Afonja2000:

Wouldn't that make it look like she is guilty of the unfounded accusations against her?

I will ignore the details about what is going on between the couple and focus solely on the Police invitation.

Please let her go with her lawyer. Forget about the optics. Let them presume her as guilty. It's OK, the lawyer will handle that.

It would have been a different case if she was invited as a witness, and she shows up with a lawyer or if she was invited as one of many suspects and she ends up being the only suspect with a lawyer. In this case, she was invited because someone reported her, so what else do you want to hear at the police station?

In saner climes, she has the option of keeping mute and requesting for a lawyer if things did not pan out as expected at the station. In Nigeria, on the other hand, it will be a little too late if she's not influential.

Conclusion: It's better to err on the side of caution - she should go with a lawyer.

and like someone mentioned - she should not show up on a Friday o. Police will dribble lawyer self to make her spend the weekend in detention if they are determined.

DevilsEqual:


Tanya or Tania
Who she be??

Anyways, that old woman there is a proof that beauty isnt forever

When one finally marry his Queen, I still wonder if i will find my old wife attractive by the time we both pass the 60years mark

Don't worry, attraction will have a totally different context/basis by then. Even for those that will still be looking ravishing and regal, the main reason for their being attractive (to their spouse) will be deeper that their outward looks.

bennybuhari:
What about Abacha's son? Former Minister Ishaya Mark Aku?

And...
Prof. Claude Ake, Pastor Bimbo Odukoya, Prof. Pius Adesanmi,

Jennyclay:
Somebody took me to this place I think last year or two years ago, I was so scared passing through. But it was really fun!!

Nigeria can kill you before your time . They keep buying sub standard materials to build stuff like this .

Thank God it was noticed.

I'd rather blame the current condition on poor maintenance culture than substandard materials. That structure has been around for roughly 30 years since the very early 1990s. Substandard materials that lasted for that long has tried.

letout:


If it’s about emptying the trash, washing plates, cooking food, cleaning the house I do that from time to time on a regular basis and my wife hasn’t left me, and we are in Nigeria

The reason why the women left is because Nigerian men used the society to control their wives period.

I like your style jare. When they ask you what you bring to the table as a man apart from money, those are valid things. I have said it from when I was young that I don't agree with the saying that "all women want is money". If that is true, women will never cheat on wealthy guys or even leave them totally. Leadership is very important. period.

Stephen2324:
If you've been hitting it raw with your babe and pulling out EVERYTIME, and one day she asks you to "pour it inside", someone else has poured inside recently and she wants to pin it on you.

Sounds like great wisdom.... until I realized that my refusal to add my pour to the initial pour does not protect me from whatever STD or other yanmayanma diseases that the other pourer has exposed her to?

If you're "in town", it is safer to just use protection. There's nothing like exclusive with a lady that is not your legally married wife. Legally married wife self, na to dey use style observe some of them. I think it is better to just stay away from problems that come in the form of enjoyment.

Uptheante:

It's clear you don't really know how these bitches really are
There's no woman who cannot bring pussay in addition to whatever intellect she seems to have, unless she doesn't rate you as someone deserving of her pussay. That's why such a woman will never show you her sexual sides & avoid anything that will lead sexual tension with you.
She'll be very strict with you
Meanwhile, there's another nigga by the side banging her carelessly with little or no effort.
I'm giving you this advice for free, any woman you rate as being intellectual & is not free with you sexually, such a woman doesn't rate you as one capable of drilling her kpekus.
As a real nigga, you're supposed to be sexual with a woman not intellectual, even if you wanna be intellectual with her, make sure you're banging her puna first. You should rather be intellectual with your fellow man.
Whatever she's bringing to the table should also come together with her pussay.
You're a man not her fellow female friends

I have no business with who is banging who. My life is my life, mine alone to run and I manage it jealously.

By the way, thanks a million for the free advice. Unfortunately, at my age, I don't think I can use plenty advice about pussay again. It's too little, too late for me. I've been there, done that. I know enough women - my mom, wife, plenty sisters and lots of female friends.

At this point of my life, if I close my eyes in death, I will rather have many women miss me because of what I brought to their table, what I brought to their life, what I did to their mind than because of what I did to their body. And before you tell me I should do the same to fellow men, I actually do.

I admire your choice, but like I said earlier, the fact that I am not like you does not mean that I am wrong or that I am a whimp.

Uptheante:

Bro, honestly, you are a whimp & I'm sure that girl will never hold you in high regard no matter what you claim. The hallmark of dominant virtue in a man is being able to bang & conquer a pusssy even if it is offered on a platter, without catching any feelings.
A real nigga bangs pusssey with no emotions & no commitment
That's the kind of nigga these bitches respect, not a whimp like you

Real niggas respect other people's choices even when they would have done things differently.

Most people that shout "real nigga this, real nigga that" do not know about anything other than the pusxy. When a lady has nothing to offer apart from pusxy, una go complain, but most of the people that call themselves real niggas would be clueless if they meet a woman that does not bring p'ussy to the table because they don't know what to do with anything else. If they now perceive that the lady is intellectual, na to abuse am be next thing. Anyone that is not like them is a whimp.

Kontinuu

Nlandmodesfku:
coward because he didn't Bleep a girl? Are u high?

Leave him o. They are the set of men that will ask what a woman is bringing to the table. Meanwhile, the only thing they bring to the table as a man is their prick. That is why they consider it a great loss and act of cowardice if they are unable to showcase their sexual prowess. Meanwhile what if the guy actually slept with the lady and just decided not to play the "kiss and tell" game like small boys would do?

...

DDIA:

Just fvck your shrink to ease the tension.
Or you can get it from the streets.
To find man wey go service you no be hard thing.
To hell with your husband.
Make yourself happy.

Trouble dey sleep, yanga wan go wake am.

For some people, the guilt of adultery will only complicate their issues. It will be like jumping from the frying pan into the fire.

Nigga44:
The lesson to learn here as a married woman be say nothing dey outside........many single men would promise you marriage, and encourage you to leave your home. But once you come outside........everybody go disappear.

I think he encouraged the woman for too long.

I had a friend from way back. We reconnected (on phone), we were both now married with kids and we live in different towns. I don't tell anybody what is happening in my marriage. Actually, for some strange reasons in my head, I drastically reduce my interactions with ladies when I'm not in good terms with my wife. Anyways my friend kept talking about her marriage and I was always listening and encouraging her by giving her with the word of God that we both grew up with. I also supported her financially once in a while. We are good like that.

Then one day she called me up and told me she's tired of the marriage and she was going to visit her sister in another town and she plan to just stay there - away from the husband. I told I have nothing to say since she's the only one that is facing the issues in her marriage. I also let her know that I would be breaking every form of communication with her once she leaves. She was so angry with me, but I was adamant that I would not be seen as the one that encouraged her to leave her marriage or her sponsor as a single parent.

Make I no lie, the fear of having to support a single parent financially was highly instrumental in knocking the fear of God into me. My stinginess has been keeping me on the straight and narrow path since 1400bc

bugativeron:
This year august will make 10years that i have been married. But our sexual life has been very fantastic. We can't wish for a better sexual life.

So nairalanders what do you do to spice up your marital sexual life?

Since you have succeeded where most couples have failed, don't you think you should be the one telling the secret to a healthy sexual life for married couples?

O ya. start writing. we are waiting.

***modified*** I just realized that I responded an 8-year-old thread. Nothing spoil. If you're still there, share the secrets.

Jewessgratitud3:


Hmm .. now that I already bought it 🤔 🤔 🤔. I'll just avoid using it on days I go there.

why are you now bothering our heads if you don buy am? you don give am self. Na wah for Nairaland o

Jewessgratitud3:


Like him? No way!

He's always taxing me because I do some small businesses at work that pases through his table. So he's always like I should settle him and all that and truly I've never settled him since I Ve been doing that bizness. Thats why I said let me just do it for him.

Wetin I want take married man do?

I believe a gift from you to the man would mean different things to both of you. So you need to be careful. Buy him a commensurately expensive item. Something that could be easily consumable and easily perishable, pay for a meal or something like that. Even as a guy, I am always careful about giving ladies anything that they can hold on to and say "it reminds me of you" or something they can show to their folks to say "he got me this".

Don't walk into his trap.

Jewessgratitud3:
Just want to know if I'm not crossing boundaries.

A married colleague of mine is always disturbing me everytime that he likes the perf I'm wearing and requested I get him one. Ivebbeen posting him because, one, this perfume is expensive. Secondly he's a married man and I don't think it's a good idea to gift someones husband such a suggestive gift.

Now the harassment became too much on Monday and I said ok, I'm going to get him one. So I just got him the perf now but suddenly began to have this feeling 🤔 that its somehow. what if the wife finds out it's from me . I don't want problems oh.. I think I even asked him if I should give him the money or get him the perf and he said to get him the perf.

Should I go ahead and gift him the perf?

What nonsense is this? The perfume no get name? Abi dem no dey sell am for open market?

Just give him the name and where you bought it. Don't put your hands into wetin no concern you. Like someone said, he may just be using style to enter you without implicating himself, and I totally agree. If your eye no dey there, please give him the name of the perfume and where he can buy it. Further discussions about the issue will only complicate things for you.

illicit:
As the guy I won't let her do anything

And if my mum raised it, I will tell her she wanted to but I didn't allow it.

She's meant to meet my family not to cook for them, my mother has always been doing the cooking.

If I should follow her to their own house,I met her father doing some stuff, am I obliged to join him?

I am not

I agree with you that I wouldn't allow her but she will surely score a point if she made the attempt. I'm not saying I will drop her if she does not attempt to help o...

NLandIsHypocrit:
This is someone I asked for a relationship she didn't find me interesting to go along with, I even told her I'm not primarily interested in sx stuff (because she was still a virgin), some people may say how do I know, but I tell you I'm extremely sure, I offered to take care of her so long as she agrees to be my girl, instead she ignored me to follow one wayward guy who could hardly afford his boxers; I zeroed my mind about her until she got pregnant and the mummy's pet that got her pregnant abandoned her and ran away. I have not communicated to her since over two years now until she chat me up recently and you could see our conversation below after which she blocked me....

[MODIFIED] Please bare with me, Nairaland refuse to allow me post the screenshots of our conversation in the name of checking what ever source.

Ok let me try and summarize our conversation.
She: Good morning

Me: Happy weekend

She: I wish you d same too

She: I have a small issue oo

Me: Ok

She: My phone is bad I need to fix it

Me: Ok, So?

She: I need like 20k to fix it can you help me

Me: Yes, if only you were close

She: Let me fix the phone first then we can talk about coming over to see you

Me: Ok

She: Are you sending the money

Me: Just fix the phone first then we can talk

She: Where do you want me to get the money from

Me: Where have you been getting money from

She: What kind of stupid question is that

She: Just get out you fool

Then she blocks me.

Please how did I offend her, or was I wicked to her based on our conversation?

Isn't it surprising that she didn't even say "please"? It's like she's entitled to it. As for me, I'm really hung up on the magic words (Please, excuse me, sorry, thank you, pardon me) and no amount of manipulation will work on me if they are missing. By the way, you're even lucky she didn't come back with the "you abandoned me" line that many men would fall for.

favor914:
Fight who back?, Country that sanctions is already taking a toll on?

A West African francophone country wants to engage Ecowas & France?

Suicide.

One Yoruba proverb roughly translated says "a leper may not have the ability to milk a cow but he definitely has the capacity to tip over the milk bucket (adete o le fun wara, sugbon o le da wara nu). In all your calculations, always remember to be careful around people that have nothing to lose or people that apparently seem to be underdogs.

It's funny that most of the people supporting the war do not have any stake at the battle front. Most of us are just analyzing the situation and calculating and permutating from the comfort of our homes.

LegendHero:
Lol, the lady did some delusional tactics well. Most of the things she stated there are lies for USA or she probably live in the extreme suburb where she has to take 2hours ride to get to the nearest city.

—Consistent internet which will give Wi-Fi for a home for instance should be within $60-$100 monthly. Your phone bill could be $30, but it’s not gonna power most of your household gadgets and etc coz that $30 won’t be on an unlimited data plan.

—How can 2bed rent be $9600 per year? Does she mean in Houston for example, you’ll get a 2bed apartment for $800? She’s probably hallucinating.

In ATL for example, house rent in the city area for that 2 bed are usually within $1500-2500 per month. On top of that, you pay Light bill, gas bill, and the apartment monthly charges on sewage and common area if you live in an Apt complex. That could be additional $250 on it.

If it’s now mortgage, no way in hell will you get that monthly payment.

On average, in a city, you’ll pay nothing less than $18k yearly and that’s even being conservative. It could go up to $28k in total for most cities.

—I agree with her groceries of $700 monthly. That still make sense if you’re only spending on food.

However, to go out to a restaurant for 2 people, you spend nothing less than $80-100 in one sitting especially for Nigerian food restaurants. To the lounge, you spend nothing less than $100-$150 if you factor hookah and drinks for 2 people.

Except if you be get inside person will you even spend that monthly. Coz me I count jollification with food price.

Shhhh..... it's enough .... off your mic

rent at $9,600 per year. when even some student will pay upwards of $500 per month for shared accommodation in university dormitories.

LarryCork:


ok so u you like women givien u orders?sending u to go n buy petrol...or even goto bed...corrrrect?so even ordnarrrry siofra & send u to buy cigarette?...bro are u male or female?(no oofencse)

Bros, you'll be alright someday. Back to your question - yes. I was raised by women, so listen to them. I keep a wife at home and I regularly receive orders and directions from her especially in areas where I believe she has more expertise.

It's the less complicated alternative for me. To each their own.

Why do I need to wait for my wife to be tired before I contribute to help the family? If I find myself near or close to the store/market, I will get whatever we need to get. If nothing comes to mind, I will call her to check if there's anything we need to get.

BadMaster:

I really don't understand these unnecessary attacks against the woman, simply because she wore a hijab that doesn't have any negative impact on any other person.

While I do not condemn the player for what she decided to wear (it's none of my business), I also will not pretend as if there's no reason to be bothered about the development.

Let's take a step back and be realistic -
Is her dressing and participation in soccer Islamic? NO - We can still see her shape.
Is there a likelihood that, at some point in the near future, there would there be a demand for her to be fully compliant (or at least more compliant) will Islamic dress codes? Yes, more than likely.
Would the full Islamic dress code work well with the game of soccer? The easiest answer right now is "NO". I said "easiest answer right now" because further thorough evaluation of the scenario may prove otherwise.

That is why people that really love the game would be bothered. I support her so far for 2 reasons:
1. If the game can accommodate an individual that declared that she is "NOT A WOMAN", then let them allow everyone to express themselves.
2. It is very obvious that her dressing (as it is) did not and will not give her team any added advantage and neither will it put the opposing team in any disadvantage.

However, people that are passionate about the game will see her mode of dressing as a way for her to test the waters for demands for additional modifications to the dressing code in soccer. That is why they have to start resisting the change before it becomes a reality.

Las, las, all of us go dey alright.

BadMaster:

.... This is just plain hate against Islam because it doesn't make any sense.

He that comes to equity must come with clean hands. It's not by force to play soccer. There are so many Moslem players from both genders, and they have fans that cut across every line of division - race/religion/ethnicity/class, etc. So I don't agree with your position that being bothered about the alteration of long-standing dress codes in a game that is not mandatory for qualification for Jannah is "hate against Islam". Please let's grow beyond that.

BadMaster:

These unprovoked attacks are some of the reasons why Seun made it mandatory for people to swear before commenting in the Islamic section.

This is another hypocritic action and I think whoever supports is nothing but an hypocrite. I will not attack any religion and I will not support anyone who does. However, these questions are begging for answers:
Is Islam the only religion that is being "attacked" on Nairaland?
Why does Seun (and his cohorts moderators) think it is only Islam that must be protected from attacks?
Why do they move threads on Islam to the front page if they don't want people to comment on it?
Why don't they simply delete offensive comments in their threads? Shebi they have powerful moderators.

Truvelisback:
"Shenanigan"Grammarian, I hail ooo. The word sound like a place in China or Japan.

chaiii.... you don make me laugh tire with your comment. Anyways, I gats to show off say I passed by the gate of our village school (even if dem no gree us enter).

Have a nice day bro.

doggedfighter:
Did she score ?


They will soon ask to be allowed to wear long hijabs

At this point, I will say let her wear anything she likes. If someone that does not identify as a woman can be allowed on the pitch, then why would a woman be denied the opportunity to participate just because she doesn't dress like everyone else? Let her express herself as long as her dressing does not infringe on or jeopardize the ability of others to bring on their best game.

PS - I'm not a Muslim. I'm just trying to rationalize the whole shenanigan of inclusiveness.

LabourPartyNG:
How will Buhari feel nah!

He will be shocked

nkpommpko:
Why do you destroy the vessel with The crude? What kind of country is this abeg!!!

The reason is simple - to cover up and divert attention from the real stolen crude.

There's this joke about a man that successfully robbed a bank of about 10M naira. He was not caught so he was safely at home listening to the news when he saw the bank manager on air claiming that the robber made away with 50M naira. Nobody will ever look for the 40M stolen by the bank manager.

Na the same thing this people wan do us. They will assign some unreasonable volume of crude to this vessel and say that is what they destroyed. Meanwhile the real stolen crude go find another way reach obodo oyibo.

Absuchat:

Another Titanic about to go down
Total number of passengers:5610
Fee per passenger:179 dollars.

179 dollars?? For where?

Make I no lie. I falsified my result on my first attempt too. I had gone to JAMB office to check and saw that I got 199. I knew that my "witch" of a sister will not let me breathe in peace in that house with that score, so I added one to my report and told them at home that I got 200 .

There was no technology like this then. All you had was the slip that will come in the mail, so I was patiently waiting for it to show up.

I knew nobody would check my claim because a score of 200 in those days can never give you any admission (at least not in the schools I applied to). Secondly, I was sure I didn't do well in my WASC (May/June), so nobody will be discussing admission with me. That's how I got some peace in the house o. If dem catch me self, I for say na mistake. Afterall, if I no fit get 200 in JAMB, why you go think say I no go fit make mistake in the calculation of my result.

YungMillionaire:
She needs to get a lawyer and STOP talking. Are there no sensible people left in Igboland?

I fear o. I was so shocked when I saw her being interviewed on a TV programme. I hope some adults will not use their stupidity and greed to ruin the poor girls future.

Sirchiboy:
Oya let us go there

Yes o, even if na just to entrap the guy. Once you dash some babes small change, you will see them trying to "pay you back in kind". Funny thing is that they are not planning to pay back, they just want to consolidate the flow of material resources and probably make you owe them in the end.

Lurdd:
There's this girl I met..
I sheepishly fell for her after few romantic calls from her
She's fair and pretty.
Then I decided to take her out today,she took a cab which I paid 2k. so we went to an eatery.. then I bought rice and chicken and some stuffs we ate..the bill was 13500, after we were done around 2:35 we left there, she said she wanted to go swimming I then took her to a fancy hotel with an Uber 3k.. on getting there she saw a guy she knew, they exchanged pleasantries which I didn't care about.. turns out that the guy came to swim as well...the swimming was 4k each for both of us.. that's 8k plus the swimming trunks I bought for her that is 3500k...so we freshened up and jump into the pool, i noticed she avoided me inside the pool, always wanting to play alone, and avoided me touching her then I left her on her own..and was swimming alone and having fun, I came back again for her to notice me, she still snubbed me...I left her alone and sat down near the pool when it was raining and there was this cold that pulled me down as I was shivering... meanwhile she was still inside the pool having fun all by herself... until this guy we met when we came.. went inside the pool..I then saw them interacting and I was annoyed..not until I saw him backing her and carrying her around inside the pool while they have fun... Not once not twice, she later came later came to me and ask if I was feeling cold I said yes she said sorry and went back inside the pool...to cut the story short, while I was sitting all by myself interacting with some guys, that guy she was playing with came and told me that my girl said that I was just a friend that he wanted to confirm himself, so he will know he's not offending anyone.. I felt like an idiot, as I went to the dressing room and put on my clothes and left scene looking foolish as she called me back..
On my way back home I bought magic moment vodka.. and drank myself to stupur
Am still high while typing these... What is the problem..I put on an expensive VL shirt with a jogger I bought 21k a slippers of 7k, I sprayed a very nice perfume. I have a very nice facial look...what was the problem if I may ask, I avoided girls like plague all my life and gave this one chance and she made me a fool, am only 23. I think I've learnt my lesson.. my deepest regrets was the whole money I spent, it should remained in my account.. girls fear my return.

This response is not from an Alpha male or a red-piller. I'm as SIMPly as anyone can be. These are some things that my SIMP brain will see as a red flag if I was in your situation:

#1 Don't fall for someone that has not fallen (or is not falling) for you. Once the feeling is not mutual, don't sit down wasting your money, time and life with them.
#2 Spend only an amount that is dispensable to you on anyone that is not yoked to you.
#3 You don't need to succumb to every whim of anyone (male, female or whatever). If I take a lady out and she did not contribute anything to the expenses, then additional expense calls will be absolutely at my pleasure.
#4 Who goes to a swimming pool without swimming trunks? I'm definitely not making such a sudden expense (even if na 50 naira). Too impulsive. She's just taking advantage of you.

I am naturally stingy, so I'm tremendously OK if I save my money and lose the b**ch.