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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by shizzle11(m): 12:21am On Dec 03, 2013 |
ogugua88: It's hard finding a Nigerian woman abroad. There are millions of Nigerian girls, but seldom can you find a woman. Language? They can't speak. Food? They can't cook. Basic Nigerian values? They don't have I'm not generalizing. As a woman, I am telling you that there are some Nigerian "women" who embarrass the hell out of me. Ogugua, you are a true daughter of your father for this comment. make I kuku speak broken 'na your papa born you joor'. Loretta, this was what I meant when I told you you already have the answer, ( emphasis on the bolded) and I was about to expatiate before I came across Oguagua' s comment, am happy she saved me the energy to explain, besides I'm glad its coming from a fellow woman like you from her experiences gathered over there, so you should relate more easily with that. Adaobi also gave a couple of insights as to why its so and from her' s, you can see that majority of the women affected over there are the creator of their problems. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by MrsChima(f): 5:46am On Dec 03, 2013 |
All Nigerian men go home to marry? |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by MrsChima(f): 5:50am On Dec 03, 2013 |
I know damn well I didn't read that two Nigerians have successful marriage as t home. Bullshit! |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by MrsChima(f): 5:59am On Dec 03, 2013 |
Uyi Iredia: @ lorretta: The answer is in your OP. The men tend to think girls from Naija are usually better wife-material. I kind of agree but I think there are still wife material up there though. The kind wife material Nigerian men abroad dey find likely abounded in the 19th century. There is no such thing as better housewives regionally....each man has different expectations in wives. On American soil....African women seems to be docile and dumb-down and on African soil...American women seems loud and aggressive. It's all about preference and compatibility. |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Nobody: 9:12am On Dec 03, 2013 |
Most Even when they have Nigerian ladies around them there Mrs.Chima: |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Nobody: 9:22am On Dec 03, 2013 |
Mrs.Chima:I don't know about docility and "dumb down". I do know about loud and aggressive. And I would like to know any examples of men who claim compatibility with "loudness" and "aggression" in their homes and evidence that that has not damaged homelife for them. Have you got any such? |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Alleinad(f): 10:13am On Dec 03, 2013 |
this thread has been an eye opener to me. There are virtuous women everywhere, it just depends on where you're seeking them from. I also think alot more ladies need advice, its not like they are intentionally that way, its just that they dont know any better. the media has brainwashed them n nobody has sat them down to re-orientate them. my mum once sat one of such girls, very beautiful girl, n spoke to her. the girl used to pass our shop, she was always dressed indecently n had been searching for a husband for some years, after my mom spoke to her, she broke down n cried for hours, she said no one had ever told her these things. long story short, she changed n is now married. Women r not the only ones at fault, men too. we r in an era where u shudnt beat a woman in the name of correcting her. you shudnt shout at her because ure angry, shes not ur child or slave. you shudnt force her for sex cos ure her husband n then say its not rape, it is. any woman wud react to such . its nt that shes not wife material. if u treat her like filth, she 'll lose all respect for u. 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Creamish(f): 10:14am On Dec 03, 2013 |
jay bee: It's very simple. You are more likely to find a partner you can dominate in a third world country compared to the western world. soo...in other words. . . . i make u feel like King Kong? 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by jaybee3(m): 10:22am On Dec 03, 2013 |
Creamish:You bet |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Creamish(f): 10:24am On Dec 03, 2013 |
lorretta u: Might be a generalization,but has anyone else noticed such too? On a serious note . . . wild girls exist everywhere u go . . this has nuttn to do with location. I just see it as a gamble men based abroad are willing to take prolly cos they have been mixing with the wrong crowd. 1 Like |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Creamish(f): 10:26am On Dec 03, 2013 |
jay bee: Hurry up n put a ring on it before Chike comes back from London oo .. lolz |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by jaybee3(m): 10:28am On Dec 03, 2013 |
Creamish:I'm sure he doesn't want to be kidnapped with a million dollar ransom hanging on his neck. He knows better |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by nbright: 10:50am On Dec 03, 2013 |
ebamma: a word of advice for those guys, many girls here in nigeria can't cook too, aren't that submissive, love expensive wigs, jewelleries, and clothes, so my advice stick with the devil over there u know, cos its hard seeing angels over hereFunny |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by buskie13(m): 11:52am On Dec 03, 2013 |
GustavoFring: No be say dem shoot bird en mama fly, but a lot of the Nigerian girls brought up in the West are not wife material.true sire |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by ireneidiva(f): 12:04pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
Op I have not noticed. |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Ishilove: 12:04pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
sexkillz: I noticed that too. And it hardly goes down well, in my opinion.Gawd blezz you |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Nobody: 12:06pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
adaobi123: Are we talking about Nigerian men who have moved abroad or Nigerian men who have been brought up abroad ? are you different from such girls? |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Nobody: 12:06pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
SexKillz, Tell me more......cos I got this pemperempe I liked from Anambra, and there were 4 suitors coming for her last December, (na me give am transport oh), I heard 1 from Malaysia, 2 from US and 1 from London. Why would Diasporans be that silly to come to marry babe wey just comot from my bedroom to go enjoy xmas for East, as in correct by-the-side oshofree. |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Mikhaela: 12:08pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
ogugua88: It's hard finding a Nigerian woman abroad. There are millions of Nigerian girls, but seldom can you find a woman. Language? They can't speak. Food? They can't cook. Basic Nigerian values? They don't have. I'm not generalizing. As a woman, I am telling you that there are some Nigerian "women" who embarrass the hell out of me. What is wrong in not being able to cook or speak a language? It's easy to say that this is a problem without actually digging more. I think I've said this before, I don't speak any Nigerian dialect, I don't cook any Nigerian food, I don't know anybody from Nigeria etc. My upbringing was not a "typical" Nigerian upbringing if I may say but that doesn't mean jack. That being said, I consider myself to be a normal woman. I cook only for myself, at least I try, because I live alone, been living alone since I was 17/18. I speak only European languages because that was what I was taught. I work to pay for my bills, I have a regular (or maybe not ) social life. I just feel that marriage is overrated. I want my future boyfriend (winks at Santa) to make me feel comfortable regardless of his "upbringing". As long as there is some kind of stability, I'm good to go. Nothing will change though. I will still not be able to cook, even if I try. I will still not speak any dialect, I will still not be the typical Nigerian lady. I'll just be who I've always been... 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Samgreguc(m): 12:10pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
lorretta u: Very true the recommendation parte b like you ma don dy behave like dem oyibo ladies. . . So, inside all this advice, you never know wattsup. |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by dotcomnamename: 12:11pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
sexkillz: I noticed that too. And it hardly goes down well, in my opinion. [size=15pt]Unsubmisive Nigerian woman in Nigeria is better than Unsubmisive Nigerian woman in diaspora[/size] 4 Likes
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Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Malakh: 12:11pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
A cultured Hebrewess is all I want, as long as she is raised and nurtured in the word, it don't matter where she is from...if you were born in America,UK,Nigeria it dont matter as long as you are spiritual,I would court and marry her....but on a serious note I wouldn't marry a worldly woman regardless of where she was born and raised....if marriage was about sex AA babes will suffice dont have to travel thousands of miles for some azz |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by politicalpastor: 12:12pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
AFRICANS OR NIGERIAN WOMEN ARE WORST THAN ANYTHING IN ABROAD. THEY Are worst than animals , country like America. a naija woman would want to prove that she has equal right with her husband. just because of the law of the land , they forgot that our culture is different where we came from. even some women in Nigeria , when they come to America, they become worst than even those that was here Originally. sometime, its good to marry someone from another culture willing to learn your culture. lorretta u: Might be a generalization,but has anyone else noticed such too? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by omar22(m): 12:13pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
Well the ones I know are married to foreign women |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by link2ok(m): 12:14pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
GustavoFring: No be say dem shoot bird en mama fly, but a lot of the Nigerian girls brought up in the West are not wife material. For d ship to function properly there shuld b cabin crew! So Wife's deserve to b treated carefully and respectfully. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Nobody: 12:18pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
Mikhaela:Lol. Ok o, madam. Mr Future Boyfriend must make you comfortable regardless of his upbringing o and expect absolutely nothing but what you have always been in return. Bless you, ma'am. 4 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by 50calibre(m): 12:23pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
adaobi123: Are we talking about Nigerian men who have moved abroad or Nigerian men who have been brought up abroad ? Hahaha! This is very true, but I think it's valid for only teenagers & very young girls, like yourself. No matured woman of marriable age thinks that way. Because i personally know about 2 Nigerian women (born & bred) who went to Nigeria to pick husband, I think it all depends on the kind of upbringing & family background. Besides its a height of illiteracy & ignorance for someone to think anyone from Nigeria is acting village like, there are loads of people in Nigeria who live more comfortably than most Nigerians here. When you understand they classes of society, you'll know it doesn't matter where you live, what matters is what class are you in where you live. Even in Britain, there classes, you can't compare someone brought up in Knightsbridge to a someone brought up in Peckham. It's even very hard for a rich Nigerian to live in Britain, the country is too conservative, the roads are too small, the cars are toyish, the buildings are ancient & tiny, my cousin said this country makes him feel like him he's in a cage, he moved to the US. 3 Likes |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by logica(m): 12:26pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
Mikhaela:Good luck (Jonathan). |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by DonOms(m): 12:27pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
anwunta:Your head is very correct. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Nigerian Men Abroad Prefer Marrying From Home? - Why? by Policewoman(f): 12:27pm On Dec 03, 2013 |
It is because they see naija girls as more responsible and submissive. Those oyinbo wives fit wake up one day divorce u, carry your children waka and leave u peniless. 1 Like |
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