Nigerian government should not do anything like that o. Couples kill themselves here over slight issues. Imagine when tax returns are involved.

I like staring at dead bodies. I often feel they are trying to speak to me.

TheArchangel:
or the man incapable of having kids?

According to the OP, Men's usefulness is dependent on their ability to provide and not to birth kids.

She inferred that women's usefulness is dependent on their ability to birth and take care of the kids, hence my question.

sisisioge:


This particular crime requires a stronger woman than the victim. Thats why we have a lot of younger frail males falling victim.

Na. A strong man can be drugged, blackmailed or threatned with a weapon by a weaker female.

sisisioge:
They are always reluctant to report it, unlike women. It is considered shameful that a man , the purported stronger party, could be overpowered and violated sexually. Abi do you see yourself sliding a guy's kini into your port while holding him down against his wish? You must be a very strong woman!

You don't need to be strong to commit a crime.

nahzyla:


Thank you Acidosis

It is Very nice to see a man appreciating the job of bearing and raising kids and keeping the house in order.

What happens if the woman is incapable of birthing kids?

Genset:
This is the major reason why marriages still last among the igbos,they follow the traditional way of marriage which is basically provision by the man anf home-keeping by the women. This is why their men hustle so hard and marry very late so as to be able to provide for their family adequately. In this way, the equation is balanced and everyone is happy. Kudos to all Igbo men especially Anambra men.

Na lie. We are changing. Especially the educated ones.

Does he have sex? Or has he ever had sex?

omalicha2:
At forty he has no job and is not ready to have one, He is not married and is not thinking towards that direction. His case is pathetic cos he stays for days without taking his bath and no woman will want to marry such person. Once he begs money from us he use it to drink alcohol

This is a symptom of a completely broken man. What led him to this state?

No. Marriage helps people to hide their irresponsibility.

Just apply for marketing job with a bank. They will cure your shyness sharp sharp

Society have suffered. Infact after devil na society

It's no linget training them for house chores? Na back to square one now I guess?

Op I sell coffins Incase you decide to go back

Mstick:
Nigerian men those white women you so much adore and use as a standard for Nigerian women, their men built their economies and made life easier and created more jobs and opportunities for their women, that's why you want to go over there and it's the same reason you want to leach on their women.

When we've opportunities like those in the developed world guess what? no woman would want your "provision" since they can comfortably provide for themselves.

Till then here is an idea instead of spending time running women down how about running the country the way other men are?!

It's common sense really!

Why putting that responsibility on men? What prevents women from doing same?

ZIMDRILL:


thats the typical mind set of african man who doesnt want to pass his wealth to his kids

the truth is your own mother and father will never give enough care to your kids than their own mother

for the mother to be able to look the kids after your death, give her a good start after your death i.e let her inherit what you worked for under the what you called marriage "providing for your wife and kids" set them up for better

Story.

You have not seen ones that allows a man to swindled them of their dead husbands wealth or the ones that prefer to lavish the wealth.

Which African man doesn't want to pass his wealth to his kids? African men can still do that without court wedding

If your supposed woman tells you she is securing her future against your death, it means that your death will be profitable to her. So why make it easier for her to kill you? Remember we don't do autopsy here.

Court wedding is a murder licence granted to women to use when they feel their husband's death is more profitable to them, hence the repeated phrases " incase the man dies". Not all wives use it though. It is left for you to determine if yours can before granting her wish.

Don't worry he will be fine. Some retrenchments are just a nudge in the right direction.

Marriage is worth it if your partner is worth it but since no human is worth it marriage therefore does not worth it

Just do the experiment yourself and tell us the result

Your husband is not lazy madam. He goes to work and feed you guys with his salary. He is just not business minded. Lucky for him he married you to compensate for that.

Next they will plan your murder if you are not careful. The guy at the other end is very devious and your wife takes you to be a buffoon. What you should be doing is turning a baby daddy instead of looking for Whatsapp tricks.

However, if you still choose to marry another woman know the following:

1. Women are not angels. They are far from it. Get that into that thick skull of yours.

2. Whatever evil men are capable of doing, women has the ability to triple it and when they choose to do it, they will without batting an eyelid.

3. Avoid 'church going' ones. They ensnare you with a false sense of security and you won't be able to see the evil coming.

4. Don't act like you can't live without them.

I regret not learning how to cook. In this lockdown I still have to buy food outside. After lockdown I am enrolling in cooking school.

If you had your own room you wouldn't be complaining

Na third class you get? This your father wants make you become tailor after after graduation?

bukatyne:


1. Jesus chased the sellers from the temple which is not actually a punishment. Again, that they were in the temple doesn't mean they are His people.

2. There is a difference between consequences and punishment. A child doesn't read and fail is a consequence of his inaction (reading). His parents flogging him is a punishment. Even the Bible says 'the wages of sin is death'. You like compare 'wages' to 'result' or 'consequences' of an action: sin. In the old Testament, you had the sin/ punishment structure which is not in the new Testament. Which was the reason Paul said 'should sin continue because grace abounds'? And he answered 'God forbid'. Correct me if I am wrong, there is no where Jesus Christ punished anyone. Even Peter who betrayed Him, He prayed for Peter and forgave. He however will come back with His reward at the second coming.

3. A husband is NOT Jesus Christ so he can not judge His wife. He does not have the moral capacity to do so. He can only correct her or judge himself so he retrace his steps back to Christ. Cleansing of the temple is not even 'punishing' them.

4. I explained the difference in point 2. A lady getting pregnant out of wedlock is NOT her punishment for having sex: it is the natural consequence or result of having sex. Infact, if she is married, doing same thing and not pregnant, we would be worried. A consequence is your report card so to speak.

5. This is vague. First why does the action displease you? Your selfish interest? Expecting something your wife cannot deliver? Not communicating well enough? Besides, the Bible admonishes forgiving a party 70 * 7 in a day. As believers, when we sin, we pray for forgiveness even though the ideal is to grow from repeatedly committing same sin and make disciples of other men. Jesus doesn't slap us or kick us when we lie or talk proudly. The Holy Spirit in you convicts you till you repent of it.

6. There is no problem disagreeing. I had a target audience hence the disclaimer. A Christian husband understand what is expected of him in the Bible. If his wife told him to die for her afresh, he will wonder if all is well. If Jesus Christ who dies for us, bought us with His blood doesn't punish us despite our per minute sin, what moral right does a husband have to punish his wife?

Your responses are funny to me.

1. If sending them away is not punishmment, what do we call the act of destroying their means of livelihood? The bible did not say they were not his people. They were among a group of belivers who came to that town to celebrate a Christian festival.

2. So if the child had read his/ her book would the child's parent flog the child? Refer to one above to see where Jesus punished a set of people. If that is not punishment I wonder what is.

3. Exactly my point. Don't expect him to be christ-like when he is incapable of being so. It is impossible to fulfil one's religious fantasies and husbands shouldn't accept such burden.

4. My definition of punishment as it relates to consequence is quite clear. It is a consequence of an action meted out by a consentually or non-consentually appointed authority. A lady getting pregnant out of wedlock is a consequence. Her parents throwing her out of the house becomes punishment- a consequence meted out by an authority.

5. Refer to one above - that act seems to be in contrary to what you are saying the bible says.

6. Doesn't the bible expect a christian husband to be morally upright? If you say they lack the moral capacity to judge their wife does it mean they don't understand what is expected of them in the bible? Or is it that it is impossible to do what is expected of them in the bible?

PrimadonnaO:


Ehen. Since y'all know what to do, why are most men not doing it so then can stop complaining?

Ohh, let me see...babes at that stage are getting proud, they know they are hotcake so they don't even tolerate bullsh*t. And some men get easily intimidated, so they run off to the either young, or broke, or desperate who can suck up their excesses. Hmm. I see.

That is the essence of the thread: to advise them to start making wise decisions when choosing a partner going forward

PrimadonnaO:


Men should only date graduate ladies who are 26 and above then?

It is even advisable to that given how ladies below that age behaves. Now add inability to earn income to that. Na correct suffer head be that.

At 26 a lady should be earning an income. Most men earn income at that age. There is nothing denying a lady that opportunity.

Any man dating or marrying a lady that is not earning an income and paying part of the bills is either extremely rich or extremely unwise.

Nobody learnt how to provide from birth.

bukatyne:


Jesus Christ is coming with His reward at His second coming.

Expect a husband is re-incarnating or has the ability to judge his wife, how does this apply?

And don't confuse punishment for an action with consequence of it.

That is not to say a husband (and wife) cannot express their displeasure of an action/inaction and respond/react to it.

You just went in circles and finished at the starting point.

1. There is a verse in the bible that talked about how Jesus punished a group of believers that were trading in a church. If I remember correctly, he instantly destroyed their goods and sent them out of the church.

2. The tenet of the Christian faith is that there is a reward or punishment for every action and inaction. In light of this, how is this reward or punishment determined if not through judgement? Refer to one above: Jesus instantly judged the actions of the traders in order to determine the appropriate punishment to be meted out to them.

3. As a Christian husband who according to you should emulate Jesus' personalities and actions, he is expected to judge his wife's actions in order to determine the appropriate rewards or punishments for them. So why conveniently omit that christ-like quality from one of the qualities a Christian husband should have? Afterall Jesus did not wait for his second coming to do what he did in one above.

4. "And don't confuse punishment for an action with consequence of it." I don't understand this statement. Punishment is a consequence of an action often meted out by an appointed authority either consentually or not. By your logic in these case the husband is the appointed authority and should be able to mete out punishments befitting his wife's actions

5. How does one express one's displeasure of an action that have occurred more than once?

6. I am not in disagreement with your writeup. My standpoint is that if a husband have to be christ-like and uphold the christian faith, he must practise it in all totality, otherwise he shouldn't at all. There is no in-betweens and convenient omissions when it comes to Christian faith. If according to christiandom, a husband should behave like Jesus, he should be able to punish and reward his wife for her actions.

Christmasdon:
Very soon you won't know what hits you. why make such oddity comment. how dare you. just think b4 you spew thrash. come on! huh.

She is correct oga

What of punishment?