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CaveAdullam:
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Don't make the mistake of going extra mile for women. They are myopic and don't acknowledge the length of the distance.

Extra miles should be for your ambitions and quality people that fit.

Authority: Be wise.

MallamChukwudi:
I can relate to what you have written, and quite frankly, you have a solid point. Though all that you narrated are symptoms, I will focus on the cause.

You see, the life of a man is hard in a way women do not understand. Our responsibilities are non-negotiable, and our dependents won't understand why they have to suffer, and why we can't show up and meet our responsibilities.

Nigeria is a poor country, and men by default in every society are the first 'defensive shield' to soften the economical blow for others (children, partners, aged parents, etc), or in the case of war, it is the men that will put their life out there for others.

And for centuries, this has been the fate of Nigerians as a people. If you can find the oldest man in Nigeria, ask him about tales of his great-grandparents if he can remember, and it would probably be in the time of slavery, or at the earliest, colonialism.

There is an arab proverb that says ''only sunshine creates a desert''. What that proverb meant is that to create lush, green vegetation, sunshine is not enough, you need to put the seed, water the soil, do pest control, etc to make it germinate. Furthermore, only rain creates a swamp as well.

You can't give what you don't have. Nigerian men are merely a bio-product of the difficulties of life in the Sahara, something good governance can alleviate the burden men carry, which gives way for that organic, deep masculine strength to blossom.

Up to our ascendants, there has been a series of disconnects for the timeless transfer of masculine codes, and what you have right now are sissy men that at best, are tolerable, not desired. It is a shame because as women complain of real masculine men, the few masculine men also complain of little to no masculine friends. And when society is led by substandard males, everybody suffers (proverb 29.2).

Your average Nigerian man is carrying loads upon loads of responsibilities, and the majority of his earnings do not even go to him. The wholesome, refined, sophisticated male figure that women crave is deeply lacking, and the cohesive bond and seamlessly interwoven of the sexes have been foundationally thwarted.

I am a man, so I know this place very well. I am responsible for lots of people myself, and I am not even married yet. My aunt and her husband died, and they left four kids as orphans, three boys, and a girl.

It was because of our intimate understanding of these social dynamics, and the requirements it takes to raise responsible adults, that made my family adopted them all, and made sure they grow in a safe, stable, and responsible family setting in their formative years, and it is no easy task at all.

And this is where empathy comes into play. Empathy is not a spoken word, it's an action word. I know it's easy to just heap the blame on men for their robotic state, but it's equally necessary to diagnose the causes, and if you can't help, at least don't add to it.

Nigerian men are humans too. They want to live with ease, and thrive, not just exist. Men are at their happiest when they give and protect those they care about. It is a thing in males, to sacrifice themselves (either time, money, or even life) for something meaningful, and family is one.

lomprico:
What is a SIMP again?

pansophist:
No such thing as specific fat reduction. You loose weight evenly, not unevenly. So as your belly fat de reduce, then your face, neck, arms, back, waist and every other area for your body go follow.

But may I repeat again for the umpteenth time. It's food. You don't need gym to loose weight, just eat right.

JeffreyJunior:
Married men especially the ones with kids should spend less time at the gym and help out more at home.

The man deserves to go hungry or better still upgrade his gym membership to cover his dinner since the gym is his first home.

There can't be two adults at home and only one will be sweating on home chores.

This is my two cents and anyone who doesn't feel alright about it should not attack me but please remain single.

Gerrard59:
That is the reason I am very wary of girls wey get plenty siblings. Once e pass two, I dey very careful. No matter how homely, wife-able or beautiful the lady is, I won't do anything with her. I cannot be responsible for someone's irresponsibility.



The average Nigerian is innately foolish and stoopid! It is genetic at this point. They are so uneducated, poor, proud, loud and very very stoopid. Add religion, archaic and illogical cultural practices and the reasoning process is something else. One might blame the public education system, but it is the same system I went through.

franchasng:
He doesn't need to delete it because no matter the complains and whining guys do online and even offline, whenever they are ready to marry, they will still pick a wife from one of our ladies, unless he wants to end up as a gay



I used to bash Naija ladies in the past too, but more exposure and experience have taught me better. These things are normal all over the world.


Any man that has the opportunity to travel around some cities of the world will realize that it is not just Nigerian ladies that love men for money, its worst in developed countries.


In countries like The US, an average black guy can never get a young hot white blonde until he makes it big in entertainment or sport.


It is the nature of women all over the world, and the reason Al Pacino said:


When you get the money, you get the power, and when you get the power, the world is yours.

BRATISLAVA:
Wait, so Musk is anti-wef? That's why he bought Twitter?

What won't one read on this forum.

bestdudes:
You get it now bro? men spoil women and still turn around to complain. Why should you be begging a girl? why? why should you be forcing someone to be with you? haba...

If women know that you will not tolerate their nuisance, they will behave. From what I am even getting, Nigerian women are the toughest to deal with because they have been spoilt by Nigerian men, which breeds that entitlement pride.

uche40:
Lol. Read what I said again. You weren't following. The shameless SIMPS I was referring to are infact the "philanderous men using the platform", as you put it -- who supply these girls with likes and sleep in their comment sections.

There's a lot to think about, but one that easily comes to mind is a common truism I see restated among a lot of Red Pill authors is that women secretly want to be dominated and told what to do by men. I can confirm for myself that it's simply not true.

uche40:
I must confess, the way you introduced yourself to the thread, making snide jabs at some comments here and brandishing your "newly acquired redpill lens" as the sole reason for your assumed superior thought process left me cringed out. I'm usually very wary of gender extremists, be it Red Pill or Feminists.

I just thought it was childish and irrelevant, but if you took it personally then I sincerely apologize and seek your forgiveness

I agree a 100 percent. The truth is that a lot of young girls get carried away when they're younger because of attention from horn.y men and boys. I'd say it's even way worse now with social media and the advent of TikTok where any bland-looking Plain Jane thinks she's hot and sexy because of media likes, follows and interactions. All produced by the same shameless men, or SIMPS, as you redpillers put it .

As much as I find some of the Red Pill tenets and doctrines to be bogus in some instances, I still think its' admonishment to boys and men to improve their self-worth and set standards for themselves -- to think with their heads, and not with their dicks -- is particularly noble. If men could accomplish this feat, it would greatly diminish the number of self-important young girls who tend to be flaky, picky and fixated on superficial features.

uche40:
Apology accepted. I find honesty like this refreshing.

You really don't see how asserting that ladies are better suited for marriage when they are younger, by appealing to their biological wiring and configuration, can possibly mount pressure on a young woman to get married? Its largely synonymous with a common banality often phrased to women in the statement "you're not getting any younger".

uche40:
Well, it's nice to know that you were tickled by some of the comments here, but for what it is worth, your grandstanding about your precious philosophy is infantile --

The only thing cancerous here is the fact that there are people like you coercing and shaming young impressionable women to pair up and reproduce on time, even if they aren't mentally or emotionally prepared, because the "majority of ladies are aiming for marriage and family". This leads to the impulsive need for young women to "put a ring on it" and merely assume the best. And you wonder why divorce rates are high in the country.

missimelda01:
It's been two years since I made this post and I've been with a first son, would never do that again if I had to choose.
My point is that it goes both ways, being with someone who has to carry the burden of his family and dealing with my own responsibility is a lot even though it's just ‘dating’.

It takes love, patience and the grace of God to keep it going.