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Greatzeus:
Don't quit your job because
1. You don't personally hate your job or seem to have any rancour at work.
2. You seem to be good at the job and have a good rapport with your boss,who is considering you for promotion.
3. Your job has been a source of blessing to you and your family. You were able to build a house,also sponsor your girlfriend to school.
4. There's no job anywhere,unless you want to resign and start your own business. Even if you get another job,it will take some years to develop the kind of respect you're enjoying in your current job.
5. You are always at home 2 days in a work,not good enough,but not too bad either. As long as your purpose of staying away is work,which is bringing in good money.
6. If you risk it and quit,but things didn't go as planned. That girl you think loves you now,will change it for you,when you start telling her stories when she ask for money.
" Wisdom is profitable to direct"...... somewhere in the Bible

Please read this and digest it well, OP. Let it sink in!

Awwww so lovely

Am I on the 7th page lol. I believe the advice you've gotten so far is more than enough. It is quite funny though.

This has been going on for sometime lol. It's a big shame that this is what they're actively thinking about everyday, how to rip people off.

George, that is the phonology aspect, we call it diction here. Did you teach him about the monothongs, diphthongs, long and short vowels? You may use the vowel chart while at it and also give him some examples of words with same vowel sound, let him digest it well and come up with more examples on his own. Do that with the consonant sounds as well. I think that will help him understand better. Good luck!

As I dey see this man, e go too like wahalurrrr

Quite enlightening.

Authoreety:
I laughed wen I saw both pix

Me too

Congratulations on your new bundle of joy. Little Temi, you're blessed.

Samakus:
He's the care taker. Ceremonial tho cos we no really get caretaker. He's acting as one since he's the longest staying tenant here.

And of course, each flat has its verandah. He started this when we started greeting well

Oh okay, I get it now. Loool familiarity As e be say you be im guyman, make im sef follow you dey enjoy the verandah, you nur see sey na very good spot for reflection.

I don't think he'll do that if you were married(with kids), I may be wrong lol. Well, you can get a carpenter to construct the mosquito net enclosure as someone advised.

Benard5050:
I started at home to build a customer base, I can categorically say I'm getting known every day and customers are increasing hence my decision to have a shop. With my little find out, d only person running laundry buianess is on a small scale like mine.

I met a guy who has been intond business in d town b4 but closed down, when I asked him he said, he couldn't cope again due to d high debt of d people. But d difference btw d guy and I is that he's a native of d town, he knows most of his customers being an indegene so they felt relaxed to owe him. But in my own case, I'm a total stranger don't town through I've been there for 2 yrs so they can't owe me.

I have no proceed from d business yet cos as I'm making d money I'm putting it back to d business.

Your last paragraph is making me a bit skeptical about you getting a shop now, I'll tell you why in my next paragraph. Hmmm your 2nd paragraph, enjoying the services and no intention of paying for it, that is crazy.

I feel you shouldn't get a shop now because the expenses go choke, shop rent, utilities, setting things up & all that plus you still have to settle bills in the house you live in. The commenter above me touched on something very important, you have to be able to pay your employee, the business may start to crumble if he/she is being owed salaries, that can give you a bad reputation.

When you start running it full-scale, many things will change. The main reason for venturing into this line of business is to have another source of income to complement your salary from the teaching job. Small scale as it is now, not much is expected of you and then you can put all your proceeds back into the business. Going full-scale, you can't just put all your proceeds back into the business, you'll need to save a fraction of it for monthly/yearly rent, landlord no go wan hear abeg abeg no market. Unlike when you were doing everything at home, you'll settle the bills for both shop & house now, you will pay employee, upgrades sef go dey, more pressure & expectations, our economy sef and inflation choke. It's good your customer base is growing by the day, I pray they understand that you'll need to add a little something to their bills to enable you pay your own bills.

With this long epistle of mine, I hope I have been able to convince and not confuse you that you should not go full-scale yet, you can put that on hold for now. Keep running it as you have, I'm sure things will fall in place in due time. If you have one or two people maybe relatives orr friends that can help with the picking, sorting and sometimes washing of clothes while you're at the teaching job, it will make things much easier and then you only have to wash whatever is left, iron and package all of them when you get back.

Samakus:
Few weeks now.

He wasn't doing that when you moved in? Harmless or not, that's pretty awkward. Doesn't he have a verandah in his flat? Omooo if na me shaa, I'll call the caretaker's attention to it. He could get a chair and sit in the open space, orrr am I to provide that for him lol. How on Earth am I supposed to feel comfortable with this kind of attitude? Problem no dey finish true true but no be for my doormot abeggg oo.

Not really a tea person but same quantity of both for me. 3teaspoons each.

When did this start? How long has this been going on?

Nice one. Wishing him a very happy birthday. Cheers to more life in excellent health of mind and body.

He's not becoming a movement. He is a movement already. Jagaban is too. PDP, they don't seem united. Time will tell if Nigerians want a country that truly works.

You say it's not a very big town, how much patronage do you get from customers? How has the experience been so far? Will you be able to withstand the pressure that comes with running it on a full-scale? There will always be competitors, at some point you'll need to do certain upgrades just to stay relevant, moving one/two step(s) ahead of others. May God bless your hustle and may your efforts never be in vain.

I understand your fear, that uncertainty. I actually think you're doing well in the business, even just as it is small scale. My advice is that you watch how others run their laundry business in that vicinity, I'm sure you'll learn one or two things that will help, it will give you an idea of how to run yours. Also, in securing a shop, it is always advisable to consider a good location. Wishing you the best in all your endeavours.

Cleo18:
The training is about 2months.
He's started sending applications for job adverts. He was offered a job actually but the salary would be based on target met monthly. Any month he meets target (marketing job), he would get paid, else no salary for the month. He doesn't like marketing and target job. So he's not yet decided if to accept it or not.

What do you think?

If the marketing job doesn't sit well with you, you can keep applying for other roles advertised by various organizations, hopefully you get some positive feedbacks. Oh the training is for 2months, virtual right? that's okay. I have a hunch that you want to be in your own space(for the sake of your sanity) before the training starts.

Well, since it's pretty urgent, start now to scout for an apartment. Keep in mind that there will always be options so the onus is on you to work around your budget such that you'll have some money left to cover your feeding & other expenses, pending when you get a better job offer and for the period of time the training will last.

N1m may feel like a very lump sum breathing in that bank account of yours but if you jus commot 1k, my brother ah say you go start to dey analyze how 7digits take enter 5digits within a short while, time go begin dey crawl like snail and you nur go still understand as the thing take go. The high rate of inflation, omooo e don humble everybody.

Kobojunkie:
It is probably time for marriage counseling. There maybe things on your wife's mind that is keeping her from being as connected with you intimately as you used to previously have. Since all you have tried hasn't been fruitful, if may be time for you two to sit with a counselor to help you dig to the bottom of the problem.

My thoughts as well.

Whiteheartbit:
The first 2 year of our marriage was all good, she was sexually active and hot.
But the kissing part was still an issues.

I was not really available as I supposed to be in the second 2years due to the nature of my work, I was not meeting up at all sexually and emotionally.

Things got better I was transferred, I'm now in charge, which give me a lot of time to spend with the family.

As for the lesbian part I don't think so.

If she was sexually active and hot in the first 2yrs, I'm trying to deduce what changed 4yrs down the line. I presume she had to deal with the fact that you weren't always going to be around due to the nature of your job which is totally not your fault but in all sincerity, that is one thing that's not easy to come to terms with esp when a romantic relationship is involved, moreso when you're newly married.

She probably learned to restrain her emotions, raging hormones many times, I'm sure you had to as well. This minute he's home, you're both happy to be in each other's company, she's glad to have him back home once again and ofcourse he needs to get some rest but then time waits for no one, she blinks twice, he has to leave for work, poof! there he goes. Life goes on. She eventually got used to it, the mushy stuff(which was often short-lived) seemed meaningless to her and it stuck really hard that even now that you got transferred, she still isn't over it, psychologically.

About the kissing part, I see it was never her thing. Yes, there are people who find it unappealing, now I'm not talking about mouth odour, there are actually people who can't bear the thoughts or possibilities of exchanging saliva, someone sucking on their lips, rubbing tongues and all that. It has nothing to do with their partner, that's just how they feel about it. Like I said earlier, I'm not talking about being with someone who has bad breath or an oral disease.

Contrary to popular opinion here, for the fact that she wasn't always this cold towards you(in this regard) ever since being married, maybe you both need to see a marriage counselor. Just my 2kobo.

He should've known better.

blackparadise:
what do I have to do...

Haha lol. You know what you have to do but won't, for reasons best known to you.

In just a month, she has changed this much. If she didn't show some of these traits in the 2-3yrs you both were together, then it's her friend(s) influencing her orrr she hid it so well, either of the two.

I'm not sure talking to her with do much as she has already told you her mind, indeed it is her body, her decision and her life. Finding closure in this case, will only cause you more pain cos eventually she would want you to just get used to everything.

You don't want that, move on.


Modified to add: I just read "a woman fears and respects the man they truly love". Nope, you should be wary if your partner(wife) is scared of you based on how you relate with her/them. Respect is the keyword, the woman for her husband and the husband for his wife. Cheers!

You keep friends that don't mean well for you smh. This one that is always connecting you to girls that need accommodation, one day you'll get into trouble and he will desert you.

Cyoung4real:
“The person everyone is stepping down for, no fit stand up”���

Comrade, you sabi roast vawulence

Mokason288:

We have to do it ooo

What if Jesus Christ says any body that refuses to participate

Won’t enter Heaven

Looool

Wherever you go - go go gongo
Wherever you be - sisi eko
Do not say yes when you mean to say no - baba Ibadan

Boss lady ahnie, I salute you heavily

I'm really sorry about that. Honey will help with the burns but it's quite difficult to get one that is not adulterated.

Godoverevery:
Am trying to by all means but she trying to guilt trip me with the narrative of I don't like her that why I don't want to help her.

Is it really her fault My friend is the one i blame most because she didn't put a gun to his head to book those ride.

Tell her that you're not in the relationship with them. Whatever happened should be resolved between her and her boyfriend.

I'm not sure of who to blame. I understand he's pissed because she complained about stress and he actually didn't want her to go through all that but she'd rather save her money. Whatever rocks her boat jare. I mean why complaining about stress in the first place, well na she sabi. Her response really threw him off balance and then he started thinking about a whole lot of things. Normal normal, I feel say im suppose don reason those things tey tey.

Now, I'm not saying it's not good to shower your girlfriend/boyfriend/fiance/fiancee(as the case may be) with care, affection and all but then when things aint rosy wrt finances, that shouldn't drive you to do things you wouldn't do ordinarily like borrowing money unnecessarily(in this case), stealing and whatnots. Let your SO know how things are with you, they should be able to understand but if they seem inconsiderate about it all, then you really should have a rethink.

Consequently, if you do not let them know and you're going to extreme & sometimes dangerous lengths, and then deep down you feel that most times there is no form of reciprocity of some sort, I'm really sorry but that is all on you. If you're not okay about something, please let your feelings known, don't push it aside, talk about it, a sina obele nsi na emebi ike (please if you don't get it, Google will help you)

Omoo if to say na me, dis na somtin wey if I laff finish eh, I go jus tell am "oyaaa na, let it be as you'd want it. I been dey reason mek you no go dey stress yourself but e be like sey na me find trouble, no wahala na, public transport sef dey okay. Babe abeg no waka for night ooo, you sef see wetin dey happen for Naija. You go yarn me as everything go, later na. Take care".

ChibuifemChelse:
Why is everyone taunting me n calling me SIMP, everyone makes mistake, she made mistakes and I made mistakes, and we are willing to change, and working on our issues.

Good luck with that. Hopefully, there will be no regrets.

Jeromejnr:
What you explained isn't mid life crisis. Boredom isn't even in mid life crisis.

I have gone through it and its not what you think.

Spot on!