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She wants you to plead on her behalf? I'll advise you to stay out of this matter, OP. It is only the two people in this relationship that can salvage it otherwise everything has gone south.

When you're squatting with people, just zero your mind about comfort. Be it friends or family relatives, no matter how well you relate with them, it is like that. Feel at home no mean say you fit jump yakata dey do anyhow, nobody send you even if you be Methuselah immediate younger brother, na who get house and who fess come house, dem know.

My brother, to rent house for Lagos no easy o. Shey na your savings you wan use run am? How many places you don know? Which areas you don go? To avoid premium tears, abort mission abeg. Agents go too whine you, dem go bill you, dem go still run you streetz. I saw the other thread & the idea of renting a 4bedroom apartment for the purpose of subletting it, no try am oo. Na Landlord trouble you wan start to dey find, dem go draaggg you like thief.

Cleo, I implore you to stay where you are for now. Cyber Security is a good one, is it an online or a physical training? How long will it take for you to get certified? Is it after certification that you intend to apply for jobs or you are actively sending job applications now? I think you should start from there. In the meantime, try to get familiar with your environment, don't keep late nights and please stay out of trouble. Try to endure, be cautious, plan your next move and work towards it. Good luck!

I was going to ask how old she is but never mind. She played herself, nice one.

Words fail me

Banana & pineapple(the very ripe ones oo) topping my list.

Dad like no other e put am inside laundry basket mek e no go dey look for wetin e go scatter/spoil the last picture wey e put one of the twins inside im knicker, see boss baby face, e dey vex gan chaiii

A beast! I hope they don't sweep this case under the carpet. They should find him wherever he is hiding. He won't stop until he kills them all.

Lmaooooo wetin be dis

JovialJune:
She didn't throw any baby, she simply gave up her right as her mother, do you expect her to accept and take care of a child she would hate, thereby affecting the child's upbringing negatively? She did the right thing

And no chicken came home to roost, she still doesn't want to meet the girl, her life, her choice, her decision.

That's right. Trust them to come and twist everything to suit their narratives. Some will still come and ask why she took the actions she did "afterall men are polygamous in nature, so e no fit chop anoda soup, na only oha e go dey chop, she for jus calm down, shebi e no dey beat am naaa".

Probably things would've been different if she wasn't married to Mark at the time. When she found out that Mark was having an affair, she didn't want to have anything to do with him but then she was already pregnant. She wanted to take it out but Mark pleaded with her. She was ready to cut ties with him cos of infidelity but she did love him and thought they could make it work plus ofcourse they have a baby on the way, maybe that would rekindle something. Nahhhh, turns out Mark wanted her to "understand" that he was already in love with the other woman and he couldn't let her go. She instantly knew there was no way that would work, she couldn't deal, moved out and filed for a divorce. Back here, she would've been talked into forgiving him and going back to her husband's house, she's his only legal wife naa, from one family meeting to another lol. Yes, she bore him a child but instead of joy and maybe hope, this was going to always bring back sad memories, her mental health was at stake already and she needed to move on with her life, start anew. She didn't want the baby, and yes Mark may use his child as an avenue to constantly get to her, I'm sure she thought about that at some point, she really wanted him to disappear from her life. Since he was with the other woman, it was only logical for her to give the other woman a choice to adopt the child. She didn't impose it on her. Her death is quite unfortunate. She has moved on too, you don't just call her and ask her to come see the child, would this have happened if the other woman was alive? No, when people sign their child(ren) up for adoption, they never go back on it even when/after the adopted parents are dead. I understand that the child is devastated, yes she needs motherly care, she needs someone to comfort her, to tell her that everything will be alright, she needs support more than ever, she needs her mum. I agree but then you don't expect the woman to just jump back into the picture even if as just a mother figure to her. It doesn't work that way. It doesn't change the way the woman feels about the child, she may have forgiven the man over the years but that doesn't mean she wants him in her life.

- Sometimes, you forgive people, wish them well and not want them back into your life, that is totally okay. I just really feel for the child.

God1000:
Bank officials often connive with these fraudsters

Giving sensitive information to fraudsters in exchange for money, I've heard this before. That is very bad.

I'm so sorry for your loss. May God comfort all his loved ones.

Tragic. RIP to the deceased. May God comfort their families & loved ones.

What I would do... Just thinking. I'm unable to process my thoughts in that regard. In my lifetime, I can count how many cousins I know or even met. It's all respect from this side, not some cordial stuff. In this case, I'll probably shrug it off, send her a wedding package few days to the wedding and maybe a card wishing both of them well.

Wishing her a successful delivery

A tiny creature, colourful and so beautiful. Please keep it safe. Your puppy is cute, that picture is a meme oninown The "Boss you know I'm well-behaved" look but give am 1sec with the bird

Another scenario just came to mind. Oga/Madam dey tell employee sey e never get money to pay am for 6months but e dey for employee front carry plenty money wey e wan mek employee go do something for am later, say e dey very very very important, mek e no vex, say e go still pay am im salary". Employee will be having board meeting within himself pe, shey ah wee nur carry dis money and run ni afterall d extra go be my compensation for all d stress & suffer suffer. Abi ah shuu jus collect like small out of it, use am hol' my laif for now lol. Nollywood thingsss


TLDR; Even with that innocent look, many many things going on inside that head

Itawon:
This is a picture of the Zeus from a week ago
Date: 21/05/2022

Camera-ready Zeus! Good boy

Thank you, Collins. I really wish one can easily pick up on all these. Our instincts comes to play at the speed of light lol, it makes us react the way we do especially when we sense danger. There's actually no time to think, we just act on it, even though it doesn't seem like the right move as you have pointed out, it is what it is.

I really do hope we all remember whenever we find ourselves in a situation as such. I'm particularly thankful for this piece, never did I know about the dog calming signals until now, I'll hold onto that and learn to put that into practice while hoping it doesn't(never) get(s) to the biting stage. Things can escalate so fast lol. Thank you, once more.



This is FP-worthy, mods please push it so people can learn one or two. Cheers!

kazyhm:
The op is a gal......it is very surprising.


She is exhibiting this same attitude toward her boyfriend and will most likely behave like her uncle's wife when she get married...


Then why is she concern ?

1) Maybe because it is her beloved uncle that is at the receiving end.

2)Maybe she is worried because the uncle's wife is doing it before she starts her own.....(women don't like competition)... especially with someone ahead

3) Maybe because her uncle's wife is doing her own with a reckless abandon (she even admitted it)

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Men should understand that they're on there own in marriage

No women takes responsibilities in marriage except when there an avenue to tell/show the world they are doing it.

Know this, know peace!

Oh please stfu! If you have no meaningful contribution, just keep scrolling.

Last time I checked, Abule egba is on the mainland. You should find out where exactly you are to resume work.

Tell your mum about it. Inform your kinsmen. Get her family involved. I'm sure y'all can work something out. Congratulations to you both. It won't be easy but then I hope it gets better.

Nwaomaah:
My current girl likes taunting my look or looking for something she thinks I'll be insecure about but then she's very fair (oyibo fair but not albino). When she calls me something like charcoal I'll just smile and say nothing. I wait for her best moment and call her albino! And then her mood will change. I'll just steal that moment from her. She'll go into a fit for sure hates to be called that. Sometimes I'll download a very worse case of albinism from the net and be like "babe come and see"
She'll be very annoyed. I'll be like "that's how I felt when you called me charcoal the other time" She's more careful with bodyshaming me now. She was taunted with that through primary and secondary school so I'll use it against her.
Another thing I found out is she hates it when I chew things loud or recklessly I'll just go chaw chaw chaw and boom! She'll go red (she really go red when she's angry like them oyibo ) then I'll call her carrot or tomatoes. It works every damn time! And she still loves me more than I love her self
OP your wife is a woman and there's something she hates being called or told. Just try and find that out or create one yourself and call it in a very snickering demeaning way. Don't call her that immediately she calls you short. Wait till she's in a good mood or in public and then use it on her and steal that her mood. Please don't insult her or say something that'll take away her dignity in the eyes of others for her dignity is your dignity.
If I say "Kai! My albino is very happy today" my girl will be angry but then even people around will laugh because they all can see she's very fair like an albino.
Life is not hard OP

Loool tears don dey comot for my eye as I dey laff so

Haha! You don't ever take your eyes off them even for a second and they keep you on your toes lol. One minute, they are right next to you, the next minute, they are stretching their tiny hands trying to touch the tv console.

They want to go everywhere and touch everything. You can't get them to sit still even in church, they want to come down and walk around. Wakawaka, the thing can sweet dem eh, sweet dem pass food/snacks sef 'Bribe' them with snacks, for where? As soon as they are done eating and drinking, they're immediately on their jolly way. They'll cry their lungs out if you don't let them they won't let you put your hands around them and when you try to sneak up on them they'll run like their lives depend on it and eventually fall down, double wahala if they get a few bruises

Why would you think that all married people are unhappy or so it seems with your usage of "those" and "obviously" lol. I understand your fear. There are good people just as there are bad people everywhere. A marriage is what it is because of the people involved. It takes two to tango.

Once again, I'm deeply sorry for your loss. You feel this way because amongst your siblings you were probably the one closest to her. You were there with her, you saw it all, I can tell you from experience that it's not something that will ever fade off from your memory, it won't. Movies/music/games won't do anything at this stage, those memories will keep coming back, even if your friends offer to take you out to make you feel better, it won't change much.

Only you truly know how you feel, try not to get pissed when people don't seem to understand. It is still very fresh, 1month will feel like just yesterday, it'll probably feel that way even in a few months time. Give yourself time to grieve Chris, to heal, to process it all, that is what I did. She sure knows that if there was anything you could do to avert death, you would have done that.

I was in school and it hit me sooo hard, I literally lost my mind, that was one of the four times I didn't care if I lived to see another day. My world caved in, I faced so many challenges, I struggled. I pray that God comforts you, may He grant you and your entire family the fortitude to bear this loss.

Harry00:
Ads blocker are useless

Aswear down. Still getting these annoying pop-up ads.

Congratulations Ife. Wishing you greater heights

Yummy, very sumptuous. Love mine with steamy hot rice, pretty much goes well with anything. Yam, plantain, potato(all boiled or fried), bread and pasta. Even swallow, I'm aware that some people eat their soups with eggs in it so yeah.

Hahaha this telephone drink can be sweet eh

Which authorities lmaooooo. The very same corrupt authorities who are also involved in this. Wo, they will lock you up sharp sharp and nothing will happen, you dunno warisgoinon lol. OP, you had better wake up from your slumber.

All I can say is that you should be very cautious. Barely 3months and he's already talking about how you're gonna provide this & that and how he'll run errands for you. A joker. I know someone who had a similar experience, if we hadn't gotten the police involved at some point, he'd be telling another story now. I just hope this isn't the same guy.

OP, this your post jus mek me burst laff. E say the reptile wan show imsef funny guy

Keep resting on, Sound Sultan