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Fynchi:
I tried being in her good book and she ended up treating me like a maid. If I wear good clothe she'd tell me to remove it and wear her/ daughters used clothes. She will be asking me how much I bought the clothes. My dear my humility was utterly abused. I regret it now

WTF?!

The question is, why did your husband allow this?

This is only possible if all parties, both spouses and parents are WISE and PEACEFUL.
And the one who has the parents knows how to prioritize and bluntly tell their family members when they are over-stepping.

Some in laws cannot control themselves and need to be reminded of their limits within a home, so they should be the type who you can speak to openly about something without them getting their ego involved.

I believe this doesn't just happen naturally.
This is something you will need to have been training your parents/siblings on from a very long time ago.
They will need to have known from before that you do not entertain certain things. It is not after you have married and they have moved in that you will now be trying to teach them basic courtesy and respect.

I have lived with several uncle's and aunties in my parents house. It was beneficial for everyone, especially my parents.

lavylilly:
Why is that the person you dont have any affection for keep coming to you and the person you love dont want to give you attention?

Because you can only attract your level... And less.

So you are basically LESS than the person's level you are failing to attract. Let that sink in.

Harlequeen:
I am not under 25 sister, and your christian dogma won't sit with me. If i do become 35 and remain unmarried, i have decided that i will live life, adopt a child and get a boytoy. I have tasted what it is like to settle for a random guy(to be egging on a full grown man on what to do like his mother). Will never go through that again.
But thanks for your opinion but i will be avoiding Shiloh like the plague.

Thus said many ardent Shiloh conveners when they were your age...

Tajbol4splend:
Oyinbos are more evil than us but they are kinda technical in their approach

That's because black people generally lack the mental capacity to be systematic about anything. Black people hate structure, and love chaos... As is evident by the way we run our countries, cities and neighborhoods.

This is why the mindset of most Nigerians is vapid...

These are the people you trying to emulate

atiku4President:
The way some of you reason baffles me. You mean the pastor who oversees the Church should have sat down and watch what he didn't know about happen in his presence? Tommoro if anything bad happens to the relationship (but God forbid) people like you will still come out and start insulting the pastor. What a generation we are in now

And the way you reason is also funny.
Who will insult a pastor because the wedding of 2 adults don't work out?

Or is that something you would do?

They got the contracts because she fawked all the old men that handed out the contracts.

Probably ate their hairy asses too for the right price.

I'll pass on that still.

pafo:
Wow! I had to go back and read my post again to see where I insulted you but I couldn't find it. To think you are better than someone you don't even know is another matter entirely and depicts how badly you were brought up. And yes, "fucking" is another measure to judge a man. If you cannot satisfy a woman, of what use is that toothpick you carry about. Someone else Will drill your wife to orgasm just because you can't do it yourself. Please avoid quoting me again if you do not want to die a gruesome death. Peace one round brother.

You were disrespectful, even to the point of referencing me in your disrespect, and you are now trying to play chicken because I called you out on your BS.
Disrespectful men ARE lesser men.

movingclouds:
Who sex epp? Her own system calms down after you cum in her, but yours? It draws nearer to the grave.. Just do your best

Back in the day, Greek athletes forbade themselves from having sex before big games so as t maintain their bio-energy.

Sex takes a lot out of a man. Vital nutrients.
Everytime a man cums, his body pours out the BEST of itself.
The best genes.
The best cells.
Because the goal of sex at the end of the day is reproduction.
Mostly, your body wants to replicate the BEST of itself.

If your body as a man is always giving the best of itself, what is left is less than the best.
Keep that up in excess and you just won't have enough "uummph" for a lot of other necessary things.

But the woman just keeps absorbing the best from him.
This is why women typically live longer than their husbands.

CAPSLOCKED:
SO SHE'S ASKING FOR MORE THAN 25 MINUTES? WHO TELLS HER YOU'RE A PØRN STAR?

I BELIEVE SHE'S PLANNING FOR YOU TO DIE FROM TRYING TO LAST LONGER EITHER WHEN YOU START TAKING PILLS OR OVERWORKING YOUR MARRIED, AGING HEART.... SO THAT SHE CAN TAKE OVER YOUR PROPERTIES AND ELOPE WITH A YOUNGER LOVER.

Bruh I laugh at all these guys who come online feeling like they need to prove something.

20 minutes is more than enough to handle matters if its actual quality sex and not just some pounded-yam competition.
And that includes pre-intimacy.
Una fit repeat again later in the day if need be.

That aside there is something called sexual compatibility.
No one should be sex-shamed because there is a man/woman who matches their exact sexual vibe and intensity.
There need not be anything "wrong" with the person.

There are some very jobless boys and girls out there. This is all they think about and exhaust their creative energies on.
Young men are taking pills and killing themselves just so they can say they "bleeped for X hours".
It doesn't get anyone anywhere. This is why Africa is still bleeped. Niggas taking pride in pointless ish.

pafo:
Maybe we all have different systems but if you can only go one round with your partner, then take if from me, something is wrong somewhere. And to those who say they don't cum during the second round, then something is again wrong with your libido. You shouldn't be out until about the fourth round at least. The second round is supposed to be the real sex. The man has gotten his excitement outta the way and now he can please her well. If you are going limp and can't feel anything during only the second round, you either masturbate too much or you have a problem like that 2buffagain dude lol. And urine somehow becaude of sex? Taaaa!

Sounds like your only concern in this world is fucking.

You must have nothing else going on for you in real life if the only way you experience meaningful validation is by accusing better men than you who you know nothing of that they cannot....Bleep ....of all things.

I am sure this has put money in your bank account and has moved your life forward in a meaningful way this afternoon.
Fool.

anenymasng:
If you find her sexy enough for you, then the second round should be no problem. Stay away from too much sugar and exersice well. Keep a healthy diet and the second round should be no problem after you've had some rest after the first round.

I find it funny when women who know nothing about living in a man's body try to give foolish advice about men's bodies.
Sistah it is not by force to talk on everything.
Besides simply being on the receiving end, What exactly do you know about being able to Bleep long rounds with a biological penis?

That's as weird and absurd as a man trying to give advice to a woman on how to use her pucci and how to always keep it wet.

Please shut up and make peace with the fact that it is not everything you know and it is not everything you must form giving advice on.
You just sound very foolish otherwise.

tpiar:
Most of the males here do give the impression they are not used to seeing females who work and have their own money. They say all the women they meet ask them for cash.

That's because a woman working and her spending her own money.... are 2 very separate things.

So long as magas are born everyday, this shall continue.

Your celibacy is defeated if you are still masturbating.
In fact, it is worse.

I would Inform her that a regular oral dose of my semen has been scientifically proven to cure ulcers.

I'd go in deep with the science of how the coating of my dick juice contains stem cells that will help regenerate the good microbial fauna in her gut.

She would also have to pay in cash for this medicinal relief.

A small discount may apply if she aids with the extraction by lying upside down on the bed with her head at the edge in order to facilitate the deep throat thrusts required to extract and deliver the healing fluid in quantum.
It's not easy producing such life-giving nut!

Sounds like God saved you from a bullet.

Better she becomes some other guys depraved sex slave now than after you have already spent all that money and energy marrying her.

She is free to suck/rim all the man dick/ass she wants and you are free to move on.

The Nigerian supreme court has been insulted twice already by Buhari and his Hit Squad DSS.
Particularly in the case of releasing Sowore.
What consequences await Buhari and Co for this treason against established law?

I generally ghost on any female after sex because of stinking pussy.

I have even ghosted on a girl before sex because we were chilling on a couch and she sat down near my head, and I could smell the pussy-rot.
Na so I jus begin tell am say I dey very tired.

Stank pussy is such a terrible thing.
For a lot of girls, sex is all they are good for.
So to now have stank pussy on top again is literally a travesty to her existence. She had ONE job!

Grasscutter:
They're strong reasons for me/family to relocate. It is all tied to my so called blood brother. The babalawo was plan B, when plan A to kidnap my wife or twins for ransome was not feasible.

Am consedering sharing the whole saga here for mature input but not sure. Am still in shock 2 months later

Please share. We are all mostly mature here in this section.

Needs to be frontpage.
Can someone mention the right mods?

Lonelypacifist6:
Alright there I'm the one in the narrative, Divorced plus not paying alimony comfortablely Well-off these people are my only relatives in Nigeria.

If they are in need and you want to help them, you should.
You can be there for family.
But what this thread is about is treating the entitlement mentality said family members might have over your stuff as is apparent in many from that region.

Who is the frontpage facilitator for this area? We need more perspectives.

cococandy:
See why I like Canada

You can also buy in the US for 3.5%.
And for cheaper too.

Lonelypacifist6:
None.

A divorced person is already going through enough financial strains.

What kind of family member is already thinking how much to start collecting from the poor divorcee "now that the spouse is no longer there"? This is the type of selfish and entitlement mindset I do not like in some African families.

This needs to be FP for more perspectives #Frontpage

adanny01:
As a Christian, my brother's money is my money based on



Christianity doesn't treat kindly those who for one reason or the other refuse to help their own relatives especially the immediate family.

Disgusting human trash twisting scripture to suit your laziness and evil.
You are no different from a lot of so-called nigerian pastors.

HouseHOLD means children, spouse and parents....in that order.
Helping siblings is from the jara after these things (and after sensible savings)....and that is if you want to.

Your wellfare is NOT your sibling's responsibility, you lazy Bleep.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ikXwyEulBlc

greggng:
Does it mean sowore doesn't have sureties? Why is it difficult for them to come pick him up? I am beginning to support dss now..it seem sowore and his gangs 've ulterior motives

I was about to get angry at you, but then I remembered that you are the product of nigerian public education.
Your poverty has squeezed out all logic and comprehension from your brain, leaving it vapid.
www.nairaland.com/attachments/1030138_use_jpg9ff23e7c27f4f501c30742beed740b43

I am sorry you had to go through that bro.
But please still try to reach for more sense.

Pavore9:
Nice write up. A man who happens to be the "financial saviour" of his family should right from the onset sound it into their ears that once he gets married, his wife and children are going to be his primary focus not them because it is sheer madness to expect from your married brother or even sister to offer the same financial assistance they offered while single.

The same must be sounded into the siblings of the spouse, which is the job of the spouse.
If family savior marries into a poor family, that spouse should be clear with his/her siblings that "my wife/husband is not your savior".