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Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by SAFO(m): 3:59pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
ojdollars: I beg I'm not here to argue with you. Just telling you that your post is misguided. 2 Likes |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by BUSHMAN1: 4:06pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
KenGali: @ OP. Do not mind some of the posters here, cause due to economic situation in Nigeria, many of us only have an economic value for relationships.this is the truth, the truth and nothing but the truth, very articulately put |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by BUSHMAN1: 4:15pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
duni04: Its really amazing how rotten Nigerians have become. Can't believe pple are standing up in support of someone that has lied about his age, or forged a birth certificate, someone that went behind his gf's back and got married. God knows what else he's done behind her back. That kind of person is capable of great evil. What d OP should do is very obvious, she's just dulling herself by asking again. M very sure if she digs deeper she'll even find more dirt. To protect urself from all d oda mess ur yet to uncover, run while u can.what do you mean great evil?he only married in nigeria and did not tell his girl friend,and the birth certificate thing is also evil in your own opinion? people kill their wives or girl friends, rob them or even rape them and what do you call this people and oh.. you have never told a lie in your whole entire life..eh?..you innocent saint |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by BUSHMAN1: 4:21pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
duni04: Its really amazing how rotten Nigerians have become. Can't believe pple are standing up in support of someone that has lied about his age, or forged a birth certificate, someone that went behind his gf's back and got married. God knows what else he's done behind her back. That kind of person is capable of great evil. What d OP should do is very obvious, she's just dulling herself by asking again. M very sure if she digs deeper she'll even find more dirt. To protect urself from all d oda mess ur yet to uncover, run while u can.what do you mean great evil?he only married in nigeria and did not tell his girl friend,and the birth certificate thing is also evil in your own opinion? people kill their wives or girl friends, rob them or even rape them and what do you call this people and oh.. you have never told a lie in your whole entire life..eh?..you innocent saint,you do not have any idea what is like to live in foreign land |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by BUSHMAN1: 4:33pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
ojdollars: @Nigerians.... It's funny how some people can just comment on this post and start crucifying this Nigerian Easterner. I mean, not just a Nigerian... But A Nigerian Medical Doctor in the US... This story is far from Gold digging... This Black Americans in America seems to think that they are very smart, especially when they assume they are pretty. A Medical Doctor, giving you is all, that guy is over $100,000usd = #15 Million Naira richer annually. He could have just pay for sex from every and any corner in America, sex na like hand shake for this place. No cultural value, a nation where women with another man's pregnancy goes out there to lay with another man with it. If you ask me, the Gold digger here is this woman... For Christ sake, this guy already got his command, his swag before he met this Akata trouble trouble lady. He has been dating her years before that marriage certificate was issued. Why didn't she give a green light for Marriage if she is not among one of those ladies whose duty is to reap where they have not sown? An Igbo man showering you with gifts, taking care of you, paying bills for you. In fact he met you in the American system and took you out, made a positive impact in you and you dare have the guts to come to a Nigerian forum to castigate yet another one Nigerian again.GBAM! nwanne biko, tell them |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by MrsChima(f): 5:01pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
r231: Bite me. |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by MrsChima(f): 5:07pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
SAFO: Sounds like he was rejected by a lazy akata. 1 Like |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by MrsChima(f): 5:09pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
[quote author=MainAttraction][/quote] Heeeeeeeey girl! How r u? |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by SAFO(m): 5:40pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
Mrs.Chima: Yeah probably, but what really irks me though is this "greater than thou" mentality that we always see a lot of. We all wipe our azz the same way. One bucket of water or tissue paper at a time (though I prefer tissue paper). |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by lastpage: 6:03pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
Okay, its boxing day and l have finished un-boxing all the Gifts, now l have time on my hand! Let us summarize first: 1.) African American sister was 21yrs when she met our Bruvda, they were together for 11yrs, broke-up 7years ago and came back together. a) Sister is now 38yrs old (27 + 11). Bruvda is 42yrs (31 + 11) b) Sister was 31yrs when they broke off. Brother was 35yrs (real or cooked age). 2.) Brother is a Medical Doctor, he wanted her to have his baby when she was 31yrs, SHE REFUSED, according to her statement. She said Brother changed her life for Good and dotted over her. They lived apart over 11yrs. a) Brother did not love her for "papers" but the love was genuine b) It was HER CHOICE that they do not get any closer to marriage. c) If she wanted, she would have married him when he was available, seven years ago! d) At 35yrs of age, "Complete Man" like these brother (now he is 31 + 11 = 42years!) needs to settle down and have a family e) Sister already have a child of her own, from another relationship thus, if the relationship was to continue as "it were", Brother will be the looser! Brother got to think fast and decide! 3.) He has a sister who lives 30Mins away from his house. You saw a marriage Cert on his Computer. You saw a Ring on his finger, Brother says it was a gift! a) The lady that was seen with him could have been that sister of his. b) His real or imagined age has nothing to do with your relationship anyway. c) The Ring you saw on his finger could have been a wedding ring and the event could have happened when you broke up (most likely from what you posted). That he married when you broke up is perfectly legal and right. d) That he did not tell you afterwards or lied about the Ring is "WRONG and absolutely unnecessary" though one could understand",...the kind of lies men and women say, to keep from loosing a loved one. But that still does not make it right. You both wanted each other, as much as the other. 4) Why does he not have his wife here and is he going to leave her for you NOW, if you get pregnant for him? a) You have LOST the opportunity to be his wife. You chose to REMAIN his Girl Friend b[/b]y: *Living separate lives for 11yrs in terms of separate homes, no keys to each others flat, no pregnancy, no kids, no long-term commitment of any kind except sex! b) He does not have his wife with him in USA, for reasons best known to him (it may include the fact that he is not settled emotionally, Visa issues for her and any children involved or he may even prefer they stay back in Nigeria where he can give them the kind of "cultural and moral implantation of his taste, as long as his wife agrees with him on that) c) Dont waste your time in getting pregnant for him, if the only reason is that you want him to marry you and dump his Nigerian wife. It wont work! The best you can get out of him now is [b]a COMPANION. You cant eat your cake and have it at the same time. As far as l am concerned, the only thing he did wrong was not coming out to tell you he is married/getting married to someone else (since you dont want long term commitments). Even that is understandable. You are not his wife, he did not promise you marriage and you are not expecting him to marry you (at least by your conduct and actions w.r.t pregnancy and living together). So, he does not even owe you that explanation, morally and legally speaking. Now, your CHOICE have been made a long time ago, by YOURSELF. You decided he was not the man for you when you refused to have his child, after a long courtship (when you have your own child from another man!). You did not even make effort to meet his sister who lives 30mins away from his house! Habba, which kain wife you for be sef? I also know for a fact that when relationships go sour (as in this case), the party "reporting the matter" usually embellish it and soup-it-up in a way to make them appear like the victim. I have seen and heard this over and over again and experience tells me you are doing the same. Thats the reason some think your story does not add-up or that it is "made-up". Dont fool us please. Finally, this matter is too clear-cut for you to be asking for "ADVICE"! MOVE-ON if you dont like the situation ON GROUND or are not prepared to be "second wife" (even though you sef na second-hand woman and at 38yrs ), count yourself very lucky that you met a nice Igbo man who is caring enough as you described him. On the other hand, if you think he gives you so much tender loving that can COMPENSATE for his being attached to another woman (his wife), then MAKE THE BEST OF YOUR TIME TOGETHER with a "clear-cut agreement" to move-on whenever it suits you. Its your move,now. Dont ever come here whining and moaning about how wicked Nigerian men are. What were you thinking you were like, when he asked you to be his wife and mother of his children, 7years ago and YOU REFUSED? .....An ANGEL, huh? Nairaland is getting tired of all these 'cry-cry babies' walahi! Its your decision to make. I wish you LUCK AND loads of Love, going forward. Lastpage! BTW: Dont mind all these useless "non-Nigerians women" who infiltrate this website to speak jargon about things they know nada about. They are living in denial and cant put their mouth where their money is. They cant even stay in their own country's website cos they dont have "real men" there! 4 Likes |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by MrsChima(f): 6:52pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
SAFO: He spoke with such venom and ignorance...I felt sorry for him....kind of. By the way....I shit standing up. |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by MainAttraction(f): 7:07pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
ojdollars: @Nigerians.... It's funny how some people can just comment on this post and start crucifying this Nigerian Easterner. I mean, not just a Nigerian... But A Nigerian Medical Doctor in the US... This story is far from Gold digging... This Black Americans in America seems to think that they are very smart, especially when they assume they are pretty. A Medical Doctor, giving you is all, that guy is over $100,000usd = #15 Million Naira richer annually. He could have just pay for sex from every and any corner in America, sex na like hand shake for this place. No cultural value, a nation where women with another man's pregnancy goes out there to lay with another man with it. If you ask me, the Gold digger here is this woman... For Christ sake, this guy already got his command, his swag before he met this Akata trouble trouble lady. He has been dating her years before that marriage certificate was issued. Why didn't she give a green light for Marriage if she is not among one of those ladies whose duty is to reap where they have not sown? An Igbo man showering you with gifts, taking care of you, paying bills for you. In fact he met you in the American system and took you out, made a positive impact in you and you dare have the guts to come to a Nigerian forum to castigate yet another one Nigerian again. I live in America, I'm African American, and I'm a woman. Do tell me how all of us 'are'? I'm so tired of the bullshit and being categorised as if we are all autonomous. You don't know every African American woman in the U.S. just because you may have had bad experiences with some black women (or men) don't project that onto everyone. You don't know this lady, so to assume that she is the gold digger simply because she is a black woman is crazy. I come from a good family, I have my own money, I have my education. Lol and damn sure don't need to run to a Nigerian, or any man, for any type of money whatsoever lol. When I met my ex, he was working in retail and was just pursuing his LVN, I was in college working on a bachelors. He was broke as hell, but that didn't matter because I thought I was in 'love' with him. My point is dont generalize what you think to be true on all of us. We might surprise you 1 Like |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by UjSizzle(f): 7:12pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
Only Nigerian women can handle Nigerian men, every other country just enter one chance. OP, you have two possible options: 1. Move on with your life and leave the man alone. 2. Get used to the fact that he's married and continue your relationship with him. On the plus side, you get to spend over 10mths with him, while his wife gets 6weeks. |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by SAFO(m): 7:23pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
uj_sizzle: Only Nigerian women can handle Nigerian men, every other country just enter one chance. It's narrow minded thinking like this that continues to perpetuate those negative stereotypes and r3tard growth as a community. Instead of trying to pigeonhole "the Nigerian man", why not choose to enlighten? 1 Like |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by MainAttraction(f): 7:26pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
Mrs.Chima: I'm good girl, and you!?? |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by UjSizzle(f): 7:33pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
SAFO:lmao when u're done spewing ur guts, move on. |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by MrsChima(f): 7:35pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
MainAttraction: Good as a fried chicken on a Sunday!! |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by Nobody: 7:38pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
Mrs.Chima: I've missed you Mrs. Chima |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by MrsChima(f): 7:39pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
Lmao at only Naija women can handle the men. Unlike dumb aZz women around the world...Naija men are no different than other niggas. |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by MainAttraction(f): 7:41pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
Mrs.Chima: Lmao my mom made some fried chicken yesterday for Christmas. Mmmm we tore it up. She's been on this health kick for the past few months so no fried foods smh lol |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by MrsChima(f): 7:41pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
acidosis™: Awwss. Me miss you sugar! |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by SAFO(m): 7:42pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
uj_sizzle: ..... But am i lying? Or do you really believe what u said? |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by UjSizzle(f): 7:52pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
SAFO:it's your opinion, who's to say if u're lying? Drop it, i really don't have the time to go back n forth explaining myself. |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by MrsChima(f): 7:56pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
MainAttraction: New year thingie? |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by SAFO(m): 7:57pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
Okay o I digress. |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by sweetcheecks(f): 8:53pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
MainAttraction: Dear, do not stress about SOME Nigerians, they scream murder when people treat them differently, they shout we do not have life when we try to get to know and mingle with them. Its misery that couses this. There is onle 0000, 01 % percent.of non Nigerians with non nigerian affiliation on this forum but they always use it as a desperation act. I gave up long time ago. I.D.C now about what they say or think. |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by sweetcheecks(f): 8:57pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
uj_sizzle: Only Nigerian women can handle Nigerian men, every other country just enter one chance. I agree with your advice to the Op but, all women can handle any man in the world if they use their skills and advantages of being a woman. |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by Nobody: 9:23pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
sweetcheecks: Why do you hate Nigerians?? |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by sweetcheecks(f): 9:40pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
shymexx: No Symexx, I do not hate nigerians just do not like their coping skills. I rather feel sorry for them. My naija man is soo localised he sees himself as local rather than a foreigner. |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by Nobody: 10:09pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
Mrs.Chima: *smiles* |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by Nobody: 10:46pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
sweetcheecks: So, you don't like my coping skills as well, huh?? |
Re: My Boyfriend Is Married In Nigeria! by sweetcheecks(f): 11:14pm On Dec 26, 2012 |
shymexx: I think you not helping. But coping very well |
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