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FamilyRe: Having A Family...a Lesson From My Security Guard. by YourCoffin: 5:30pm On Jan 12, 2015
dhabeautyjas:
yes o, some people's life revolves around money and mostly such people never get real happiness till they go 6 ft under
It would be far worse without money for anybody.......
FamilyRe: Having A Family...a Lesson From My Security Guard. by YourCoffin: 5:28pm On Jan 12, 2015
dhabeautyjas:
Money is important but not the most important in this life. A family that loves themselves and are always cheerful will always be even when there are financial gallopies (if there is any english like that)
You're allowed a dose of poetic licence if you're a poet. I get you anyway.

It's known that the person we love most is the one who can readily solve our needs. Pray tell what that person uses to solve those needs 80% of the time. So, which is really the most important?
FamilyRe: Joint Bank Account With Your Spouse by YourCoffin: 4:22pm On Jan 11, 2015
I'm never keeping joint account with anybody but I hear its a good practice for married folks. But, how would I know if I'm never going to try it?
FamilyRe: Having A Family...a Lesson From My Security Guard. by YourCoffin: 4:50pm On Jan 09, 2015
striktlymi:
Then our thoughts on the matter are different.
Yes, different paths to the same location......
FamilyRe: Having A Family...a Lesson From My Security Guard. by YourCoffin: 4:42pm On Jan 09, 2015
striktlymi:
Money does not bring contentment. If it does, our greedy politicians won't want to have more, after amassing so much, at all costs.
The constant pursuit of money is a source of happiness to some, that's why I said, "...the scale of measurement is relative..." Heck! It's a source of mine too. Nothing gives me joy than seeing my account swell like a balloon....
FamilyRe: Having A Family...a Lesson From My Security Guard. by YourCoffin: 4:26pm On Jan 09, 2015
striktlymi:
I still disagree...

The events that may determine an individual's state of happiness aren't necessarily "controlled by money".

Unless you want to tell us that the following are dependent on how fat one's bank account is:

1) Contentment.
2) Love from a spouse and one's kid(s).
3) Etc.
Yes, that's what I'm saying....
PoliticsRe: Close Revenue Accounts With Banks – FG Orders Mdas by YourCoffin: 2:15pm On Jan 09, 2015
NoreenUG:
GEJ is plugging loopholes and curbing corruption intelligently while buhari's understanding of anti-corruption is jailing ppl aimlessly without trial and witch-hunting his political enemies like obasanjo did.
that is the difference between a graduate and a stark illiterate.
Chai! This is wicked!!!
FamilyRe: Having A Family...a Lesson From My Security Guard. by YourCoffin: 2:08pm On Jan 09, 2015
striktlymi:
I do nit agree with you!

A salary deduction does not necessarily mean the individual would go about not being cheerful.

I have seen cases where some people keep up a good cheer in the face of terrible difficulties, to include a loss of job.

Not being happy with a particular situation does not necessarily imply that the individual lacks contentment or has stopped being cheerful.
We're saying the same thing sir, but with different approach.

Not being happy with a particular situation means you're not contented with that situation. Because, events are connected together like a tangle of web and linked to your emotion box, if the bad situation doesn't change soon- most times it requires money or its equivalent as catalyst- it corrupts the entire system, hence my question.

Like I said earlier, one's state of happiness is measured by events and those events are controlled by money. The ability of a scenario to deviate from the status quo is very minimal when a woman is involved....
FamilyRe: Having A Family...a Lesson From My Security Guard. by YourCoffin: 12:08pm On Jan 09, 2015
In any way one twists it, happiness in today's world is indirectly or directly measured in monetary terms. Just that the scale of measurement is relative and can be altered with time or events. What happens when the man's income is suddenly slashed to 10K or when the kids outgrew his income?
PoliticsRe: I Won’t Fight Corruption By Putting People In Crates –Jonathan by YourCoffin: 10:39am On Jan 09, 2015
I never liked GEJ but he has deviated sharply from his normal goodluck goodluck goodluck chanting style of campagain. Buhari and cohorts didn't want learn, though, with their boring chants of change change change change in their rallies....
FamilyRe: Opinion Husband Scarcity by YourCoffin: 3:28pm On Jan 08, 2015
In summary, there's no scarcity of husbands or wives.

There's only scarcity of eligible husbands and wives.
PoliticsRe: Please Who Is Reverend Father Mbaka? by YourCoffin: 9:55am On Jan 05, 2015
He's a man that likes wearing white gown. Many people in the east like his dressing though, including me somehow....
Foreign AffairsRe: Nigeria Causes Palestinian Statehood To Fail At UN Security Council by YourCoffin: 7:51am On Dec 31, 2014
eaglechild:
The best move is to remain neutral.

We do not need another terrorist group springing up when we vote against and we do not want our relationship with the US becoming sour at this point so good move.
US will start buying our oil again abi? If not, the effect of abstaining will be the same as against for us.
FamilyRe: Appeal To All: Feminism by YourCoffin: 8:48pm On Dec 29, 2014
zeb04:
please don't be silly.if being a man means going back and forth on an issue then I have no business replying you.
Here I was thinking I was about to chat with a level-headed pro-feminism. I deserve a spank for doubting my belief for a second!

True, you have no business replying me. I made the mistake of quoting you and what do you know after all?

Before I bid you bye, I'll let you know one thing: I'm a man and if I say being a man is picking up a stone and flinging it into the air, it's what being a man is. Not a definition from some uncouth pro-feminism who had never had an erection before....
FamilyRe: Appeal To All: Feminism by YourCoffin: 8:17pm On Dec 29, 2014
zeb04:
A lady who is lousy,nags,has atitude problem etc is not a feminist.she is just uncouth


A real man isn't afraid of the word feminism,he dosnt come online to rant .he knows how to hold his own so even if you like be the boss in your office ....you can't take his respect away from him,his comportment is enough to put you incheck.

In that light,most men who come here to argue back and forth are puzzies in real life.heck I have a brother who is just a year older but ithe way he carries himself commands respect even from the eldest sis.

Be a man

undecided
Being a man means speaking up on issues you don't like.

Being a sissy means retreating indoors and hide under the bed when those issues come up.

Now, tell me does your brother speak up on issues he doesn't like? From your moment, I gleaned that he does, so what are you saying?
FamilyRe: Appeal To All: Feminism by YourCoffin: 7:51pm On Dec 29, 2014
Me, I'm anti-feminism. Whenever I see a feminist thread or one tilting towards that direction and my fingers are locked yet, I will come there with a megaphone and make my feelings known in the most expressive form as possible. Is like telling me to keep quiet whenever I see a pedophile walk by. Nah! Can't do that.

Besides, a self-proclaimed feminist that is anti-gay is the true definition of hypocrisy and shouldn't be taken seriously. In fact, that's a massive contradiction!
FamilyRe: Sad Marital Tales From My Friend by YourCoffin: 9:28am On Dec 25, 2014
aameyah:
^
How is the man the broken one?
Both are broken and both are not connecting with each other emotionally.

The fact that the man can have an erection suggests no physical health complications but a deep rooted psychological one that in a large extent can reduce his sperm's fertility rate. The wife at the moment is too preoccupied with her own fertility issue not to have any accomodation for his, hence his resentment of her. The resentment even hightens whenever she mechanically pressures him for sex because by doing that she is only reminding him of his problem. Trust me, if he's been having sex with numerous girls as he claims and doesn't want her anymore, he wouldn't even be attempting to have sex with her. What's the point in doing that?

I don't normally advice married women because I can't claim to full empathize with them. But I'll suggest your friend attempts to connect emotionally with her husband or find someone who can. This's someone who asked you for her number and went further marry her ten years later while visiting her in the hospital before that. No man would that if he doesn't have good intentions towards the woman.
FamilyRe: Sad Marital Tales From My Friend by YourCoffin: 7:27pm On Dec 24, 2014
EfemenaXY:
What do you mean "speak some sense into his head"? Does the man's request for a divorce sound unreasonable to you? Is he a confused child? Are you not aware that sometimes, it's best to stop flogging a dead horse? Why should she try to fix what doesn't want to be fixed?
Because the man is broken and the wife is not seeing that.
PoliticsRe: An 88-year-old Political Veteran Has Been Elected President Of Tunisia by YourCoffin: 9:51am On Dec 23, 2014
There's nothing revolutionary about this guy. The same content, different container. Very similar to a country I know quite well.
FamilyRe: Help! I Have Violent Sexual Fantasies by YourCoffin: 2:24am On Dec 22, 2014
The cure is to cultivate a chronic reading habit. Begin to absolve any literature you can find, mostly ones that revolve around metaphysics and politics and when you're not reading find someone intellectually advanced to chat with.

Good luck!
PoliticsRe: Halt The Genocidal Elimination Of Nigeriansoldiers - Femi Falana by YourCoffin: 2:15am On Dec 20, 2014
Ikengawo:
The law isn't about what you wish, it's about what's written. Your wishes, Jonathan's wishes, and that soldiers wishes aren't relevant and this is where the term 'the law is blind' comes from. That's the disconnect between what you're understanding is and what I'm trying to teach you. It doesn't matter what the judge, the military, GEJ, PDP, APC, Falana, and the soldier wishes. If you break the law you invoke the consequence and that's the way civilization works. The law must be like the sun. No matter how you feel about the heat it will be hot and it's up to the soldier and the citizens to do what they need to do to deal with the rule of law (heat), not up to the rule of law (sun) to change to accommodate our wishes.


Your argument is only rooted in sentiment and sympathy. I commend you for being a kind person, but that's why you're not a judge. The madness Nigeria must raise against is sentiment and emotions. We have been a country ruled by emotions and not laws for years and that's why it's lawless.


More importantly leave Jonathan out of this. Nigeria has been a dictatorship for ages so it's hard for use to adjust our thinking to suit the new reality but the current reality that even his enemies will attest to is that Jonathan is a democrat and follows the Yar'Adua school of 'rule of law' building.


Once those soldiers defected it was out of Jonathan's hands. GEJ doesn't control the law, he can only carry out initiatives sent to him by the senate. Those men broke the law, they went to court, the judge sentenced them to death, they are to be killed by and execution squad. Jonathan is not a part of that process at all. He's not God. In a dictatorship because of someone's emotions they can say 'I don't want this person punished for defecting' and that will happen. A President isn't a God. Obasanjo had the wrong idea and so did others before him and this is why our country is playing catch up. Enough is enough. You break the law you're punished. Citizens with issues about that need to go to their senators office in their local government and petition for him or her to start a motion on the floor of the senate.

These men deserted their post and allowed hundreds to be killed because of cowardice. The villagers that were slaughtered and r@ped by boko haram who much ammunition did the federal government give them? Your argument isn't holding up.
You forgot to also mention that a law is only as viable as its dynamics. A law- no matter how unsentimental it seems- without a proper system put in place to encourage its acceptance is no viable law. Such is the case with those millitary men. Once the conditions necessary for the soldiers to adhere to a law is not met, the law looses its viability. That's the reason for insisting on trial before the execution of a law. In the case of the soldiers, it was evident that certain condition was not met and yet they were unjustly sentenced to death . To me, that's the height of irresponsibility on the part of the millitary.

BH are slaughtering our boys in droves. Hunger is maiming. The government is supposed to kill them too.
PoliticsRe: Halt The Genocidal Elimination Of Nigeriansoldiers - Femi Falana by YourCoffin: 2:13am On Dec 20, 2014
Ikengawo:
The law isn't about what you wish, it's about what's written. Your wishes, Jonathan's wishes, and that soldiers wishes aren't relevant and this is where the term 'the law is blind' comes from. That's the disconnect between what you're understanding is and what I'm trying to teach you. It doesn't matter what the judge, the military, GEJ, PDP, APC, Falana, and the soldier wishes. If you break the law you invoke the consequence and that's the way civilization works. The law must be like the sun. No matter how you feel about the heat it will be hot and it's up to the soldier and the citizens to do what they need to do to deal with the rule of law (heat), not up to the rule of law (sun) to change to accommodate our wishes.


Your argument is only rooted in sentiment and sympathy. I commend you for being a kind person, but that's why you're not a judge. The madness Nigeria must raise against is sentiment and emotions. We have been a country ruled by emotions and not laws for years and that's why it's lawless.


More importantly leave Jonathan out of this. Nigeria has been a dictatorship for ages so it's hard for use to adjust our thinking to suit the new reality but the current reality that even his enemies will attest to is that Jonathan is a democrat and follows the Yar'Adua school of 'rule of law' building.


Once those soldiers defected it was out of Jonathan's hands. GEJ doesn't control the law, he can only carry out initiatives sent to him by the senate. Those men broke the law, they went to court, the judge sentenced them to death, they are to be killed by and execution squad. Jonathan is not a part of that process at all. He's not God. In a dictatorship because of someone's emotions they can say 'I don't want this person punished for defecting' and that will happen. A President isn't a God. Obasanjo had the wrong idea and so did others before him and this is why our country is playing catch up. Enough is enough. You break the law you're punished. Citizens with issues about that need to go to their senators office in their local government and petition for him or her to start a motion on the floor of the senate.

These men deserted their post and allowed hundreds to be killed because of cowardice. The villagers that were slaughtered and r@ped by boko haram who much ammunition did the federal government give them? Your argument isn't holding up.
FamilyRe: The Manipulated Man - A Book By Esther Vilar by YourCoffin: 12:14am On Dec 20, 2014
She didn't say anything new, just a different perspective. The notion has always been glaring to a keen observer.

She forgot to mention that somehow black men are more immune to women's manipulations than white men. Maybe, the reason for this, is because black women are yet to perfect their act or due to black men's inherent rebellious spirit.

But, the woman harsh sha. I've never seen a book as denigratory of women as hers.
RomanceRe: 10 Signs You Are A MAN Now. by YourCoffin: 2:13pm On Dec 16, 2014
OP, this's not the definition of a man. It's the definition of a WOman.

OP doesn't even know that businesses are brokered over 'The Table of Men.' and acquaintances forged at viewing centres.

OP, are you sure you are a man?
FamilyRe: Thread For People Who Really Dont Like Their Family. Let Meet Here by YourCoffin: 10:15am On Dec 16, 2014
Okay, OP what are we going to do? Form a cult or swap families?
FamilyRe: Men Are Officially The Dumber Sex, Researchers Found by YourCoffin: 10:10am On Dec 16, 2014
A dumb specie carried out an experiment on dumb species and dumbly stated that the dumb species are trully dumb.

Hahahaha! Very dumb indeed.

And the supposed intelligent species dumbly agreed. The world is trully dumb. *smh*
FamilyRe: Which Way Should He Go? by YourCoffin: 9:43am On Dec 16, 2014
OP, predicting the future is easy as watching a movie once you have the required statistics. So, I'll attempt to provide your friend with some:

1. Historically and also factoring in the fact that Toyin came from a poor background, there's 80% chance that Toyin will dump your friend once she completes her Bsc and you haven't advanced in your career.

2. Logically, there's 50% chance your friend would rise out of poverty once married to the second girl and 70% percent chance he won't be happy in the marriage (If it's in Nigeria).

3. Realistically, 90% of all marriages isn't based on love and there's 70% chance your friend is being used by Toyin to achieve a means.

4. Another important statistic to consider is your friend's chance of career advancement. This however can only be calculated by your friend after factoring in both internal and external conditions.

The facts are glaring. He just needs to pull his head out of the sand and see them for what it is. Sometimes, the best decision is one thought outside the box and is often the most difficult ones.

Caveat: Ain't married though.

Goodluck to him!
FamilyRe: How Do U Handle Abused In A Marriage As A Husband? by YourCoffin: 8:24pm On Dec 13, 2014
Chai! This OP is dead and he doesn't know it yet.
FamilyRe: Characteristics Of Beta Male (Mangina) Traits Black/African Men Must Avoid by YourCoffin: 6:50pm On Dec 11, 2014
You forgot to add:

Must not look away when he sights the naked Bs. Not staring at what was meant for you to stare at proves you're a wussy
FamilyRe: 8 Despicable Reasons Nigerian Men Get Into Marriage-- Ladies Be Warned by YourCoffin: 9:20am On Dec 08, 2014
Nothing despicable about this bro. Marriage is nothing but a market where two or more people come together to trade desires and is often regulated by the government. Those are the men's desires and ladies barely have anything else to sell. Women have their desires too. So, if you don't have anything to trade, don't venture into the market.
FamilyRe: Marriage Dilemma by YourCoffin: 7:26pm On Dec 07, 2014
An independent thought will always be a threat to the crowd.

OP listen to what Bananabender said but damn any psychologists
FamilyRe: For Men Only: Six Unconventional Ways To Attain Success by YourCoffin(op): 4:58pm On Dec 04, 2014
KLand:
Did I abuse you? Anyway, I forgive you.
It was never an insult. There's nothing to forgive, sir.

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