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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by GoodFaith: 4:22pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
byvan: @ Pickabeau,.... but seriously lovers must be pleasers,th[b]ings go to hell when the relationship is one sided and you know most Naija marriages are one sided,The man poops,the woman eats=happy Naija marriage . My E personality is me,no alter ego. no be small oven dried spinster.A good man deserves a good woman,an evil genius deserves Ayamatanga(witch),that way,life is fair.[/b] Agreed 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Mikhaela: 4:24pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
Effiwizzi: @ LORRETTA What is your definition of submission though? Very domineering men are not only in Africa, I can testify, haha. It's something that once lived (directly or indirectly) scares you off later on. I don't believe in God one bit but I absolutely agree that our sexes are not equal. We are only equal as human beings. I really can't imagine a 100 % equal relationship... and people often mix up equality and balance. Anyhoo, what's your "definition" of submission? |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by GoodFaith: 4:28pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
Mikhaela: Key word balance |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Nobody: 4:30pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
lorretta u: being submissive doesn't mean you can't give and demand your own respect too.Did I hear you say "Demand"? Like Sarah demanded from Father Abraham right? |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Gracious10: 4:32pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
uromi.com: wow! loving your myopic generalization of 99.9% of overseas naija babes as runz girls. You speak ignorantly and I hope that originates from your definition of a RUNZ girl. If you truly live abroad, you will know that 1. There's no free coffee over here, everyone pays pays their bills no matter how little u make. 2. Its easier for a naija based girl to depend sorely on numerous men to meet her needs than abroad based lady to depend on a man for upkeep. 3. A naija based man is likely to spend more on his naija based gurl than naija men over here. Truth is that by the time he's done with his bills, he's got nothing left to spare. And why would he be spending much seeing that his abroad based madam makes as much or even more than he does so where does the runz thing come in? 4. Naija women here are independent, educated and smart. am not saying that our counterparts in naija aren't, its just that things are seen from a different perspective and comes under continuous scrutiny. 5. The only reason u can ever mention Runz instead of failed relationships is because u haven't taken time to even define what RUNZ means and how it affects people in different geographical regions. over here people pay for their own meal even on a date. where in naija does a gurl pay for her meal on a date? There's no runz here cos no one gives you free coffee when they know u can brew it yourself. very few naija man wants equality, They must have some edge above a woman. If being seen as a small god cos of the abroad thing, they would do it. what drives men is ego and everyman goes where its served him in quantum. same way they say we are disrespectful, that's same way they curse out the ones back home. Defining them as hungry, materialistic, pretenders. most naja men go home just to sleep with naija babes and bring back trophies. Truth is where u find the right partner, thats where u should be. Everything is easy hen u follow the right part. To each his own. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by andyanders: 4:32pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
No matter how bad our ladies are, they are 80% better off, than their western counterpart. And most at times,you find out that the ones that has stayed a longer period of time in the western world, tend to copy the attitude of their western counterpart,thereby forgetting where they are coming from. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by pickabeau1: 4:39pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
Mikhaela: ok... but cooking and/or domesticated skills are really just one facet of a woman she has more byvan: @ Pickabeau,.... but seriously lovers must be pleasers,things go to hell when the relationship is one sided and you know most Naija marriages are one sided,The man poops,the woman eats=happy Naija marriage . My E personality is me,no alter ego. no be small oven dried spinster.A good man deserves a good woman,an evil genius deserves Ayamatanga(witch),that way,life is fair. I agree.. but generalising as most is not totally true.. a large proportion but most is an exaggeration in my opinion LOL @ ayamatanga... that ish was scary... God help us |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by pickabeau1: 4:41pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
Hm... an objective female Good to let your naija females know that white men also poop because to most of them whatever a white man does must be divine second bolded.... are you sure you are a female A female espousing non -equality of the sexes Them gonna be set upon you,.... Mikhaela: |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by GoodFaith: 4:44pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
pickabeau1:Thank you for not being narrow minded You have a balance view of relationship You are very objective 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by KingEdwardI(m): 4:46pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
pickabeau1: Funny. Btw...... Which of the tecno phantoms? You have 1 minute from the time of posting to make your requests know...... Time starts now |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by pickabeau1: 4:58pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
King Edward I: ERM ERM .... Good man |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Nobody: 5:05pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
Bro if that's what you think of me,you're very wrong. I do not have a problem with submission I just don't think it's the same thing with controlling your partner. I don't endorse the man being the only provider in the home. I don't know where you got that from. I'm not domineering infact I love my man manly Not a wussy kind of man. But wanting to be respected,not pushed around and trampled on isn't being domineering. It's just who I am Effiwizzi: @ LORRETTA 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Nobody: 5:06pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
@ Pickabeau, out of 10 random ladies and only one has something good to say about her hubby,isn't that most?? |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Mikhaela: 5:09pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
pickabeau1: Hm... an objective female *looks under shirt, sees boobs* yes, I'm a female. Like I said earlier, this is my upbringing. Just because the man sometimes does the groceries, or cooks or cleans the house doesn't make the relationship equal. Just the fact that I feel protected when I'm with him throws out the equality topic out of the window. My (future) boyfriend may feel safe with me and in our relationship but the ACTUAL feeling of being safe or of being protected is something we females feel. Yeah no, no equality there for me. 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by pickabeau1: 5:16pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
strange views... however there is nothing like a woman that knows what she wants; not one easily influenced by movements up and down nice one Mikhaela: |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by pickabeau1: 5:17pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
Not sure... in my own circle of friends... all my friends have good things to say about their hubby and marriage Dont use the percentage on NL to judge.. use real life examples in your own life byvan: @ Pickabeau, out of 10 random ladies and only one has something good to say about her hubby,isn't that most?? |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Nobody: 5:25pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
@ Pickabeau, Are your circle of friends femaleswell,i had a chat with some ladies during CDS last week,their account of their marriages where mind boggling mehn ! ! ! I had to shut my mouth because I only have praises to sing of mine |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by pickabeau1: 5:32pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
byvan: @ Pickabeau, Are your circle of friends femaleswell,i had a chat with some ladies during CDS last week,their account of their marriages where mind boggling mehn ! ! ! I had to shut my mouth because I only have praises to sing of mine I have male n female friends like any normal person Mind boggling accounts....Dont believe everything you hear Some people exaggerate... others are even going through worse but naa them be lion My hubby can not try me, my hubby that meanwhile the guy never chop their food for 2 weeks The point is this: every relationship is unique and its until you go out, you will appreciate what you have |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by buchibabe: 5:38pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
sexkillz: I noticed that too. And it hardly goes down well, in my opinion. Hmmm u make sense die 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Effiwizzi: 5:43pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
SUBMISSION IN MARRIAGE MEANS: As indicated by italics in most translations, be subject is not in the original text, but the meaning is carried over from verse 21. The idea is: “Be subject to one another in the fear of Christ [and, as a first example,] wives, … to your own husbands.” As explained in the previous chapter, hupotasso means to relinquish one’s rights, and the Greek middle voice (used in verse 21 and carried over by implication into verse 22) emphasizes the willing submitting of oneself God’s command is to those who are to submit. That is, the submission is to be a voluntary response to God’s will in giving up one’s independent rights to other believers in general and to ordained authority in particular—in this case the wife’s own husband. ONE BEING THE HEAD DOESNT SUGGEST INFERIORITY TO THE OTHER. No matter how expensive a car is, it requires a minimum of N97/L fuel to get the engine stated and taht dosnt make the better because without the fuel it dosent go nowhere. Its supposed to be a symbiotic kind of relationship btw the man and wife. Stop this feeling of inferiority because you are to submit. it is easy to lead either? Dont try to function as what you wer not design to function as. That is where the failure comes in. opereate in your strenth as a women. A man can never beat you doin that. |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by GoodFaith: 5:48pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
pickabeau1: You are right I tell people to create a list of ten things that are very important to them in a relationship If your husband or friend has that quality Will you accept 5/10 or 8/10 At one point in my life I made a list at the end,she had 1/10 So I had to cut off that relationship |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Nobody: 5:48pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
@ Pickabeau,well..why exactly ll one prefer to tarnish his or her spouse's image just for entertainment??saying things that never happened......e fit be mental disorder sha. |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Effiwizzi: 5:51pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
Your own husband suggests the intimacy and mutuality of the wife’s submission. She willingly makes herself subject to the one she possesses as her own husband (cf. 1 Cor. 7:3–4). Husbands and wives are to have a mutual possessiveness as well as a mutual submissiveness. They belong to each other in an absolute equality. The husband no more possesses his wife than she possesses him. He has no superiority and she no inferiority, any more than one who has the gift of teaching is superior to one with the gift of helps. A careful reading of 1 Corinthians 12:12–31 will show that God has designed every person for a unique role in the Body of Christ, and the pervasive attitude governing all those roles and blending them together is “the more excellent way” of love (ch. 13). As with spiritual gifts, the distinctions of headship and submission are entirely functional and were ordained by God. As a consequence of Eve’s disobedience of God’s command and her failure to consult with Adam about the serpent’s temptation, God told her, “Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you” (Gen. 3:16). The desire spoken of here is not sexual or psychological, both of which Eve had for Adam before the Fall as his specially created helper. It is the same desire spoken Of in the next chapter, where the identical Hebrew word (t?shûqâ) is used. The term comes from an Arabic root that means to compel, impel, urge, or seek control over. The Lord warned Cain, “Sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you [that is, control you], but you must master it” (4:7, niv ; emphasis added). Sin wanted to master Cain, but God commanded Cain to master sin. In light of this close context meaning of t?shûqâ, therefore, the curse on Eve was that woman’s desire would henceforth be to usurp the place of man’s headship and that he would resist that desire and would rule over her. The Hebrew word here for “rule” is not the same as that used in 1:28. Rather it represented a new, despotic kind of authoritarianism that was not in God’s original plan for man’s headship. With the Fall and its curse came the distortion of woman’s proper submissiveness and of man’s proper authority. That is where the battle of the sexes began, where women’s liberation and male chauvinism came into existence. Women have a sinful inclination to usurp man’s authority and men have a sinful inclination to put women under their feet. The divine decree that man would rule over woman in this way was part of God’s curse on humanity, and it takes a manifestation of grace in Christ by the filling of the Holy Spirit to restore the created order and harmony of proper submission in a relationship that has become corrupted and disordered by sin. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by GoodFaith: 5:53pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
byvan: @ Pickabeau,well..why exactly ll one prefer to tarnish his or her spouse's image just for entertainment??saying things that never happened......e fit be mental disorder sha.Not really but to make herself important To make the ex have enemies for people to think she is a victim |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by pickabeau1: 5:55pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
GoodFaith: True and at times to fit in when you are the only one doing well Humans are strange This does not preclude bad marriages They exist |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Nobody: 6:01pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
Wow!!!nawaoooh!! |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Nobody: 6:18pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
Makes sense The thing is some men don't see it that way. Submission to them means not having a mind of your own. Effiwizzi: 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Effiwizzi: 6:30pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
Wives is not qualified, and therefore applies to every Christian wife, regardless of her social standing, education, intelligence, spiritual maturity or giftedness, age, experience, or any other consideration. Nor is it qualified by her husband’s intelligence, character, attitude, spiritual condition, or any other consideration. Paul says categorically to all believing wives: be subject to your own husbands. |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Nobody: 6:32pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
What do you think I mean by 'demanding respect'? Opening my mouth and shouting 'respect me respect me' ? Smh chisco82: |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by GoodFaith: 6:42pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
Effiwizzi: Wives is not qualified, and therefore applies to every Christian wife, regardless of her social standing, education, intelligence, spiritual maturity or giftedness, age, experience, or any other consideration. Nor is it qualified by her husband’s intelligence, character, attitude, s[b]piritual condition, or[i] any other consideration. P[b]aul says categorically to all believing wives: be subject to your own husbands.[/b][/i]I think relationship is a partnership Mutual respect and consideration for each other |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by baby124: 6:48pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
Deschil: Some of these guys are gay and can't date a girl that lives close to them. They can only compromise by getting a girl far away while hoping her naivete will stop her from noticing his lifestyle when she eventually moves over. I know this for a fact.Lol. Honestly I know some guys who will look fabulous in high heels and highly suspicious getting wives from Nigeria. Sometimes when I see the couple I have to wear my glasses well maybe na me no see wetin the girl see. I was shocked when I heard these guys got married. Though not all though. I guess the desperation to get out of Nigeria makes people ignore a lot of things and marry anything from abroad. It's shocking sometimes. Even some fraud guys sef with no reasonable source of income over there marry to bring wife who can work to feed them. Hahaha. People should look well. Marry people who you know or you know exactly what they are doing and you can go and see for yourself. I know a lot of women being severely abused. This is what some men mean by submissive. They can kill you and should expect not to go to jail because they rescued you from poverty. They also never fail to remind you. Even the most wretched of all. |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Nobody: 6:59pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
Preach it sister baby_123: |
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