dayokanu:

A picture of yourself would be better than a thousand words

Hot Hot

Nashville:

Bukky, this is one challenge you cannot back out of.

Just do it!

Do I look like Nike

Posted it anyways

Hmmm...buka!
So dem don dey ask for your hot red pant and bra pisure.

Ok o...

Na siddon dey look I dey.

*bites kola*

Yomieluv: you married an adult that refuses to outgrow babayish tedency,so its either you pamper him out of it,or you leave him there..
You hubby is egoistic person who takes pride in people begging him,you can call his bluff off,or maassage his ego by begging him. Choice is yours.

infact, you have so far said exactly what is wrong with her husband. I know for sure bcus I myself once had this attitude until a woman made me out grow it. It is the joy that he derives from being begged that all this is all about and nothing else. It makes him feel powerful and in control.

I would advice the lady to stop the begging and ignore him equally. Do not over do it though. Do things that will make him jealous but then keep your door open at thesame time and allow him to walk in by himself. Whenever you quarrel again repeat thesame process and do not back down.

Show him some emotional strenght. He is simply taking advantage of your emotional weakness and fears.

bukatyne:

Hot Hot

I cover my eyes with the blood

I'm shocked this thread still made FP

This is very serious.

Hi, not saying this for the fun of it but he's cheating on u.
The easiest way to find out is from his phone but don't ask for it; steal it.
Somehow I feel you'd be shocked what you will read that is if its not 'passworded' already.
Cheers.

Chillisauce: Hmmm...buka!
So dem don dey ask for your hot red pant and bra pisure.

Ok o...

Na siddon dey look I dey.

*bites kola*

Easy on the kola abeg.

common! his he a baby? pls u guys shld find a beta way of resolving ur indifferences rather than dumb and alone method.. he shld grow n tell him u dnt like d way he does wen he is angry.. notwithstanding i was once like dt ..but i grew and managed to give a nod wen she want me to talk while angry..
that one beta pass make he download heavy punches for ur face..let him grow..d habit is childish.

Get this book "Power of a Praying Woman". It may sound somehow, but believe me, prayer does wonders, especially when it comes to this difficult stage. 3 days fasting and prayer would change your case forever. Believe me, you own that house and you must claim it. Don't be tired please and don't take divorce for an option. Just my kind advice.

shoerack6: Mod pls I don't want this thread on front page

Admin/Mods are blind. smh

well if you don't want him angry then don't offend him,if his your husband and you don't know the do and don't then you already in trouble

shoerack6: Hello house,

Whenever I have disagreement with hubby, he'll decide not to talk to me. He won't eat my food and also will not sleep on the same bed with me. I'll have to beg and beg before he finally decides to talk to me.
I'm so sick and tired of his attitude. I tried discussing with him that we should look for a better way to resolve issues but he said he doesn't want to discuss anything with me.
We are presently not talking and have promised myself that this year, no more begging and begging. Have apologised to him like thrice since yesterday, i've sent him messages apologising even though I know that i've done nothing wrong.
Now i'm always in my room because even when I go to where he is, he'll stand up and leave d place.
This is killing me inside. Don't know what to do.
Pls mature advice only.
Mod pls I don't want this thread on front page.

Xuteprince: Hi, not saying this for the fun of it but he's cheating on u.
The easiest way to find out is from his phone but don't ask for it; steal it.
Somehow I feel you'd be shocked what you will read that is if its not 'passworded' already.
Cheers.

good Lord

try ignoring him too, no food, no talking to, soon he will be the one to beg.
a friend's husband was like that at some point when she change am for the guy no be person tell am to change.
try other ways

Bantino: If you offend him, ensure that you appologise accordingly. If the cause of your misunderstanding is not your fault, ignore him for a while, ensure you prepare his food even when he refuses to eat.

If you guys don't have kids yet, wear some skimpy cloths at home, and try so many ways of seducing him without talking to him.

Walk out of the bathroom unclad most times, he may behave as if he's not noticing your moves, just continue. To break him, at night, just pretend to feel cold and tell him to hold you, beleive me, he will gladly hold you and from there one thing leads to another.

When you guys are done making love then you can have a 'brief discussion' with him concerning his attitude, Bleep him after the discussion then sleep off. If you get it right, he will change with time and learn how to talk issues over.

When women feel all they have to offer is sex and nagging. They turn men off. Try and be more respecting. Ask him for a sincere dialogue and be open to address issues maturely, no name calling, be committed to true repentance. It hurts even more when your strategy most times is when you repeatedly hurt him and apologize. He is avoiding you most probably because he doesn't want to hit you. My dear times are hard now. Men too deserve some cuddling after a hard days work. Remember, another woman's poison na another woman food. If you love him you'd keep him at all cost especially if he's a responsible man. They're hard to come by this days

shoerack6: Mods, why did you put it on front page? Hun?

Nope. He has never raised his hand on me before.

Go get a real job
The worst place to be is being financially dependent on an abusive and controlling husband
A word is enough for the wise
There is no advise anyone can give you here to turn things around for you
He is the one with the problems not you
Your job is to prepare yourself and be financially independent so you can take care of yourself and your two kids cone what may
By the way no more pregnancies for now

kayalla: try ignoring him too, no food, no talking to, soon he will be the one to beg.
a friend's husband was like that at some point when she change am for the guy no be person tell am to change.
try other ways

He has another wife so how will that work out?
He will just face the other wife and neglect her and her kids

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Ignore him

bukatyne:

Hot Hot

First thats not you, You wan scam us

Then whom are you trying to seduce with that ten yards of Pa-heint? That material for the paheint reach to do curtain

Post your own photo Bukky

bukatyne:

Do I look like Nike

Posted it anyways

I'm disappointed. I thought you were hotter than that!

That aint hot!

Chillisauce: If something is not working try other methods.

Begging is not working, try ignoring.
Nagging is not working, trying keeping quiet.


Maybe wear red pant and bra to seduce him, if it didn't work, your husband is cheating

You dey cr*zy? Red pant or white pant?

Ewuro707:

Easy on the kola abeg.

Reading your post shoestack6, I just laughed. You have been begging your husband though YOU HAVE NOT DONE ANYTHING WRONG. You see where you are wrong? Is he mad that he will bee angry with you when you've done nothing wrong? My wife does that sometimes and I get angry when she see's nothing wrong in something that gets me angry. When you refuse to take corrections, your husband will bee tireed and not know which other way to correct the wrong.
I'm not saying that your husband is right as issues can be seettled maturely. Chat and play with him more often. Discurse issues that touch u like this one when he's happy not when u have annoyed him.
He is ur husband and u are both in it.
Best of luck.

I think you should have been able to identify dis attitude in him wen u guys were dating or courting. See, I think you should think abt the tinz u do and change ur ways.... He could be looking for excuse so as to ditch you, human, we can be so unpredictable so my dear sister, be careful, think it thru, not all advice are worth taking, and not all of them can be ignored.

shoerack6: Hello house,

Whenever I have disagreement with hubby, he'll decide not to talk to me. He won't eat my food and also will not sleep on the same bed with me. I'll have to beg and beg before he finally decides to talk to me.
I'm so sick and tired of his attitude. I tried discussing with him that we should look for a better way to resolve issues but he said he doesn't want to discuss anything with me.
We are presently not talking and have promised myself that this year, no more begging and begging. Have apologised to him like thrice since yesterday, i've sent him messages apologising even though I know that i've done nothing wrong.
Now i'm always in my room because even when I go to where he is, he'll stand up and leave d place.
This is killing me inside. Don't know what to do.
Pls mature advice only.
Mod pls I don't want this thread on front page.

I guess reading these articles will help you:

1. http://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/g201306/the-silent-treatment/

2. http://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/wp20110801/treating-your-mate-with-respect/

3. http://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/wp20080501/solving-problems/

4. www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/g201304/avoid-hurtful-speech/

5. http://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/wp20081101/maintaining-commitment-in-your-marriage/

6. http://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/wp20120501/rebuilding-trust-in-marriage/

7. See others here
http://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/family/couples-parents/

When he's upset next time, just try and invites 2 of your concubines to stay with your durin the period and introduce them to him as your menfriend.. He will wake up by then and treat you as a full house wife

Boy! Is ur husband the me of 2013! Loool
Used to put up such attitudes so I could get my lady to get worked up over nuffin (of course); this is all in a bid to actually get my pound of flesh; and trust me, my exes and current gurl dread it like a plague. But I'm a changed man now and all that immature behaviour is soooo last yr.
Your man is doing it to get u over the edge but all he needs is some 'ignoring'...Yes, ignore him...sooner or later he'll realize that that retaliatory prank of his has gone obsolete, when no one in the house gives a hoot anymore. He'll have no choice but to behave in future.

I think your Husband needs to grow up, he is being childish,
i once did this kind of stuff to my fiancee but those days i wasnt really matured enough though we are still courting but i have grown past that level, be patient, give him some time and pray, I am sure he will grow past this level.

shoerack6:
I don't even want to explain what happened cos if I do, u people will help me insult him.
Ok, let me explain. Hubby is a tribalist. He said he doesn't like me speaking this particular language and that's the language I use when communicating with my family.
So yesterday, my aunty called. I tried as much as possible not to speak this language so was just answering her hun, ehn ehn but at the same time I don't want him to think i'm talking with someone I don't want him to know, so I decided to ask after her son in the language. That's where the trouble started oo.
I'm so sick and tired of all this. When I tried begging, he asked me to leave his presence and that was when I asked him if he was trying to frustrate me. He now said these days that my mouth is becoming too sharp and even threatened to slap me.

Mumu-ness

greatgod2012: From your post, it seems you two are from different tribes, if yes, doesn't he speak his own language when his folks are around.


That being said, the truth is that you married an insecured baby,(is he the only male in the family) because if not, how can speaking one's language with one's people becomes a problem to him?

All in all, since you have begged him and he's still adamant, i will suggest you ignore him for now but make sure you do everything you're suppose to do as regards him, cook his meal as usual, invite him to the table, remind him of something he's used to but which he's not doing. In general, keep on being dutiful and nice with him, after some time, i'm sure he will come back to his senses.










Before i leave, one major reason for having prolonged disagreements is your consent to different rooms from the beginning, if you're always on the same bed, this issue might have been likely settled before now.


When things seems to be normal again, both of you need a marriage counselor, if you're a christian, you can liase with your marriage counselling groups in your church, you people really need it.

And as for you as the wife, i think you need a book, "the power of a praying wife", get one and use it to pray for your hubby, i pray the Lord give you the wisdom to do things rightly.

wow,very intelligent advice.