available at a time when you were at your most vulnerable? I'm no spoiler, but I believe in looking well before you leap. On the other hand, if you're happy with him, then kudos to you both.

Uche2nna:
he wants his wife back even tho she is dumb!

Ol boy I say make you mind ya sef oh  You're still calling women dumb??

Anyway like they say, love is blind -- smart men marry dumb women, dumb women marry smart men, etc etc

Wait a minute did I just say that  But come to think of it, what's to be said of a smart man marrying a dumb woman?

I know, he must be dumb (or dumber)

As an aside, what does LMAO mean? I see pple use it alot.

Actually it's dumb and dumber (my mistake), and it was never taught, it's a film  . Abi you be efiko?? you no dey watch film?

Ehen you know now, if im come for advice e no mean say im go wan tell us say im commit adultery. Haven't you ever heard people on death row tell their stories? For some you might even think the state is doing some injustice!!

Anyway, na you know. The man obviously wants his wife back, dumb or not 

@uche2nna:

Hmmm, are you sure that's all the reason there is Anyway, even if you think she's dumb, the man thinks she's smart -- or it may be that he's too dumb to even tell that she's dumb. Remember dumb and dumberer  ? She's dumb, he's dumberer  .

Besides I think there's a lot more to the story than the man dey talk. Anyway, let's not judge 

Dude, you want to know why she sent you a sexually explicit mail Ain't that obvious ? It's because you were playing daft Did you seriously not know what she was up to from the start First the killer smile, then the other body language and then an invitation to discuss "business" in a hotel on a saturday Common guy, you knew exactly what was coming to you from the first moment. Abeg no come fool us into believing that you're surprised about your encounter , and I bet you enjoyed every moment of it

candylips:
dude please take a hike it aint worth it

Emmm, candylips, can you explain why

aloib:
ohh girl, wish u luck in finding the right guy, no worries, the right guy would come, lets just keep our fingers crossed hoping for the best,

Yeah right, the right guy indeed    . With that mind-set, there's never going to be a right guy 'because even if he tries his best, she still won't trust him remember? Kiki, please don't kick my butt for saying this    Truth is you can't have any meaningful relationship without trust -- it's the foundation 

rawlings:
Men na wa oo,so na me wendy deh strok like this.e pain me say i no deh online then.Anyway i took that pics with a webcam and its not too nice but i think we can bet to God that i will invite you to see me and say for your self.

Ah rawlings, I for se make I lef you but since you come write here say you wan invite me to see you, na im be say you wan make I talk. Wetin else I wan see now? the camera says it all -- haven't you heard the phrase "cameras don't lie"? Besides sef, you no get the kin moni wey go make me consider whether or not to see you  You be student abi? Abeg face ya book my friend 

my2cents:
If he tries to offer marriage counselling (this is my way to appease u ) and she refuses, then the hell with it. Let him leave her.

Yes headmaster, you're absolutely right --- in your opinion, that is

Uche2nna:
Na wetin I do?

How you fit take mouth talk say women can be dumb sometimes See ya mouth sef No make me report you to Seun oh

Uche2nna:
:I believe women sometimes can be dumb

Ol boy mind ya sef oh Just don't get me started with you

my2cents, na wa oh  In case you didn't get the memo, the guy is trying to save his marriage not make things any worse than they already are. As long as the divorce is not final, I guess he still has a fighting chance

Ok, Ok na joke I dey joke. Abeg rawlings you fine oh. Infact you fine pass all dem guys whose pix i don see for this site

@iz/bu: this ya plan sef is so lame, it wouldn't even work. Sounds like you're saying: first beg her; if that doesn't work, try get her to commit murder; if that doesn't work accuse her of cheating while faking a tear drop and if that finally works, make love to her     ewwwwwwwwww yuk What a really lousy plan

iice:
Chaiiiii easy now, some people asked to see his pic so thats why its up there.

yeah, and he knows that he's not that hot, that's why he made excuses that it was from a handy camera  What has camera got to do with it?? The dude no fine jo abeg. Add "i think i'm so handsome" to the equation and that just equals "dreadful"  .

Anyway, just joking 

But seriously, the pix reminds me of my chemistry prof in high school trying desperately to explain some complicated compound chemical with a silly grin on his face

Thanks Onabajo. However I need more info. What's uba doing as per efforts to finalize the cultural aspects of the merger? Are they restructuring? downsizing staff numbers? I know they've upgraded their technology, but how far has this been able to accomplish?

Also, I wouldn't mind info on afribank.

olodo:
what if the help is your own blood sister same father same mother. and your husband is rich and he says if the girl goes you are also going.
this is what is happenning on daily basis in our naija.

[quote author=olodo link=topic=6768.msg610874#msg610874 date=1158402439]and above all madam sweetwife is not available and you are now saying he has committed an offense by sleeping with the house help.

please let take a study of all the men that you know that have been caught in these unfaithfull act (or yet to be caught) you will find out that the woman is not always AVAILABLE. In case of the men they care less for the wife because they thinks money can buy her every thing.

[/quote]Hmmm, seems like some people can be rich enough to buy hell into their lives ,  2 women who hate eachother living in the same house both as wives to one man that's the recipe for misery

I take it that if the madam is not in the house with the man, then the man is not with her wherever she is (logic right?). So if being alone is the excuse for adultery, I guess madam could also commit adultery with someone else who's with her and will be justified right??

OK see, it doesn't make sense. There is no excuse for adultery. As a man, it is NOT a woman's responsible to make you do the right thing. You be man enough to do what's right for you and your family ,  that's a real man. 

@Bhola:

I'll let you know ,

when I get married