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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Lordlexyy: 2:02pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
STUNTS007: @ op thanks for posting this very interesting topic.CLASSIC! The best post ever, regarding marriage and relationship. I believe, this should put to rest any disagreement on this thread. I also wish to recommend this to any eligible man or woman considering settling down. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by funnyx(m): 2:03pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
Mikhaela: Good for you! Go and marry Oyinbo now no Naija man will marry someone like you except for papers when even some oyinbo sef dey cook amala with abula and orisiri, sidon there your naija husband go come when Jesus comes back 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Niseamaka(m): 2:03pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
ogugua88: It's hard finding a Nigerian woman abroad. There are millions of Nigerian girls, but seldom can you find a woman. Language? They can't speak. Food? They can't cook. Basic Nigerian values? They don't have. I'm not generalizing. As a woman, I am telling you that there are some Nigerian "women" who embarrass the hell out of me. The first part of your post, coming from a young pretty Nigerian girl like you means that the situation is not completely hopeless. |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Ricmayak1: 2:05pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
This guy has said it all! sexkillz: I noticed that too. And it hardly goes down well, in my opinion. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by ichommy(m): 2:07pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
GustavoFring: No be say dem shoot bird en mama fly, but a lot of the Nigerian girls brought up in the West are not wife material. |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by adrainuche(m): 2:07pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
Am a bit late tho, I school abroad and I wouldnt suggest you come find a wife here, especially if shes African they are some good ones but the problem is how many ... I dnt think about marriage as at now but if you find a good wife abroad marry her if not go home !!! By the way most girls here wouldnt want to marry a guy based in naija, dunno y We know wat some of our black girls do here !! so y should we marry whores am nt saying all of em but lets b serious !! Finally women here all bcome intolerable feeling big for little or no reason raising standards they would never get !!! anyways thats nt the issue lemme leave the rest story for people who are in a marriageable time zone lol !! 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Rejoice5000(f): 2:07pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
Settle matter ok oooooh,if u see who u love nothing will hinder u 4m marrying the person, whether home or abroad.some ladies here too are not wife material.some abroad men too are not husband material.b4 u say yes 2 them u better think well. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Rejoice5000(f): 2:10pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
I prefer a Nigerian guy that i know too well,know his source of income than all this abroad guys. 2 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by 50calibre(m): 2:11pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
I have a very keen understanding of people, behaviours & society, I should be an anthropologist. If you are a guy who hopes to achieve a lot in life, I beg you please stay away from poor girls, especially the ones with track record of poverty, their great grandfather was poor, her grandfather was poor, her father is poor. Poverty is a virus that corrupts the mind & behaviour. Most of the time, if you see a woman who migrates to a more liberal country & begins to exhibit all kinds of attitude, go check her family back home is dirt poor. Women of wealthier status ironically are much more docile, calm & collected, they aren't influenced or intoxicated by anything or anywhere because its nothing new. Look on NL, those girls who feel the need to shout about their rights, i bet you these girls are hungry. Poverty cheapens the mind & leaves you exposed to propaganda, it makes people overdo things. An experiment : keep a dog caged all day, then release it in the night. Observe what it does. 10 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by sunnyprof: 2:16pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
Two things I can figure here: 1. Nigerian ladies abroad has imbibed western culture. This shocks the guy's parents all the time. The guys are afraid because she knows what he knows very well: freedom (misunderstood to be lack of respect) 2. Some just want a woman that will at least imbibe the children with some home cultures so that each time they come home, he will not be put to shame locally. However, I still se this happen in tribalistic settings where people want to mary only from there tribe so they send message home ' help me look for one good one ' (wey guys don puch here tire sef). There are so many ladies you meet now, they will tell you there fiancé is in 'jand' or 'the states' but here they are the ones doing runs in Abuja and mostly in clubs day in day out. They meet at Easter and Xmass holidays when the lady pretends to be 'village wise' but educated (my Sarcasm pun) 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by KingEdwardI(m): 2:21pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
EBK2: Lol... My dad knows I'd rather marry a white or asian lady (mostly media-influenced & little experience of black girls/ladies) so he ain't bothered but my mum would like I marry a black girl, preferably nigerian. Even my aunty expects the same. So I decided to come study here for a bit, learn about my "traditional culture" and also, see if my philosophy on nigerian girls would change but thus far, it's been an eye-opener; to be positive. I have no problem with the asking but when every time you see each other, asking is always involved. The last time I was in Nigeria before now, in 2004, there was a girl I fancied and she likewise but years after, called her phone when I arrived to surprise her. We spoke for a while, catching-up things and she came clean to me that she had moved on. We still chat once in a while but she's d only nigerian girl I can say I fancied personality-wise, presentability, reasoning, rightfully admit when she's wrong and sincerely apologisely and I mean SINCERELY. Every other I have come across, except one who is still a young girl and a good honest friend (nothing involved & intend keeping it like that) have given me the 'I NEED MONEY' & 'I'M LOOKING FOR MONEY' line on many occassions and when you asked them for money they reply 'me myself, I am money' What does a man have to do? |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by GoodFaith: 2:21pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
50calibre: I have a very keen understanding of people, behaviours & society, I should be an anthropologist.Some great points |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Mikhaela: 2:23pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
Ihedinobi: I absolutely agree. Compromising comes with the package obviously but I'm not going to change who I am, that's how things become uncomfortable. What I meant to say was that it's very easy to have a negative idea of Africans who did not live the typical African life. It's not because I don't cook or whatnot that I'm not "wife material" or "wayward" as you may put it. Cooking, dialects and others in my opinion should be considered as assets (I'm not sure if that's the correct word, my English is not so good anymore) rather than deal breakers. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Iykeponti(m): 2:25pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
I brought one of our naija babe home 1time...so when we wan start d jollygame.... I come see say my headcap don finish , to my surprise she said guy wait i got some in my handbag tell me, na who go wan marry dis kind babe Mistakenly i slapped my xgalf at d club..not even a seconds she called d police... So now u know y we r coming home 4marriage.. Most of d guyz dat married naija babe ova here did it out of frustration |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Mikhaela: 2:26pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
funnyx: See.. HAHA. And should I be sad because no Nigerian man will marry me? Even better, I guess. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by GoodFaith: 2:27pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
King Edward I:Dude marry a woman that will love you , support, give you peace and happiness Don't go back to Nigeria to look for wife 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by jaybee3(m): 2:28pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
Another plausible reason could be that; If you live in American states with little or no Nigerian community then you are more likely to extend your search across the continent. It's all about supply. It's very difficult to get the right pool in yanks compared to western Europe |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Nobody: 2:30pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
King Edward I:hahaha. very funny indeed! |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Nobody: 2:30pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
PureOhio: They come home because girls in nigeria see those guys as a big deal. "He's a jand guy.. he lives in yankee".This right here is gospel. |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by GoodFaith: 2:30pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
Mikhaela:Coming to tell us you cannot cook is BS White and Black woman cook Go learn how to cook all types of food my wife cook and she can pay somebody to cook me Nigeria food You cannot cook white and Nigeria food Hope you have good education 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by UjSizzle(f): 2:31pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
.....interesting |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Nobody: 2:36pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
GoodFaith:it aint easy bro as you said it. by the time your parents, aunties, uncles, nieces, nephews, dogs and cats and every pet will come up with their opinion and any girl you are seeing put you under pressure, you will be as confused as lost goat. Add it to the mathematics over where you want to be in the future and the girl you want to take along you to that future, you will give up on the entire thing and thank God for the life you have today. lol We just need to trust God for everything. |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Nobody: 2:38pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
GoodFaith: Cooking should be the least of consideration to this decision. this is my view. I dont need a wife if good food is what i am interested in. lol 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by PureOhio(f): 2:39pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
sunnyprof: I forgot to mention that point in my post. Nigerians and cheating are very synonymous. I video came out on youtube about a survey, asking regular guys and girls how many bf/gf they have. On the average they each said 3 boyfriends/gfs. On national tv o Naija girls sabi cheat. Add university runs plus NYSC Well-cultured my yansh. Kneeling down to greet elders cant make a marriage last/succesful. Carrying a girl from Nigeria (filled with expectations) that knows little or nothing about the system here to settle down abroad all in the name of language and food is a ticking bomb. I agree with 50calibre about avoiding girls from "poor/below average" background. Na there own worse pass. |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by GoodFaith: 2:43pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
EBK2:Dude, I understand I have being in your shoe that was a mistake Tell your family to help you pray for a happy marriage life not trying to pick a woman for you or Nigeria woman 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by GoodFaith: 2:50pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
EBK2:Cooking is part of my package When I was younger, a 19 yrs girl tried to win me by learning to cook my wife has her own business, she pick up the kids and make it home to cook a hot dinner and pack my lunch Yes she is not a Nigerian There is one request she as made to me " Getting somebody to help clean the house twice a month. I am going to have a surprise for her very soon |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Nobody: 2:53pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
50calibre:Of course, not all girls. But the guys really have the same mind set. They don't know which girl will fall for the "sweet mouth", so best to spread the net far. Girls with class who can see above material things will avoid the nets, but how many girls can avoid? Just a microscopical few. . . you and I know that. |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Mikhaela: 2:53pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
GoodFaith: You've got to be kidding right? Did you read my first post? I cannot cook NIGERIAN food. I cook for myself because I live alone but still, cooking isn't my strongest point. In general, I eat out after work, dinner with friends, ready made food etc. I don't cook everyday or anything like that, only when it's the end of the month and I'm really poor, then I make pasta with some other things. What does education have to do with anything? You're the one acting like I insulted you and questioning my education... weren't you taught better? Have a stadium full of seats, please ! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Mikhaela: 2:56pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
GoodFaith: Your wife isn't everybody's wife. When she was trying to win you over at 19, I was busy working to pay my bills. I am SINGLE with no kids so I have nobody's lunch to pack. I eat lunch with my colleagues everyday. Open your mind instead of being so hostile to other people's lives. This is exactly my point.. it is a good thing you have a wife who caters to you just the way you want but please understand that there are many people out there who weren't brought up the way you were. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by naijaswag1: 2:58pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
Marry abroad and its gonna be a court wedding. There's high probability that a divorce might occur and boom, all the money is gone. If you marry a girl in Nigeria, most issues are settled by the family and kins mens other than a court of law. |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by KingEdwardI(m): 3:02pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
50calibre: I have a very keen understanding of people, behaviours & society, I should be an anthropologist. Nicely stated points above.....well put |
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